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Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate: A Novel About Surviving Yourself
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“Smart, raw, and irresistibly candid.”
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Something Borrowed
A darkly hilarious novel about toxic relationship recovery, emotional sobriety, and becoming your own soulmate.
Roxie thought hitting bottom was the worst day of her life.
Turns out, the real nightmare starts when the chaos stops—because now she has to deal with the one person she’s been avoiding for herself.
She survived the chaos. Now she has to survive herself.
In Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate, Roxie is learning to live without the toxic relationships that once functioned like emotional caffeine. No more disaster men. No more intensity disguised as chemistry. Now it’s just her, the quiet, and her recovery CoolGirl fighting charm addiction, GlamGirl rebuilding a life she torched twice, TattooGirl hanging on by a thread, Alice insisting she’s “fine,” and Dr. Kath dismantling denial one uncomfortable truth at a time.
With no drama left to hide behind, every unresolved wound comes roaring to the surface. Dating turns into a full-contact sport of ghosters, love-bombers, self-proclaimed spiritual gurus, and one man who brings his emotional support tarot deck. And when “Mr. Handsome” arrives—stable, grounded, and emotionally available—Roxie spirals into the most uncomfortable territory of real intimacy.
She’s the one she keeps abandoning.
Darkly hilarious, brutally honest, and painfully real, Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate is a novel about surviving your own patterns, letting people see you as you are, and choosing yourself—even when it feels wildly unfamiliar.
—Emily Giffin, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Something Borrowed
A darkly hilarious novel about toxic relationship recovery, emotional sobriety, and becoming your own soulmate.
Roxie thought hitting bottom was the worst day of her life.
Turns out, the real nightmare starts when the chaos stops—because now she has to deal with the one person she’s been avoiding for herself.
She survived the chaos. Now she has to survive herself.
In Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate, Roxie is learning to live without the toxic relationships that once functioned like emotional caffeine. No more disaster men. No more intensity disguised as chemistry. Now it’s just her, the quiet, and her recovery CoolGirl fighting charm addiction, GlamGirl rebuilding a life she torched twice, TattooGirl hanging on by a thread, Alice insisting she’s “fine,” and Dr. Kath dismantling denial one uncomfortable truth at a time.
With no drama left to hide behind, every unresolved wound comes roaring to the surface. Dating turns into a full-contact sport of ghosters, love-bombers, self-proclaimed spiritual gurus, and one man who brings his emotional support tarot deck. And when “Mr. Handsome” arrives—stable, grounded, and emotionally available—Roxie spirals into the most uncomfortable territory of real intimacy.
She’s the one she keeps abandoning.
Darkly hilarious, brutally honest, and painfully real, Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate is a novel about surviving your own patterns, letting people see you as you are, and choosing yourself—even when it feels wildly unfamiliar.
340 pages, Kindle Edition
Expected publication February 13, 2026
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About the author
Brianne Davis
2 books63 followersBrianne Davis is a relationship and trauma specialist, author, speaker, podcast host, wife, mom—and unapologetic truth-teller. With over sixteen years of recovery from sex and love addiction, she is known for her work on breaking toxic cycles, healing attachment wounds, and dismantling the shame that blocks real intimacy.
She hosts the top-rated Secret Life Podcast, featuring raw conversations about addiction, relationships, mental health, and transformation. Her debut book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, resonated widely for its fierce honesty and dark humor. Brianne also has a career in film and television, appearing in Jarhead, Prom Night, Lucifer, and Six. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband Mark, their son Davis, and her dog Stella.
She hosts the top-rated Secret Life Podcast, featuring raw conversations about addiction, relationships, mental health, and transformation. Her debut book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, resonated widely for its fierce honesty and dark humor. Brianne also has a career in film and television, appearing in Jarhead, Prom Night, Lucifer, and Six. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband Mark, their son Davis, and her dog Stella.
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February 9, 2026
Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate by Brianne Davis. Thanks to the author for the gifted copy ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Roxie is fixing herself after surviving her love and sex addiction by starting to date. Dating these days is a drama though, especially with unresolved wounds.
I enjoyed this one just as much as Brianne’s first book; maybe even more! We have the same character, Roxie, so of course we get the same wry humor and no holding back personality. It is funny and you’ll laugh your way through, while also taking away some key emotional points and character growth as well. If you haven’t read Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, that’s okay! This can definitely be read as a standalone. It’s first person narration and she fills you in on the important parts of the past as you go.
