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Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World
As surprising as it may be to parents, young people today are immersed in porn culture everywhere they look. Through Internet porn, gaming, social media, marketing, and advertising, kids today have a much broader view of social and sexual possibilities, which makes it difficult for them to establish appropriate expectations or to feel adequate in their own sexuality.
Even more important, no one is talking to kids directly about the problem. Parents tend to convince themselves that their children are immune to cultural influences, wait until it comes up, or hope schools and pediatricians will address the issues. Educators and doctors may be able to start the conversation but it is fundamentally a parent’s job to provide information about sex and relationships early and often to help young people find their way through their social and sexual lives. Delaying the necessary but awkward conversations with their kids leaves them vulnerable. The media, marketers, and porn and gaming industries are eager to step in anywhere parents choose to hold back.
Sexploitation exposes the truth to parents, kids, educators, and the medical profession about the seen and unseen influences affecting children, inspiring parents to take the role as the primary sexuality educator. With more information, parents will gain conviction to discuss and develop values, expectations, boundaries, and rules with their kids. Kids who enter their teens with accurate information and truths stand a better chance of developing an “inner compass” when it comes to sex and relationships, which sets them up for a healthy adulthood.
In her comic and straightforward style, Pierce brings together the latest research with anecdotal stories shared with her by high school and college students in the thick of it. Above all else, her goal is to get people to develop more comfort around those difficult conversations so that kids gain more confidence and courage about drawing boundaries based on their own values not those put upon them.
Even more important, no one is talking to kids directly about the problem. Parents tend to convince themselves that their children are immune to cultural influences, wait until it comes up, or hope schools and pediatricians will address the issues. Educators and doctors may be able to start the conversation but it is fundamentally a parent’s job to provide information about sex and relationships early and often to help young people find their way through their social and sexual lives. Delaying the necessary but awkward conversations with their kids leaves them vulnerable. The media, marketers, and porn and gaming industries are eager to step in anywhere parents choose to hold back.
Sexploitation exposes the truth to parents, kids, educators, and the medical profession about the seen and unseen influences affecting children, inspiring parents to take the role as the primary sexuality educator. With more information, parents will gain conviction to discuss and develop values, expectations, boundaries, and rules with their kids. Kids who enter their teens with accurate information and truths stand a better chance of developing an “inner compass” when it comes to sex and relationships, which sets them up for a healthy adulthood.
In her comic and straightforward style, Pierce brings together the latest research with anecdotal stories shared with her by high school and college students in the thick of it. Above all else, her goal is to get people to develop more comfort around those difficult conversations so that kids gain more confidence and courage about drawing boundaries based on their own values not those put upon them.
232 pages, Paperback
First published October 13, 2015
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About the author
Cindy Pierce
9 books12 followersCindy Pierce is a leading social sexuality educator and comic storyteller who has been performing her one-woman comedic show and providing educational program around healthy sexual behavior and choices since 2004. Combining humor and research, she enlightens people about the choices and obstacles confronted in today’s media-driven world. As the youngest of 7 children, Cindy grew up seeing a lot! As an athlete on co-ed teams, she found herself having dual citizenship, accepted and “in” with both boys and girls. A self-proclaimed ‘incident magnet,’ Cindy frequently finds herself embroiled in awkward or embarrassing situations—which she characteristically interprets as moments of humor and learning, from which her audiences benefit. Cindy is the author of SEXPLOITATION: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn Driven World and is co-author of Finding the Doorbell.
Cindy has been honored as one of 14 Remarkable Women of the Arts in New Hampshire magazine and a Pioneer with three others in the category. She was also recently the amateur contest winner in the Nantucket Film Festival’s Late Night Storytelling 2012 competition. The Center for Women and Gender at Dartmouth College named her a ‘Vagina Warrior’ in 2012 for her work fighting for the empowerment of women and reduction of sexual assault on college campuses. Cindy is committed to continuing to use education and humor to promote a safer, healthier, and more enjoyable understanding of sex.
