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How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You?: What God wants us to hear when we talk to our kids
“I remember the day you were born.”
“Turn down the music!”
“This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”
“Hold my hand.”
You’ve probably said these things to your kids, but have you listened to
what you’re saying? In fact, your heavenly Father wants to tell you many
of these same things. Rachael Carman knows how noisy it can be when
you’re raising children—she has seven! But this lovely devotional book
will help you to hear God’s still, small voice amid the chaos of carpools,
cut fingers, and carpet crawlers. You’ll learn how to recognize God’s
instructions for you, even as you seek to follow His example as a parent.
“Turn down the music!”
“This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”
“Hold my hand.”
You’ve probably said these things to your kids, but have you listened to
what you’re saying? In fact, your heavenly Father wants to tell you many
of these same things. Rachael Carman knows how noisy it can be when
you’re raising children—she has seven! But this lovely devotional book
will help you to hear God’s still, small voice amid the chaos of carpools,
cut fingers, and carpet crawlers. You’ll learn how to recognize God’s
instructions for you, even as you seek to follow His example as a parent.
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384 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 14, 2014
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About the author
Rachael Carman
7 books118 followersRachael Carman had it going on—or so she thought. After surviving sixty-three months of pregnancy, countless sleepless nights, and 35,000+ diapers, this one-time control freak encountered God’s grace. And she encourages you to do the same!
In her books How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You? and How to Have a HEART for Your Kids, Rachael challenges mothers to surrender their will and draw closer to their heavenly Father. She invites moms to join her in loving God passionately and worshiping him fully while sweeping up Cheerios, doing laundry, and planning dinner. You will be affirmed in your role as a mother as Rachael speaks of her struggles with perfectionism and impatience and shares her challenges, failures, and victories amid the ever-changing seasons of life. Her honesty will surprise you, and her humor will put you at ease.
Rachael is not only a respected author but is also a sought-after speaker. She has spoken across the United States as well as in Europe, Asia, and Africa.
She has been married to her husband, Davis, since 1986. Together, their life has been a roller-coaster ride, with God at the controls. They have seven kids with whom they love to laugh. Rachael enjoys playing in the dirt, eating dark chocolate, and walking on the beach. She and Davis are the owners of Apologia Educational Ministries.
In her books How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You? and How to Have a HEART for Your Kids, Rachael challenges mothers to surrender their will and draw closer to their heavenly Father. She invites moms to join her in loving God passionately and worshiping him fully while sweeping up Cheerios, doing laundry, and planning dinner. You will be affirmed in your role as a mother as Rachael speaks of her struggles with perfectionism and impatience and shares her challenges, failures, and victories amid the ever-changing seasons of life. Her honesty will surprise you, and her humor will put you at ease.
Rachael is not only a respected author but is also a sought-after speaker. She has spoken across the United States as well as in Europe, Asia, and Africa.
She has been married to her husband, Davis, since 1986. Together, their life has been a roller-coaster ride, with God at the controls. They have seven kids with whom they love to laugh. Rachael enjoys playing in the dirt, eating dark chocolate, and walking on the beach. She and Davis are the owners of Apologia Educational Ministries.
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March 12, 2015
The dare…
The author gives her readers a challenge — list the top 10 things you hear yourself say most often to your kids; then ask your kids to list the top 10 things they hear you say most frequently.
Rachel say the resulting lists will give you a starting place to explore the things God wants you to hear.
Did you take the challenge? You really should, you know…
Throughout the book — each chapter — Rachael speaks of God; his amazing love, his blessings, the salvation that is meant as a gift for each of us.
Since I am sure of my salvation, perhaps the most important message in this book for me, is the suggestion to focus on communicating God’s love and your love to your children (and grandchildren), giving them a foundation of a real, lasting and perfect love — God’s love — before discussing behavior.
Maybe this is what the whole world needs… to truly know God’s love — the real… lasting… perfect love of God. Unfortunately, most parents speak mostly of behavior, giving their children a deep-seated feeling that their parents’ love depends on their behavior.
This is a wonderful book! Full of encouragement, reassurance, inspiration and reinforcement — it prepares you for life!
I’m not kidding… in every chapter — everywhere the author could think of — Rachael reminds you to be sure of your own salvation, your own relationship with God.
Because only then can you be fully prepared… for anything!
March 23, 2020
3.5 Stars
I’m having a hard time choosing a rating for this book. I thought it was going to be a parenting book, but it is not. It’s not a bad book, just not what I thought it was going to be.
I’m having a hard time choosing a rating for this book. I thought it was going to be a parenting book, but it is not. It’s not a bad book, just not what I thought it was going to be.
March 11, 2015
In How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You, Rachael Carman writes from personal experience about the countless lessons God has taught her when raising her seven children. In writing this book, she surveyed and asked parents and their children what their parents were saying to them and what God was attempting to communicate to them. Rachael stated there are three categories of messages we are conveying to our kids, such as: giving our children commands, trying to shape their behavior to fit our expectations, and sharing our feelings about how much we love our children. She strongly believed that we must change our behaviors and it’s critical to display and help our children to understand God’s love for them. If love is at the center, it becomes much easier to modify our children’s behavior. This book covered the topics of, “I Love You, Hold My Hand, I Remember the Day You Were Born, God Has Great Plans for You, Answer Me When I Call, and much more.
