One day we logged on to the internet, and then we never logged out. On 15 August 1995, India officially logged on to the internet. If you're a young Indian today, you come from a generation that used to dream of the endless possibilities that came with having the world at our fingertips, and now must cope with its realities. India's Gen Z is inextricably tied to the internet – connected in more ways than one. To understand one, you must understand the other.
From the quiet potential of the early internet to Bollywood's clumsy depictions of youth culture, from tote bags and trending aesthetics to anonymous hate and viral fame, from Ask.fm to AI, Never Logged Out by 'extremely online' Gen Z writer Ria Chopra tries to make sense of her generation and how they love, shop, and live on the internet.
In eight essays, each posing questions about selfhood, love, memory, privacy, anonymity, knowledge, fame, and ambition, Never Logged Out interrogates how the internet makes and breaks this generation. Fresh, funny, and startlingly insightful, Ria weaves together personal anecdotes, cultural commentary, and a sharp understanding of her generation and the world today into a first-of-its-kind book about the experience of growing up on, with, and because of the Indian internet.
I’ve been wanting to read this ever since i heard ria was publishing a book, as someone who is chronically online the book had a lot of aspects i could relate to (or have lived through) it also allowed me to think more consciously about what the internet as a tool has meant and will mean to me Alsooo right balance of anecdotal and informational content, might re-read!
Really loved this!! Read non-fiction after quite a while.. it is worth it. What I liked about this book was that it was well researched, but the how to connect those outcomes of research was well thought, it wasn't just blindly aligning to them, but was thought through by the author. I follow her on instagram, and usually like her writings and reels on that, but this book gave me even more insight into how she thinks.
The best part about it was how she nudges us to think about the questions that matter!
when this becomes an international bestseller and classic, i’ll know i called it in the first month of its release. I don’t have any other way to put this but for years i have wanted to read this very book but it simply did not exist. And now it does. @riachops is going places and i’ve known it since her twitter threads days. Thank you for writing this and sharing it with the world :)
In this really intriguing set of 8 essays, Ria Chopra tries to portray various ways India's Gen-Z grew up with the internet, as they continue to grapple with the extent to which their lives are curated and affected by social media. Taking examples from personal life, she delves into the availability of internet, a no-brainer deduction explaining the correlation between class, society, and country's development deciding who had the ability to get on the internet, and in what format.
As someone who is chronically online, I was able to understand 98% of her pop culture references, elaborately juxtaposed against theories of other famous psychologists and anthropology professionals. It was not an answer to whether the internet is good or bad for you, but rather the ability to dissect different eras of the internet that defined how and where we used social media, being the very basis of curation, portrayal of self, and ideals we developed as a generation.
She argues that no generation is dumber than the previous one, but rather, the availability of so much information forces us to pick and choose what we want to draw from, thereby giving us a niche ability of drawing patterns, and connecting the dots from a myriad of sources, something the older generations did not have the capability to do. She effortlessly manages to bring in socio-economic standards that continue to separate a "smart" person from an uneducated one, purely on the basis of the colonial language. But she is also quick to note the omnipresent nature of the internet, that quickly seeped it's way into tier II and III cities, enough to give everyone across India an equal access to information of all kinds.
I think this is a great book to pick up if you want to understand how the internet manages to shape you, see where your personality begins, and if it is actually your true self or not to begin with. She talks at length about the depiction of the internet "on the internet", and how the "medium is the message", and if we want to fully understand what the pros and cons of it are, we can't help but continue using it to the best of our agencies, in order to find out what becomes of it in the coming decades.
Absolutely refreshing, gave me a new perspective of critical thinking abilities, would definitely recommend!
As someone who usually resists reading non-fiction, this book exceeded my expectations. It strikes the perfect balance between research/information, anecdotes and trivia.
Ria captures the digital ecosystem with remarkable nuance - the forces that shape it, and the ways it shapes us in return. In just 200 pages, I felt a mix of wonder, nostalgia and clarity - almost like experiencing the internet itself in all its complexity.
I’ll be thinking for a long time about how much of my thinking is truly my own and how much is influenced by the socio-economic, political and online worlds I exist within - though at this point, I’m starting to wonder if any thought is untouched by these forces.
Looking forward to more such thought provoking books from Ria.
While I am not Gen Z, half my life has been on the internet, and this book made me realise how much that experience has shaped who I am today and how it will continue to influence who I become. It also reminded me to be cautious about how the online world tries to slot us into predetermined lists and checkboxes. On the internet, you are always a target audience for someone, and your value to them depends on how neatly you fit into the categories they have created.
