A man after Gods own heart! I get it now.
I’m going to condense it as best I can but there is simply too much to address and frankly this is a book everyone should read for themselves.
David was 17 when God chose him. When Samuel comes looking for God’s chosen, the one whom is to be anointed to be the next king, he goes to Jesse’s house. His dad Jesse, presents all his other sons EXCEPT David. He didn’t even think to include him as one of his children when he presents all his other sons. They end up having to call him in from the field where he is out tending sheep. He’s chosen and anointed then goes right back out to keep tending sheep and playing his harp for the next couple of years. David spends years in solitude, tending sheep and singing praises to God. During this time he kills a bear AND a lion to protect his sheep all while being disregarded by his family.
Fast forward a little: King Saul (the present King) starts going crazy (the spirit of the Lord departed from Saul and an evil spirit took hold of him). So he’s going mad and somebody says, you should get a musician to come play soothing music for you to calm the voices in your head. Someone else says: Jesse has a son who plays. Enter David to the service of the King. He plays and the evil spirits depart so Saul LOVES David because he brings him peace.
Then of course comes the battle with Goliath which everyone knows about.
Saul offers his daughter Michal as a prize to whomever kills Goliath but made David pay a dowry for marrying her. He required David to kill 100 Philistines (perhaps thinking David would be killed in doing so or not survive, but David does and he lives).
While serving Saul he also becomes best friends with Saul’s son Jonathan. But David starts to gain too much popularity for Saul’s liking, and feeling the people love David more than they love him (Saul) he begins to hate David and eventually sets out to kill him. But Jonathan talks him out of it (faithful friend), defending him even though David is called to be the next King, which should rightfully be Jonathans place. Jonathan is not resentful nor jealous of David, he loves him and defends him. David never once raises his hand against Saul, not even when he’s playing the harp for him and Saul starts throwing spears at him to kill him, David just runs away. Michal (Saul’s daughter and Davis wife) also loves David fully so when once again Saul decides to kill David, she warns him and has him escape from their bedroom so he can run away before they murder him. Both Jonathan and Michal are on David’s side instead of their father King Saul.
David then goes from place to place seeking refuge an eventually ends up as a cave dweller where is where he writes lots of his psalms. He is eventually joined by others (those in debt, offended or angry against Saul). So he ends up with an army of rejects and misfits. Training them and eventually traveling again. They fight and win many battles while he spends YEARS running from Saul!
Saul is eventually killed by the Philistines, which he made David slaughter 100 of to marry Michal. Jonathan is also killed. But David STILL does not become king. He spends another 7 years ruling armies and doing whatever God tells him. He doesn’t take the throne until God tells him it’s time (at age 30).
In the meantime, David has married a number of women and fathered 20 males and 1 female named in the bible, in addition to many other children with concubines also not mentioned. So, although he is the ONLY man the bible refers to as a man after Gods own heart, he also struggled with having excess passion while fighting in battles or conquering women. He did EVERYTHING whole heartedly. And his hunger of the flesh is what gets him in trouble with Bathsheba.
I used to think. How could David go from serving God and hearing from him, to ignoring him and going for Bathsheba? She was married and then, not only do they have an affair, but when she turns up pregnant, he sends her husband to the front lines so that he may be killed in battle so he can marry Bathsheba and cover up his sin. But it turns out David ALWAYS indulged in pleasures of the flesh and never tempered his sexual appetite. He most likely always failed to control his lust and when you don’t control cravings, when instead you give in and indulge, not only does it NOT satisfy the craving, but it actually increases your desire. Isn’t this something? The whole time he’s crying out to God and seeking to serve God, he’s also indulging in his flesh to the point where he loses control over his lustful desires and ends up taking another man’s wife although he himself already had plenty of wives and concubines. All because he never limited himself or exercised self-control in this area.
YET he was a man after Gods own heart, meaning he cared about the things that God cared about and had his heart set on God. The road to sin isn’t usually a sudden plunge. The road to sin is usually a very slow decline, gradual. Say if I steal this knife, I might as well steal the spoon and then I might as well take the fork and might as well throw in the dishes and cups. And before you know it, you’ve stolen the entire house when you only meant to take the knife. He didn’t set out to commit adultery and have the man killed but that’s the end result.
And God forgives him!!! He’s not free from the consequences of his sin, but he is forgiven because he genuinely repents and cries out to God. He’s so earnest in his quest to seek God, yet so human. He’s strong, able to kill lions and bears but so weak that he fails to resist being tempted by a woman. It was a slow demise that led him to fall, it was years of failing to exercise self-control that eventually led him to take what was not his to take, but even then, God sees his heart is still set on Him and his kingdom and has grace upon him.
When Nathaniel confronts David , and David responds be confessing his sin ad asking for forgiveness, God forgives David but the punishment is bad! God says David will not die (he spears him even though he is supposed to be stoned to death for adultery, not to mention murder). But David is not free from punishment and God says from that day forth, the sword shall never depart from David’s house, and what David did in private (sleeping with another man’s wife) God will have done publicly to David, and that the child is to die! And God was not kidding.
When the baby is born, David cries to God and prays and fasts pleading to God asking Him to spare the baby. But the baby dies 7 days after birth and so David washes his face, bathes and then goes to praise God. Everyone thinks he’s crazy because while the baby lived, David cried, prayed and pleaded but once the baby dies, he washes and goes to praise God. But David says, while the baby still lived, there was hope, now God has decided and the baby will not come back to me, but one day I will go to the baby and he praises God because of it. Talk about consequences!
And then his firstborn Amnon rapes his half-sister Tamar, which then causes his other son Absalom to murder his brother Amnon. And Absalom also ends sleeping with David’s wives and concubines publicly as God said would happen and Absalom also ends up usurping the throne from David. And through all this, David does not raise a hand against Absalom because of his great love for him. And when Absalom is murdered, David cries out to God in one of the most heartfelt verses in the Bible 2 Samuel 18:33 crying, “Oh my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you- Oh Absalom, my son, my son!” It’s easy to see here, David’s tender heart. This is a man who loved his son no matter how much the son had sinned against his father. Reminds me of us with God.
But God gives him Solomon from Bathsheba (David comforted her and lays with her again while they are in mourning after the baby dies). Solomon, whom God changes his named to Jedidiah, calling him a friend of God. Solomon, whom God calls to build his temple even though this was David’s great desire (to build Gods house for the Tabernacle), but God tells David no; his hands have bloodshed and Solomon’s will be free from blood. And when God asks Solomon he can have anything at all he asks for, Solomon asks for wisdom! So he could be a good ruler. He doesn’t ask for riches, nor health.
I could go on and on, there is so much I could tell you but really, you should probably just read the book for yourself because it is honestly one of the best books I have EVER experienced.