Me to We: How to rediscover yourself and truly thrive in Motherhood

by Rebecca Hogan

Me to We is a guide for every mum, at any age or stage, who feels the need to rediscover herself, reclaim her confidence, and feel whole again.



Motherhood is a beautiful contradiction. You feel split between loving deeply and feeling lost in it all. You're growing, but you're grieving who you were. There's joy, but also overwhelm. The identity shift and the pressure are huge and somewhere in the juggle, the time and energy you once had for yourself can simply disappear.



This book helps you see that this isn't the end of who you were... it's the beginning of who you're becoming next.



Me to We isn't just a book, it's a guide through your matrescence, the transformative evolution of motherhood. It's full of real life openness and honesty and practical tools. You'll learn how to reconnect with your desires, redefine success, rebuild your confidence and rise beyond the expectations that keep mothers trying to do it all but feeling it's never enough.



This is your invitation to rediscover you and to envision your hopes and dreams so you can step into being the most empowered, confident, alive version of yourself.



"What most mothers really need is a book about them - a book that helps them make sense of what they're feeling and honours the profound transformation of becoming a mother. And that is exactly what Rebecca has done for you here." - Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, Author & Founder of Mama Rising



"For every Mother who has ever wondered 'Am I the only one?' this book is a powerful reminder that the answer is no... Both practical and heart-opening, this is a companion to return to again and again." - Nikki McCahon, Matrescence Educator & Women's Life Cycle Guide



"Rebecca shares a warm and encouraging voice for Mothers seeking more ease and connection in their lives, as they rediscover themselves through their journey of matrescence." - Dr Sophie Brock, Motherhood Studies Sociologist

312 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 19, 2026

Reviews

[Sara-Jane Keenan · Rating 4 out of 5]

As mams we are always putting everyone else before ourselves and this book reminds you that it’s ok to put yourself first and look after your own needs too. It helps you to prioritise time for yourself and give you the tools to help make positive changes in your life.

All the late nights doom scrolling through the internet desperately seeking answers. I wish I’d had this book when I first had my daughter, particularly throughout that first year. This book is a lifeline, a hug and a guide all rolled into one.

Rebecca challenges the common myths you hear about motherhood and validates the worries and negative thoughts or feelings you may be experiencing. It really helps knowing that you’re not the only one in that situation and what you’re going through is normal, as being a mam can make you feel incredibly lonely even when you’re surrounded by people.

I really enjoyed the self reflections exercises throughout the book, as well as the free bonus materials that you can download.

I found this book a really helpful, empowering tool and I recommend it to mothers at any stage of their journey looking to find themselves again. Overall I rate it 4⭐️.

[Rachael Pickering · Rating 5 out of 5]

Non-fiction is one of those categories that I always see myself reading more, but actually I buy them and then get distracted by another fantasy book with a morally grey MMC. I think it’s because I’m often looking for the escapism and distractions. But Me to We was one book that kept my attention throughout.

Rebecca writes with such a sweet honesty that I felt like she was talking to me and there was so much in this book that I felt I could relate to.

I liked how this book is suitable for mums of any stage – for those about to be, those with small ones around or those of us who’s small ones are almost as tall as they are!

I didn’t think I’d read the earlier chapters about being a new mum, as my mini one is now 11, and skip on to the later stages. But actually reading through what Rebecca experienced was quite cathartic. It showed me that it wasn’t just me who felt those new mum things and it was a way for me to look over old wounds and work towards some healing. I do wish I’d been able to be open an honest about how hard I found the early stages of motherhood. I did find one other amazing mum who was honest about how hard it was, but I didn’t find other mums as open about struggles as she was.

A key phrase for the book is matrescence and there has been some interesting research on this which I have bookmarked to delve into later. How mothers brains, mind and body change throughout all of our maternal lives.

I really enjoyed the tone of the book – it was light and engaging and overall an easy read to dip in and out of. I found the questions to think or journal about were really interesting and the downloadable content was a really lovely addition to the book as well.

I think this book is one I’m going to keep dipping in and out of as there was a lot to be taken from the book and I felt that I needed to take my time.

