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FORMERLY The Love Triangle


In the race of life, everyone faces their unique obstacles, and Fola Ige has had her fair share— right from birth.

First, there is the backdrop of her bickering, woefully mismatched parents—her stoic medical doctor father and permanently dissatisfied stay-at-home mother. Then there is the ‘reality’ of how their life falls short of the luxury and splendour that her mother expects not just for herself, but for Fola and her three siblings.

But no obstacle is as complicated and punishing as having Dolapo “Dolly” as a sister. Prettier, poutier, and petty, not to mention messy as hell, Dolly being a year older is the bane of her existence and the albatross of Fola’s life, especially when it comes to Jimi Fajobi.

For the next twenty years, through failed marriages, affairs, scandals, and across continents, the unholy love triangle between Fola, Dolly, and Jimi will be the fodder for a rollercoaster none of them ever bargained for or expected.

Every Choice But Us is a rom-com examination of deep themes like betrayal, lust, fragmented families, sibling rivalry, materialism, pride, and mental illness. It is a bittersweet yet familiar and well-conceived story about a golden age in Nigerian contemporary culture and the casualties and triumphs of the time period, masterfully told by Adesuwa O’man Nwokedi.

315 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 14, 2026

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Adesuwa O'man Nwokedi

45 books616 followers
The Writer, who became an Engineer, who became an Investment Banker, who became a Fertility Spokesperson, who became…a Writer.
That has been the journey of A. T. Nwokedi, aka The Fertile Chick. A self confessed hopeless romantic, when she is not creating new characters, she devotes her time to creating memories with her husband and their three children.

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Profile Image for Munis Bukola.
104 reviews7 followers
May 13, 2026
I’m strongly of the belief that this book was rage bait.

First of all, this is absolutely not a jab at Adesuwa Oman Nwokedi as an author, because she’s genuinely talented, but THIS BOOK? Pure rage bait.

Jimi was such an egotistical, bare minimum, hypocritical, nonchalant, and honestly uninteresting character. I would have loved to read his POV, because every single encounter with him was basically:
straight face, no emotions, no words, no explanation, just cold passive staring.

And the emphasis on Fola only being with one man after her ex-husband had practically toured the entire continent was absurd. Somehow it’s acceptable for a man to move on and sleep around endlessly, but the moment a woman does the same, it becomes shameful and unforgivable. Please. I honestly would have preferred if she had actually dated other men seriously, just to see whether silly Jimi would still want her afterward.

Then there was the whole “consciously becoming a size 18” angle. Was that really necessary?

And don’t even get me started on the dating pool. Why did every single man have to be completely unhinged? Is that normal? And then the one seemingly decent guy eventually threatens to rape her? What exactly was happening here?

The book was marketed as a romcom, but the only comedic thing about it was how genuinely pathetic Fola’s life became.

Then I got to this part:

“The guy wants to marry!”
I flipped from one text message to the other. Mere hours after being heartbroken by Jimi yet again, I was faced with the possibility of love.
Maybe one of these guys could be my husband.
Maybe one of them would be the Romeo to my Juliet.
The Gbolahan to my mother’s Anike.
But which one of these texts should I answer?”

I’m sorry, but her desperation and complete lack of standards nearly gave me restless leg syndrome because WHAT do you mean?

Now back to narcissistic Jimi.

Imagine him accusing her of “substituting one groom for another” when she came back, meanwhile this man was literally planning a wedding in front of her until he got dumped, then suddenly decided to profess his love. Why was he acting like her actions were unforgivable?

The only time Jimi ever seemed interested in Fola was when he saw her entertaining other men, and even then she kept lowering her standards further by telling him how terribly those men treated her on dates. Does her mouth not have a pause button?

And Dolly? I am not going to give her writing time. That chaotic woman has had enough.
Na Fola I blame.. cos she continuously hurt her over and over again, yet somehow ended up living a far more interesting life than the fola who kept opening both her home and heart to her repeatedly.