I immensely enjoyed the chapter entitled, “God’s Has Great Plans for You” because she believed in instilling hope into her children’s lives. Every night she would hold her children and speak out loud and remind them that God had phenomenal plans in store for them. What really touched her was when one of her boys reminded her one night that God had great plans for her too and this is something parents often times forget once they have children. I think this is imperative that we teach our children they have a destiny to fulfill and they must run their own race.
I also liked the chapter, “Not is Not the Time” this one discussed how her children wanted something like candy to eat before breakfast and she told them no because the timing wasn’t right. I liked how she related this lesson to how we want God to answer our prayers right now and let our dreams to come to pass right this instant. But sometimes the answer isn’t no, sometimes it’s more of the fact that the timing isn’t meant for right now. We have to remember that God’s has perfect timing and when it’s supposed to happen, no devil in hell can stop it!
I’m not married yet and I don’t have any kids, I requested to review this book because I wanted to get a head start on learning about parenting. I would recommend this amazing book to every single parent who is seeking to learn how to improve their parenting skills and they are wanting to help their children learn more about Christ and His infinite love for them. I really liked how transparent Rachael Carman was in sharing personal stories in each chapter to teach a valuable lesson she learned in parenting her own kids. It had very practical Christian parenting principles enclosed throughout the entire book that will assist parents and help them to convey God’s love to their children and it contained helpful questions at the end of each chapter. I also liked how this book could be read like a parenting devotional and this is especially beneficial for the busy parent. If you’re looking for an excellent book on parenting, then read this one!
“I received a review copy of How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You from Litfuse for this review.”
I immensely enjoyed the chapter entitled, “God’s Has Great Plans for You” because she believed in instilling hope into her children’s lives. Every night she would hold her children and speak out loud and remind them that God had phenomenal plans in store for them. What really touched her was when one of her boys reminded her one night that God had great plans for her too and this is something parents often times forget once they have children. I think this is imperative that we teach our children they have a destiny to fulfill and they must run their own race.
I also liked the chapter, “Not is Not the Time” this one discussed how her children wanted something like candy to eat before breakfast and she told them no because the timing wasn’t right. I liked how she related this lesson to how we want God to answer our prayers right now and let our dreams to come to pass right this instant. But sometimes the answer isn’t no, sometimes it’s more of the fact that the timing isn’t meant for right now. We have to remember that God’s has perfect timing and when it’s supposed to happen, no devil in hell can stop it!
I’m not married yet and I don’t have any kids, I requested to review this book because I wanted to get a head start on learning about parenting. I would recommend this amazing book to every single parent who is seeking to learn how to improve their parenting skills and they are wanting to help their children learn more about Christ and His infinite love for them. I really liked how transparent Rachael Carman was in sharing personal stories in each chapter to teach a valuable lesson she learned in parenting her own kids. It had very practical Christian parenting principles enclosed throughout the entire book that will assist parents and help them to convey God’s love to their children and it contained helpful questions at the end of each chapter. I also liked how this book could be read like a parenting devotional and this is especially beneficial for the busy parent. If you’re looking for an excellent book on parenting, then read this one!
“I received a review copy of How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You from Litfuse for this review.”
March 12, 2015
How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You?: What God wants us to hear when we talk to our kids
About the Book:
“I remember the day you were born.”
“Turn down the music!”
“This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”
“Hold my hand.”
You’ve probably said these things to your kids, but have you listened to
what you’re saying? In fact, your heavenly Father wants to tell you many
of these same things. Rachael Carman knows how noisy it can be when
you’re raising children—she has seven! But this lovely devotional book
will help you to hear God’s still, small voice amid the chaos of carpools,
cut fingers, and carpet crawlers. You’ll learn how to recognize God’s
instructions for you, even as you seek to follow His example as a parent.
About the Author:
Rachael Carman is an author and speaker for Apologia Educational Ministries. The wife of Davis and the mother of seven children, Rachael challenges parents to live by reckless, obedient faith. As a direct reflection of her heart's desire to encourage, inspire, and celebrate motherhood, Rachael also leads Real Refreshment Retreats, weekend events that energize and invigorate homeschooling mothers with meaningful worship and speakers plus practical encouragement for the homeschool journey.
My Review:
All the things that were said to you over the course of your life, by your parents somehow always find a way to follow you long after you leave their home. And speaking from a different viewpoint long after they both passed on to the next life. In How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You, the author takes life's lessons and shows us the "God" lessons in each one. My favorite section of the book is Chapter 35, This Is Going to Hurt Me More Than Its Going to Hurt You. The author talks about a time that she and her husband had to reinforce discipline to their son. During this time it sort of rained on everyone's parade, because not only was their son upset they too knowing what he was missing because he was being punished they were sad as well.
The author shares her life with us, good or bad big or small and to state it simply, I get it. I so get her point and it's sad really. I have had many talks with my husband on this matter, as well. I wondered one day, do we make God sad? Do we make Him sad when for the umpteenth time he has tried to teach us something and we have yet to get it? And on those days when we have once again failed, how does that make Him feel? As I pondered this I burst into tears, why can't I get this right, if for nothing else but to be pleasing to Him? I have been working harder since that day of awakening, trying to be better, trying to do better---just trying my best to do right by my Father. I'm sure I will fail more than I will succeed, but I hope he knows how much I love Him for just loving me and how much I cherish His thoughts of me. If you ever get the amazing chance to meet God, I promise you will NEVER regret it! He is the best thing that has ever happened in my life and I know He will be in yours, as well!
