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مدیریت افکار ناخوانده و مزاحم
کتاب «مدیریت افکار ناخوانده و مزاحم: راهنمایی برای غلبه بر افکار منفی،وسواسی یا مزاحم» نوشتۀ مارتین ان. سیف و سالی ام. وینستون، راهی است به سوی آرامشی عمیقتر در مواجهه با یکی از رایجترین و نادیدهگرفتهترین جنبههای ذهن انسان: افکار ناخواسته و اضطرابآور. نویسندگان، دو روانشناس برجسته و متخصص درمانهای شناختی-رفتاری، با لحنی گرم، علمی و بیقضاوت، خواننده را قدمبهقدم با ماهیت این افکار، دلایل پدید آمدنشان و مهمتر از همه، نحوۀ مواجهه سالم با آنها آشنا میکنند.
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188 pages, Paperback
First published March 1, 2017
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December 17, 2024
This book was able to solve my problems with intrusive thoughts in the first hour of reading. It is amazing how the autors avoid common sense alternatives and focus only in scientific CBT techniques. I highly recommend it.
April 16, 2019
I think this book is excellent for an individual that is suffering from unwanted intrusive thoughts. There isn't a jargon overload, and it is written so that it may be understood by anyone. This book is also an aid to a person with an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is sometimes shrugged off, or even tittered about, but it is not something to be taken lightly. Without the correct help, anxiety can be allowed to grow into something that is essentially, life debilitating.
The psychologists that wrote this, break down the effects that anxiety has on our bodies and our minds. It is really very interesting, and it is something I could dip into at a future date.
The psychologists that wrote this, break down the effects that anxiety has on our bodies and our minds. It is really very interesting, and it is something I could dip into at a future date.
August 23, 2019
This book is absolutely life changing for those with "scary" intrusive thoughts. The two psychiatrists break the stereo type that if you have a uncomfortable thought, it doesn't define you as a person. This book helped me put my anxiety in perspective, but there is lots of work to be done with me and my anxiety.
Sally M. Winston & Martin N. Seif go through exercises that could change your life and could help free your mind. Most therapists don't specialise in this type of psychology of the brain but these two do. They break down how anxiety works and how the psyche / body responds to the anxiety. The tough part is retraining your brain on how to respond to the intrusive thoughts, which can take time as they point out in this book. If you're ready for change, be prepared that it takes time, and it takes practice to silence your mind. I give this book a defiant 5/5.
Sally M. Winston & Martin N. Seif go through exercises that could change your life and could help free your mind. Most therapists don't specialise in this type of psychology of the brain but these two do. They break down how anxiety works and how the psyche / body responds to the anxiety. The tough part is retraining your brain on how to respond to the intrusive thoughts, which can take time as they point out in this book. If you're ready for change, be prepared that it takes time, and it takes practice to silence your mind. I give this book a defiant 5/5.
December 3, 2025
4.5/5⭐
اول از همه بگم: این کتاب اصلاً زرد نیست :)
چون با این حجم عجیب کتابهای زرد روانشناسی که این روزها توی بازار میبینیم، لازم دیدم نقدم رو با همین جمله شروع کنم!
قبل از خرید، یککم تحقیق کردم که مطمئن بشم سراغ یک کتاب جدی و معتبر میرم. نتیجه هم مثبت بود: سالی ام. وینستون روانشناس باتجربهایه که سالها در حوزهی اضطراب، هراس و وسواس کار کرده و چندین جایزهی مهم علمی گرفته. روش درمانیاش هم عمدتاً بر پایهی درمان شناختی–رفتاری (CBT) و بهخصوص کار با «ذهن چسبنده» طراحی شده.
اما دربارهی خود کتاب:
اگه شما از اون آدمهایی هستید که گاهی وسط روز، بدون دلیل منطقی، فکرهایی میاد تو ذهنتون که هم عجیبن، هم ترسناک، هم اصلاً شبیه شخصیت واقعیتون نیستن . این کتاب دقیقاً برای شماست.
