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304 pages, Paperback
First published September 15, 2015
I didn’t lie to others to brag about myself, nor out of fear of being found a coward. I lied to protect myself from a far greater reality: I backed away from the cliff because on that day, I recognized I couldn’t control the outcome. In the long term, however, I couldn’t accept the notion that there was anything I couldn’t control. I rewrote my memory of the story to restore my self-confidence, to avoid facing how little control I ever have over anything. In my lie, I jumped not because I didn’t want to seem cowardly, but because not jumping meant I didn’t have complete control.
Most of the chapters read like random anecdotes and memories, without any point or overarching theme. I know there was a point, but I had a hard time getting past the structure. The stories seem to always lack either context, a beginning, a middle or end. Sometimes it felt like there were paragraphs or whole pages missing. People would be mentioned as if I should know who they were, but they had never been mentioned before. Many times interesting parts would be completely glossed over and I would be left with many questions:
The family life was also really confusing. With a jumpy timeline and three wives, a little specificity would help! There is a "wife" mentioned before anyone is named, but they are not always the same person and we don't know that until Section 2. I think a more well-established family life would have gone a long way to make the timeline easier to follow. Some examples of what confused me:
I’ve come to wonder if control was never more than an illusion that I created to allow me to survive. Even so, the notion that someone would die if I wasn’t there to do the right thing had been a valuable, if ultimately quixotic fiber of my being for so long. That’s who I was, after all