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from Litfuse Publicity.
About the Book:
“I remember the day you were born.”
“Turn down the music!”
“This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.”
“Hold my hand.”
You’ve probably said these things to your kids, but have you listened to
what you’re saying? In fact, your heavenly Father wants to tell you many
of these same things. Rachael Carman knows how noisy it can be when
you’re raising children—she has seven! But this lovely devotional book
will help you to hear God’s still, small voice amid the chaos of carpools,
cut fingers, and carpet crawlers. You’ll learn how to recognize God’s
instructions for you, even as you seek to follow His example as a parent.
About the Author:
Rachael Carman is an author and speaker for Apologia Educational Ministries. The wife of Davis and the mother of seven children, Rachael challenges parents to live by reckless, obedient faith. As a direct reflection of her heart's desire to encourage, inspire, and celebrate motherhood, Rachael also leads Real Refreshment Retreats, weekend events that energize and invigorate homeschooling mothers with meaningful worship and speakers plus practical encouragement for the homeschool journey.
My Review:
All the things that were said to you over the course of your life, by your parents somehow always find a way to follow you long after you leave their home. And speaking from a different viewpoint long after they both passed on to the next life. In How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You, the author takes life's lessons and shows us the "God" lessons in each one. My favorite section of the book is Chapter 35, This Is Going to Hurt Me More Than Its Going to Hurt You. The author talks about a time that she and her husband had to reinforce discipline to their son. During this time it sort of rained on everyone's parade, because not only was their son upset they too knowing what he was missing because he was being punished they were sad as well.
The author shares her life with us, good or bad big or small and to state it simply, I get it. I so get her point and it's sad really. I have had many talks with my husband on this matter, as well. I wondered one day, do we make God sad? Do we make Him sad when for the umpteenth time he has tried to teach us something and we have yet to get it? And on those days when we have once again failed, how does that make Him feel? As I pondered this I burst into tears, why can't I get this right, if for nothing else but to be pleasing to Him? I have been working harder since that day of awakening, trying to be better, trying to do better---just trying my best to do right by my Father. I'm sure I will fail more than I will succeed, but I hope he knows how much I love Him for just loving me and how much I cherish His thoughts of me. If you ever get the amazing chance to meet God, I promise you will NEVER regret it! He is the best thing that has ever happened in my life and I know He will be in yours, as well!
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from Litfuse Publicity.
March 18, 2015
I must not have read the book description very well because I truly thought I was getting a book that would help me with all the sayings that I say each day and somehow improve my parenting. I got something much better than a parenting book, I got a book that helped me with my walk with the Lord by using the sayings that I often say to my children, the Lord can use those same things to get our attention. It’s amazing to me how the Lord has been speaking to me through His Word as I journal it and through books I’ve been reading lately. Some of the chapters had me about ready to cry, like “Let’s Go For A Walk”:
“When he says, “Let’s go for a walk,” taking Him up on His offer is an act of trust on my part.
It’s saying yes to Him and His wisdom. It’s choosing His perfect peace in the middle of the storm.
It’s putting my relationship with Him first and not substituting a cheap imitation.” page 151-152
My life has had drastic changes in the last few months and I’ve noticed that God wants to take a walk with me, whether that walk consists of me actually getting out of bed when I don’t want to and walking down the stairs to get a coffee and spend some time in His Word or a real walk in nature – I can feel Him around me as I walk with Him. This wasn’t the only chapter that spoke to me though, there were many, many others and I know it will take re-reading this book to really get all out of it that I can. At the end of each chapter are “a moment of introspection” which asks a few couples that pertain to being a parent and also to our walk with the Lord, a great way to put into thought and action about what you’ve just read.
Rachael shares not only Scripture but also her stories, some are funny, some are painful and some are just real life and how God uses those things to speak to us. Using sayings that are so cliche for parents to their children, Rachael speaks to the heart of every mom who has yelled, “turn down the music”, “take out the trash”, or “I’m the parent and that’s why”, and more. It’s quick to read, whether you just commit to one chapter a day and it’s introspection questions or just sit and read it all the way through and then re-read it, I can say the Lord will and can speak to you through these stories that come from Mrs. Carman’s heart, from one mom to another this book will give you a bit of quiet to just listen for the Holy Spirit.
**I was given a copy of this book from Litfuse Publicity in exchange for my honest opinion, no other compensation was given.
“When he says, “Let’s go for a walk,” taking Him up on His offer is an act of trust on my part.
It’s saying yes to Him and His wisdom. It’s choosing His perfect peace in the middle of the storm.
It’s putting my relationship with Him first and not substituting a cheap imitation.” page 151-152
My life has had drastic changes in the last few months and I’ve noticed that God wants to take a walk with me, whether that walk consists of me actually getting out of bed when I don’t want to and walking down the stairs to get a coffee and spend some time in His Word or a real walk in nature – I can feel Him around me as I walk with Him. This wasn’t the only chapter that spoke to me though, there were many, many others and I know it will take re-reading this book to really get all out of it that I can. At the end of each chapter are “a moment of introspection” which asks a few couples that pertain to being a parent and also to our walk with the Lord, a great way to put into thought and action about what you’ve just read.