When you never truly log out, your life becomes a performance for others, and every past moment stays preserved for anyone to revisit.
It makes you wonder how often the labels the internet places on people begin to feel true simply because they are repeated, and how easily those simplified versions start to replace who they really are.
Where do I start with this review ? I loved this book.
Everything about it- how it’s written, what it stands for and what it’s asking of us. Ria has done a brilliant job in putting together a narrative that can be very daunting and messy to make sense of but, like I always believe, AI can never replace the critical thinking that some humans garner.
The gist of the book is very much about the digital trends that has come with the internet and furthermore shaped our lives. Some realisations can also be put into play in the context of our behavioural patterns as well and that’s exactly why it piqued my interest.
I took my sweet time to finish this book because of the amount of notes I wanted to make and the amount of similarities I found in my own journals that I wanted to compare and contrast. It’s truly been a fascinating journey to complete this reading and I’m so grateful for Ria Chopra for having created this work of art.
A shoutout to the glossary at the end that makes this book accessible to the masses outside of those who just get it.
ngl, i went into this book with high expectations and i’m so happy to say it hit every single mark. it’s rare for a non-fiction to stick with me this quickly — i was only three chapters in and i was already referencing one of the concepts mid-conversation with a friend.
the book strikes such a perfect balance: it makes you feel seen with relatable stuff, but it also forces you to think deeper ideas. i enjoyed learning about things i previously knew nothing about (still reeling from the askfm stuff).
also, i like how ria has backed everything up with theories, quotes, and references to other books that hit exactly where they need to. I LOVE IT.
As a girl who logged on to the internet at 12 years old and has had the privilege of growing up on the internet, the lore behind certain niche things hits so close to home. I have seen the rise of some mega youtubers and have been there for their irrelevance era, have watched trends come and go, certainly bought something just for the sake of it and have fallen down the rabbit hole of quora, reddit or tumblr oh so often. The thesis of each essay was easy to follow and the thread tying it all together was so beautiful, the aspect of having grown on the internet sometimes makes me feel crass but at the same time it does feel like a huge part of my life, so reading this and understanding from a analytical and philosophical lens made me feel a tiny bit better that I AM THE INDIAN GENZ SHAPED BY THE INDIAN INTERNET.
so cool. never have I ever read something that romanticized a topic so awesomely and also educated me a lot about it. the vocab and the quirky sentences. fab. so fun. so beaut. so unputdownable. oof.
"my argument throughout this book is a simple one: a generation once impacted can never be de-impacted by a force, and the internet is no different. for better or for worse, or perhaps for a secret third thing, we are who we are because we have had the internet we have had."
non-fiction books rarely ever become all-time favourites for me so this is huge. as someone who barely reads non-fiction, i picked this one because of a) the subject matter, and b) the author herself, who understands us. us who have grown so much on and because of the internet, right from dolling up the same skinny girls on girlsgames24.com to now being forced to but refusing to log in to generative ai platforms like chatgpt.
i need you to read this if you belong to urban india's gen z population. i promise there's something for you in here to question and take away. i don't think i can point out a favourite essay because i loved them all. i have so aggressively tabbed and annotated almost every page. what also added to my reading experience was hearing ria speak about her book in mumbai and getting to ask her a question about her writing style (you can tell an indian gen z connoisseur has written this, given the umpteen references and variety of sources, including substack?). you can also tell that this was written by a literature student; it is intersectional, brings in class, caste and gender at various points, and is highly introspective.
this really would be the PERFECT book to study/read/discuss in a digital cultures course (and unfortunately, the course i had on this topic massively failed to excite or teach me in any way). this is essential reading.
ria says that "representing gen z's online experiences cannot be an exercise in harsh judgment - it must always be rooted in empathy and curiosity and a drive to understand". and that's what she did. she held our hands and reassured us that it's not our fault entirely.
i admire ria's brain and her keenness to share random bits of trivia that will eventually make us all think. and that's what she did with her book too. she made us think. she made me think. she understands and empathises so deeply and that's what i loved most about this book. never once does it feel like she's blaming us for doomscrolling or having a love-hate relationship with the internet. we, along with major corporations, are complicit in the "never-logged-outness" of our lives today.
i hope to read more from you, ria <3 but meanwhile, i am going to down my own rabbit hole of reading your other writings and looking up all your sources you cite at the end.
