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I Still Love You: Nine Things Troubled Kids Need from Their Parents
Therapist and family and youth specialist Michael Ungar takes readers inside of a weekly support group for families with difficult children. Using the struggles of the families and his own experiences with a troubled upbringing, Ungar lays out nine strategies for parents to help difficult children grow and flourish.
- GenresParenting
209 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 1, 2014
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February 7, 2017
I loved this book. My 13 year old daughter has had her battles with anxiety in the past couple of years. She's not a "troubled" kid by any stretch, but her anxiety causes her to lash out at the rest of the family, and I was looking for a way to make sure she still feels connected and engaged. The older my kids get, the more clear it gets that I have no idea what I'm doing in this parenting thing.
This books lays out 3 core beliefs about what children (and older) need in their lives. And then it gives the 9 things that logically follow from there. These are things that most of us understand and are stated in every parenting handbook, but the difference here, and the reason I so enjoyed this book, was the examples.
Most parenting books give examples of behaviors and possible solutions. Some will even give practice conversations. But this felt like a conversation amongst adults. I wanted to be part of this group and celebrate their milestones and grieve their problems. Because it's written this way, you see the adults involved as fallible people (because we are), and how our own experiences impact how we interact with our children.
I especially liked the parts where the parents point out their "what ifs." "Well, if we do that, she won't do this. Or she will do this." Because I do the same thing. If I don't do this, she will become more anxious/despondent/angry/sad/etc. And that would be worse than the behavior I'm seeing. His assurances to the parents in the book have assured me that I can expect the same from my daughter(s). I look forward to using the knowledge that I've gained from this book.
My only regret is that I had it as an e-book, so some of the cards with reminders/instructions aren't easily reproducible for me.
This books lays out 3 core beliefs about what children (and older) need in their lives. And then it gives the 9 things that logically follow from there. These are things that most of us understand and are stated in every parenting handbook, but the difference here, and the reason I so enjoyed this book, was the examples.
Most parenting books give examples of behaviors and possible solutions. Some will even give practice conversations. But this felt like a conversation amongst adults. I wanted to be part of this group and celebrate their milestones and grieve their problems. Because it's written this way, you see the adults involved as fallible people (because we are), and how our own experiences impact how we interact with our children.
I especially liked the parts where the parents point out their "what ifs." "Well, if we do that, she won't do this. Or she will do this." Because I do the same thing. If I don't do this, she will become more anxious/despondent/angry/sad/etc. And that would be worse than the behavior I'm seeing. His assurances to the parents in the book have assured me that I can expect the same from my daughter(s). I look forward to using the knowledge that I've gained from this book.
My only regret is that I had it as an e-book, so some of the cards with reminders/instructions aren't easily reproducible for me.
December 25, 2022
I started reading this as part of a course I was taking on Resiliency in Children. I found it interesting, and after the course, I read the book for pleasure.
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