منظورم چیه؟
مثلاً وقتی همینطوری نشستین و ناگهان یک فکر خشونتآمیز، جنسی، کفرآمیز یا کاملاً خلاف ارزشهاتون وارد ذهنتون میشه… بعد یهو با خودتون میگید:
«اگه این فکرها میاد تو ذهنم یعنی شاید واقعاً آدم خطرناکیام؟ شاید یه چیزی تو وجودم مشکل داره؟»
و همون لحظه حالتون بد میشه.
این کتاب دقیقاً همینجاست که به داد آدم میرسه.
چون توضیح میده این فکرها نه نشونهی بیماری، نه نشونهی ضعف اخلاقی، و نه حتی نشونهی خواستهی واقعی شما هستن.
فقط یک پدیدهی طبیعی ذهنیان که اکثر آدمها تجربهش میکنن. تفاوت فقط اینه که بعضیا بهش گیر میکنن و ازش میترسن.
کتاب با زبانی کاملاً ساده و روان توضیح میده که چرا این افکار میان، چرا هرچی بیشتر باهاشون میجنگیم قویتر میشن، و چطور باید رابطهمون رو باهاشون عوض کنیم.
من حجم کم کتاب و متن راحتش رو خیلی دوست داشتم. تقریباً هر کسی میتونه بدون سختی بخونتش.
صادقانه بگم:
وقتی خوندمش، چندتا لامپ واقعاً تو ذهنم روشن شد. همون آگاه شدن از ماهیت این افکار باعث شد بخشی از اضطرابی که همیشه ته ذهنم بود کم بشه. بعضی مفاهیمش اونقدر ساده و مهم بودن که آدم با خودش میگه: «چطور تا حالا نمیدونستم؟»
یکی از مهمترین پیامهای کتاب اینه که شما تنها نیستید
و بعد خوندن کتاب متوجه میشید که خیلیهای دیگه هم همین مشکل رو دارن و کاملا طبیعیه
چرا بهش نمرهی کامل نمیدم؟
فقط به این خاطر که هنوز مطمئن نیستم اون بخش عملی و تکنیکهایی که ارائه میکنه، در طولانیمدت چقدر جواب میده. ولی حدسم اینه که اگر درست اجرا بشه، کاملاً میتونه کمککننده باشه.
در کل:
کتاب ارزش خوندن داره — هم بهخاطر محتوای علمی، هم بهخاطر حس آرامشی که میده، هم بهخاطر اینکه کمک میکنه خیلی از سوءتفاهمهای ذهنی بالاخره حل بشن.
اول از همه بگم: این کتاب اصلاً زرد نیست :)
چون با این حجم عجیب کتابهای زرد روانشناسی که این روزها توی بازار میبینیم، لازم دیدم نقدم رو با همین جمله شروع کنم!
قبل از خرید، یککم تحقیق کردم که مطمئن بشم سراغ یک کتاب جدی و معتبر میرم. نتیجه هم مثبت بود: سالی ام. وینستون روانشناس باتجربهایه که سالها در حوزهی اضطراب، هراس و وسواس کار کرده و چندین جایزهی مهم علمی گرفته. روش درمانیاش هم عمدتاً بر پایهی درمان شناختی–رفتاری (CBT) و بهخصوص کار با «ذهن چسبنده» طراحی شده.
اما دربارهی خود کتاب:
اگه شما از اون آدمهایی هستید که گاهی وسط روز، بدون دلیل منطقی، فکرهایی میاد تو ذهنتون که هم عجیبن، هم ترسناک، هم اصلاً شبیه شخصیت واقعیتون نیستن . این کتاب دقیقاً برای شماست.
منظورم چیه؟
مثلاً وقتی همینطوری نشستین و ناگهان یک فکر خشونتآمیز، جنسی، کفرآمیز یا کاملاً خلاف ارزشهاتون وارد ذهنتون میشه… بعد یهو با خودتون میگید:
«اگه این فکرها میاد تو ذهنم یعنی شاید واقعاً آدم خطرناکیام؟ شاید یه چیزی تو وجودم مشکل داره؟»
و همون لحظه حالتون بد میشه.