“Either you meet yourself in the mirror or the mirror will break you - it’s dealer’s choice. Choose wisely, my friend.”
Read this if you like:
-First person narration
-Contemporary and online dating tropes
-Self-help as fiction
-Funny and sarcastic humor
Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate comes out 2/13.
Roxie is fixing herself after surviving her love and sex addiction by starting to date. Dating these days is a drama though, especially with unresolved wounds.
I enjoyed this one just as much as Brianne’s first book; maybe even more! We have the same character, Roxie, so of course we get the same wry humor and no holding back personality. It is funny and you’ll laugh your way through, while also taking away some key emotional points and character growth as well. If you haven’t read Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, that’s okay! This can definitely be read as a standalone. It’s first person narration and she fills you in on the important parts of the past as you go.
“Either you meet yourself in the mirror or the mirror will break you - it’s dealer’s choice. Choose wisely, my friend.”
Read this if you like:
-First person narration
-Contemporary and online dating tropes
-Self-help as fiction
-Funny and sarcastic humor
Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate comes out 2/13.
Review of advance copy received from Author
Some books feel like stories and some feel like someone sitting across from you sharing their life. Becoming My Own F‑ing Soulmate falls into that second category. I read Davis’s first novel Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex and Love Addict back in 2021 and was surprised by how engrossed I became in a world far outside my own experience. The second book continues Roxanne’s journey, but this time the focus is on sober dating and what it means to rebuild your life with intention.
What stands out most is how directly Roxanne speaks to the reader. It feels personal, almost like she is talking only to you as she works through her frustrations, her victories, and the daily effort of staying grounded. She shares her thoughts with such vulnerability that it becomes easy to root for her as she continues to build a healthier life, and that brutal honesty is what gives the book its power.
I am not a mental health professional, but I can see how this story could offer comfort or guidance to anyone navigating their own struggles. The themes of self-awareness, honesty, respect, and letting go of negativity are woven through every chapter and truly feel universally helpful.
This really does read like a therapy session in novel form, and I enjoyed following Roxanne as she continues to grow and control her addiction. I genuinely recommend this one, especially if you like stories about healing and self-discovery. With a third book in development, I’m eager to see how Roxanne’s journey continues to unfold.
Huge thanks to Brianne Davis for the eARC, which I have reviewed honestly and voluntarily.
What stands out most is how directly Roxanne speaks to the reader. It feels personal, almost like she is talking only to you as she works through her frustrations, her victories, and the daily effort of staying grounded. She shares her thoughts with such vulnerability that it becomes easy to root for her as she continues to build a healthier life, and that brutal honesty is what gives the book its power.
I am not a mental health professional, but I can see how this story could offer comfort or guidance to anyone navigating their own struggles. The themes of self-awareness, honesty, respect, and letting go of negativity are woven through every chapter and truly feel universally helpful.
This really does read like a therapy session in novel form, and I enjoyed following Roxanne as she continues to grow and control her addiction. I genuinely recommend this one, especially if you like stories about healing and self-discovery. With a third book in development, I’m eager to see how Roxanne’s journey continues to unfold.
Huge thanks to Brianne Davis for the eARC, which I have reviewed honestly and voluntarily.
Review of advance copy received from Author
The one thing I absolutely love about Brianne's books is how she does the storytelling. She somehow manages to make a self-help book read like if it was a fiction, all while exposing all the hard truths behind recovery in a raw and vulnerable way.
This is a follow-up novel to Brianne's Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex and Love Addict. Roxie has been in recovery from her sex and love addiction. Roxie tries to put herself back out there, learning that dating in the Hollywood scene is hard, and making mistakes along the way. Throughout her journey, she uses her recovery to not only help out others suffering from this same addiction, but also to help herself by learning how to love and show up for ourselves first before being able to love others.
While this is technically a follow-up to the first novel, you do not have to read it first, as she does provide a quick summary of what happened in the first book throughout the book. Roxie shows incredible character growth throughout the book, as she tries to figure out how to move through the world with intention and opening herself up to real love and care from those who genuinely want what's best for her while cutting out those who only brought drama and toxicity into her life. Roxie talks directly to the reader while she narrates all her frustrations with staying sober and being vulnerable while exposing when she made mistakes. This story was truly one of learning how to choose yourself first, it reads like you're having an honest conversation with a close friend, and it shows the incredible strength and hard word it takes to overcome some of our demons and not being so harsh on ourselves when we stumble along the way. Thank you so much to the author for providing me with a copy of this eARC.
