It's You. Oh Fuck. It's ME.: A Therapist’s View on Relationships.

by Chad Taylor

138 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 15, 2026

Reviews

[EK · Rating 5 out of 5]

Let me make this very clear. this is the most important book I think I’ll ever read in my life (joint only with the power of now — which is fitting given the number of time the author quotes Eckhart Tolle in this book)
I read it in one sitting (which is kind of exactly what he said not to do) but by page 3 I had already sent it to my mother & my sister and told them to read it immediately.
Everything about it was exactly right. The timing of me reading this with where I’m at in my life, the way I just realised yesterday that the next part of my journey really needs to be discovering my own next steps to healing (as previously others have given me the tools which resulted in my thinking I needed them around in order to grow). the way that he wrote it was funny, blunt and completely my language. he summed up basically everything I have been reading about and thinking about and learning about and trying to put together for the past 2 years in a way that not only makes complete sense, but demands action.
I read it in one sitting, but I plan on re-reading this, slowly, over and over again probably for the rest of my life.
Reading this has become a non negotiable. I will never get into a relationship again without reading this, or with a partner who hasn’t (if they refuse, I’m clearly not going to have the kind of relationship I actually want with that person, so that saves a lot of time).
I want the kind of relationship with myself and with others that this book outlines, and I am ready to start this journey with intention

[Umit · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was one of the most straightforward and impactful self-development books I’ve read so far. It’s not a magical fix or a guide that explains everything instead it confronts you with hard truths that honestly feel like a kick in the stomach. I read it the way the author suggested, just a little bit each day, and that made the message slowly sink in. It really made me realize that no book can change you unless you’re ready to do the work yourself.

If you truly take the time to reflect and practise what’s written, it can change the way you think and act, even helping you break habits you’ve been running on autopilot for years. I also loved how raw and direct the writing style was. The strong language and no-nonsense tone made it feel real and urgent, not soft or sugar-coated like many self-help books. For me, this was an easy five stars a genuine eye-opener.

[Glad · Rating 5 out of 5]

Against the author’s wishes I whizzed through this, not because it was easy or packed with shit I’d already heard but because the conversations it started. I loved the no-frills approach he took in addressing and accepting your role in your relationship. Unhealthy behaviors, finger pointing instead of sitting in your own shit and trying to figure out what you ate and why you’re still sitting there. I asked myself and my wife what felt like a million questions but it didn’t get ugly or weird, just uncomfortably meditative. Like a fun thing you can do with someone you’ve entrusted with all your trauma, baggage, and the good stuff too. Anyways, it’s well worth the read.

[Dai Jones · Rating 3 out of 5]

Clue in title i suppose

For me, a potentially good book has been ruined by too much profanity. When the “F” word is used so much that it becomes a punctuation mark any real message or information starts to get lost. There was some good stuff though and worth a read if you really need to.

[Camille Fitzgerald · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think the message of this book is excellent and I loved the psychological elements and references to fables and quotes. I don’t think I was the target audience given the stage of life and work I have done to be where I am but I still loved the authenticity and think it would be incredibly impactful for who needs to hear it.

[Claire UK · Rating 5 out of 5]

Refreshing

Wondered how this book would turn out and if it was another gimmicky read! I was pleasantly surprised at the refreshing style of self help that Chad Taylor gives. Instead of blaming others it refreshingly has the take that you should do some self work incase it’s actually you that’s the problem.

[Lindsay E · Rating 4 out of 5]

Gifted by the author 🤍 Although this didn’t fully resonate with me personally, it felt like a tough love lecture you didn’t know you needed. The writing is raw and honest and I can absolutely see how powerful it would be for the right reader.