Ironically, one of my favorite moments in the book was when Fola finally said this:

“I had a front row seat as you went from Ava to Rosaline to Lacey to Courtney to Monica, and let’s not forget your friend-with-benefits, Tamika! And then you got engaged to Clairice, and I had to watch that too! Then when I finally pulled myself together to move on, to try to date someone else, you decided that, hey now, I was worth having another look at after all.”

I literally breathed a sigh of relief because FINALLY, she was speaking up.

Because this man rarely ever chased after her when she was upset. Most times he just sat there or carried on with his life like she didn’t matter at all, only to later flip the script and make her seem like the problem whenever they reunited.

Omo, I taya.

This book stressed me out badly. Every Choice But Us was simply too much rage bait for me. I cannot, biko.
Profile Image for Sandra Gboneme.
47 reviews
June 14, 2026
I love Adesuwa! I love her very much but this book STRESSED ME OUT! - Fola’s low self esteem pissed me off and her very trusting behavior towards her sister was very confusing to me.
The 12 years wasted could have been avoided if she and jimi just sat down and talked.

I also think I found it tiring because I have read a few of Adesuwa’s books and to be honest, it is the same merry go round, and then accept that you are in love.

Wahala is too much.
Profile Image for Klenam Hosi.
42 reviews
April 4, 2026
This is a second-chance romance, but it didn’t really feel like one to me. It felt more like two people who were stuck in love across different stages of their lives, even when they really shouldn’t have been.

It’s also a love triangle, but not your typical one. This is Jimi, Fola, and Fola’s own sister, Dolly, and honestly… everyone was doing something. Jimi especially, but Dolly and even Fola at times made things more complicated than they needed to be.

What stood out to me the most was how real the characters felt. They were flawed in ways that made sense, and you could clearly see how their upbringing, family dynamics, and personal insecurities influenced their decisions.

Fola, in particular, was frustrating at times. Watching her self-sabotage in her thirties was a lot, but at the same time, I understood where it was coming from. Being rejected by someone she loved in favor of her sister shaped how she saw herself, and that insecurity followed her into her marriage, her divorce, and even her life afterward.

Her growth was one of my favourite parts of the story. I liked that her turning point wasn’t centered on a man, but on choosing herself, her healing, her career, and her life. It felt like things only started to fall into place after that.

The family dynamics added a lot of depth to the story. From her parents’ relationship to everything going on with Dolly, it was messy but very believable. I also liked how her parents eventually found their way back to each other.

The romance itself was emotional and engaging. It had the giddiness, the tension, and the pain, and it genuinely made me feel something. At the same time, the drama could be overwhelming. The back and forth and repeated mistakes made parts of the story feel like a rollercoaster.

Overall, this was a really engaging read that explored love, family, ambition, and growth in a way that felt grounded and familiar. Adesuwa’s writing made it easy to get into and hard to put down.
Profile Image for ♡Joan Vegas♡.
167 reviews7 followers
May 15, 2026
Rating: 4.5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Dolly whyyyyyy 😭
Whatever you do, just pray you don’t have a sibling like Dolapo because what do you mean by “I’m in love with my sister’s ex-husband?” That immediately grabbed my attention.

This book tells the story of a love triangle between two sisters — Fola, the youngest, and Dolapo, the eldest — with Jimi Fajobi caught in the middle.

I really enjoyed this book. I loved how the author moved the story from the past to the present with almost no plot holes. The “10 years later” part, where we got to see how the characters navigated their lives, was especially incredible. The love, betrayal, jealousy, anger, and regret — every emotion was wrapped into this one book.

I do wish we got Jimi’s POV because his thoughts and feelings weren’t always clear to me. And for some reason, I honestly didn’t like him at all 😭. He was constantly getting on my nerves, but Fola really tried sha.