این کتاب دقیقاً همینجاست که به داد آدم میرسه.
چون توضیح میده این فکرها نه نشونهی بیماری، نه نشونهی ضعف اخلاقی، و نه حتی نشونهی خواستهی واقعی شما هستن.
فقط یک پدیدهی طبیعی ذهنیان که اکثر آدمها تجربهش میکنن. تفاوت فقط اینه که بعضیا بهش گیر میکنن و ازش میترسن.
کتاب با زبانی کاملاً ساده و روان توضیح میده که چرا این افکار میان، چرا هرچی بیشتر باهاشون میجنگیم قویتر میشن، و چطور باید رابطهمون رو باهاشون عوض کنیم.
من حجم کم کتاب و متن راحتش رو خیلی دوست داشتم. تقریباً هر کسی میتونه بدون سختی بخونتش.
صادقانه بگم:
وقتی خوندمش، چندتا لامپ واقعاً تو ذهنم روشن شد. همون آگاه شدن از ماهیت این افکار باعث شد بخشی از اضطرابی که همیشه ته ذهنم بود کم بشه. بعضی مفاهیمش اونقدر ساده و مهم بودن که آدم با خودش میگه: «چطور تا حالا نمیدونستم؟»
یکی از مهمترین پیامهای کتاب اینه که شما تنها نیستید
و بعد خوندن کتاب متوجه میشید که خیلیهای دیگه هم همین مشکل رو دارن و کاملا طبیعیه
چرا بهش نمرهی کامل نمیدم؟
فقط به این خاطر که هنوز مطمئن نیستم اون بخش عملی و تکنیکهایی که ارائه میکنه، در طولانیمدت چقدر جواب میده. ولی حدسم اینه که اگر درست اجرا بشه، کاملاً میتونه کمککننده باشه.
در کل:
کتاب ارزش خوندن داره — هم بهخاطر محتوای علمی، هم بهخاطر حس آرامشی که میده، هم بهخاطر اینکه کمک میکنه خیلی از سوءتفاهمهای ذهنی بالاخره حل بشن.
September 26, 2021
I love this book. It has helped me manage my intrusive thoughts. A few months ago I experienced what I think was my first unwanted intrusive thought, a thought that just took over my life completely. The thought made me have panic attacks and I ended up taking anti depressants and seeing a therapist for a few months. Just because this random thought popped into my head and I thought it said something about my character. It’s crazy how a single thought can cause a person so much distress if the person (me in this instance) doesn't understand that it is just a thought. It cannot hurt you, even though it might feel like it has taken over your life and mind. It hasn't, it just your belief that it has. Over the following months I was so scarred of my own thoughts, "what if?" thoughts took over my life.
I had never experienced such a paralyzing fear before and I became someone I didn't recognize. But I am so thankful that I found this book. I found it when I felt almost normal again and this book was like the cherry on top. It put a name to what I was experiencing and that was everything. Turns out I'm not crazy, weird or disgusting. Apparently I'm like everyone else. Who knew.
This book gives the reader tools to handle their intrusive thoughts so they don't rule your life, it teaches you to see your thoughts in a new way, they become less threatening, less scary and they become exactly what they are, thoughts. As they should be. It gives me comfort knowing that this book will always be available to me if I should ever need to go back and read a few passages again. And I recommend this book to anyone suffering from thoughts that stick and scare you the more you try to get rid of them. This book will help you. You are not weird, you are very normal.
I had never experienced such a paralyzing fear before and I became someone I didn't recognize. But I am so thankful that I found this book. I found it when I felt almost normal again and this book was like the cherry on top. It put a name to what I was experiencing and that was everything. Turns out I'm not crazy, weird or disgusting. Apparently I'm like everyone else. Who knew.
This book gives the reader tools to handle their intrusive thoughts so they don't rule your life, it teaches you to see your thoughts in a new way, they become less threatening, less scary and they become exactly what they are, thoughts. As they should be. It gives me comfort knowing that this book will always be available to me if I should ever need to go back and read a few passages again. And I recommend this book to anyone suffering from thoughts that stick and scare you the more you try to get rid of them. This book will help you. You are not weird, you are very normal.