Rachael shares not only Scripture but also her stories, some are funny, some are painful and some are just real life and how God uses those things to speak to us. Using sayings that are so cliche for parents to their children, Rachael speaks to the heart of every mom who has yelled, “turn down the music”, “take out the trash”, or “I’m the parent and that’s why”, and more. It’s quick to read, whether you just commit to one chapter a day and it’s introspection questions or just sit and read it all the way through and then re-read it, I can say the Lord will and can speak to you through these stories that come from Mrs. Carman’s heart, from one mom to another this book will give you a bit of quiet to just listen for the Holy Spirit.
**I was given a copy of this book from Litfuse Publicity in exchange for my honest opinion, no other compensation was given.
March 19, 2015
The subtitle of this book grabbed me immediately: "What God Wants Us To Hear When We Talk To Our Kids." I'm passionate about children and communication, so even though I'm not a parent I felt this could be a book I might get a lot out of. As a teacher, sister, and aunt, I believe I can always be working on getting better at helping those precious young ones in my life.
This book had been published in 2008 under the name "Soundbites from Heaven," but now has been updated and expanded by this mother of seven to include more of her thoughts and real life experiences. With honesty and vulnerability, Rachael lets us in on how God has worked in her heart through the daily ups and downs of raising a houseful of kids. Although this book was bigger than I expected, with nearly 70 chapters, each chapter is short and to the point, the perfect size for a busy mom to read on the go as she juggles the many responsibilities on her shoulders.
Each chapter focuses on a specific phrase that a mother might say often, and then shares a spiritual lesson to parallel that to our own relationships with God. Some of my favorites were:
"Look At Me" - a reminder to keep our eyes on Jesus
"Now Is Not The Time" - encouragement to wait on God's timing
"Go Outside" - the admonition to do something outside of ourselves for God's kingdom
"Call Home" - don't forget to keep prayer a central focus
"It's Not About You" - remembering what life really is all about
My heart was cheered that love was the main theme in this book, which is as it should be! Raising and working with little ones is tough work that is not glamorous and tests you to your limits. But just like God works in love towards us, so we should be working in love with the children He has placed in our lives. My favorite quote from the book came from page 95: "Love leaves room for improvement." Isn't that beautiful? I think that's a principle I need to remember every day.
Although I am not in the target audience for this book, I did enjoy it and would recommend it for parents everywhere. It was full of wonderful truths and reminders that God knows us, is walking this path with us, and wants us to love Him with our whole hearts.
I received my copy of the book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for this honest review. All opinions are my own.
This review originated at http://reviewsbyerin.livejournal.com
This book had been published in 2008 under the name "Soundbites from Heaven," but now has been updated and expanded by this mother of seven to include more of her thoughts and real life experiences. With honesty and vulnerability, Rachael lets us in on how God has worked in her heart through the daily ups and downs of raising a houseful of kids. Although this book was bigger than I expected, with nearly 70 chapters, each chapter is short and to the point, the perfect size for a busy mom to read on the go as she juggles the many responsibilities on her shoulders.
Each chapter focuses on a specific phrase that a mother might say often, and then shares a spiritual lesson to parallel that to our own relationships with God. Some of my favorites were:
"Look At Me" - a reminder to keep our eyes on Jesus
"Now Is Not The Time" - encouragement to wait on God's timing
"Go Outside" - the admonition to do something outside of ourselves for God's kingdom
"Call Home" - don't forget to keep prayer a central focus
"It's Not About You" - remembering what life really is all about
My heart was cheered that love was the main theme in this book, which is as it should be! Raising and working with little ones is tough work that is not glamorous and tests you to your limits. But just like God works in love towards us, so we should be working in love with the children He has placed in our lives. My favorite quote from the book came from page 95: "Love leaves room for improvement." Isn't that beautiful? I think that's a principle I need to remember every day.
Although I am not in the target audience for this book, I did enjoy it and would recommend it for parents everywhere. It was full of wonderful truths and reminders that God knows us, is walking this path with us, and wants us to love Him with our whole hearts.
I received my copy of the book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for this honest review. All opinions are my own.
This review originated at http://reviewsbyerin.livejournal.com
March 26, 2015
How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You is an encouraging book written by Rachel Carman, owner of Apologia. While she has authored several books this is the first real opportunity I have had to read her writing. And truly it is a gentle yet honest approach that really inspires us to be as we were created to be. More importantly as a momma, as a home educator, she helps me to believe that I can be what my children need me to be. Because we are victorious in Christ.
This book speaks honestly, openly, to those messy, real life situations we experience every day (especially when we are moms of boys) From the joy filled moments, those times we are full of pride, to those times we just want to hide; embarrassment and shame. Those times I lose it; scream and shout – yes I do – not proud of that one bit. But the honesty, the truth in the mess, its what helps us to see and really appreciate encouragement and wisdom from above- we need to be transparent, we need to be real. I mean how many of us think we are totally alone on this journey? Isn’t it so much harder when we think we are alone? And truthfully, how can we grow and learn and be all we are called to be if we are too afraid to share our struggles? Let’s be honest ~ being a momma is messy; its hard work. It hurts. But we are never really alone.
