The incredible true story of one determined mother's perilous flight from the Nazis and the confounded Florida family that must try to manage her 40 years later. Her devoted family only wants the best for their Bubbie. Mostly they want to ensure that their matriarch’s twilight years are spent in comfort, safety, and serenity. But how do you manage an aging, immutably stubborn Holocaust survivor who has risen above the squalor of Poland’s ghettos; fled across the war-torn German wilderness; and survived the winter-ravaged Pyrenees alone on foot with three children? You probably don't.
Managing Bubbie is the heartrending, hilarious family memoir by Russel Lazega that recounts the frequently hectic, ever-exhausting trials of one Jewish family in Miami Beach as they try to oversee the care of the elderly, unmanageable Lea Lazega. As they scramble for an acceptable assisted living facility and struggle to get her medication in line, they discover the difficulties of controlling a woman who time and again eluded catastrophe by refusing to be told what to do.
A tapestry of an American family in the 1980s, Managing Bubbie also revisits the Holocaust period (and the whirlwind story of this young mother's remarkable escape) to mine the love, hope, and humor that emerged from the deepest despair. Anyone who savors a soft heart with a sharp funny bone will laugh, cry, and commiserate with the confounded family who must manage their beloved, impossible Bubbie.
Author Russel Lazega is a lawyer living in North Miami Beach, Florida. He is a columnist for the Aventura News and the author of several nonfiction publications, including Florida Motor Vehicle No-Fault Law and Practice (PIP), the nation's leading treatise on Florida car insurance law that stirred tremendous excitement throughout Florida's bustling community of insurance agents and insurance lawyers. Managing Bubbie is Lazega's first foray into creative nonfiction. When he is not writing, or chasing after a pair of fire-breathing, house-wrecking T. rexes impersonating small children, the author can be found kayaking the waterways of South Florida, venturing as far as the tide will take him from his loving, but indescribably overbearing, family.
Wonderful true story about strength during the hardest times. It shows that you have to follow your gut. This strong woman was able to get her family out of Belgium when the Nazis invaded. It's a story of resilience with humor, as well. And I can vouch that this is all true because this woman was my grandmother.
But seriously, for those interested in the holocaust memoir genre this book brings something new: a perspective that mines the hope, love, compassion and even humor that a strong human heart can find -- despite confronting the most horrific circumstances.
The memoir uses alternating chapters to meld two special stories: 1) an action-packed biographical tale of a young mother racing through Nazi-occupied Europe, surviving on her wits as she struggles to find any escape for her three children and 2) a heartwarming and even humorous Golden Girls-style story of that same that same headstrong survivor some 40-odd years later as her confounded family grapples with the question: how you manage a cantankerous old bird who time and again has escaped the unthinkable by refusing to stay in line? The answer of the book is: you probably don't.
Bubbie's thoughts on the fifth assisted living facility she was about to be thrown out of:
“It’s a concentration camp,” she’d shout, pounding her lunch tray on the table. “They’re concentrating people. Can you believe it? All day these people vait around to die—like a death camp. In Europe I ran to get out from the concentration camps, and after all that, you gonna put me there now? I’ll escape. I escaped from Hitler, I can escape from here!"
Managing Bubbie reminded me of my own bubbie. She fled the old country to get away from the Nazis. She settled in NY, married and raised 4 children. When I'd see her i'd get the same "i vant you should..." just like Russell.
This book should be a best seller, after all it will make you laugh, make you cry and hopefully be an inspiration for you.
The depths of the human heart are fathomless. A book like this makes us realize this yet again while helping us travel in the new dimensions.
The book is a powerful memoir of a young mother braving through Nazi-occupied Europe, doing everything possible to protect her three young children from the biggest man made catastrophe in the history of mankind. On the other side, the book also pictures a stubborn Holocaust survivor who just wouldn't follow the normal while continuing her life in the assisted living facility.
Full of struggle, love, hope, sacrifice, humor, and a miracle, the book is one of the best I have read on the Holocaust.
The author's grandmother was a "true Miami Beach Jewish bubbie" who admonished the new college student author to write about her life story: something that he ignored at the time, but which would come back to haunt him ten years later.
Managing Bubbie may be the result of a direct order, but there's nothing compelling readers to pick it up - nothing but the promise of a hilarious, fun read about a cantankerous, determined, warm achiever who brought her children to a new world and raised them well.
Her name was once Lea, not 'bubbie'. Once, she came to a country her Polish parents had visited and left. Once, she changed worlds. And in Lazega's world, family interactions swirl around her outrageous statements and their equally ribald results.