March 10, 2019
Struggled for years until this book
I finally understand how to LET IT GO. I suffer from unwanted intrusive thoughts daily and I have finally learned to let them go thanks to this book. I’m constantly a work in progress. I haven’t read a single other book that’s helped with calming anxious thoughts down. I plan to continue to practice these methods outlined in the book. Overall, so incredibly well written. As someone who suffers from anxiety I could feel my anxiety lessening every single page. Thank you so much for writing this!
I finally understand how to LET IT GO. I suffer from unwanted intrusive thoughts daily and I have finally learned to let them go thanks to this book. I’m constantly a work in progress. I haven’t read a single other book that’s helped with calming anxious thoughts down. I plan to continue to practice these methods outlined in the book. Overall, so incredibly well written. As someone who suffers from anxiety I could feel my anxiety lessening every single page. Thank you so much for writing this!
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August 14, 2017I'll preface this review by "outing" myself as someone who has long enjoyed a good self-help book that elicits at least one "Ah HAH!" moment from me! After discovering this title in the library and flipping through it, I soon found I couldn't put it down. It outlines wonderful tools for dealing with intrusive thoughts many/most of us have, be they very dark, shocking and frightening (and the authors deal with these quite a bit in this book), or simply nagging anxieties that we can't seem to shake, even though we might tell ourselves they're irrational or illogical. The authors explain how we wind up getting tangled up in them, and then how to just let go. The key phrase for me was: "Neither thoughts nor feelings are facts". Let that one sink in; it's quite freeing, isn't it? - Jess O.
January 2, 2021
This book is really helpful, clear, easy to read, and affirming. More time is spent assuring the reader that the thoughts are okay, and talking about where they are coming from versus solutions for the thoughts. However, the solutions are there and they seem like they will be really helpful. I think this book is good for people who are taking additional mental health steps, and want to do some self work before bringing this up in therapy. But yeah, overall I recommend.
February 24, 2022
"The path to the other side of the storm where all is calm is through it. We can't outrun it or circle around it. But if we walk forward through it, it does not take long to pass."
I want to personally thank both Sally M. Winston and Martin N. Seif for writing this powerful book. Everybody experiences unwanted intrusive thoughts, but for some people they can become stuck, be more distressing and cause anxiety. Not only do the authors make you feel normal and understood, but they also provide simple, and comprehensible solutions that are easy to apply on your own. And they work!
I loved how compassionately this book was written. Both co-authors are absolute specialists in this specific field, and they just get it. Meanwhile, it is easy to read, and at times even funny!
If you are someone who suffers from unwanted intrusive thoughts, please read this book. It is an absolute life-changer.
I want to personally thank both Sally M. Winston and Martin N. Seif for writing this powerful book. Everybody experiences unwanted intrusive thoughts, but for some people they can become stuck, be more distressing and cause anxiety. Not only do the authors make you feel normal and understood, but they also provide simple, and comprehensible solutions that are easy to apply on your own. And they work!
I loved how compassionately this book was written. Both co-authors are absolute specialists in this specific field, and they just get it. Meanwhile, it is easy to read, and at times even funny!
If you are someone who suffers from unwanted intrusive thoughts, please read this book. It is an absolute life-changer.
January 25, 2019
this book completely reshaped the way i think about anxiety and obsessive thinking and—i mean this—honestly changed my life.
i'm not 100% all the time, but reading this book gave me a pathway to move on from a time when i felt mentally exhausted, and i'm saying this publicly so that someone else will hopefully see this and understand that the $9 i spent on this ebook was beyond worth it. i am very thankful for it and i reference it often.
i'm not 100% all the time, but reading this book gave me a pathway to move on from a time when i felt mentally exhausted, and i'm saying this publicly so that someone else will hopefully see this and understand that the $9 i spent on this ebook was beyond worth it. i am very thankful for it and i reference it often.