How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You is a precious, priceless book; the chapters are short and simple. As I said before they focus on those real life moments and how God speaks to us through these every day, regular, real, times. In every situation, we can see His hand, His love for us. If we are willing to slow down and take a breath…Can we be still and wait on the Lord? Can we hear what He wants us to hear?
At the end of each chapter is “a moment of introspection”, this is where Rachel provides some questions for thought, which I loved. Deep thoughts to ponder. Precious lessons to learn; moments to remember. Like those landmarks that He told the Israelites to build as they went along; what directions do you show your children Biblically…Do you see motherhood as a duty or a privilege? What do your children do that makes you smile? What do you do that makes your heavenly Father smile?
This book speaks honestly, openly, to those messy, real life situations we experience every day (especially when we are moms of boys) From the joy filled moments, those times we are full of pride, to those times we just want to hide; embarrassment and shame. Those times I lose it; scream and shout – yes I do – not proud of that one bit. But the honesty, the truth in the mess, its what helps us to see and really appreciate encouragement and wisdom from above- we need to be transparent, we need to be real. I mean how many of us think we are totally alone on this journey? Isn’t it so much harder when we think we are alone? And truthfully, how can we grow and learn and be all we are called to be if we are too afraid to share our struggles? Let’s be honest ~ being a momma is messy; its hard work. It hurts. But we are never really alone.
How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You is a precious, priceless book; the chapters are short and simple. As I said before they focus on those real life moments and how God speaks to us through these every day, regular, real, times. In every situation, we can see His hand, His love for us. If we are willing to slow down and take a breath…Can we be still and wait on the Lord? Can we hear what He wants us to hear?
At the end of each chapter is “a moment of introspection”, this is where Rachel provides some questions for thought, which I loved. Deep thoughts to ponder. Precious lessons to learn; moments to remember. Like those landmarks that He told the Israelites to build as they went along; what directions do you show your children Biblically…Do you see motherhood as a duty or a privilege? What do your children do that makes you smile? What do you do that makes your heavenly Father smile?
March 17, 2015
This book however, has really impacted me. I read an earlier version of this book published by Focus on the Family, when I picked it up at a Sally Clarkson Conference. But, when I was offered a chance to review this book, by a new name I did not know it was a re-published book until it arrived. While it is re-published, it is also tweaked, and edited, so it is really a different book in many ways.
Anyway, how did it impact me? Well, honestly I do not prefer reading introductions, too much like reading instructions. I did read this one though, and wow! One of the challenges that Rachel Carmen lays out for the reader is to ask your kids to list the top ten things you say to them. You are to list what you think you say the most. This caused me to pause. I could tell you what I thought they would say, but it made think “What do I want them to be hearing?”
So I made my list, while they made theirs. I was surprised by a few things that made the list, less surprised by others. Just a great exercise. The title of the book is How Many Times DO I have to Tell You? – but it is more than that. Yes, Rachel takes us through the every day things we say to our kids, but she then turns them into messages from the Lord.
As I have been reading the chapters in this book like, “It’s Time to get up” or “Life isn’t fair!” or “Its not about you” – and hearing what Rachel is reminding us about each of these messages, I have started thinking like this all the time. For example, when disciplining my boy for his attitude, I keep asking myself what is my attitude like? What am I reflecting.
So this book is a great tool to remind us that while we are constantly parenting our children, God is constantly parenting us too. This book kept me focused on why we do what we do, and that this is a process that will never really end, it just morphs into something different as they get older, move out and start their own family. We are still parenting even then, just different.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, I recommend it for any mom that wants to rethink her words and their impact.
Anyway, how did it impact me? Well, honestly I do not prefer reading introductions, too much like reading instructions. I did read this one though, and wow! One of the challenges that Rachel Carmen lays out for the reader is to ask your kids to list the top ten things you say to them. You are to list what you think you say the most. This caused me to pause. I could tell you what I thought they would say, but it made think “What do I want them to be hearing?”
So I made my list, while they made theirs. I was surprised by a few things that made the list, less surprised by others. Just a great exercise. The title of the book is How Many Times DO I have to Tell You? – but it is more than that. Yes, Rachel takes us through the every day things we say to our kids, but she then turns them into messages from the Lord.
As I have been reading the chapters in this book like, “It’s Time to get up” or “Life isn’t fair!” or “Its not about you” – and hearing what Rachel is reminding us about each of these messages, I have started thinking like this all the time. For example, when disciplining my boy for his attitude, I keep asking myself what is my attitude like? What am I reflecting.
So this book is a great tool to remind us that while we are constantly parenting our children, God is constantly parenting us too. This book kept me focused on why we do what we do, and that this is a process that will never really end, it just morphs into something different as they get older, move out and start their own family. We are still parenting even then, just different.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, I recommend it for any mom that wants to rethink her words and their impact.
March 19, 2015
Rachael Carman shares her heart and her “everyday adventures” in How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? and offers her own personal stories and insights gained as a parent of seven children. In this encouraging book, Rachael suggests that, as a parent, you should examine what you are saying to your children and discover what God is saying to you.