what can i say? this book was definitely worth the 8 hr ish plane ride to get my hands on it. the topics discussed in the book resonated SO much with me - the internet, pop culture references, quizzing?!?! (when was the last time I read a book with quizzing in it) the personal stories - EVERYTHING. It gave such a fresh, unbiased look into an indian's experience on the internet and with so much food for thought. cant wait to read more from the author :D
read it as someone who wanted to learn, explore and witness the world through Ria's eyes. absolutely enjoyed every bit of it and the new rabbit holes i delved into while reading
overall quite enjoyable, though a bit boring at some points. it's complicated, what's in my bag, and post knowledge were standouts, with the second one being phenomenal and my favourite.
The last sentence of the acknowledgement in this book is “I hope it makes you think” and it did. Reading this book made me aware of so many things. From how much the internet is impacting day to day life and the media to how the cotton tote came into being. Okay so honestly speaking, Ria Chopra did not write anything groundbreaking in this book, I was already loosely aware everything that was mentioned here. However, it was way that she wrote, the way in which she conveyed her message. The book is full of references from a range of people, from plato to contemporary substack writers. The book has so many anecdotes and such interesting stories like that of prometheus to kabhie khushi kabhie gham. It was honestly an amazing experience reading this book. It felt like I was reading something personal. Knowing Ria Chopra, following her, and even meeting her once(!!) has made me aware of how she speaks and somewhat how she thinks also. Hence, the whole tike I was reading the book I could hear her voice in my head. It felt like she was speaking the sentences of the book. Anyways, if you are someone who likes being aware of the current situations and are digitally very active, this is an amazing book.
4.5 stars. Devoured this book in two days. Even though it’s non-fiction (which I usually take my time with), Never Logged Out completely hooked me.
The book is relatable and grounded in solid research—woven together with personal stories, sharp cultural observations and insights into what growing up with the Internet means and how it has impacted us.
I found myself highlighting sentences and making notes and would definitely read it again.
🤳"If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known." . . .
🤳A thought provoking read.
🤳I liked how the author is funny at places as also honest and vulnerable about her personal experiences.
🤳Some excerpts that I highlighted that made me ponder:
🤳Is it even possible to be so clinical about an emotion that renders us crazy, stupid, and unpredictable?
🤳When the practice of love invites us to enter a place of potential bliss that is at the same time a place of critical awakening and pain, many of us turn our backs on love.
🤳‘To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be.’
🤳Derogatory or not, the aestheticisation of the self has led to our focus shifting from being the kind of person to simply looking like the kind of person we want to be perceived as.
🤳Money doesn’t even feel real anymore – ever since we all started paying for everything online.
🤳Housing, savings, healthcare – all things that are increasingly out of reach for many young people in a world of rising costs and stagnant wages. The ‘tote bag economy’ is, in some ways, a coping mechanism for this bleak reality. When the bigger things seem unattainable, we find solace in the smaller ones
🤳By realising that dopamine induced by consumerism will never fully heal the hurt and pain around questions of identity that plague us all.
🤳Knowledge, today, is not about knowing all the answers. It is about asking the better question.
🤳It is why the darkest of times, the worst of human experiences, always have art made of them – someone is saying I was there. I saw what happened. You are not alone.
🤳I was there. This is what happened. This is how it made us feel. It mattered.
Never Logged Out is a title I immediately loved. The more you sit with it, the truer it feels. It brought to mind that iconic line from Hotel California—“You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave.” Though originally about drugs, it feels uncannily apt for the internet. In a world where even my toaster needs an internet connection, being online is no longer a luxury or a choice; it has become a necessity we’re all forced to live with.
The book is fast-paced—almost deceptively so. I often had to consciously slow myself down because I found myself reading too quickly, carried along by the rhythm of the writing. I especially loved the way the author weaves in quotes from others between pages; they add texture and pause, allowing the ideas to breathe.
The range of topics the author takes on is impressive, and many of them linger long after you’ve finished reading. The point about our growing over-reliance on ratings, in particular, is one I know I’ll be thinking about for a while. Each chapter feels like a sharp, interesting short essay, making the book highly readable and engaging.
That said, the chapter My Bag felt a bit scattered. It begins strongly with ideas around identity and consumption, then shifts to planned obsolescence, and finally to sweatshops. Just when it feels like the author is about to reinforce a central argument, the focus changes. Each of these themes is important, but together they dilute the impact. A tighter focus around one central idea would have made the chapter far more powerful.