Family memoirs permeate the biography and autobiography markets. There are Jewish brunches galore; there are much-celebrated, fun family characters who enjoy the limelight on the written page as much as they did at the head of the family table. They will live forever in the former position - as does Bubbie, here, in Managing Bubbie.
Conversations between Bubbie and family members are juxtaposed with biographical reviews of her life events and create an especially satisfying story line that moves neatly between the two approaches and rounds out events with personal perspective: something many stories fail to achieve in their drive to choose one approach (third-person story-telling) over another (first-person experience).
From imprisonment to freedom, the rise of fascism in Europe and a great escape, Bubbie's life is always the center of action and activity, offering trials, challenges, hope, and keen, penetrating observations.
Any who want to be moved by their biographical reading; to feel part of a family circle and part of past and present Jewish worlds abroad and in America, will find Managing Bubbie a powerful read.
Managing Bubbie by Russel Lazega is a heartwarming and hysterical memoir of his “Bubbie,” Lea Lazega. Intermixed with a narrative about her harrowing journey across Europe to America during World War Two, are snippets of conversations between various family members, providing insight into the modern life of this courageous woman. As the Nazis invade countries in Europe, Lea manages to escape by the skin of her teeth with her three small children. Being Jewish at this time was difficult enough, but Lea continues to show courage in the face of adversity, finally managing to get her children out of Europe, back to America and safety.
I thoroughly enjoyed this memoir. Mr. Lazega had me from the beginning, as I am a huge Neil Simon fan. I was reminded of Brighton Beach Memoirs, a play I have directed, in the way he portrayed the scenes of his family life. Even more inspiring was Lea’s journey through war-torn Europe. I can only imagine the fear she must have felt, knowing at any moment, they could be caught and sent to a concentration camp. I did not want the story to end, and I wanted to know what exactly happened to Eva and Lea’s first husband. Mr. Lazega has done an impeccable job weaving together the memories and experiences of his Bubbie. I loved the addition of letters and photographs to bring even more life to the colorful members of his family. Managing Bubbie by Russel Lazega is certainly a different type of Holocaust memoir, one of hope, inspiration, and humor.
Absolutely love this book! Masterfully told with eloquence and dead on dialogue. A gripping story of a mother and her young children's' miraculous escape from the Nazi's woven together witht a story we don't often get to hear: how they ended up forty years later. Two great stories in one -- hopeful and humorous. -- suspenseful and touching. Best reaad of the year!
Managing Bubbie was a fast and very enjoyable read. It's got two layers – the story is told in alternating chapters of Bubbie Lea's old age in the United States and her impossibly hard youth, navigating nazi Europe and looking for a way to keep her family alive. The story is masterfully written – I couldn't pry myself away. And despite dealing with real hardships, it's not told in a sad way at all. On the contrary, its full of humor – especially so with the chapters about the present, but there's still plenty of it even in the chapters about war hardship. It's told in a very sober, light tone, so its an exceptional read.
I thank the publisher for giving me a free copy of the ebook through NetGalley in exchange to my honest opinion. Receiving the book for free does not affect my opinion.
Many thanks to the author for this book won through goodreads. A ladies indomitable spirit and determination to get her family to safety. The snapshots of more recent family get togethers were poignant and humorous(would have valued a family tree) and reassured us that they did make it, there were many times when things could have gone so differently, as tragically we know for many families they did. As well as Lea's courage there were many acts of mercy that helped the family to survive,which I thanked each one. Such stories need to be told,heroes grow old.
This book made laugh on minute then cry the next, over and over. This so much reminded me of what it was like to deal with my grandfather who was difficult in his old age. He too told some amazing stories.
This is really well edited and flowed smoothly. It was sort of weird to bounce back and forth between present day conversations and stories from the past, but I quickly got used to it.
I won this on Librarything, I did not promise a review.