Each short chapter begins with a common parenting phrase such as “We Don’t Act Like That” and “It Doesn’t Matter What Everyone Else Is Doing” and includes parenting and spiritual application. I enjoyed the concise manner in which each phrase was addressed and the candidness with which Rachael shared her own life experiences. I also enjoyed the “moment of introspection” that concludes each chapter. These questions are great for thought, discussion, and reflection.
One of my favorite chapters in the book is “God Has Great Plans For You”. Rachael talks about the ways she has shared this promise with her children from their infancy and also reminds us that God has great plans for each of us as His children. I especially loved the following passage.
“God has great plans for you and for me, just as He does for our kids. This motherhood gig isn’t just a bump in the road. It’s not just another detour or quick pit stop. It is a critical part of our journey. It’s not meant to be rushed or resented, abdicated or averted, dismissed or diminished. It’s meant to be relished. This time is to be embraced and enjoyed.”
How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? is a heartfelt book that will encourage you and challenge you in your role as a parent and also as a child of God!
I received a complimentary copy of this book through Litfuse Publicity. All thoughts expressed are my own and no monetary compensation was received.
Each short chapter begins with a common parenting phrase such as “We Don’t Act Like That” and “It Doesn’t Matter What Everyone Else Is Doing” and includes parenting and spiritual application. I enjoyed the concise manner in which each phrase was addressed and the candidness with which Rachael shared her own life experiences. I also enjoyed the “moment of introspection” that concludes each chapter. These questions are great for thought, discussion, and reflection.
One of my favorite chapters in the book is “God Has Great Plans For You”. Rachael talks about the ways she has shared this promise with her children from their infancy and also reminds us that God has great plans for each of us as His children. I especially loved the following passage.
“God has great plans for you and for me, just as He does for our kids. This motherhood gig isn’t just a bump in the road. It’s not just another detour or quick pit stop. It is a critical part of our journey. It’s not meant to be rushed or resented, abdicated or averted, dismissed or diminished. It’s meant to be relished. This time is to be embraced and enjoyed.”
How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? is a heartfelt book that will encourage you and challenge you in your role as a parent and also as a child of God!
I received a complimentary copy of this book through Litfuse Publicity. All thoughts expressed are my own and no monetary compensation was received.
March 27, 2015
Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy of How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? by Rachael Carman as a member of Litfuse book tours. all opinions are strictly my own.
I think How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? By Rachael Carman is very well written. I love how Rachael Carman used personal stories form her own family in writing the book and setting up the lessons. I also love that it has a "moment of introspection", or questions, for us at the end of each section. We can use the story and the introspection to really take a look at our own lives and see how it fits for us.
How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? By Rachael Carman
In one section her son Charles bakes a cake and uses a lot of substitutions, against the recipes instructions. The cake doesn't turn out as planned. It goes on to explain that this is like the "recipe for life" that God has chosen for us. He does not want us to make substitutions to his rules for us. If we take the time to really listen to what He is saying to us, our life won't turn into "one big kitchen mess." It will turn out beautifully. We just have to have faith and put our trust into His recipe for us.
I also love that, while a teaching guide, this book is written in a light tone. Rachael Carman isn't here to preach to us. She is not simply cramming bible versus down our throats. Instead, she is using real life experiences to teach us how to listen to God. Her techniques are simple and effective and for that, I am grateful. This book will remain by my desk as a go to for those moments when I may not be listening as I should.
I think How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? By Rachael Carman is very well written. I love how Rachael Carman used personal stories form her own family in writing the book and setting up the lessons. I also love that it has a "moment of introspection", or questions, for us at the end of each section. We can use the story and the introspection to really take a look at our own lives and see how it fits for us.
How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You? By Rachael Carman
In one section her son Charles bakes a cake and uses a lot of substitutions, against the recipes instructions. The cake doesn't turn out as planned. It goes on to explain that this is like the "recipe for life" that God has chosen for us. He does not want us to make substitutions to his rules for us. If we take the time to really listen to what He is saying to us, our life won't turn into "one big kitchen mess." It will turn out beautifully. We just have to have faith and put our trust into His recipe for us.
I also love that, while a teaching guide, this book is written in a light tone. Rachael Carman isn't here to preach to us. She is not simply cramming bible versus down our throats. Instead, she is using real life experiences to teach us how to listen to God. Her techniques are simple and effective and for that, I am grateful. This book will remain by my desk as a go to for those moments when I may not be listening as I should.
March 20, 2015
I read this book in exchange for honest review. No other compensation was provided. I wanted to review the book because I loved the title. Even though, I have special needs kids, my kids still do not always listen to me. I am stuck telling them the same things, over and over again, hoping one day, something will stick.
Brad, put on some soap. Go get a diaper. Leave your brother alone. Kalen, this is not a toy. Don't touch that. Don't eat that. Don't go into the bathroom unless you are going to bathe or poo or I will lock the bathroom down.
The book breaks down the most frequent things parents says to kids and then shows us how to communicate God's love to our kids. The author also presents stories of her childhood and her children. She also ties the story to how God is tied into each story, each parental saying.
For example, one saying is Be Still. I have active kiddies. Kalen loves to climb into my lap, while I am working on the computer and then move around. He wants to climb on my back, my neck, upside down, jumping up and down, and it is irritating. Mama needs her neck muscles to work. Mama don't need to be in a hospital because I don't have that someone to take care of me, let alone my kids, if something serious happens. Carman says that instead of wanting the kids to be still, we (the parents) can be still and observe our kids. We can observe God in motion through our kids. Working on the computer or cleaning can be put aside to spend time with the kids.