Fola’s mum, on the other hand, did not help matters at all. Worst mother of the year award goes to her 😅😅😅


If you enjoy books filled with love triangles, family drama, betrayal, and a touch of heartbreak, then this book is definitely for you 😉👌💖
193 reviews12 followers
March 25, 2026
Once I got into the book, I could hardly put it down. I rarely read books twice, but I'm willing to read this one over and over again.

There were so many things I loved about this book that I'd love to highlight;

First, I love the relatability of each character. We read about how honestly flawed they are and how their behaviours typified the behaviours we could see around. I'm so sure these characters have been experienced in the real world.

Second, there was a smooth transition between different times in the book and we could easily follow through with the plot. Also, the short characters didn't make it burdensome to read. It held my interest from start to finish.

Third, I liked how Fola picked herself over any relationship/man and focused on her healing, career and her life generally. I was rooting for that change all through. I feel it was after that she truly became independent and things fell in place.

The character I disliked the most would be Dolly, I couldn't just fathom why she did what she did, but then I have her mother to blame for aiding her on. Adesuwa didn't give me closure with Dolly, because I want to truly see where her escapade at the end of the book will lead to.

I rate this book a 4.5⭐.
63 reviews
May 25, 2026
I finished Every Choice of Us and this book stressed me out badly 😭

First of all, imagine being in a love triangle involving your sister and your ex-husband. Wickedness.

The book honestly felt like rage bait at some points because Fola kept frustrating me. Her biggest issue wasn’t even her in-laws or her environment, it was her deep insecurity and lack of self-worth. Moving out didn’t magically solve the actual problem and I desperately needed someone to drag her to therapy.

I also couldn’t fully buy into how quickly her business blew up because it felt too unrealistic for the story being told.

That said, I did enjoy being back in my African literature era because the family dynamics and emotional tension felt very familiar and grounded. The last 13% dragged for me though and by the end I was more exhausted than emotional.
Profile Image for Bisi Miyebi.
97 reviews3 followers
April 28, 2026
Second time really is a charm. How is it possible that this is my second time reading this story and it somehow hit even harder than the first? Like… how? 😲

I first read Every Choice But Us last year (then titled Love Triangle) during my personal Adesuwa reading rampage—yes, I was determined to get my hands on every Adesuwa Oman Nwokedi book I could find 😂. But this reread? It gave me all the feels in a whole new way.

This book is honestly nothing short of amazing.

First, can we talk about the names—Folajimi and Folabomi? What a lovely pairing. Even their names feel like poetry.

The story follows Folabomi and her beautifully complicated relationship with Folajimi, a love story stretched across more than two decades. But this is more than romance; it’s layered with family dynamics, misunderstandings, growth, sacrifice, and second chances. And Dolly? Ah! That sister was forever pouring sand inside somebody’s garri 😅—always scheming, always sabotaging. Yet even she was so well written.

What really stayed with me was the friendship between Bomi and Jimi, especially in the latter part of the book. It quietly reinforces something I believe deeply: the best love stories are often rooted in friendship.

And the side characters? Superb. Mummy Jay and Seyi were written with such warmth and depth. Even the “villains” were not one-note. Every character landed. No misses.

I learned so much from this book—about love, patience, not jumping to conclusions, showing up for the people you love, and even parenting. And whew… Folabomi and Folajimi? Two stubborn heads, truly 😄. They gave me Diego and Paloma energy—chaotic, passionate, impossible, and somehow deeply meant for each other.

This story had heart, drama, tenderness, and enough emotional tension to keep me invested all over again. And can we be honest? Adesuwa cooked here. She really did.

A very deserving 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Highly recommended for romantics at heart, young couples, and even parents. If you love love stories built on friendship, longing, and enduring connection, this one is for you.
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35 reviews7 followers
July 18, 2026
This book took me on an emotional rollercoaster.