She lives with her husband Bruce and their three teenage kids in Etna, N.H., near Dartmouth College, where they own and run Pierce’s Inn.
Cindy has been honored as one of 14 Remarkable Women of the Arts in New Hampshire magazine and a Pioneer with three others in the category. She was also recently the amateur contest winner in the Nantucket Film Festival’s Late Night Storytelling 2012 competition. The Center for Women and Gender at Dartmouth College named her a ‘Vagina Warrior’ in 2012 for her work fighting for the empowerment of women and reduction of sexual assault on college campuses. Cindy is committed to continuing to use education and humor to promote a safer, healthier, and more enjoyable understanding of sex.
She lives with her husband Bruce and their three teenage kids in Etna, N.H., near Dartmouth College, where they own and run Pierce’s Inn.
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February 8, 2016
Sexual health/policy/facts and sexuality is one of my areas of study, especially as they pertain to youth. I am always more than happy to discuss issues of gender, sexuality, orientation, etc, or, failing that, bring in someone who can educate me and my kids (biological and students). I consider myself fairly well read on these topics, but since I am in the grit of parenting two little beings, there is always room to improve, and sexuality is just one of the many areas I could royally screw up my kids if I am not educated. And frankly, the amount and access to pornography and more so to the values excessive sex being thrust in one's face should be troubling to all.
Firstly, this book is mistitled. The "sexploitation" moniker has very little to do with this book. I have taken many courses and workshops about preventing sexual exploitation of youth and this really isn't what this book is about.
But, this was a book full of practical suggestions. And really, very few suggestions were about developing sexuality and most were just ways to better engage with your kids and keep communication open. The first chapter could really be in any parenting book. It hit home the messages: talk with your kids, be critical consumers of media, put the electronics away, be a face-to-face family. Later, the sexuality pillars of no negative self-talk, boundaries, healthy relationships, being a role model of a person with healthy body image, etc came in. I don't understand other reviewers who find it strange to be naked in front of your kids (how would you ever bathe?) or to start talking about body parts and even reproduction from a young age (how else can you clearly tell someone to not handle her vulva while her hands are holding Havarti? Or not vilify masturbation, while making it clear that is a private act? Or explain why mom's belly is growing with a true, age appropriate, scientific answer?). Maybe my kids already have a head start in not being messed up in at least this area of life...
While this book wasn't all I was hoping for (and the editor had slacked off, leaving GLARING typos), it had LOTS of valuable information, especially for people who may be new and less open with the topic. I guess my main complaint with this book is that it didn't seem to me to recognize that our children will one day be sexual beings and that they will need to take ownership of that sexuality in the world they live in.
Firstly, this book is mistitled. The "sexploitation" moniker has very little to do with this book. I have taken many courses and workshops about preventing sexual exploitation of youth and this really isn't what this book is about.
But, this was a book full of practical suggestions. And really, very few suggestions were about developing sexuality and most were just ways to better engage with your kids and keep communication open. The first chapter could really be in any parenting book. It hit home the messages: talk with your kids, be critical consumers of media, put the electronics away, be a face-to-face family. Later, the sexuality pillars of no negative self-talk, boundaries, healthy relationships, being a role model of a person with healthy body image, etc came in. I don't understand other reviewers who find it strange to be naked in front of your kids (how would you ever bathe?) or to start talking about body parts and even reproduction from a young age (how else can you clearly tell someone to not handle her vulva while her hands are holding Havarti? Or not vilify masturbation, while making it clear that is a private act? Or explain why mom's belly is growing with a true, age appropriate, scientific answer?). Maybe my kids already have a head start in not being messed up in at least this area of life...
While this book wasn't all I was hoping for (and the editor had slacked off, leaving GLARING typos), it had LOTS of valuable information, especially for people who may be new and less open with the topic. I guess my main complaint with this book is that it didn't seem to me to recognize that our children will one day be sexual beings and that they will need to take ownership of that sexuality in the world they live in.