Brad, put on some soap. Go get a diaper. Leave your brother alone. Kalen, this is not a toy. Don't touch that. Don't eat that. Don't go into the bathroom unless you are going to bathe or poo or I will lock the bathroom down.
The book breaks down the most frequent things parents says to kids and then shows us how to communicate God's love to our kids. The author also presents stories of her childhood and her children. She also ties the story to how God is tied into each story, each parental saying.
For example, one saying is Be Still. I have active kiddies. Kalen loves to climb into my lap, while I am working on the computer and then move around. He wants to climb on my back, my neck, upside down, jumping up and down, and it is irritating. Mama needs her neck muscles to work. Mama don't need to be in a hospital because I don't have that someone to take care of me, let alone my kids, if something serious happens. Carman says that instead of wanting the kids to be still, we (the parents) can be still and observe our kids. We can observe God in motion through our kids. Working on the computer or cleaning can be put aside to spend time with the kids.
February 23, 2017
I thought this book was pretty good. As a mom of six children, I could identify with a lot of what the author said. I always appreciate a book that finds a nice balance between parental responsibility and personal accountability of the child. Even better is when a parenting book offers insights without being pushy about personal parenting styles and rather shares nuggets of wisdom they’ve learned while parenting rather than telling everyone else why their way or method of parenting is far superior.
This is a devotional book. It is not a parenting guide. Having said that, it may help you to have more patience with your children. It may also help you see areas of your life that you need to work on yourself. It’s awful easy as adults to expect certain behaviors from our children when we’ve not fully mastered them ourselves. This is especially true of our relationship with out heavenly father.
I hope that you find this book to be as much of an encouragement as I did! If you’d like to read this book, I’m giving away my copy so that I can be a blessing to another mom (or dad) who needs it!
I received this book or product for free from Litfuse Publicity Group in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.
This is a devotional book. It is not a parenting guide. Having said that, it may help you to have more patience with your children. It may also help you see areas of your life that you need to work on yourself. It’s awful easy as adults to expect certain behaviors from our children when we’ve not fully mastered them ourselves. This is especially true of our relationship with out heavenly father.
I hope that you find this book to be as much of an encouragement as I did! If you’d like to read this book, I’m giving away my copy so that I can be a blessing to another mom (or dad) who needs it!
I received this book or product for free from Litfuse Publicity Group in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.
March 27, 2015
When I got the signup email for this book, I was super excited...but I never got an email saying I was picked to review it, so I forgot about this book. Then, one day it was waiting for me at our leasing office! When I opened it up it was wrapped in tissue paper, M&Ms & a pen and included a sweet note. How awesome is that? Thank you SO much Rachel for your sweetness!!
I absolutely loved this book. It is written about every day life as a homeschool mom of seven, with 23 years of experience. I'm a homeschooling mom of 3(2 are actually IN school) & any momma who homeschools SEVEN children and still finds the time to write a book is unbelievably amazing.
"How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You" is written with everyday life thrown in as the theme of each chapter. Each chapter is a small devotion with questions at the end. You can read them in order or you can pick and choose which devotion you want to read that day.
*Disclaimer*
I received this book free from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for my honest opinion. I am not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are 100% my own
I absolutely loved this book. It is written about every day life as a homeschool mom of seven, with 23 years of experience. I'm a homeschooling mom of 3(2 are actually IN school) & any momma who homeschools SEVEN children and still finds the time to write a book is unbelievably amazing.
"How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You" is written with everyday life thrown in as the theme of each chapter. Each chapter is a small devotion with questions at the end. You can read them in order or you can pick and choose which devotion you want to read that day.
*Disclaimer*
I received this book free from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for my honest opinion. I am not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are 100% my own
March 22, 2015
Every little chapter in this book shares a personal story followed by some godly words of wisdom, things to ponder, and scriptures. Then at the end of every chapter she shares "a moment of introspection" which are some questions to ask yourself that relate to what was just shared in the chapter.
There are 68 chapters and each chapter is only 2 or 3 pages, so it can easily be read every day. I found it uplifting, real, personal, and enlightening.
I also loved reading the intro of this book! I learned that her book spans over 23 years worth of stories and thoughts of raising her 7 children. I think it's great that she took the time to put together this book and made the effort to use her real life examples and experiences to teach others.
I was given a complimentary copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for an honest review on my blog and social media-all opinions are my own.
There are 68 chapters and each chapter is only 2 or 3 pages, so it can easily be read every day. I found it uplifting, real, personal, and enlightening.
I also loved reading the intro of this book! I learned that her book spans over 23 years worth of stories and thoughts of raising her 7 children. I think it's great that she took the time to put together this book and made the effort to use her real life examples and experiences to teach others.
I was given a complimentary copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for an honest review on my blog and social media-all opinions are my own.
