For fans of raw celebrity memoirs, Bravo Summer House star Carl Radke gives listeners a look into his unfiltered journey of recovery, resilience and transformation.
Sober Carl isn’t fun—or is he?
Carl Radke’s path from reality TV’s party-loving star to a life centered around recovery has been anything but straightforward. Famous for his role on Summer House, Carl’s journey in the spotlight has forced him to confront personal battles under public scrutiny. Beyond the cameras, he’s faced struggles with addiction, the weight of toxic masculinity, the heartbreaking loss of his brother and a quest to find real joy in a world that equates fun with alcohol.
In this candid memoir, Carl opens up about a side of his life few have seen. With unfiltered honesty, he takes listeners through the highs and lows, from career shifts and family dynamics to finding peace in his recovery. Each chapter dives into the hard-earned lessons he’s gathered, proving that life can be fulfilling—even without a drink. His story shows that fun and authenticity aren’t only compatible with sobriety; they can thrive because of it.
Whether processing grief, navigating sober relationships or confronting the public’s perceptions, Carl’s journey is one of resilience, growth and self-discovery. Through vulnerability and humor, Carl redefines “fun,” reminding listeners that the most meaningful transformations come from within. This memoir is a must-hear for anyone seeking the courage to redefine their own path.
As a Summer House fan, I was excited to read this one! Carl has always been open about his addiction, and Cake Eater gives an intimate look into his sobriety journey. The writing is pretty simple, and it feels more like he’s telling his story than trying to make it an immersive read.
Overall, it's a quick and heartfelt read for fans who've followed his journey on the show.
Thank you to Netgalley and Rising Action Publishing for the arc! All opinions are my own.
First thing: I fully appreciate how difficult it is to write a memoir, especially a memoir about addiction and eventual sobriety. Props to Radke for even attempting this type of feat. He really does lay himself bare, so to speak, communicating frankly about his mental health struggles and his family trauma, and how that all led to the bad decisions he made whilst in the throes of addiction. He takes accountability and shows introspection and growth.
Unfortunately, he's just not a good storyteller. And that's fine! He has an interesting enough story to tell, but he doesn't have the skill to deliver it in a way that isn't mind-numbingly repetitive and inarticulate. There's enough material for a full-length memoir, but Radke's inability to wordsmith means that he will often begin a new chapter by rehashing the previous one. If I had a dime for every time the word "stuff" appeared, I'd be able to buy enough LoverBoy to supply a summer of parties.
I don't know if this is entirely true or intentional, but the way it's written, it sounds like Radke's big, rock-bottom, turning-point moment occurred while watching the January 6th insurrection. Which is weird, and kind of funny.
As for the Bravo of it all, I've watched Summer House enough to know what liberties he's taken with the reality we're shown on the show (where we get multiple perspectives, not just his own), so hearing his take on his separation from not just LoverBoy but Lindsay was an interesting spin, to say the least. His hard sell of Soft Bar in the final chapters was just as sweaty as it was on TV.
Pleasantly surprised! Carl made no excuses for behavior as some memoirs like this do, he was raw and honest. Also this is a great book to start the new year with especially me trying to do dry (or at least damp!) January!
this is kind of one long college application essay and that makes sense because he got a full ride scholarship based on an essay. he also never even explains the title, which i know from mighty ducks / edina, MN. i wish he dramatized a few more scenes instead of just broad statements like “there were hard days” etc. but i am happy for carl’s journey and he does spill some good tea.
As a fan of Bravo and memoirs, 5 stars! Honest & vulnerable. I’ve loved watching Carl’s personal growth journey on the screen and hearing his story on the pages brought even more vulnerability.
As a recovered alcoholic, I found Carl’s depiction of his addiction/recovery journey extremely guttural, raw and impactful. He expressed his grief and shame in such a heart-wrenchingly beautiful way. It was refreshing to hear a relatively famous straight white male get so vulnerable! Lol
My only two notes are that the last couple of chapters were rather redundant and I don’t believe it was necessary to refer to his recovery program specifically by name. Overall I loved it though and I’ll definitely be adding it to the list of books I recommend to newly sober folks!