October 15, 2015
Sexploitation by Cindy Pierce is a highly recommended look at how the current generation of young people is influenced by the porn culture surrounding them. Teens, as well as much younger children, today have a vast amount of junk/porn grabbing for their attention via the internet and social media. The overriding problem is that in this hyper-connected age in which we live our children are often failing to establish a healthy, well-grounded view of sex and relationships.
The book has the following chapters: 1. Inner Compass; 2. Umplugging; 3. Porn Culture: 4. Sexuality Education for Young Kids; 5. Sexuality Education for Older Kids and teens; 6. Worthy Girls; 7. Empowering Girls; 8. Worthy Boys; 9. Setting Boys Free; 10. A Hookup Culture Fueled by Alcohol; 11. Moving Beyond Hookups. This is followed by a conclusion, and much to my delight, references, and an index.
Pierce points out that "Unfortunately, the number and type of influences young people are managing in the digital age make it more challenging for them to listen to their inner compass. Many young people have a hard time making the distinction between what they value and what they think they should value, based on what they see online and in social media." All of us are complicated, multidimensional beings with flaws. One of the problems is that the prevalence of social media as a way for kids to communicate with each other presents them with a bad venue for an accurate portrayal. Parents make a horrible mistake when they surrender to their kids obsession with screen time. It was pointed out that teens should think of what they "put out online as a tattoo. It is that permanent." Wise advice for everyone.
Just look at how everyone, but especially teens, looks at their phone all the time now. If one person pulls out their phone, everyone does. It has become how kids (and increasingly adults) interact with each other instead of face to face. This is a mistake of vast proportions. Social media cannot capture subtle body language, irony, joking. Small things can be blown out of proportion. Inappropriate pictures or conversations can be started and shared. Pierce points out that she and her husband have a rule that computers and phones stay downstairs and out of the kids’ rooms. It is a practice that has been recommendation by their school and many other parents also employ it.
Pierce notes that "These days, kids are constantly being reminded to avoid bystander apathy. Parents, educators, and coaches talk to them about how they should stand up to bullying, hazing, homophobia, racism, and cruelty. But it’s unrealistic to expect most kids to immediately muster the strength and risk social rejection by calling peers out. They need practice speaking up on small issues (litter, disrespectful language, meanness, intimidation) in material; order to develop the courage to stand up when the stakes are higher (sexual assault, hazing, DUI)." Isn't that the truth!
While porn is often found, and easily accessible, online, it is also in advertisements, music videos, and video games. the prevalence of pornographic images has desensitized us as a society. "Porn can be an obstacle that prevents kids from developing healthy ideas about sex for a number of reasons: while porn objectifies both men and women, most of what is viewed degrades women, reinforces role expectations, desensitizes the viewer to violent sexual behavior, creates expectations about how bodies appear and respond, and skews overall sexual expectations. Rather than trying to stop the porn industry, my aim is to material; inspire parents to have open conversations with their kids about porn."
Pierce covers information vital for parents to open up the discussion about sexuality with girls and boys. She does a nice job of discussing ways to keep communication open and how to approach the first "talk," which should be followed by many more as children grow and mature. She shares lots of research findings as well as personal stories and anecdotes while getting a vital message across.
While, as the parent of adult children, I didn't quite agree with every single thing Pierce shared, she did present some startling facts and plenty of good, practical information. This book is easy to read and well organized so the chapters flow nicely and logically from one topic to the next. It does not present any morale-based ideas or religious views that some families would also consider a vital part of any life-training talks. I'd highly recommend it.
Disclosure: My Kindle edition was courtesy of Bibliomotion for review purposes.
The book has the following chapters: 1. Inner Compass; 2. Umplugging; 3. Porn Culture: 4. Sexuality Education for Young Kids; 5. Sexuality Education for Older Kids and teens; 6. Worthy Girls; 7. Empowering Girls; 8. Worthy Boys; 9. Setting Boys Free; 10. A Hookup Culture Fueled by Alcohol; 11. Moving Beyond Hookups. This is followed by a conclusion, and much to my delight, references, and an index.
