not in the mood for love

by Jade Mark Capiñanes

what does it mean to tell the same story over and over and over again? taking its title and central obsession from wong kar-wai’s film about unconsummated desire, not in the mood for love by jade mark capiñanes circles the wreckage of infidelity through varied forms: shitposts from a fictional facebook group called “pinoy kabetposting,” riffs on olivia rodrigo and taylor swift, a mock-academic paper on adultery in colonial philippines, love letters that might have been sent too late, and footnotes, one of which is so sprawling it threatens to swallow the book whole. written mostly in lowercase taglish, this darkly comic novel revisits the same questions about desire and betrayal from every angle, as if one more revision might finally get the confession right.

85 pages, Paperback

Published March 15, 2026

About the author

Jade Mark Capiñanes is a Filipino writer. He won the Don Carlos Palanca Memorial Awards for Essay twice, in 2017 and 2024. He was a fellow for novella at the 2025 UP National Writers Workshop, for poetry at the 2023 Iyas National Writers Workshop, and for creative nonfiction at the 2019 Ateneo National Writers Workshop, 2017 University of Santo Tomas National Writers Workshop, and 2016 Davao Writers Workshop.

Born and raised in Davao City, he is currently taking his MFA in Creative Writing at De La Salle University in Manila.

Reviews

[iamfictitious · Rating 5 out of 5]

kabet-posting but make it aesthetic/literary

[marga · Rating 4 out of 5]

“remember the four years we shared together. sayo yata ako nag-enroll for college e.” ended shakespeare

[Mark Alpheus · Rating 4 out of 5]

Parang chismis lang hehe, recommended

[Redg · Rating 4 out of 5]

Devoured in one sitting. Reading this feels like talking to your friend who just wants to talk through their thoughts on a situation and doesn’t want any advice. I laughed out loud many times while reading this, I relate to the feeling of crashing out over a relationship while feeling guilty for making it seem like The Worst Thing In The World when there’s literally people dying in our country.

Infidelity, like the author, is one of my favorite literary tropes. There’s a quote that I read somewhere (aka Tiktok lol) about how we gravitate to the same types of stories and tropes in hopes of healing a personal wound. I have read A LOT of books that has cheating/affairs as a major plot point and so far, I haven’t had any feelings of miraculous zen yet.

Don’t worry, this isn’t like one of those trauma dump reviews you’ve seen on Letterboxd, but I guess what I’m trying to say is after all these years I still haven’t formed a definitive, one-size-fits-all opinion on this topic and that’s why there were a lot of times this book hit home for me. I enjoyed this a lot and I think I’ll be listening to illicit affairs a whole lot in the next few days.

[Rielle · Rating 3 out of 5]

Naalala ko pa to e. Sa sobrang stalk ko yata kay Sir Jade matapos ang crossover between humor and dead frogs which is by the way my favorite piece written by him, nakita ko yata sa kung saang comment section ang link ng PDF na ito.

Hindi ko siya tipo, honest ako e. But I do remember really contemplating about that one moment, when the character confessed “Si Lacan pa talaga gusto mong i-bring up when here I am remembering my four years in college with you, soaked up in the realization na baka ikaw pa nga ang dahilan bakit nag-enroll ako sa college?!” subconsciously. I give my three stars to that line of thought alone.

Ewan, I feel like although filled of pretentiousness ang librong ito, I find comfort in knowing it retains something genuine. Na baka si Sir Jade talaga ito at kung sino mang ex niya under the empty grandeur of pop culture. I would like to see Sir Jade publish more of dead frogs in the future. I would like to fall in love, be broken up, and then release some incoherent recollection of my own heartache kahit kasalanan ko naman.

[ellie ♡ · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sabi nga ni Martin "this is cinema" Scorsese, "The most personal is the most creative," and this book is exactly that – both personal *and* creative. I getchu, wong kar-why not + other personas. I get the need to retell versions of a truth you cannot fully talk about just yet.

I'm glad this overthought novel (or more like novella/short story collection) about affairs – consummated and unconsummated – and the internal struggle that comes with it exists. I also suggest reading "how to become a filipino writer" by the same author for more context i.e., to get most of the character/settings/event/object references in the book.

Winner din ang pop and pinoy culture references sa jokes. Ang benta. 😭😭

4.5/5 (I read the extended, 2026 version)

[Mx. Andy · Rating 5 out of 5]

What the actually f. Ganda. Si Jade siguro yung absurdist na ‘di th. Dami kong tawa rito. Paborito ko yung chapters na:
1. no drivers license;
2. the best of wong kor-why not’s posts on “pinoy kabetposting” fb group #6; at
3. not in the mood for love.final

Book of quotables din ito. Mapapa-annotate ka sa commentary at meta-commentary ng anti-hero.

“…there the first thing my friend's priest friend did was offer me a bottle of san mig light, straight from the ref in their pantry. and like some stupid dostoevsky, i rationalized: if there was booze inside the church, then everything was permitted, including cheating.”

[ca daygon · Rating 4 out of 5]

read this last year. so good! (i adore sir jade's writing voice)

[the restless bookflea · Rating 4 out of 5]

Giggled a lot to finish this one. Great read!

[graffritil]

'di ko matandaan anong month ko 'to nabasa. pero alam kong nasa boarding house ako nun at patagong tumatawa

[Eron Bituin · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars

I feel like this collection was written for two things:

1. to show off
2. maybe yung author talaga yung persona sa stories

We'll never know.

[aly ♡ · Rating 3 out of 5]

"identity is tied to space, who we are depends on where we are."

[T · Rating 3 out of 5]

gusto kong sampal ng sense sa kanila pero baby bahala ka sa buhay mo ! parang chika chika sa twitter. like hay nakooo… basta charot lang sana, but we all know better

[Tris Ray · Rating 4 out of 5]

"sa sobrang inis natapon ko ang baso from mang inasal. in all fairness di nabasag, wow tibay, may little cracks lang." SISSSS😭 HSAHAHA

[Maki · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love books that is centered around filipino pop culture talaga. Yung tipong may filipino humor lang ang makakagets. Kuhang-kuha talaga ako luv the references

[Dana · Rating 3 out of 5]

pa-add po sa playlist ng Do I Wanna Know? cover by Hozier. pa-invite din po sa pinoy kabetposting fb group.

at kung sino ka man marites, go mima! gaslight girlboss gatekeep ka lang dyan. dasurv

[max · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

[Josue Mapagdalita · Rating 5 out of 5]

hahahahaha qaq0! 😭😂 5 stars ka saken 🤩

[Maejane Añasco · Rating 5 out of 5]

nung panahon namin, 18 lang kaming may kabet 😅

[jej · Rating 3 out of 5]

dami namang em dashes. ai generated siguro ‘to. kimmy