Would definitely recommend to mums of all ages and stages. Lots of important messages within this book. You are still you no matter what.

[Jessica’s Bookshelf · Rating 5 out of 5]

Title: Me to We: How to rediscover yourself and truly thrive in motherhood
Author: Rebecca Hogan
Genre: Non Fiction | Self help
Page Count: 308
Format I read: Ebook

💭 My Thoughts 💭

As a mum to three children and having gone through three very different post partum experience’s including long recovery’s from a traumatic birth and postnatal depression along with depression. I really really wish Rebecca’s book had been available. I rushed so much to get out of the house especially with my first when looking back I should have been at home resting up from several nights in the hospital including time on the high dependency unit and a blood transfusion. Rebecca’s writing really resonated with me. It’s raw, open and gentle in so many ways. It really made me think. Being a parent especially a mum is the hardest most rewarding job however it comes with so much guilt, worry and love all in the same wave of raw emotions. No matter what season you are currently in new mum, mum to baby, teens or even adults I feel this book is beneficial to all.
The layout is super accessible and it’s easy to go back to at anytime reading the chapters that speak to you the most. At the end of each chapter I really enjoyed the bullet points of questions where you are given prompts to think about.

This is such a beautiful book to read for yourself or to gift to any mum as a present.

Jessica’s Bookshelf: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Riette Beling · Rating 5 out of 5]

I would have loved to have this book when I gave birth to my son 15 years ago! I mean we had (if you were lucky!) What to expect when you're expecting and even that was basically just a manual for how to and not too. Postpartum depression was a swear word and not ever spoken of. What @rebeccahogan_ gives us here is amazing and supportive, it is filled with answers to the question you are too scared to ask. From getting to know the new you to connecting with your loved ones. And most importantly how to support yourself. As moms we put so much unnecessary pressure on everything we do - she approaches these scenario's in this book and will navigate you through them. I loved her style of coaching and reading this felt more like I was talking to a friend than anything else. It gave me hope that and some positive changes that I have already implemented in my life - because we are never too old to learn! Thank you Rebecca, this was amazing and I hope every moment who reads this will go and buy it! It is so worth it!!

[Alice · Rating 4 out of 5]

Me to We is a guide for mums and mums to be. It isn’t about how to parent or there to give you advice about babies. This book is for you as a woman. It aims to help you with that transition from being just you to being you and baby.

This book came at just the right time for me. I am a mum of two already and my third is on the way. However I have a huge age gap with this pregnancy. With my older children becoming teenagers and finding some independence I almost feel like I am going from me to we again.

The most fundamental thing I can take away from this book is - the way you are feeling is normal. There are a lot of expectations and pressure put on new mums and often the worst culprit is ourselves. This book really helps you change your mindset. It makes you stop and think and realise that not everyday is going to be fantastic and it’s ok not to enjoy every single moment of motherhood.

Something I really liked about this book is that Rebecca very openly and honestly talks about her own experiences. It is much easier to take on advice when you read about real life stories.

The book is split into lots of sections. At the end of each one there are exercises. These are often just some simple questions to think about. This book is about you as a person. So often as mums we put everyone else first and this book helps you look after yourself and remember you are just as important.

I think it’s a fantastic read for mums whether you are a mum to be or your children are all grown up. We can all take some important lessons away.

[Joanna HL · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’m a mum of three, and becoming a parent really is a wild life shift, which is why Me to We worked for me in a lot of ways. Rebecca Hogan really understands how much changes when you become a mum, not just practically, but emotionally and in how you see yourself. The parts about matrescence and that disorientating feeling of losing and rebuilding parts of yourself at the same time felt very familiar.

I liked how she blends science with her own experiences so it feels reassuring rather than clinical. The writing is casual and easy to dip in and out of, with short chapters that actually fit into real life with kids. I didn’t love every exercise, some weren’t quite for me, but I never felt like I had to do everything to get something out of it. It’s not a can’t put it down read, but it’s a steady, supportive one that made me feel seen, even as a mum of three