March 20, 2015
If I'm being honest I only received this book a few days ago, so I haven't gotten too far yet, but it's not what I thought it was. I thought it was a book on how to be a godly parent, or how to NOT use the typical "mom" phrases with your kids, but it turned out to be a daily devotional. I was hoping it was a parenting book, but I can already tell that I will enjoy this book. Each chapter is about 3 pages, and very easy to get through. While I haven't found too many shockingly profound things yet, I still think it's a nice light devotional for people who want something short. I've been reading CS Lewis and John Piper lately, so it's a nice change of pace. Some nights you want something deep and very thought provoking, other nights you want something that will bless you with limited amount of time needed.
Review copy was provided for this review, but opinions expressed are 100% my own.
Review copy was provided for this review, but opinions expressed are 100% my own.
March 20, 2015
A unique book among the many parenting themed ones out there. I love the perspective twist -- the idea that those same questions (sometimes asked in exasperation) that we ask our kids can be applied to our own faith journey. Divided into sixty-eight short chapters -- each dealing with a 'mom' saying like Follow the Directions, Life isn't fair, Don't panic, and the all too unpopular, No. The author shares a brief personal story to set the scene, flips it so it applies to a faith principal and then follows up with a few reflective questions called A Moment for Introspection at the end. Pretty impactful stuff and would be great to use as a devotional. And though the target audience is parents, I think it holds a universal appeal.
March 26, 2015
This is the first book that I have read by Rachael Carman. I am so glad that I chose to read this book. It will definitely be a book that I refer back to from time to time. An excellent read for any parent. All those questions and problems that life seems to through at you all in one book. A book that picked me up and opened my eyes to dealing with my children. Wonderful scripture references that are good for you. It will help to guide you along your path of everyday life. Reading parts of this book is like deja vu with parts of my own life. It is funny to think that so many of us having the same questions and quotes that are said on a regular basis. Lots of encouragement in this book. Make sure that you order your copy of this book.
April 18, 2015
Where was this book when my husband and I were raising four boys??? Author Rachael Carman takes scripture and some of the most frequent questions parents regularly deal with and combines them all to have one of the liveliest advice book that I've had the pleasure of reading in a long time.
"How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You?" would make a wonderful gift for both new parents and those who are already in the parenting trenches. I particularly loved how Carman intertwines stories of her own family's experiences throughout the book - as a mom of seven, Carman walks the walk and talks the talk with her advice!
I highly recommend this book!
March 17, 2015
This is a great book for new parents. Full of true stories from the author's life as a mom of seven children, it will appeal to young mother's. This would be a great gift for Mother's Day. Encouraging, both spiritually and mentally, and with discussion questions included, it is great for a topic starter with your MOPS group, a Mom's Time Out group, a small group, or a book discussion group. A great book for a church library. As a mother of five, I could relate to all the stories in this book--and I love the way she included a spiritual truth and application.
March 20, 2015
You know how we can never get our kids to pay us any attention? Or how we tell them the same thing over and over and they never seem to hear us? That's a lot like how we treat God.
This is a great devotion book for busy moms. Not only does it have great stories from the Carman family, but it is an important reminder to take some time for God and let him know how important He is in your life. I think this is a great book that will have a permanent home on my bookshelves. I definitely recommend it for moms in all stages of life.
*I received a copy of this book in exchange for my review*
This is a great devotion book for busy moms. Not only does it have great stories from the Carman family, but it is an important reminder to take some time for God and let him know how important He is in your life. I think this is a great book that will have a permanent home on my bookshelves. I definitely recommend it for moms in all stages of life.
*I received a copy of this book in exchange for my review*
November 17, 2015
Sometimes, you need to just keep your mouth shut, be still and let Him do the talking to you. Let HIM say the words. Let HIM speak through you.
Rachael Carman goes through this in her book How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You. Being able to use your words with love, even discipline with love in the words you say, Rachael gives us tried and true options and then offers introspect after each subject. This book gives you a glimpse into what to say, how to say it and ways to stifle your tongue and use your words to build up, no matter what the subject.
Rachael Carman goes through this in her book How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You. Being able to use your words with love, even discipline with love in the words you say, Rachael gives us tried and true options and then offers introspect after each subject. This book gives you a glimpse into what to say, how to say it and ways to stifle your tongue and use your words to build up, no matter what the subject.
January 2, 2017
This was a great book to read! It's set up like a devotional, but I read it as a book. The insight and direction Rachael gives to the reader about raising children, while being sensitive to the voice of the Lord is so encouraging. he chapters are short enough that one chapter a day is enough to chew on for the rest of the day. I recommend this book to any mom who needs encouragement, a pep talk, and direction for the day about how to handle kids and more importantly how to hear God's voice during the day.
March 13, 2015
The book makes for a great read that you can finish and walk away feeling centered and a little better. It has great focus and tips. I think the author has a wonderfully way of connecting with parents and really people overall. The book is great for adults to build and learn more in faith.
I received a complimentary copy of this book.
I received a complimentary copy of this book.
March 24, 2015
Have you every wondered how God feels about you, or if He speaks during the crazy days of parenting? Rachael Carman brings us How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You?, a beautiful look at what God is saying during our daily lives. What I love about this book is the nature of what Carman is saying to us. God is speaking.
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July 12, 2016
I loved this book. Rachel Carman brings to life the joys and struggles of being a parent. I have said so many of the things she said to her children or thought the things she shared. She draws the reader into the realities of parenthood as well as the relationship we should strive to have with ourHeavenly Father. I definitely recommend this book.
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