It’s very obvious Carl has done a lot of therapy and self reflection. This book is very honest and open and I appreciate that. From a literary standpoint, I found a lot of it repetitive he would bring up a topic like the Stephen debacle, and then say “more about that later” instead of just bringing it up later. It also felt like he tried adding a lot of foreshadowing saying how his partying was obviously a sign of something coming etc instead of unfolding the story and later talking about how his past gave all of the indications of addiction. There were also a few too many “you know?”s thrown in.
Overall it was an easy read and very informative. Well done for getting sober.
Audiobook: I’ve watched summer house from the beginning and have seen Carl’s full story unfold on tv, but his book shows us behind the scenes. I can’t imagine having all his struggles and being on reality tv while going through it- I really respect him and his journey. I don’t know him, but I’m so proud of all he’s accomplished and how he’s turned his life around.
3.5 stars. Definitely some toughie toenail moments, but proud of Carl for his journey and honesty. I was reading an ARC and there were some repetitive moments that I hope were maybe edited?
Of course I needed to close out 2025 with some summer house content. I’m happy for Carl and think season 10 of summer house will be electric. Also need to go to softbar.
I am so happy that Carl told his story and for all that he is doing and has done for the sober community. I devoured this book in a single day. It is perfectly paced and digestible in a way that makes it hard to put down.
As a non-drinker myself, it is always inspiring to hear others journey to the other side of addiction. What I really admired about his story is that he is incredibly intentional in how he frames his own path as well as the steps that helped *him* on his individual journey. Carl makes it clear that there is not one road to saving your life. He never preaches AA or says that it is the only way to sobriety. He even mentions that his bar doesn't just exist for sober people. ALL are welcome.
There are varying degrees to alcohol usage and not everyone needs to be sober. I really liked that he made that point and never once bashes other people for their own paths - including the Summer House. One of the hardest truths about addiction for some is the realization that other people don't struggle in the same way as they do - even if they party the same amount.
Carl also mentioned that Soft Bar doesn't use the term 'mocktails' - he is not living in a space of 'mocking' alcohol or lusting after what it was in his life anymore. He is living intentionally, freely, and in his own truth. It may seem small, but it is little details like this that I found really fascinating. What a beautiful sentiment! Nothing is being mocked - this is simply different.
With each chapter is is so apparent that he has taken accountability for his past and doesn't shy away from any detail. Summer House fans will be happy to hear behind the scenes info and what it is like having your life filmed - especially on the worst day of your life during the Covid pandemic. It is surreal to hear what he was going through during the period of time before he got sober, and his honesty is inspiring. The loss of his brother is something no one should have to endure at such a young age, and it is profoundly moving to hear him speak of what that horrific tragedy taught him about empathy. He shares things he only learned about his brother after he passed, and once again his honesty and vulnerability will no doubt help others who may be going through a similar situation and still have time. The lesson that comes from realizing people only share parts of themselves with us, even family. Life is nuanced and gray and vibrant, and his appreciation for those things today helped my own perspective,
Carl didn't write this book to save face or finally tell his side of the story in a self centered way to make excuses for the past - something a lot of memoirs tend to do. He seems to have told his story to make it easier for others to find their own way towards self discovery and redemption.
He said something that really stood out to me about being sober - 'some days you sprint, some days you crawl, but you are always working towards the same goal one day at a time' It stopped me in my tracks on my hike because it is just SO very true.
Carl's vulnerability and bravery is something not a lot of people are able to do on the worlds biggest stage. I hope he continues to write, to live his truth, and know that he is doing more for sobriety culture than he will ever know.
📚Cake Eater ✍🏻Carl Radke Blurb:: For fans of raw celebrity memoirs, Bravo Summer House star Carl Radke gives listeners a look into his unfiltered journey of recovery, resilience and transformation.
Sober Carl isn’t fun—or is he?
Carl Radke’s path from reality TV’s party-loving star to a life centered around recovery has been anything but straightforward. Famous for his role on Summer House, Carl’s journey in the spotlight has forced him to confront personal battles under public scrutiny. Beyond the cameras, he’s faced struggles with addiction, the weight of toxic masculinity, the heartbreaking loss of his brother and a quest to find real joy in a world that equates fun with alcohol.
