How to Stop Setting Fires: Understanding Negligent Speech

by Brandon Isleib

It is startlingly easy to burn bridges with the things we say. The vast majority of our fires come not from malice but from negligence - being too vague to be understood, forgetting what we say when we're stressed, and so on. We all have burn marks from what somebody said to us, and knowing the fire was accidental doesn't make it hurt any less.

In this book, Brandon Isleib identifies several types of speech that set lives on fire, outlines the ways they damage relationships, and advises how to spot your communication weaknesses and solve communication issues in the middle of a conversation. Drawing on years of experience as a lawyer and author, and illustrating with biblical accounts of interpersonal communication, Brandon gets to the bottom of several speech habits you might not have known were problems but will easily spot once you know to look for them.

Would you like to stop hurting people accidentally with your words? Would you like to be a more effective teacher, parent, spouse, or friend? Would you like to resolve issues instead of leaving them hanging? This book is written to help you take control of your words, say what you mean, and stop setting the people in your life on fire.

75 pages, Kindle Edition

First published May 25, 2014