April 2, 2025
CBT-informed discussion of intrusive thoughts: what they are, why they are there, and how to attempt to deal with them. Importantly, this is not an OCD-focused book. It's purely the O (obsessions). Not that it said it was, but that will be important to know. Seif and Winston have used the convention of personifying the thoughts as different "voices" in other books as well, which I think works fantastically for a lay audience.
March 13, 2021
Unfortunately, this book only applies to a very specific kind of intrusive thought. This book is for people who, when they get the occasional off-the-wall thought like, "I could throw this baby off the balcony!" their brain just latches on and turns it into an infinite loop of horror where they avoid babies and balconies all together. I am glad this book exists for those people. However, near the beginning of this book (that really could have been a pamphlet) a bunch of different types of intrusive thoughts that this book can supposedly help with are mentioned, such as memories of trauma and fixation on body sensations (ie - my clothes are uncomfortable) and these kinds of thoughts just never come up again. I found the tone of this book largely condescending and the content bloated and repetitive beyond belief.
March 20, 2018
This short book was long on symptoms, short on resolutions. It made me comfortable that I'm not alone, but did not put my mind at ease. I felt so short-changed at the end that I ended up tossing it. The "recovery" is so simple, yet so very, very hard.
December 10, 2019
This book is a godsend. Unwanted intrusive thoughts are something I've struggled with my entire life. This book is great at explaining the causes of these thoughts, why some people are more susceptible to them than others, and providing a plan for how to deal with them. Highly recommended if this is something you struggle with.
August 20, 2024
As someone who struggles with obsessive thoughts, I felt like this was actually a really beneficial read. As other reviews have said, I didn’t feel like it was a jargon overload and liked the way the chapters were divided. Hearing exact examples of the same obsessive thoughts I have certainly made me feel less alone and excited to retrain my brain LOL
February 13, 2017
NetGalley provided this book in exchange for an honest review.
* Great examples trickled throughout the advice and research to really hammer home the point.
* Information is outlined and organized well.
* Jargon isn't too complicated.
* Could help shift your perspective toward yourself.
* Highly recommend to anyone with anxiety or similar disorders!
* Great examples trickled throughout the advice and research to really hammer home the point.
* Information is outlined and organized well.
* Jargon isn't too complicated.
* Could help shift your perspective toward yourself.
* Highly recommend to anyone with anxiety or similar disorders!
December 16, 2022
While this seems relatable at times, it’s very repetitive and it certainly does not provide any profound advice to help accept or rid yourself of intrusive thoughts.
May 4, 2025
كان رفيقي في رحلة الوهن، كتاب رائع جدًا ومفيد في بابه.
February 26, 2024
Reading this on the metro so no one sits next to you >>
March 10, 2025
I read it. So I need credit for it. Even though it’s outing my mental health.
March 31, 2023
I've been struggling with intrusive thoughts lately, and this book makes me feel less alienated or scared. I still don't dare to face the horrible thoughts now, but now that I'm aware reassurance seeking and distraction will only makes the symptoms worse in the long run, I hope I can gather the courage to face my fear soon. P.s. this book makes me want to give my amygdala a tight hug. I appreciate how hard it works to make sure I'm alerted to possible dangers, but I just want it to rest for a while and know that I'm actually safe in the present moment. A week ago, my intrusive thoughts were so bad that I can't do anything other than seek reassurance and cry because of the panic attacks. Even now, there's still this dread and sense of impending doom within me. I can't go through a day peacefully without thinking things might go terribly wrong the next second, I start to scrutinize my own life anxiously while hoping the coincidences aren't bad signs from the universe, and I can't differentiate thoughts from premonitions. It's so tiring and I just want it to stop :(
April 28, 2025
I have no doubt that this book will change and save people’s lives. This is the best self-help book I have ever read and everybody who struggles with intrusive thoughts or OCD should read this. This is a life-changing, practical, clear guide for people struggling with frightening, obsessive or disturbing thoughts. Thank you to the authors for putting this into the world.
July 31, 2024
If you have anxiety and have ever struggled with intrusive thoughts, READ THIS BOOK. So thankful for my friend who recommended it to me!