Pierce points out that "Unfortunately, the number and type of influences young people are managing in the digital age make it more challenging for them to listen to their inner compass. Many young people have a hard time making the distinction between what they value and what they think they should value, based on what they see online and in social media." All of us are complicated, multidimensional beings with flaws. One of the problems is that the prevalence of social media as a way for kids to communicate with each other presents them with a bad venue for an accurate portrayal. Parents make a horrible mistake when they surrender to their kids obsession with screen time. It was pointed out that teens should think of what they "put out online as a tattoo. It is that permanent." Wise advice for everyone.
Just look at how everyone, but especially teens, looks at their phone all the time now. If one person pulls out their phone, everyone does. It has become how kids (and increasingly adults) interact with each other instead of face to face. This is a mistake of vast proportions. Social media cannot capture subtle body language, irony, joking. Small things can be blown out of proportion. Inappropriate pictures or conversations can be started and shared. Pierce points out that she and her husband have a rule that computers and phones stay downstairs and out of the kids’ rooms. It is a practice that has been recommendation by their school and many other parents also employ it.
Pierce notes that "These days, kids are constantly being reminded to avoid bystander apathy. Parents, educators, and coaches talk to them about how they should stand up to bullying, hazing, homophobia, racism, and cruelty. But it’s unrealistic to expect most kids to immediately muster the strength and risk social rejection by calling peers out. They need practice speaking up on small issues (litter, disrespectful language, meanness, intimidation) in material; order to develop the courage to stand up when the stakes are higher (sexual assault, hazing, DUI)." Isn't that the truth!
While porn is often found, and easily accessible, online, it is also in advertisements, music videos, and video games. the prevalence of pornographic images has desensitized us as a society. "Porn can be an obstacle that prevents kids from developing healthy ideas about sex for a number of reasons: while porn objectifies both men and women, most of what is viewed degrades women, reinforces role expectations, desensitizes the viewer to violent sexual behavior, creates expectations about how bodies appear and respond, and skews overall sexual expectations. Rather than trying to stop the porn industry, my aim is to material; inspire parents to have open conversations with their kids about porn."
Pierce covers information vital for parents to open up the discussion about sexuality with girls and boys. She does a nice job of discussing ways to keep communication open and how to approach the first "talk," which should be followed by many more as children grow and mature. She shares lots of research findings as well as personal stories and anecdotes while getting a vital message across.
While, as the parent of adult children, I didn't quite agree with every single thing Pierce shared, she did present some startling facts and plenty of good, practical information. This book is easy to read and well organized so the chapters flow nicely and logically from one topic to the next. It does not present any morale-based ideas or religious views that some families would also consider a vital part of any life-training talks. I'd highly recommend it.
Disclosure: My Kindle edition was courtesy of Bibliomotion for review purposes.
August 26, 2023
Important read for parents and for educators. If conversations around sexuality are new to you, this book eases you in and gives critical pointers. Obviously, everyone has a different teaching and parenting style, but this offers a progressive approach with the goal of producing well-rounded adolescents.
July 30, 2015
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Of all the parenting books I've read in the past few years (and there have been quite a few), this book has been, by far, the most eye-opening and informative. Written from the perspective (and experience) of a lecturer, educator, and especially mother, author Pierce challenges what parents currently know about sexuality, how they address it with their children of all ages (toddler to adult), and especially how the accessibility and pervasiveness of internet porn has changed our 'norms' about how we (and they) approach sex and relationships. You wouldn't expect there to be that much that could be said on the topic - but I was quite impressed with the expansiveness of the book and the modern parenting information provided within. The tone is friendly and this is a very easy read at 250 pages.The book breaks down as follows: 1 Inner Compass, 2 Umplugging, 3 Porn Culture, 4 Sexuality Education for Young Kids, 5 Sexuality Education for Older Kids and teens, 6 Worthy Girls, 7 Empowering Girls, 8 Worthy Boys, 9 Setting Boys Free, 10 A Hookup Culture Fueled by Alcohol, 11 Moving Beyond Hookups, Conclusion, References, Index, Acknowledgements.