This is a follow-up novel to Brianne's Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex and Love Addict. Roxie has been in recovery from her sex and love addiction. Roxie tries to put herself back out there, learning that dating in the Hollywood scene is hard, and making mistakes along the way. Throughout her journey, she uses her recovery to not only help out others suffering from this same addiction, but also to help herself by learning how to love and show up for ourselves first before being able to love others.
While this is technically a follow-up to the first novel, you do not have to read it first, as she does provide a quick summary of what happened in the first book throughout the book. Roxie shows incredible character growth throughout the book, as she tries to figure out how to move through the world with intention and opening herself up to real love and care from those who genuinely want what's best for her while cutting out those who only brought drama and toxicity into her life. Roxie talks directly to the reader while she narrates all her frustrations with staying sober and being vulnerable while exposing when she made mistakes. This story was truly one of learning how to choose yourself first, it reads like you're having an honest conversation with a close friend, and it shows the incredible strength and hard word it takes to overcome some of our demons and not being so harsh on ourselves when we stumble along the way. Thank you so much to the author for providing me with a copy of this eARC.
Review of advance copy received from Author
Becoming My Own F-ing Soulmate: Surviving Yourself by Brianne Davis
I read the author first book Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Seductively Wild Ride to Self-Love
And really was drawn into Roxie’s world. In this book we watch Roxie as she continues to go through life but now is sober this Is a raw, honest, and surprisingly funny look at what happens when you stop chasing toxic love and start facing yourself.
Through Roxie’s journey of recovery and self-discovery, Davis explores addiction, emotional sobriety, and learning how to be your own friend. Davis has a way of writing her books so that you feel like you’re sitting down and talking with each other. In this book I feel like Roxie is all about choosing yourself first and I feel so grateful to have been able to share that journey with her. I wish Roxie the best in life. I highly recommend reading Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
First if you can
I read the author first book Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Seductively Wild Ride to Self-Love
And really was drawn into Roxie’s world. In this book we watch Roxie as she continues to go through life but now is sober this Is a raw, honest, and surprisingly funny look at what happens when you stop chasing toxic love and start facing yourself.
Through Roxie’s journey of recovery and self-discovery, Davis explores addiction, emotional sobriety, and learning how to be your own friend. Davis has a way of writing her books so that you feel like you’re sitting down and talking with each other. In this book I feel like Roxie is all about choosing yourself first and I feel so grateful to have been able to share that journey with her. I wish Roxie the best in life. I highly recommend reading Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
First if you can
Review of advance copy received from Author
From the author of The Secret Life Of A Sex & Love Addict comes the next step in navigating healthy dating.
The author rips off the band-aid in this raw, emotional, funny read, keeping us entertained while shedding light on an addiction that isn't discussed enough.
The whole time I was reading the book, I was completely captivated and sucked into this world. I felt like I was having a lunch date with a close friend. Roxanne takes us on a journey of self-discovery and does not shy away from any details.
This book completely blew my mind, challenging my self-discovery and helping me let go of negative thoughts! I absolutely love it when a book pushes my thinking to new heights.
As I always stated, a person is an addict who is an addict; it's the journey of self-awareness, the causes and healing, while being brutally honest. This is a must-read book.
Thank you to Brianne Davis for gifting me this amazing arc.
The author rips off the band-aid in this raw, emotional, funny read, keeping us entertained while shedding light on an addiction that isn't discussed enough.
The whole time I was reading the book, I was completely captivated and sucked into this world. I felt like I was having a lunch date with a close friend. Roxanne takes us on a journey of self-discovery and does not shy away from any details.
This book completely blew my mind, challenging my self-discovery and helping me let go of negative thoughts! I absolutely love it when a book pushes my thinking to new heights.
As I always stated, a person is an addict who is an addict; it's the journey of self-awareness, the causes and healing, while being brutally honest. This is a must-read book.
Thank you to Brianne Davis for gifting me this amazing arc.
Review of advance copy received from Author
This book was really good. I received it as an ARC, and it is a follow up to Brianne’s book titled “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel.” I don’t think it’s completely necessary to read that one first, but there are a couple of things that are referred back to that novel. Anyways, this book was really good. It was funny, and quite a few WTF moments just like I had in the first book. I am also going through a journey to sobriety - although it’s about alcohol use, and not $ex or love, so it was timely in my own journey. Pre-orders for this book are live now, and it will be available on February 13, 2026.
Review of advance copy received from Author
Very grateful for all the amazing love and kind words. Hope you all enjoy the wild ride!
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