December 8, 2023
I don't actually get intrusive thoughts (lucky 10%!) so my favourite part of this book was reading through it all with a general polite interest until I got to the section on seeking professional help and I was like oh, those are the kinds of thoughts I do get, and then the book is like yeah we can't help you. Go find a therapist 👍
As a casual reader, this was interesting. A little repetitive and overly religious but an easy read. It gave good insight on what having intrusive thoughts might feel like, it had a very supportive and kind "narrative voice", and it offered a genuine action plan. Even though I don't get intrusive thoughts, it still provided a framework with which I could better understand my own ways of thinking.
As a casual reader, this was interesting. A little repetitive and overly religious but an easy read. It gave good insight on what having intrusive thoughts might feel like, it had a very supportive and kind "narrative voice", and it offered a genuine action plan. Even though I don't get intrusive thoughts, it still provided a framework with which I could better understand my own ways of thinking.
July 30, 2021
2.5 stars
Oiii, there’s a lot to unpack here.
I didn’t really know what to expect with this book. I wanted help on dealing with my catastrophe-zing thoughts. Did this help with these “sticky” thoughts, sure. However, I did find some confusing and odd (?) theories. For me, this was definitely an “eat out the meat and spit out the bones” type of book.
This is a late entry, but I’m finally going back and adding these books to my GRs!
I finished this book as part of a “book boot camp” challenge! See my full video review below ❤️📚
I Read 7 Best-Selling Books on Anxiety and had this *breakthrough* with my panic disorder... https://youtu.be/Uv69N6O9Cgo
Oiii, there’s a lot to unpack here.
I didn’t really know what to expect with this book. I wanted help on dealing with my catastrophe-zing thoughts. Did this help with these “sticky” thoughts, sure. However, I did find some confusing and odd (?) theories. For me, this was definitely an “eat out the meat and spit out the bones” type of book.
This is a late entry, but I’m finally going back and adding these books to my GRs!
I finished this book as part of a “book boot camp” challenge! See my full video review below ❤️📚
I Read 7 Best-Selling Books on Anxiety and had this *breakthrough* with my panic disorder... https://youtu.be/Uv69N6O9Cgo
July 27, 2023
Bijlezen in de vakantie, het is ook een vorm van zelfzorg
Interessant en toegankelijk boek over hoe omgaan met opdringerige of 'vreemde' gedachten die je beangstigen, waarvan je in de war raakt, die je in je hoofd laten vastzitten
ik herken veel elementen uit de huidige ACT , ook technieken die daar gebruikt worden ikv defusie van gedachten, handig extra boek om te werken rond CGT.
https://www.humanistischverbond.be/kr...
Interessant en toegankelijk boek over hoe omgaan met opdringerige of 'vreemde' gedachten die je beangstigen, waarvan je in de war raakt, die je in je hoofd laten vastzitten
ik herken veel elementen uit de huidige ACT , ook technieken die daar gebruikt worden ikv defusie van gedachten, handig extra boek om te werken rond CGT.
https://www.humanistischverbond.be/kr...
July 28, 2025
This book helped me understand OCD brains a lot. Definitely recommend to anyone who struggles with it or wants to understand it better. 🤍
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March 19, 2024A great tool for anyone with OCD, or struggling to figure out if you have OCD. I recommend this book to my patients often.
January 7, 2025
Listened to this as an audiobook as I think I’d struggle to keep focused if I read it. But what a game changer for anyone with anxious/ocd related intrusive thoughts!!! My therapist recommended this to me, and it is the only resource that I’ve found (aside from therapy) that has genuinely helped and given concrete, clear, and constructive tips. It’s actively changed the way I view my intrusive thoughts. Anyone struggling should give this a go!!!!
October 21, 2020
Whilst the aim of the book is well intended with a detailed understanding on intrusive thoughts and how the mind responds to them, the execution of these ideas is quite simply stupid. The tips in here to combat such thoughts are borderline psychotic. For instance, it suggests that we shouldn't avoid negative surroundings but rather force ourselves to live within these thoughts until they become meaningless instead of cutting down anxiety inducing spaces. I find it counterintuitive to bombard ourselves with constant toxic people/thoughts in order for us to manage anxiety. I can say from personal experience that blocking what makes you anxious is helpful in moving on with your life. Negative spaces breed negative outcomes. This book's advice is to turn these thoughts into a song, a rhyme, a mantra, constantly say them out loud in front of the mirror, be anal with them, think them and only them, make them so obsessive that they eventually stop causing you anxiety. This very likely will drive me to insanity.