Beyond the surprising amount of 'wow' moments within the book, there is a comprehensive list of references for taking the topics further. It means that parents have places to go when the book is finished to continue their own education or to help with specific situations (e.g., how to broach sexuality questions with toddlers or deal with alcoholism or self esteem issues). The book smartly doesn't attempt to be a one-size-fits-all and instead provides a basis for understanding but also pairs that with where to go after the book.
There was so much I learned - it would be impossible to list all the 'aha' moments here here but I had very interesting discussions with my husband about our own views on sexuality as well as how we approach discussing them with our daughter after reading the book. Since frank discussions with children about sexuality should be done over a stretch of years, I was most surprised to discover that starting at the toddler years/first grade smooths the way for the more detailed discussions by puberty and then the teen years. As such, this is a good book for parents of children from 6-26 years of age.
The book really isn't about dos and don'ts - nor is it a cautionary tale. Author Pierce is frank, honest, and doesn't mince words. Studies are cited but she also draws upon years of discussions with kids and as a mother of several teens herself. So although she doesn't have a doctorate in psychiatry, what she does have is a lot of practical information from someone actually 'in the trenches'. And although the book is primarily about how the porn industry has changed how we approach sexuality, there is a lot more meat to the book than just that. From the casual hook-up society to a bit about helicopter parenting.
Because I learned so much from the book, it's one I highly recommend. The internet has changed so much about how our children are growing up that it really is a whole new world out there. With Sexploitation, we have a book with practical and down-to-earth advice and information to pave the way for our kids to have healthy and happy relationships through the teen years and beyond. Reviewed from an advance reader copy provided by the publisher.
May 27, 2019
I was tempted to go down to 2 stars, but I'll give it three because it is generally full of (mostly) generally good advice for parenting. That's is part of what annoys me, the title implies this book is going to be focused on sexuality, and while there was sexual content, there was a literal truck load of other general parenting advice that only vaguely (if at all) related to sexuality, and most of it, in my opinion, not that ground breaking or insightful or written in an interesting voice. It felt like a collection of random parenting essays from a boring-ish blog, mostly fine, but nothing to get excited about.
Most of the advice is stuff I feel like we all already know ie: limit your kids screen time, too much isn't good for them, let''s talk about this for two whole chapters without any nuance or counter examples then let's not give you any actual tools for follow-through other than just saying "set a rule, and make them leave their phones "downstairs" because we all know that everyone has a downstairs and all parents are home at night with their kids because none of us work evenings or weekeneds. Also some really heavy handed chapters about how kids dress way too sexy these days, which I don't disagree with, but it for sure crossed over from concern about the ways our kids are being sexualized to for profit and into a preachy rant about kid's clothing these days (get off my lawn!). Anyway, blerg.
I just am not the biggest fan of the "everything about the internet is bad and dangerous" and "kids these days are having scary sad empty sex lives oh noooooo!!!" form or parenting advice, and in general while the author give lip service to giving your kids choices and letting them make mistakes and other things I generally agree with, I feel like the *tone* of the book was more heavily focused on how bad all the stuff is out there and how you need to protect your kids (even your vulnerable college kids), but also without a lot of specifics about how to go about doing that.
Also, there was a undercurrent of annoying "humble bragging" about the authors own children and her many rules about screens and all the things, and how her kids grumble but ultimatly love her for setting healthy boundaries and expectations. Which I guess is fine, but if you don't balance that shit out with some vulnerable painful real parenting breakdowns, you just start to come off as a smug know it all.