Managing Bubbie, Russel Lazega I loved this tender story. It was a nostalgic look back for me because I am familiar with the times and places mentioned in the book. The book will charm anyone who has had the good fortune to be born in the era of bubbies and to have had someone in their life that resembled one. Sadly, my bubbie was only with me for the first 7 years of my life. My mom was one of the youngest of almost a dozen children, so I met my bubbie as she neared the end of her life. Decades later, I still recall the warmth and the special feeling I had when I was with her. With her grey braided hair crowning her head, she was the embodiment of love as she would pull me onto her lap in the front parlor or ask that I sit next to her on the daybed and choose a candy from the ever present, always filled, tin of treats in the bottom of the bureau drawer. Today, the idea of a bubbie, is almost extinct. Bubbies have had to make way for the more modern grandmother, one who doesn’t always even admit to being one, let alone being a great grandmother! The term is fast being thrown into the dustbin of history, replaced by more chic names that do not indicate age or wrinkling or their special charm! Today we have nanas, mimis, gagas and many more unusual titles that do not indicate in any way their relationship to their grandchildren. Also, mothers are older so the likelihood of even having a bubbie is diminished even further. Russel Lazega has cleverly and wittily, defied logic, by combining the horrors of his bubbie’s Holocaust experience with her present day life in America, without making it too heavy a message to bear. His bubbie is a character who possesses both humor and sternness, who can be stubborn and yet pliable; but above all, is always thinking of others, always clever, always smart and also unashamedly manipulative in order to accomplish her goals, in order to survive. This is his story of Lea Winter Lazega, his bubbie. His prose has a light touch which will sometimes make you smile at the antics of this old fashioned, determined woman who seems to be preoccupied by the effort to find him a spouse, and sometimes he will make you feel solemn as you read about the life she had in Europe, about how in the face of the worst possible consequences, she never gave in, never lost hope, and thus, survived and managed to carry others along with her, in that effort. She had courage and fortitude. Largely on her own, and without an education, she was able to lift herself up and make a better life for her family in America. Going back and forth in time, he contrasts her life as she tried to escape from the clutches of Hitler and his followers, with her future, the life she made for herself in America. One thing that the book proves for certain to me, is that the absence of a bubbie in the lives of today’s young children will leave its mark, or perhaps its absence will leave a hole, an emptiness that can be filled by no other. A bubbie is a person who selflessly loves whole-heartedly those that she feels responsible for, and she surely helps to shape the future of those with whom she interacts. Hail to the bubbies, may they defy reason and continue to shine in the lives of others!
This is a book about the life of the author's Jewish grandmother, written after being badgered by her to do so. But what a life she had experienced.
Lea, known affectionately as Bubbie, was living in Belgium at the start of World War 2. She and her family had to flee the onslaught of the German armies westward through France into Spain and, from there, try to get passage to the United States and safety. Through luck, hiding, and sheer, unbelievable guts that few could muster, she makes it. The chapters jump between modern day and her cantankerous attitudes to her World War 2 recollections and injects a bit of humor in its recollections. One might think this almost inappropriate considering her Jewish background and the holocaust, but, on a personal level, she beat it and I think this plays a roll. And it is, in a very real way, rather refreshing in that it is so different.
It might be best described by the author on page 202 when he quoted Bubbie: " 'You know, in France they used to kill people mit a guillotine,' Bubbie adds. 'Whoosh, off mit the head! But I guess vhen I vas there during the var that vas too much vork so they just shot everybody or gave them to the Germans to shoot. The Russians shot everybody, too, but they ver better than the Germans. Oy, such a terrible ting - you can't imagine.'
Then, it suddenly hits me - this is the world she left behind - a place where killing was an art, where people prayed to be rescued by Bolsheviks. But though she recalls those days with sadness, strangely there's really not a hint of bitterness. It's more like a glowing sense of accomplishment - like deep down she's quelled by the knowledge that survival is sweet satisfaction."
I cannot imagine knowing some six million of my faith being senselessly slaughtered and not being bitter, but I can understand the sense of accomplishment as she did more than just run and hide. She was one very brave and gutsy mama. Read this fabulous book and see.
I will conclude this inadequate review with the book's farewell. It describes President Ronald Reagan's (Who Bubbie claims to be related to) speech at a war memorial in Europe. He said: "'We're here to mark that day in history when the Allied peoples joined in battle to reclaim this continent to liberty. For four long years [six, actually], much of Europe had been under a terrible shadow. Free nations had fallen, Jews cried out in the camps, millions cried out for liberation. Europe was enslaved, and the world prayed for its rescue. Here the Allies stood and fought against tyranny in a giant undertaking unparalleled in human history.'"
"With a tearful eye and a broken smile, she answers her kindred president, 'Oy, Brother, you don't know the half of it!'" (p. 221)
Managing Bubbie is a poignant memoir of the strength of family and individuals from a time long past. A time of struggle, tragedy, love, and hope. Surviving the Holocaust, poverty, war and crossing the Pyrenees during the winter with three children and finding her way to the US – this woman is formidable! Throughout the years of hearing about Bubbies life, her family now faces the decision of how to care for her in her elderly years and provide her with the comfort and peace she deserves while maintaining their own lives.
Russel Lazega weaves the tale of his Bubbie, Lea Lazega. Bubbie has never been a woman to take instruction well, rather she is a force to be reckoned with and she is not accommodating!