In this candid memoir, Carl opens up about a side of his life few have seen. With unfiltered honesty, he takes listeners through the highs and lows, from career shifts and family dynamics to finding peace in his recovery. Each chapter dives into the hard-earned lessons he’s gathered, proving that life can be fulfilling—even without a drink. His story shows that fun and authenticity aren’t only compatible with sobriety; they can thrive because of it.
Whether processing grief, navigating sober relationships or confronting the public’s perceptions, Carl’s journey is one of resilience, growth and self-discovery. Through vulnerability and humor, Carl redefines “fun,” reminding listeners that the most meaningful transformations come from within. This memoir is a must-hear for anyone seeking the My Thoughts: It's I fan of Summer House on Bravo so I was so curious about Carl’s life and what he would have to say. Carl’s sobriety is remarkable. To not only get sober but STAY sober on a television show that is literally all about partying (while going through an incredibly public breakup) is incredible and beyond inspirational. I think anyone dealing with addiction, especially young men, will find a lot to love here. d Cake Eater gives an intimate look into his sobriety journey. Living a double life and pretending to be okay when you aren’t Very relatable if you have ever found yourself going down the slippery slope of addiction of any kind and the process to recovery. I am very proud of Carl Radke going through so man struggles and additions On reality Rv show "Summer Summer shows Carl Public live. Heartfealk show and book. I've been a clip of as show with thousands of people. I truly enjoyed read this book. Thanks NetGalley, Rising Action Publisher and Author Carl Radke for the advanced copy of " Cake Eater" I am leaving my voluntary review in appreciation. #NetGalley #RisingActionPublisher #CakeEater #CarlRadke #SummerHouse #RealityTV ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I’m proud of anyone who has the guts to put their story out in a memoir— for anyone who’s merely tried to keep a journal or even be honest with a therapist, that takes chutzpah.
Most people won’t experience the loss of a sibling while filming a wildly popular TV show or have our deepest secrets exposed without consent to that same audience. Regardless of the extraordinary circumstance, Carls story has many relatable experiences: intense pressure to fit in, be successful and project an image that you believe serves you best. The opioid epidemic. Realizing our parents are imperfect humans (and that the addiction gene is real). Living a double life and pretending to be okay when you aren’t. Being an outsider among the extremely privileged. Holding yourself to an impossible standard. The list goes on.
Despite seeing it play out on TV, it’s a warm feeling to confirm how many people were there to look out for him, especially Summer House producers. Assuming most readers keep up with the zeitgeist, we’re hopefully in a period of increasing accountability and moral responsibility shifted to the networks versus leaving participants floundering with newly found celebrity—fairness despite the power imbalance.
I’m proud to see Carl healthy and comfortable in his own skin after putting in the work and finding a higher purpose. It also serves as a reminder that recovery and sobriety looks different to everyone, and there’s no one way to accomplish that. I’ll disclose that I know the author from before TV times, so I’m biased, but I definitely would have left my review blank if I felt differently.
Let me start by saying that I have been a fan of Carl for years and I love a heartfelt memoir. I think the topics discussed are very deep and I am so proud of him for sharing his story. As a reader though, I have to admit that this is not a good book. It just plainly is not written well- the language is very repetitive and the order of chapters often does not make sense in terms of the timing of Carl's life.
There are a few great moments where Carl is very vulnerable and it feels very intimate to the reader. However, the majority of the points that he tries to make, he states them over and over-sometimes using the exact same verbiage as before. Multiple times, I had to question if I imagined reading the same passage twice but it turns out that it just was written twice in two different places.
This book is short, less than 200 pages, but honestly it felt so much longer because it was so cyclical. I am so, so proud of Carl for sharing his story, I just wish the book was better edited and likely shortened by 5o pages so that each memory is mentioned once and then the story progresses.
I listened to the audiobook which Carl narrated. I was actually really pleasantly surprised by this book, and it made me soften up towards Carl a lot. As someone with a parent in recovery who has been sober 30+ years, it really touched me hearing Carl talk about lessons that I have heard from my dad my whole life. It seems like he has really worked the program and that makes me happy and hopeful for him.
Hearing about some of the behind the scenes definitely made me look at his behaviors on Summer House in a different light and also made me appreciate his growth over the years, especially since getting sober. My dad has always told me that a big part of getting sober is finding peace with *yourself* first and it’s cool to get to watch Carl gain confidence and fulfillment as he progresses in recovery.