Most of the advice is stuff I feel like we all already know ie: limit your kids screen time, too much isn't good for them, let''s talk about this for two whole chapters without any nuance or counter examples then let's not give you any actual tools for follow-through other than just saying "set a rule, and make them leave their phones "downstairs" because we all know that everyone has a downstairs and all parents are home at night with their kids because none of us work evenings or weekeneds. Also some really heavy handed chapters about how kids dress way too sexy these days, which I don't disagree with, but it for sure crossed over from concern about the ways our kids are being sexualized to for profit and into a preachy rant about kid's clothing these days (get off my lawn!). Anyway, blerg.
I just am not the biggest fan of the "everything about the internet is bad and dangerous" and "kids these days are having scary sad empty sex lives oh noooooo!!!" form or parenting advice, and in general while the author give lip service to giving your kids choices and letting them make mistakes and other things I generally agree with, I feel like the *tone* of the book was more heavily focused on how bad all the stuff is out there and how you need to protect your kids (even your vulnerable college kids), but also without a lot of specifics about how to go about doing that.
Also, there was a undercurrent of annoying "humble bragging" about the authors own children and her many rules about screens and all the things, and how her kids grumble but ultimatly love her for setting healthy boundaries and expectations. Which I guess is fine, but if you don't balance that shit out with some vulnerable painful real parenting breakdowns, you just start to come off as a smug know it all.
June 2, 2018
I listened to this book through the audiobook. Read by a male you kinda forget that it is a female writer but no matter the gender this book offers insight on how to help a kid develop a positive healthy too at sex and human relationships.
I liked the book in the ways that it emphasized talking to children. It is an important thing to let young children know what they may encounter on things that can connect to media. From phones/TV/computers/tablets etc. these devices can produce harm. Example being porn. It is unrealistic yet some are unaware that most cannot be pornstars with huge penises ties or hair free pubic regions. Or other areas of the body that you see on the screen but then never encounter in real life. Not knowing his a kid grows up and expect his (the general note is him but I will also include females) or her partner might be urged to go to uncomfortable zones in the sexual realm.
This book also talks about body talk but I felt that the author went from all body talk with an emphasis on young females being the main concern when it comes to eating disorders. And then we get to video games (which I still don't see how much is related to a porn related world more like a techy world) brought up gun violence and school shootings. That leads way into drugs and alcohol (again not quite sure how this is related to a porn-driven world. More like a drug-centered world)
Overall the positives include the emphasis of TALKING to your children about things like sex, technology usages, relationships, and people in general. Cons, some suggestions in parenting seem to out there. One must talk to kids about all aspects of life and that includes the hard and yucky stuff because when they get it from siblings, friends, or media it might not be the accurate information.
I liked the book in the ways that it emphasized talking to children. It is an important thing to let young children know what they may encounter on things that can connect to media. From phones/TV/computers/tablets etc. these devices can produce harm. Example being porn. It is unrealistic yet some are unaware that most cannot be pornstars with huge penises ties or hair free pubic regions. Or other areas of the body that you see on the screen but then never encounter in real life. Not knowing his a kid grows up and expect his (the general note is him but I will also include females) or her partner might be urged to go to uncomfortable zones in the sexual realm.
This book also talks about body talk but I felt that the author went from all body talk with an emphasis on young females being the main concern when it comes to eating disorders. And then we get to video games (which I still don't see how much is related to a porn related world more like a techy world) brought up gun violence and school shootings. That leads way into drugs and alcohol (again not quite sure how this is related to a porn-driven world. More like a drug-centered world)
Overall the positives include the emphasis of TALKING to your children about things like sex, technology usages, relationships, and people in general. Cons, some suggestions in parenting seem to out there. One must talk to kids about all aspects of life and that includes the hard and yucky stuff because when they get it from siblings, friends, or media it might not be the accurate information.
February 17, 2016
content in many parts merits a 4 star rating
September 6, 2016
Must read for all parents.
