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The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst, Second Edition
When cheating, infidelity, or sexual betrayal shatters your world – the person you love becomes the source of your deepest pain – and everything changes.
Betrayal trauma spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question. One moment, you believe you know your partner, your relationship, your reality. The next, everything feels upside down.
The Betrayal Bind, now fully updated and expanded in its second edition, is the essential attachment-based guide to healing after infidelity and sexual betrayal.
Whether you are facing an emotional affair, physical affair, compulsive sexual behavior, pornography addiction, or chronic cheating, this book explains exactly what happens inside you after betrayal, the hidden patterns that keep you trapped, and the pathway to breaking free.
You’ll What happens inside your attachment system and nervous system when betrayal hitsWhy infidelity triggers such intense fear, hypervigilance, and self-doubtHow to begin trauma recovery after cheating and quickly address your painHow to reclaim self-trust, emotional safety and your personal powerWhat true healing looks like whether you stay in the relationship or decide to leave
Blending the latest research on betrayal trauma, attachment injury repair, and relational trauma with the lived experience of thousands of betrayed partners, The Betrayal Bind offers a compassionate, clear and deeply validating roadmap for understanding your pain and finding your way back to safety, connection and hope.
Betrayal trauma spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question. One moment, you believe you know your partner, your relationship, your reality. The next, everything feels upside down.
The Betrayal Bind, now fully updated and expanded in its second edition, is the essential attachment-based guide to healing after infidelity and sexual betrayal.
Whether you are facing an emotional affair, physical affair, compulsive sexual behavior, pornography addiction, or chronic cheating, this book explains exactly what happens inside you after betrayal, the hidden patterns that keep you trapped, and the pathway to breaking free.
You’ll What happens inside your attachment system and nervous system when betrayal hitsWhy infidelity triggers such intense fear, hypervigilance, and self-doubtHow to begin trauma recovery after cheating and quickly address your painHow to reclaim self-trust, emotional safety and your personal powerWhat true healing looks like whether you stay in the relationship or decide to leave
Blending the latest research on betrayal trauma, attachment injury repair, and relational trauma with the lived experience of thousands of betrayed partners, The Betrayal Bind offers a compassionate, clear and deeply validating roadmap for understanding your pain and finding your way back to safety, connection and hope.
358 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 3, 2026
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July 21, 2026
All I can really say is I feel seen, understood and validated. It is very clear Mays knows what she's talking about, and her personal experience with this topic really helps. Life changing, and I would recommend this book if it is (unfortunately) relevant for you.
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