However, this book made me aware with the idea of separating thoughts into 3 categories. For that reason alone, it gets 2 stars instead of 1.
The 3 categories being:-
Worried Voice: I don't think I'm ever going to get a job.
False Comfort: Yes, you will. You're the best.
Wise Mind: I may have a hard time looking for a job but I have the qualifications and experience needed to get a job. So remain optimistic and try your best because the only way to find the answer to this anxiety is by putting yourself out there.
Somehow though, it found a way to even mess this concept up as well. It said, the Worried Voice is going to tell us that we will never be fixed. False Comfort will say this is the cure, you tackle your anxiety by facing it with forced optimism and it wont ever come back. Wise Mind will say they actually won't come back (with the exception of setbacks) if you implement the psychotic practice of repeating bad thoughts to yourself over and over again. If I had to speak on behalf of Wise Mind in this example I'd use the Sheryl Paul approach of facing my fears by turning them into challenges that help me grow. I believe this book was trying to use this ideology but as I stated above it failed to reach its audience the way it intended to. Sheryl Paul did a far superior job in writing The Wisdom of Anxiety: How Worry and Intrusive Thoughts Are Gifts to Help You Heal and I'd recommend her work over any other CBT based books.
My final takeaway from this not-so-good book is the idea of "sticky thoughts". Intrusive thoughts can become sticker thoughts when one is sleep deprived or hungry or in a physically/emotionally weak state thereby making some thoughts more susceptible to anxiety than others.
Terrible, poorly written book. It makes claims with no citations or case studies. It says things like ‘asking God to take these thoughts away will actually make them worse’ but doesn’t support it with any evidence. Also, isn’t talking to God kind of like repeating thoughts to yourself? I thought repeating thoughts back to yourself was part of the CBT exercise this book encourages...so it didn’t even stay consistent with its own “suggestions”.
However, this book made me aware with the idea of separating thoughts into 3 categories. For that reason alone, it gets 2 stars instead of 1.
The 3 categories being:-
Worried Voice: I don't think I'm ever going to get a job.
False Comfort: Yes, you will. You're the best.
Wise Mind: I may have a hard time looking for a job but I have the qualifications and experience needed to get a job. So remain optimistic and try your best because the only way to find the answer to this anxiety is by putting yourself out there.
Somehow though, it found a way to even mess this concept up as well. It said, the Worried Voice is going to tell us that we will never be fixed. False Comfort will say this is the cure, you tackle your anxiety by facing it with forced optimism and it wont ever come back. Wise Mind will say they actually won't come back (with the exception of setbacks) if you implement the psychotic practice of repeating bad thoughts to yourself over and over again. If I had to speak on behalf of Wise Mind in this example I'd use the Sheryl Paul approach of facing my fears by turning them into challenges that help me grow. I believe this book was trying to use this ideology but as I stated above it failed to reach its audience the way it intended to. Sheryl Paul did a far superior job in writing The Wisdom of Anxiety: How Worry and Intrusive Thoughts Are Gifts to Help You Heal and I'd recommend her work over any other CBT based books.
My final takeaway from this not-so-good book is the idea of "sticky thoughts". Intrusive thoughts can become sticker thoughts when one is sleep deprived or hungry or in a physically/emotionally weak state thereby making some thoughts more susceptible to anxiety than others.
Terrible, poorly written book. It makes claims with no citations or case studies. It says things like ‘asking God to take these thoughts away will actually make them worse’ but doesn’t support it with any evidence. Also, isn’t talking to God kind of like repeating thoughts to yourself? I thought repeating thoughts back to yourself was part of the CBT exercise this book encourages...so it didn’t even stay consistent with its own “suggestions”.
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