What (TF) Do I Do Now?: Reclaiming Myself, One Piece at a Time

by Tareasa Johnson

The creator of the viral TikTok series “Who TF Did I Marry?” shares an even more unfiltered account of how she reclaimed herself, fought through toxic relationships, and regained her foundation through healing and deep self-reflection.

When Tareasa “Reesa Teesa” Johnson decided to disclose the full details of her turbulent marriage in a 50-part TikTok series, from first meeting to the finality of divorce, she hoped it would help at least one person from making similar mistakes. In a flash "Who TF Did I Marry?" went global, becoming a movement. Millions around the world were enraptured and identified with Tareasa's story, ultimately sharing their own experiences of heartbreak and deceit.

While “Who TF Did I Marry?” questioned the relationship, What (TF) Do I Do Now? probes deeper, asking “Where did I lose myself?” Through reflection, acceptance, and humor, Tareasa unravels even more details of what caused her to stay in a partnership where familiarity became too comfortable, and loneliness was a scarier proposition than owning her solitude. Tareasa’s indelible voice and keen perspective shares new, engrossing stories and practical insights as she regains her footing and her faith in herself, offering readers the chance to do the same.

Probing, personal, and incredibly relatable, What (TF) Do I Do Now? isn’t a self-help guide, but an empowering conversation with the reader, illuminating the courage it takes to trust yourself because healing is on the other side of pain.

Genres: Audiobook, Nonfiction, Memoir

256 pages, Hardcover

Published August 18, 2026

Reviews

[Bridgette · Rating 4 out of 5]

I gave What (TF) Do I Do Now? 4 stars. I think this is one of those books you’ll either like or you won’t, because a lot of the story is familiar if you followed Reesa Teesa’s viral series. There’s some new information about where she is now and more insight into her headspace, but it’s largely the story we already know.

What really stood out to me was how she handled everything that came after going viral. I’m proud of how well she played her cards. Once the offers started coming in, she got a lawyer to handle her business, which helped her avoid being exploited or taken advantage of. She turned an unexpected viral moment into something successful while still staying true to herself.

I also appreciated that she took accountability for her own poor decisions and used the experience to reevaluate her life. Ultimately, the book made me like her even more. Four stars—not necessarily because the book gave me a brand-new story, but because I really respect what she did with the story she already had.

[Tiffany Sims · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book isn’t for everyone but I’m happy I indulged. We’ve all been that girl. Some of us still are in one way or another. Definitely relatable and realistic view of how love gets complicated.

[Lauren Kirk · Rating 4 out of 5]

I watched all of “Who TF did I marry” when it was dropping LIVE. Like millions of others I was hooked. Getting more into Tareasa’s experience with not only her ex-husband but all of their previous relationships. If you watched the series this is a bit of a recap but more so her headspace, the aftermath of her divorce and virality. One thing I really loved about this was how much accountability Tareasa took during these previous relationships, how they went wrong, why she kept going back and how she’s planning on moving forward.

As a single girl freshly 30, there was a lot of affirming in this for me that, 1 I’m not alone in my desire for partnership and love and 2 patience and not FORCING something will be worth it. She’s was near giving a sermon in this lol. Definitely gave me some things to think about when I look back on my own dating decisions lol. I really enjoyed this and it made me like her a lot more. Can’t wait to see how the TV show goes!

[Allyson]

Really repetitive and not written well. This book was really sad and her experiences with men were horrible. We know what she’s learned and that’s great but she comes across almost cocky now which is MINDBLOWING. And it took ALLLLLLLLLL that to get some self respect? This was really hard to read and I don’t necessarily like her afterwards.

Also, I had no clue it was going to be SO religious. I’m Christian and still found it pretty grating.

[Ida Wilcox · Rating 5 out of 5]

OH My goodness and another great one from Ms. Reasa Tessa.

I love how she shows the other side of "Who TF did I marry" also provided some back story to it as well. I learned alot from both of her stories. Hopefully this can be a learning lesson for those who read this book.

Please HEAL from your past trauma before who inter in a relationship.

[Laura Kingsley · Rating 2 out of 5]

Read it for the TikTok series. The amount of preaching was uncomfortable. The ending was ehh. Stick with the TikTok series it was better. TBH. I’m Disappointed that I wasted an audible credit on this.

[Sara Kaner · Rating 3 out of 5]

I’d round this up to 3.5 stars. I devoured her TikTok series and think Tareasa is an amazing storyteller, but this book fell a little flat on substance for me.

[ReadnliftwithShar · Rating 5 out of 5]

🫶🏾✨

Honestly, I wanted to read this book because I had watched all the videos. But what I walked away with was thought provoking, lightbulb moments, and so many gems that I needed to highlight. I loved this book because I was once that girl - yearning for love and ignoring all the red flags. I loved the relatability and vulnerability, mixed with humor and honesty. Healing isn’t linear and it’s not a perfect journey, but being real with yourself makes a world of difference. I appreciate ReesaTeesa so much. 🫶🏾💕

[Sarah Battiste · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great follow up to her series. It gave a lot of great backstory and what happened afterwards. It felt like a retelling of some of her series, but also from the lessons she learned through her journey. It was also interesting to see how her life has evolved since then and get more details that we didn’t hear in the series. If you were a fan of her series, I would definitely read the book. I listened to it and she narrated it, which was actually really great.

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good to know Theresa got some closure and is in her healing journey. There is some new details she did not share in the fifty part series. Sometimes I got annoyed of how naive she was with her relationships just in search of love and stability. And sadly there are a lot of girls like that out there. Don’t let your weight be your self worth to settle or crazy relationships and give up your body to anyone that wants it.

[Nikki B · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank for being transparent and allowing me the space to accept my own truth. This story has allowed me a chance to fully appreciate and evaluate my journey without shame. Silence is not safer. It’s time we begin to embrace our own self value. This book should be a prerequisite for life as a young woman .

[Noelle O'Neal · Rating 5 out of 5]

DNFing this simply because it is far more religion based than I expected and not relatable for me.
BUT still giving 5 stats because she is that girl and I just love her. Her narration is top notch and I wish her nothing but happiness and success!

[Teka B · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5/5⭐️

I don’t know the full story about “Reesa Teesa” that was on social media. I only know the preface of it. However, I like that this book didn’t necessarily focus on that. Instead, there were life lessons she learned through her relationships and how she is building herself back up.

[LaChelle Weaver · Rating 5 out of 5]

I listened on audiobook and I enjoyed it. It’s not a retelling of the 50 part Who TF Did I Marry series that went viral on TikTok. I love how she tells a story so I was looking forward to this one. I’m happy she’s getting her heart desires now because she deserves it.

[Stephanie Gray Brand · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this. So happy for Ressa Tessa.

[Elaina Breaux · Rating 4 out of 5]

She is such an amazing story teller!

This is a great book, especially for single ladies.

It was like hanging out and talking to your cool older aunt who understands you better than your mom.

[Rae · Rating 5 out of 5]

Enjoyed this. Not a self help book but more of a self reflection and taking on deep accountability. A good read for women who desire marriage even when it comes at a cost. It was a bit more religion forward in the beginning than I thought it would be. I really appreciate the honesty and acknowledgement that she isn’t the finish line, she’s still working on healing.