It's a story about love triangle, sibling rivalry, betrayal, family drama, divorce, co-parenting, forgiveness, pride, and the ripple effects of the choices we make.

Every major decision in this book came with consequences, and watching those consequences unfold over the years was both heartbreaking and intriguing.

My heart broke for the FMC Fola over and over again. She deserved so much better than the cards her sister, Dolly and mother dealt her. There were times I wanted to hug her, and there were other times I wanted to yell at her to stop being so nice and pick up her self-esteem from wherever she dumped it.

I also had serious issues with the MMC, Jimi. I never understood why he didn't fight harder for Fola, especially after the choices he made in their UNILAG days. Then, after their separation, he just kept moving from one relationship to another. It took him far too many years but by the end, he managed to redeem himself a little.

One of my favourite parts of this story was Fola's dating journey after divorce. It was funny, awkward, frustrating, and so relatable. Adesuwa perfectly captured the chaos that is modern dating.

My favourite character is Mama Jay. She was everything. She and Papa Jay became Fola's safe place when she needed one the most. Their love and support warmed my heart. Mama Jay is the kind of mother-in-law every woman deserves. I want to be like her when I grow up.

Overall, this was an emotional and thought-provoking read that had me angry, laughing, frustrated, and rooting for healing all at once.
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566 reviews5 followers
July 27, 2026
With all the apologies in the world Dolly and her mother are still trash.
Fola and Jimi both played a part in their marriage falling apart, Fola with her insecurities and Jimi with not making her feel secure. Really the dude couldn’t have told her what her sister said before he went over there or sent the police instead, stupid.
Dolly treats her like crap and she is still excited to see her. It’s like watching someone being excited to get stabbed in the front. How she doesn’t see what her sister is up to when she keeps doing the same thing is beyond me. And she doesn’t hide it, Fola is the only one blind. Her relationship with Dolly is frustrating that I just want to put the book down.

I do not feel sorry for Fola, her back and forth with her sister and then Jimi was just exhausting. The last incident with Dolly I’m just like girl you brought that one all on your own. If she could not see the hate and jealousy her sister had for then there was no way to feel sympathy at her ignorance. Everyone else was done and could see it but Fola.
Fola wanted Jimi to fight for her but she didn’t fight for him either. At least he professed his love for her more than once all she did was keep turning around with her tail tucked.

I did feel bad for her dating life, geesh girl, I was hoping please let the next one be the right one lol.
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March 14, 2026
A rollercoaster and enjoyable journey toward a happily-ever-after between Jimi and Fola.

The complex relationship between the sisters was very well written. Fola, however, was the queen of self-sabotage. I wanted to slap her so many times! Girl, you’re in your thirties! lol.

My favourite part was when she quit her old job and finally focused on herself instead of chasing men up and down. I can never really understand women like that. Maybe because I’ve always been a go-getter. Relationships have always been secondary to my goals.

I was glad Fola eventually chose to put herself first. Good relationships often come when a woman prioritises her own growth and happiness. When a man enters a relationship with someone who already values herself and her goals, he’s more likely to behave himself, knowing the relationship isn’t her entire world.

If you enjoy love triangles with twisted family dynamics, this one will definitely be your jam.
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314 reviews2 followers
June 22, 2026
One thing you can always trust this author to do is write a dysfunctional love story so well that you’ll be enraged the entire time. Honestly, I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing but what it accomplishes so easily is keeping you glued to the end.

That said, the writing here wasn’t her usual top-notch stuff. It almost feels like a downgrade, weighed down by too much repetition coupled with poorly navigated mother-wound trauma.

Also, is it just me, or do Dolly and Ogonna from A Forever Kind of Love by the same author have a similar M.O.?

Between Fola, Jimi, Fola’s mother, and Dolly, I don’t know who should be first in line for the therapist’s office but they all need to be in it.