There were also some surprises in this book and I learned a few new things about Carl, including that he was a PA on Criminal Minds?!
My criticism is that the book felt very repetitive at times.
I’m a huge Summer House fan, so I was really excited to read this and appreciate Carl’s honesty with the journey, especially with acknowledging how his addiction led to bad behavior etc., and his insights into recovery and life beyond boozing. I quit drinking in 2023 and a lot of the stuff he shared on Summer House helped me with that choice. I do wish he offered a bit more critical view on Bravo/reality TV but i get why he didn’t. The last bit felt a bit like a commercial/set up for Soft Bar/the podcast but that’s also how these things are so can’t really fault him. The Stephen story was particularly heartbreaking and made me think differently about how I reacted to that being shared when it first came out and I feel badly for contributing to speculations around his sexuality. That said I’m glad that him and Stephen discussed it and they’ve both found recovery.
I've been a huge fan of Bravo's Summer House since 2018. I knew this book was going to hit me right in the feels after I lost my friend to addiction this last year. (Perhaps that's why I'm rating this much higher than I typically would a memoir.) Carl gives his perspective and story of battling addiction and grief. This was a quick read but I did have to put it down to really process everything (especially chapter 11.) Carl is honest and didn't mask his rock bottom as I've seen in other memoirs. He was authentic to himself. I appreciate that it wasn't a tell-all about his breakup with his ex, Lindsey. I wish I didn't live on the other side of the country so I could enjoy his new venture of Soft Bar. I appreciate the work for what it was and appreciate his honesty. I believe him, and that's all I ask with this genre. Great job, Carl.
As a long time summer house fan I was definitely intrigued to learn more about carls past. There are certain parts that are super interesting and sad, and it was a good way to get a closer look into Carl. It does feel a little rushed and like some things were quickly skated over. It was also VERY repetitive. It reads more like the habits of a high school essay (a good one) than a memoir. I did enjoy this as a bravo fan, but by the end it felt a little pushy with his business and trying to prove to people that he’s doing the best ever. Idk something is a little off. Overall I did enjoy the book and do recommend if you’re a Summer House / Bravo fan. I don’t believe non fans would enjoy. Also I hate the title I’m sorry.
This was an inspiring book while at times a bit repetitive in the stories/messaging. This was a book about addiction & recovery and your typical book you would find from a Bravolebrity. It reminded me of Mike The Situation's book about his journey with fame & addiction. There are no big salacious bombshells just a story of taking it day by day and overcoming life's struggle. It made me look at my own life and my relationships and how I can make changes to be a better person. I am inspired and grateful for Carl sharing his story and I know it will help many people.
I binged "Summer House" on Bravo in the last few years, so I was excited when I saw Carl had a book coming out. Do I think it's worth reading if you're a fan of the show? Yes. Do I think it could use a good edit because it felt repetitive at times and therefore didn't have the best flow? Also yes. It's clear that sober Carl is the best version of Carl - and I'm so happy for him that he's been able to find purpose in his journey. Thanks so much to NetGalley and Rising Action Publishing for the advanced copy in exchange for my honest review - it's out today!
I wish he would have dug just a little deeper. He was very honest but somehow it didn’t feel totally vulnerable. I love Carl and support him so I hate to say it. The fact that pages 77 & 101-102 had the exact same paragraphs word for word is messy as hell of his editors? He also told the same story twice and once it was Christmas and then it was Thanksgiving. I’m kinda thinking he told all these stories/chapters without planning the order? I don’t know? It was strange but still lots of parts I enjoyed and as a fellow addict I was underlining a lot.
Being a summer house fan this book had me hooked from the start, I could hear Carl's voice when I read it and it is written more like a story and not as hard to read as some biographies can be
As a fan of the show I was so excited to get this book and being able to read about Carl's sobriety journey, however the issue I had is I felt it could be repetitive
Overall, definitely worth a read especially if you're a summer house fan
very grateful to netgalley and the publishers for this arc
I really liked Carl’s perspective but I feel like he didn’t really delve that deep into the events of his life, it all felt very surface level. It was very repetitive as a result of him just telling us rather than showing us. For example, instead of showing us how deep his friendships were he’d just say he had great deep friendships and he’d do that at least three times. This could have been an essay.