Lazega’s tale of Bubbie wrenches emotions from the listener leaving them laughing, crying and sitting in awe of this amazing woman’s journey through life. Entertaining as it is, it is also a testament to how far away we, as a society, have moved from our elderly and our lack of strength as an individual and as a family.
I enjoyed this book very much as it reminded me of my great-grandparents, grandparents and my parents – their stories and my lack of any. The multi-cast performance was enjoyable and well done. It is not an audiobook one can listen to and then jump into something else, this is one of those rare books that make you FEEL!
Production quality was good and there were no issues.
Managing Bubbie by Russel Lazega was much more enjoyable and rewarding than I expected. I assumed it would be another sweet, loving memoir of one's family and it is certainly that, but it is also much more. Lazega tells the story of his grandmother, who he calls Bubbie, who managed to escape persecution and death for herself and her children during World War II by sheer will, determination, and strength. The book alternates between telling the story of Bubbie's difficult and dangerous escape and amusing vignettes of Bubbie after her escape. The mood and the tone shift from harrowing to hilarious and it is very effective. The result is a rewarding journey into the life a common, everyday woman who is in reality a hero. Bubbie's insight into life offers advice that we would all be wise to follow. This is one that I highly recommend.
This book is absolutely astounding! I'm on my second time through now and learning more details I somehow missed the first time.
I can say whether you're the type who likes a good, engaging read or one who prefers to listen to his books (I also have the audio book for the car - the voices are amazing), I believe you'll find this journey through the life and struggles of one Jewish grandmother highly interesting & provocative.
I'd highly recommend this book and especially gifting it to others; most of my friends and relatives are now grateful to better understand the significance of this period in history.
A heartwarming memoir about the life of the author’s grandmother and her never ending strength. Lea and her three children traveled from Belgium across Europe, hiding from the Nazis as she did everything in her power to keep them safe. Against all odds, Lea faced dangers and insurmountable odds as she traveled through France and Spain, finally reaching America. She never gives up is willing to face any obstacle that comes her way.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book which I received from Goodreads in exchange for an honest review. Alternating between Lea’s younger years and the 1980’s , the story is laced with humor, family relationships, and love. Highly recommended!
This book took me along time to read for such a short book. I think because the flashback every other chapter was distracting. I think the Grandmother's story of moving from country to country to escape the Nazis was the best part of the book, would have liked to read more of that but perhaps that was all the Grandson knew of the story. The latter part of her life was actually more personal reminiscence of the wonderful, eccentric family of survivors and their children and grandchildren.
This book was entered and was a FINALIST in The Wishing Shelf Book Awards. This is what our readers thought:
Title: Managing Bubbie Author: Russel Lazega Star Rating: 5 Stars Number of Readers: 18 Stats Editing: 8/10 Style: 9/10 Content: 10/10 Cover: 7/10 Of the 18 readers: 18 would read another book by this author. 12 thought the cover was good or excellent. 8 felt the language was the best part of the book. 18 thought it was an inspirational story.
Readers’ Comments ‘Very moving and very enjoyable. Sad in parts; thoroughly enjoyable.’ Female reader, aged 44 ‘A winning story in every way. Loved it!’ Male reader, aged 56 This novel perfectly shows how hard a family can work to – make a family work. Just finished and I’m feeling inspired. I wish every book left me feeling this way.’ Female reader, aged 44 ‘Horrifying what the grandmother went through but the story is sprinkled with humour. The writing style is light but descriptive, perfect for a book of this nature. Very funny too.’ Male reader, aged 67
‘An intensely inspiring story. A FINALIST and highly recommended.’ The Wishing Shelf Book Awards
CATCHY QUOTE ‘Superbly crafted storytelling. It’s almost impossible not to enjoy it!’ A ‘Wishing Shelf’ Book Review
REVIEW I very much enjoy ‘listening’ to books, particularly in my car on a long, boring motorway. I also happen to enjoy a good ‘family saga’. So this little gem from the pen of Russel Lazega seemed perfect for me. And, you know what, it was! I was driving from Cardiff to London (and back) on the M4 (the most boring motorway in the world) when I plugged in my iPod, set my speed to 67mph and pressed played. What followed was the delightful story of a woman’s life. And what a life it was! From living in Poland’s ghettos, surviving the holocaust and fleeing across a war-torn Europe to living in America in the 1980s, this is an amazing story. It is a story of ‘moments’ as we get to enjoy the ups and downs of her family as they try to ‘manage’ this wonderful - although a little stubborn - woman. Personally, I always enjoy a book the most. The feel of the paper. The smell. But, I must say, this audio book might just have changed my mind. This is a good as it gets, with the talents of Tony and Golden Globe winner Linda Lavin, The Love Boat's Gavin Macleod, Tony and Emmy nominated Lainie Kazan, The Nanny's Renée Taylor, Grammy nominated Judy Tenuta and many more. I see from Amazon that this is an independently published book. How the author organised such an array of talent for his book, is beyond amazing! But I congratulate him whole heartedly. I thoroughly recommend this book – in any format – to anybody who is interested in World War Two and the holocaust. Also, anybody who simply enjoys the ups and downs of family life will find this to be a gem. Enjoy! A ‘Wishing Shelf’ Book Review www.thewsa.co.uk
I have read many books about WWII, but none of them have been like this one. While reading, the same word kept popping up in my head courageous and that is the fundamental of this story how one woman's courageousness never succumbed no matter how atrocious her life became. Russel Lazega the author is her grandson, he calls her Bubbie which is Jewish for grandmother yet her given name is Lea. This is a woman who was born with a great inner strength she fought off the Nazi’s and at 80 is still going strong doing anything she pleases by taking buses and trains all over town.
