Forced adoption is a sensitive subject, yet one which needs airing and exploring.
I loved the writing style of this author (who was herself forcibly adopted) and the device used to tell the stories. It really draws you in. The author is a born storyteller and I think everyone will take something away from this book - not only adoptees like me although it’s particularly pertinent to us.
There were so very many feelings which resonated with me even though my adoption circumstances were different.
Things like wanting to feel valued , always wanting to fit in (rarely doing so!), being ultra sensitive to change and always striving to achieve more as I never felt I was enough. The dichotomy of feelings on every birthday, the need to be able to rely on myself alone and make compromises to fit in. It made me even more angry with the system (I’m constantly furious with it anyway!) But there’s also an underlying resilience, strength and positivity too.
In short I loved it and found it very thought provoking. Please read it - it’s an enjoyable and moving read
A substantial story that takes the reader on a fascinating investigation into how we need to understand and make sense of our start in life.
Jane's need to know her ‘origin story’ makes perfect sense. The clever way of getting the stories of her birth parents told to an interested and intrigued stranger works well. The ‘listener’ seems to work on behalf of the reader moving the telling of the stories forward in a sensitive and timely way.
Jane pieces together her origins and confronts the often brutal truth with the help of her enquiring and analytical mind.