Overall, Never Logged Out is a compelling, thought-provoking read that captures the uneasy reality of our permanently connected lives, one that we may occasionally want to escape, but can never truly log out of.
I began following Ria on Instagram earlier this year after coming across some of her reels, e.g. the origin of the word 'Paparazzi', the joys of having a diverse friend group, etc. I liked the way she expressed her thoughts and was really excited to see how it translates into writing in this book. I got exactly what I hoped for, and I'm really happy I got to read this!
Never Logged Out has a lot of strengths - I love the range of topics, from relationships on social media to knowledge/the idea of knowing with the internet to the portrayal of internet/social media use in recent Hindi cinema. I especially enjoyed the moments when Ria put in her own anecdotes about various aspects of growing up with the internet. As a young millenial or a very old Gen-Z (based on which definition you take), it was also really relatable. The more information-based passages in the book were nicely integrated and didn't feel too dense. I also especially loved that this book didn't just give me information but actually left me raising questions about my own use of the internet and its impact on how I think - something that I had never really thought about too deeply before.
If I had to suggest any improvements, I would probably just say that I would have liked some discussions to be even more developed, and have read more of Ria's opinions, criticisms, and predictions on the various aspects of Gen-Z behaviour with the internet. But hopefully there will be more books to come in the future!
i understand the complaints about her privilege, but she does try to be self-aware about it to the extent she can. as the target audience for this book (gen z, grew up chronically online, raised in a metro city, private-school educated) i really vibed with it. my only complaint is that as a series of essays it felt a bit disconnected. ria's clearly taken inspiration from authors like jia tolentino (who she mentions at least twice) but their anthologies are much more focused than hers. at times i felt like there were interesting threads and ideas that she jumped around again and again. some stuff was so interesting and it felt like she was flexing her knowledge creds (which i totally get!) but less referencing and more depth could've taken this from 4 to 5 stars.
what i loved about this book was its sincerity. she loves the internet even as she's painfully aware about the inequalities and issues built into it. young women online are so often crucified for the things we love and hold dear, and additionally gen z is burnt at the stake for living fake digital lives. what ends up happening as a consequence is that in pursuit of defending themselves from these allegations, people run to the other extreme of unreflective egotistical myopia about the internet and its negatives or their own complicity in the system. so this was a refreshing change!
4.5 well deserved, thought provoking, meandering, sometimes messy, and romanticised stars.
I had never read about a book on the internet before, but I am glad I picked this one, just for the Indian context and perspective on the force that has largely shaped (and is shaped by) our lives. The author’s infectious curiosity and passion for ‘the Internet’ comes through loud and strong, proving to be a guide I could trust and resonate with.
I sympathised with her, related hard to certain sections, experienced nostalgia, experienced a sense of wonder and doom at the same time, and was provoked to think way beyond I normally would about a topic that we all take for granted. The internet is deeply entrenched in our lives, and many of the questions posed in this book are actual dilemmas of our time. The language, I must add, is breezy without being ostentatious or resorting to too much jargon, making the experience rather delightful.
This book is more about being human than about the internet, and compels you to think outside of your ‘business as usual’ mindset about constructs like privacy, permission, authenticity, and consumerism. I wish I had more specific points but I rushed through all the essays to keep reading more, and they are all a singular mishmash of ideas in my head than specific lines and quotes now.
(i don't know what counts as a spoiler in non-fiction books, but since i have outrightly mentioned excerpts from the book, i will flag it as "containing spoilers")
“...it is making of us as we make of it.” The whole internet experience is so dynamic and immense that containing it into such a succint book, which successfully manages to mention, if not entirely describe or accentuate relevant/relatable/what-i-find-of-value-in-the-most-self-centred-way-possible facets of the internet experience is nothing short of mind-boggling. My favourite parts of the book:
- the discourse on death and mourning, an extension of the "what happens after death" discussion in the digital context
- the internet's problem of amplifying, instead of transgressing classist, casteist, gendered constructs through echo chambers
- the greek mythology discourse (Prometheus and Epimetheus etymology trivia, loved it)
- and finally, something that felt very personal: the discussion on media representation of the internet. as someone who truly despise(d/s) contemporary settings/references in media due to perceiving most media as a form of escapism (also discussed in the book), this discussion healed something in me.
- bonus: loved all the pop culture references and easter eggs (some of which i may have overlooked) which also 'slipped' into the Acknowledgments section.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.