Transform Your Boundaries

by Sarri Gilman

Do you have trouble saying no without guilt? Discover how to establish boundaries to heal your mind, body, and spirit.

Have you struggled with the emotional drain of other people’s demands? Do you feel confronted by those who aggressively test your limits? Is it difficult maintaining positive relationships with those who want more than you’re willing to give? Sarri has helped thousands across the globe build and sustain internal barriers that improve their overall wellbeing. Now she’s here to show you how to use your instincts to protect yourself, listen better to your inner voice, and follow through on actions that enhance self-care.

Transform Your Boundaries is a straight-to-the-point manual referencing case studies and typical roles such as the “Workaholic” and the “Sacrificer” to identify and employ the necessary tools for mental resilience. Using Gilman’s simple examples and step-by-step process, you’ll develop the skills needed to safeguard your sanity against challengers. By following this self-affirming approach to achieving personal insight and an immovable stance, you will be empowered to live your best life.

In Transform Your Boundaries, you’ll A highly effective YES/NO compass for understanding your own boundaries and increasing your self-care resources How to reduce the “noise” around you to reach a calm state The seven boundary patterns that will help you tune in to your individual wisdom Methods to decrease stress and anxiety to clear your path towards your true purpose Easy exercises to follow, journal questions for reflection, and much, much more! Transform Your Boundaries is your guide to standing your ground against external pressures. If you like take-charge advice, solutions for gaining control, and momentous turning points, then you’ll love Sarri Gilman’s life-changing resource.

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Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Nonfiction

193 pages, Kindle Edition

First published April 5, 2014

About the author

Sarri Gilman, LMFT, has worked in private practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist since 1986. For over 20 years, she has also served in staff, leadership and advisory roles to health and human services and educational organizations. She has had the opportunity to work deeply with many people. She cares deeply about those who work in the helping professions and offers workshops and coaching for everyone from frontline case workers to executive level leaders throughout the United States. She lives in the Pacific Northwest and is also the author/founder of the Transform Your Boundaries(R) series.

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Reviews

[Leah · Rating 2 out of 5]

I really expected a lot more from this book. I've seen Sarri's YT talks and listened to her in podcasts, but the book failed to impress me. Starting even with the format, I had a hard-time adjusting to the line spacing, I was disappointed there was no Contents page and no Index. The chapters are numbered, not titled and it felt like it finished really abruptly. There was much repetition, sometimes in 4 lines you have the same thing said 2 times with pretty much the same words. The writing style is also poor - which made it very difficult for me to focus and stick to reading. It just made me realise how important it is to have an editor for your work.

Also disappointing - there was no backing of where the Modes came from and little discussion on why there was such distinction between them - especially considering the overlaps. The literature (sci psych journals) I've read on workaholism stress on the different definitions of it - and I think it's a mistake there was no definition in the book that would help me understand her perspective and who she is writing for and about.

Plenty of reflective exercises, yet lack of practical tools. I am taking very little away from this book and I think that's sad, considering my view that there's so much more to be said and developed around those concepts.

[Stephanie Kaiser · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really helpful relatable book

Great book for anyone who wants to improve well being! The end of chapters has reflective exercises you can do and the book is full of helpful definitions and tools about boundaries, self care, and managing boundaries with people Sarri calls “extreme challengers”. Will be referencing in the future. To get the most out of this book I recommend doing each of the exercises; I noticed I resisted doing them at first but once I did them I was surprised by what I found.

[Wendy Chisholm · Rating 5 out of 5]

Actionable and clear

“We take care of our feelings, our boundaries take care of us.” I wrote this quote from the book on my wall where I meditate each morning. I am enjoying putting to practice what I learned in this book.

[BJ · Rating 3 out of 5]

The author gives very helpful tools though they are coated in a flawed view of human nature.

[Sondre Aune · Rating 5 out of 5]

A lost traveller thanks you for this map

I am at a roadcross. Im 32 years old, married, and the father of four children. I live a good life.

But Im sad that I to often feel too tired to enjoy it to its fullest. The reason: my perfectionism, my lack of self-care, my lack of healthy boundaries. I have failed to see how my worketics and my quest to always improve, are ways of regulating myself thats hurtful to my self.

I saw Sarris TEDTalk. Her teaching was both humble and wise, with a clear rooting in years of practise. Its a simple teaching, even though the practise is hard and takes time. I wanted to learn more from her.

After reading the book I feel liberated. My inner voice has been calling at me for some time. It was screaming YES through the entire reading. Now its telling me to work on and use this book as a map on my journey from now on.

Thanks Sarri, for your work.

[Beth Chapman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick read long term depth

Sarri's book succinctly cuts to the essential core of boundaries-intentional decision making grounded in self care. For non therapists it is extremely relatable, a path that fits normal life and prepares them for consequences. For therapists an excellent primer for creating a discussion that is accessible to clients (and themselves). Sarri's sequential approach increases the likelihood of sustainability and success. I did not find it anecdotal, rather humanly relatable. A quick read that is purposeful....and that is self care, the core of boundaries.

[Eleni · Rating 5 out of 5]

A bit repetitive until I realised that i will need a lot of repetitions till I digest and apply the concepts described. A book I will refer back to again and again. The little stories and questions were helpful.

[Rachael Phillips · Rating 5 out of 5]

Transformative

This book has great tips on how to take care of yourself first and your loved ones after!!! It is greatly important to practice these tools to help your relationships, especially the relationship you have with yourself

[Mina · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book gives clear examples of boundary issues and ways to cope with them.

[Michele Connolly · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helped me think about the challenge of hearing my inner Yes and No, and the discomfort of saying No out loud.

[Annabel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Easy-to-grasp principles presented in plain English with “real” examples. Very helpful. The reflection exercises were very apt - turning the book from a read to a therapy exercise.

[Jojo · Rating 3 out of 5]

Makes it very clear what boundaries are really about, so for that purpose it was worth the time. Writing style becomes repetitive though so that’s why I marked it down.

[Chaitra · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book lays the groundwork for setting boundaries in all our relationships. It shows why boundary setting is a gateway to healthy relationships. It has numerous case studies. It helps the readers grow with healthy boundaries.

[Melissa Boles · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good read if you’re interested in learning how to set boundaries. I imagine this is one I will go back to again and again.

[Marcia Van Camp]

Have not read yet...just adding to my list