February 16, 2019
Główny tytuł "Sexploitation" to gra słowna, którą można przetłumaczyć na język polski jako "seksowyzysk". To moje amatorskie tłumaczenie, może da się to słowo lepiej przetłumaczyć. Podtytuł tak naprawdę zdradza o czym jest ta książka. "jak pomóc dzieciom aby wykształciły zdrową seksualność w świecie zdominowanym przez pornografię".
Ta książka to poradnik dla rodziców, pedagogów w którym autorka porusza sporo tematów. Poruszę tu wybrane, według mnie najciekawsze tematy z książki. Według mojej obserwacji wynika iż w momencie kiedy dziecko dostaje do ręki smartphone uzyskuje również dostęp do pornografii. Już w wieku 10 czy 11 lat dzieci potajemnie czy to w toaletach szkolnych, czy to po lekcjach w szkole, czy to na koloniach w ukryciu przed dorosłymi konsumują pornografię. Rozwój technologiczny sprawił iż jeszcze kilkanaście lat temu dzieci miały dostęp co najwyżej do czasopism dla dorosłych i ten dostęp był w pewnym stopniu ograniczony. W dniu dzisiejszym dostępność wszelkiego rodzaju pornografii i to w postaci filmów jest nieograniczony. Okazuje się, że ten rozwój technologiczny i ułatwiony dostęp do nieograniczonej ilości twardej pornografii ma wpływ na rozwój seksualności młodych ludzi. Autorka przedstawia w książce wyniki badań które jednoznacznie świadczą o tym. Wpływ konsumpcji pornografii u młodych ludzi różnie oddziałuje na chłopców i na dziewczyny. Autorka w dość szczegółowy sposób opisuje o tych różnicach negatywnego wpływu pornografii. W przypadku dziewczyn efekty wydają się być bardziej uboczne, gdyż konsumują pornografię w o wiele mniejszym stopniu. Dla chłopców którzy w dość dużym stopniu konsumują pornografię efekty są bardziej bezpośrednie.
Bardzo cenną rzeczą w książce są porady dotyczące tego jak rozmawiać z dziećmi o seksualności, o oglądaniu pornografii o wpływie popkultury na psychikę i seksualność dzieci.
To dobra książka i dla zainteresowanych rodziców czy pedagogów na pewno jest godna polecenia.
Ta książka to poradnik dla rodziców, pedagogów w którym autorka porusza sporo tematów. Poruszę tu wybrane, według mnie najciekawsze tematy z książki. Według mojej obserwacji wynika iż w momencie kiedy dziecko dostaje do ręki smartphone uzyskuje również dostęp do pornografii. Już w wieku 10 czy 11 lat dzieci potajemnie czy to w toaletach szkolnych, czy to po lekcjach w szkole, czy to na koloniach w ukryciu przed dorosłymi konsumują pornografię. Rozwój technologiczny sprawił iż jeszcze kilkanaście lat temu dzieci miały dostęp co najwyżej do czasopism dla dorosłych i ten dostęp był w pewnym stopniu ograniczony. W dniu dzisiejszym dostępność wszelkiego rodzaju pornografii i to w postaci filmów jest nieograniczony. Okazuje się, że ten rozwój technologiczny i ułatwiony dostęp do nieograniczonej ilości twardej pornografii ma wpływ na rozwój seksualności młodych ludzi. Autorka przedstawia w książce wyniki badań które jednoznacznie świadczą o tym. Wpływ konsumpcji pornografii u młodych ludzi różnie oddziałuje na chłopców i na dziewczyny. Autorka w dość szczegółowy sposób opisuje o tych różnicach negatywnego wpływu pornografii. W przypadku dziewczyn efekty wydają się być bardziej uboczne, gdyż konsumują pornografię w o wiele mniejszym stopniu. Dla chłopców którzy w dość dużym stopniu konsumują pornografię efekty są bardziej bezpośrednie.
Bardzo cenną rzeczą w książce są porady dotyczące tego jak rozmawiać z dziećmi o seksualności, o oglądaniu pornografii o wpływie popkultury na psychikę i seksualność dzieci.