"They say, "a picture is worth a thousand words." Maybe when you've lived such a horrific and wonderful life it's worth a lot more-like the marvel of knowing that one glimpse can make you cry when you need to remember or make you smile while you need to forget."
The book jumps back and forth between the summer of 1987 during holiday brunch with the whole family attending the other half of the story begins in 1911 with the birth of a baby girl named Lea. Her strife started early in life she but Lea always pushed onward always confident and assertive. The prose is nicely written. Therefore, you never get confused jumping around through different eras. During the holiday brunch, I laughed so hard at times my sides started to hurt. It is a blast to listen in to someone else's family gathering, especially with the elderly Jewish ladies arguing over game shows. Managing Bubbie is a captivating book. You will laugh, you will cry, most of all you will cheer on Lea as she and her children fight for safety. In addition to this, I realized that if Lea could do all that she did in those horrid conditions why am I not out doing more for this world? Yes, I do have multiple health conditions that make everyday life very hard to get through, but if Lea can beat the Nazis I can be able to do something admirable with my life.
"Then, it suddenly hits me-this is the world she left behind-a place where killing was an art, and people prayed to be rescued by Bolsheviks. But though she recalls those days with sadness, strangely there's really not a hint of bitterness. It's more like a glowing sense of accomplishment-like deep down she's quelled by the knowledge that survival is sweet satisfaction."
What I took away from this book is that being courageous can inspire others like this book inspired me. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. Thank you, Lea, for giving me a new outlook on life. Who needs a therapist when you have a book like this.
"Thank you, Netgalley, for allowing me to give this honest review"
Wonderfully written. The depth of affection Mr. Lazega obviously had for his “Bubbie” was palpable and is the driving force behind this terrific memoir, which is actually two books in one.
The first book is an exciting tale of surviving the most horrific regime of the 20th Century by an incredibly strong woman. Her courage in the face of true evil is inspiring. The second book is the humorous and heartwarming tale of how her family tried to do what the Nazis couldn't – control her. At the end of the day though it doesn't matter, both tales are immensely entertaining and I cannot recommend this book highly enough.
I really enjoyed this book. Mr. Russel Lazega gives an accurate account of the hard days in the 1980's when his family came together to attempt freedom. There is compassion, courage and even at times some funny times that emerged during the days of the Holocaust.
Bubbie, along with her family, got out of the Polish ghetto by refusing to follow orders. She is the matriarch of the family willing to make sacrifices for all of her children and family. She is a survivor.
This book is also a winner that I received from Good Reads First Reads Giveaway. You will love this book as I did.
A quick and easy read. I agree with the comments I read that this would make a great movie. A very dramatic escape story mixed with touching and humorous screenplay-style flash forwards. I would look forward to seeing it in theaters. It had just right mix of humor, drama and history. I highly recommend this book.
A really great memoir told by his "Bubbie" (grandmother in Yiddish). What a great life filled w/sorrow and happiness.
Told alternately in the past and present the stories she told her grandson Russel were fun and unbelievably sad at the same time. The present stories were hysterical and typical Jewish.
Not usually a big fan of war-era books but this one was recommended and turned out to be really good. I especially like the way the author is able to carry humor throughout the story. A quick and very enjoyable read.
A captivating story of survival of a family matriarch whose life mission kept everyone in the family on their toes. A unique blend of history, histrionics, and hilarity that had me riveted to the book from the moment I began reading it. A must read!
Decent and entertaining book. Not one that will keep you up at night just to finish it, but a good average read nonetheless. Read most of it on a cruise and left the book in the ships library for someone else to read.