Healing Anxious Attachment: Stop Relationship Anxiety and Overcome Fear of Abandonment—A Recovery Workbook for Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Trap and Becoming Securely Attached in Relationships

by Rachel Wright

Do you constantly check your phone, terrified your partner is losing interest? Do you replay conversations searching for hidden meanings, convinced you've said something wrong? Does the thought of them needing space feel like abandonment?If relationship anxiety has turned love into a constant test you're failing, you're not broken—you're experiencing anxious attachment, and this book is your research-backed roadmap to lasting change.

Anxious attachment makes you desperate for closeness while simultaneously doubting you deserve it. You find yourself clinging to partners, seeking constant reassurance, or people-pleasing until you're exhausted—only to push love away with the intensity of your fear. The painful anxious-avoidant trap keeps you stuck in relationships where you pursue and your partner withdraws, creating a cycle that leaves you both emotionally drained.Healing Anxious Attachment combines attachment theory, neuroscience, and proven therapeutic frameworks to help you understand why you feel this way—and more importantly, how to change it. Drawing on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), mindfulness practices, and trauma-informed approaches, Rachel Wright guides you step-by-step from understanding your patterns to building the secure attachment you've always craved.

Inside this recovery workbook, you'll discover how Stop the mental spiral of catastrophic thinking and "what if" anxieties that hijack your relationshipsBreak free from the anxious-avoidant dance and create healthy, reciprocal partnershipsTransform protest behaviors (excessive texting, testing, people-pleasing) into authentic communicationOvercome fear of abandonment by building an unshakeable internal sense of worthinessSet boundaries without guilt and communicate needs without shameDevelop "earned secure attachment" through practical exercises, journaling prompts, and self-compassion practices
Unlike generic relationship advice that tells you to "just communicate better," this workbook addresses the root the nervous system wiring and childhood patterns that make secure love feel impossible. With real-life examples, cognitive reframing exercises, and nervous system regulation techniques, you'll learn to become your own secure base.

Your sensitivity isn't a flaw—it's your greatest strength waiting to be anchored in safety.

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272 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 2, 2026

About the author

Rachel Wright grew up in Bermuda, England, the Seychelles, and Fiji. She used to be an actress (after gaining a degree in drama in 1982, she worked as an actress for BBC Radio and various theatre companies, including one she co-founded with a friend) but now she writes full-time. (In 1989 I produced my first children’s non-fiction book and it’s been pretty non-stop since.) Her works include You've Got Blackmail and more than 40 children’s non-fiction books.