To dobra książka i dla zainteresowanych rodziców czy pedagogów na pewno jest godna polecenia.
July 4, 2025
My humble greetings to author Mrs. Cindy Peirce who has done great efforts to bring her experience, studies, lectures, sessions and research into a book to inform general masses about the sources which contribute the widely spread of Pornographic videos and what are the consequences of it in our society.
Our Kids are inevitably exposed to sensual scenes because to easily accessible internet at home and time alone. As we have also seen opening a website and a vulgar advertisement popup shows on the screen, even games like Grand Theft Auto, Assassins Creed shows lots of explicit content and hookup scenes that our children watches and these will generate excited the senses which has to be in controlled of our mind.
All of these leads to our children become slow in learning patterns, memory loss, hypertension, sluggish focus and concentration, anorexia, distraction, confused, bewildered in decision, aggressiveness, violent, unrespectful to women, senseless, irritated, addicted to alcohol and drugs, hopeless and many more.
Author showcases some facts that even I am shocked to read that in America, majorly girls and boys do intercourse from the age of 10 and watches explicit movies from the age of 6. Feminism has entirely boosted this pornography industry.
Afterall, Let's communicate, ask questions, share learning stories and schedule a disciplined time table of the day, spend lots of time with children will prepare them to deal with inevitable societal pressure, pornographic scenes and violence.
Our Kids are inevitably exposed to sensual scenes because to easily accessible internet at home and time alone. As we have also seen opening a website and a vulgar advertisement popup shows on the screen, even games like Grand Theft Auto, Assassins Creed shows lots of explicit content and hookup scenes that our children watches and these will generate excited the senses which has to be in controlled of our mind.
All of these leads to our children become slow in learning patterns, memory loss, hypertension, sluggish focus and concentration, anorexia, distraction, confused, bewildered in decision, aggressiveness, violent, unrespectful to women, senseless, irritated, addicted to alcohol and drugs, hopeless and many more.
Author showcases some facts that even I am shocked to read that in America, majorly girls and boys do intercourse from the age of 10 and watches explicit movies from the age of 6. Feminism has entirely boosted this pornography industry.
Afterall, Let's communicate, ask questions, share learning stories and schedule a disciplined time table of the day, spend lots of time with children will prepare them to deal with inevitable societal pressure, pornographic scenes and violence.
November 6, 2019
A wonderful, insightful book for all parent or anyone involved in a child's life. Cindy gives you a perspective on topics (not only sex) each child deals with growing up and our responsibility to have conversations with our kids. It is time for adults to step up and speak with kids about culture, what works and what doesn't, our experiences, our feelings, mistakes and successes and to show them and talk about what a real and true relationship looks like. Kids should not be basing love, lust, and friendship from what they hear from friends at school or on the internet and movies. We all know that these do not represent truth.
April 20, 2020
The title and subtitle of this book were a little misleading, but it did contain useful information as well as great examples of phrasing that parents can use when talking to their kids. The author also references the work of many others that I admire and respect, such as Michael Thompson (Raising Cain), Leonard Sax (Boys Adrift), Vivian Paley (You Can't Say You Can't Play) and Rosalind Wiseman (Masterminds and Wingmen); if those researchers and their work appeal to you, you may find something useful in Cindy Pierce's work as well.
September 7, 2018
Great practical advice for how to talk to our tweens/teens about porn, sex, and other online issues.
November 3, 2018
3.5
Some very good parts worth those generic chapters
Some very good parts worth those generic chapters
January 7, 2016
I received this book as a First Read. It has a nice overview of the issues that kids face that will shape their sexuality and offers tips on how to create healthy sexuality and realistic viewpoints. However, this book has some really radical and extreme ideas- starting sex education at age 5, advising parents to regularly be naked in front of their children, and telling parents to openly discuss their sex lives with their kids. I think some of the ideas can do more harm than good. This book is not for everyone but will be enjoyed more by very liberal people.
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