2 stars.
Profile Image for Katola.
17 reviews
July 27, 2026
What in the absolute chaos was this book?!
Your sister as your arch enemy is crazy! And I could have said "I'm so happy I don't have a sister" , but then your mother is also in cahoots with your sister. CHAOS for damn near 20 years I think.

I would have really wanted Jimi's POV but alas. Even though, till the end I was not sure of Jimi Fajobi and his intentions.

The range of men Fola dated were also such a funny and crazy bunch. Lagos really seems like a mad place for real. You snooze, you lose! You accept a Gucci bag and you will for sure collect embarrazzment! 🤣😭

Took a star away because I felt the ending was rushed or maybe I just did not like that half-dead love declaration from Jimi at the end! And the supposed "happy ever after" 😭😭
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176 reviews
April 11, 2026
I finished the book in one sitting, that’s how good it was. Fola and Jimi have to be one of my favorite Adesuwa MC’s after Yomi and Jaiye in Jaiye Jaiye. I really wish they’d gotten back together earlier than they did and that’s the only reason I’m giving it a 4.5 instead of 5 stars. The angst and yearning in the years of separation made up for it a little bit.

Another high note was the love between their both families, especially mummy Jay and Fola. They loved and supported each other so much and it was so beautiful to read.

Nobody tells Nigerian love stories like Adesuwa.
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7 reviews
May 1, 2026
I am a huge fan of this writer so I was definitely picking this one up as well.

I love the storyline and the rollercoaster of a relationship between Fola and Jimi. The plot was well done, the story well planned and the characters particularly developed.

However, I have a qualm and that is the way I was not able to see through Jimi's yearning. The single POV by Fola caused that. While I love this in The Ginika's Bridesmaids Series, I really wanted to be inside Jimi's head. Other than this, the book is perfection.
Profile Image for Betty Kioko.
11 reviews3 followers
March 11, 2026
There’s a lot about this book I loved! How most characters are human and flawed. How the writer tries to develop most of the characters you encounter so there’s a bit more of them to work with. How accessible the language is, and most importantly how well she writes the villain!

It did feel overwritten in places, like the same point could have been made in fewer pages!
1 review
March 29, 2026
It took me a little to get into the book but once I did, I could hardly put it down. The book showed how flawed we are as people and it showed the realistic nature of humans. I’m glad Dolly didn't get what she wanted the most as most books still give the villains a happy ending. Though this book stressed me out but it’s a great book nonetheless.
15 reviews
April 29, 2026
I’m yet to see any book that Adesuwa has written that I hate.

This was not your typical romance novel, it has so many ups and downs in the lives of the characters.
I loved how it felt real and relatable and the writer made it quite clear that love can sometimes be unpredictable and even destructive to an extent.
Overall, the ending made it all worth it and I absolutely loved it.
5 reviews
June 5, 2026
Another fantastic read by Adesuwa!

My favorite thing about Adesuwa is that her stories are never brief lol it just keeps going on and on and I am soooo here for it!

I think this book was also laced with tasteful descriptions, grammar and slangs! I had lots of highlights.

Loved it! Highly recommend
Profile Image for Ajayi Damilola.
50 reviews1 follower
March 7, 2026
i’m glad dolly didn’t really have a fulfilled ending, because ahan! even fola sef at some point i was wondering if she had sense because haba

i really loved the growth of all the characters, it was like seeing it in real life, that uncle or aunty or sister that you know

i love love this book
7 reviews
March 28, 2026
I enjoyed this one! Fola suffered too much due to Dolly’s selfishness but you see karma, it always has a way of surfacing when you least expect it.
Fola’s second marriage to Jimi is testament to the fact that true love never dies. This novel is everything and more.
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April 29, 2026
What an interesting story. Thanks to the author who always delivers great stories...
Profile Image for Maryam Adenuga.
71 reviews
July 23, 2026
I'm currently on page 50 and I don't even know what to say except that I'm stopping there🥲
I've read so many books by this author, but this is a no - no for me😅
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