Strangled: A Survivor’s Plea to Men Who Look the Other Way

by Dottie Davis, Kathy Curtis

" A Survivor’s Plea To Men Who Look The Other Way” is the story of Dottie Davis, who became a police officer, was nearly murdered by one (her husband), and the messages throughout her life that told her she was less than, not to be believed, and would have to survive by her own wits if she survived at all.

She not only survived, she dug deep and found her voice; spending the rest of her career rising through the ranks, becoming a domestic violence advocate, and, ultimately, a highly-sought international speaker and trainer.

She’s unstoppable, except for one thing. She can’t put an end to domestic violence no matter how hard she tries or how successful she becomes. That’s why she’s going public with her plea to men who look the other way, to use their voices to help women stop the violence. She offers simple ways they can make a difference, but first invites them to look behind the curtain at what women face — at home, on the street, in offices, and even within law enforcement.

She believes that once men understand what’s really going on, they will no longer choose to stay silent when they’re in a situation to call it out or call for help.

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Published January 30, 2026