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DK Essential Managers
Positive Thinking
Learn to challenge your thoughts, maintain positive behavior, form good relationships, and how to live a positive life.
72 pages, Paperback
First published March 3, 2003
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About the author
Susan Quilliam
83 books29 followers Who am I? Born in Liverpool, I trained in psychology, teaching and
counselling. Pretty soon, I realised that what underpinned all these
activities - and what really motivates me - is the single goal of
helping people have the best relationships they can possibly have.
So for the past 30-something years I've been doing just that through
my books!
I'm delighted to now be published in 33 countries and 24 languages,
to have sold over 1 million copies of my work, to have written the
best-selling book on Relate's publishing list (Stop Arguing Start
Talking) and to have had my writing recognised by being designated
one of the Family Planning Association's 21st Century Achievers.
I also love supporting clients to have good relationships through my
coaching services, by writing a weekly advice column for Fabulous magazine, by writing and teaching courses for the global organisation The School of Live. I am also an Ambassador for Relate Cambridge, and serve on the Advisory Board of the Sexual Advice Association and the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health of the Royal College of Medicine. In 2015 I also won Dating Expert of the Year at the UK Dating Awards.
I also know that dreams come true. Because I once said to a friend
that my dream would be to update the Joy of Sex for the 21st century.
Guess what? Eight years ago I was asked by the Joy of Sex estate to
do just that. The project was a total privilege and pleasure, the
result won Publication of the Year at the Erotic Awards 2010.
If you'd like to know what else I do; to read my qualifications,
credentials and affiliations; to ask me a question, or to discuss
working together, please do get in touch via my website
www.susanquilliam.com. I'd love to hear from you.
counselling. Pretty soon, I realised that what underpinned all these
activities - and what really motivates me - is the single goal of
helping people have the best relationships they can possibly have.
So for the past 30-something years I've been doing just that through
my books!
I'm delighted to now be published in 33 countries and 24 languages,
to have sold over 1 million copies of my work, to have written the
best-selling book on Relate's publishing list (Stop Arguing Start
Talking) and to have had my writing recognised by being designated
one of the Family Planning Association's 21st Century Achievers.
I also love supporting clients to have good relationships through my
coaching services, by writing a weekly advice column for Fabulous magazine, by writing and teaching courses for the global organisation The School of Live. I am also an Ambassador for Relate Cambridge, and serve on the Advisory Board of the Sexual Advice Association and the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health of the Royal College of Medicine. In 2015 I also won Dating Expert of the Year at the UK Dating Awards.
I also know that dreams come true. Because I once said to a friend
that my dream would be to update the Joy of Sex for the 21st century.
Guess what? Eight years ago I was asked by the Joy of Sex estate to
do just that. The project was a total privilege and pleasure, the
result won Publication of the Year at the Erotic Awards 2010.
If you'd like to know what else I do; to read my qualifications,
credentials and affiliations; to ask me a question, or to discuss
working together, please do get in touch via my website
www.susanquilliam.com. I'd love to hear from you.
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April 15, 2009
Buku psikologi populer, my favorite kind of book.
Selama ini kalo ada yang bermasalah trus curhat atau emosi, kita selalu memberi nasehat: "positif thinking aja deh." Tapi apa sih yang dimaksud positif thinking? Apa bener kita udah mempraktekkan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari kita? Nggak gampang lho berpositif thinking, secara kadang kita juga punya pembelaan: "gue juga kan manusia!"
Buku ini mencoba memberikan solusi dengan memberikan tehnik-tehnik bagaimana menjadi positif, bagaimana membangun optimisme, cara berkomunikasi yang efektif, bagaimana menjalani hidup dengan penuh percaya diri dan sesuai target kita, dan banyak hal lainnya.
Di dalam buku praktis ini diberikan contoh-contoh kasus dan bagaimana sebaiknya kita mengatasi satu masalah. Misalnya, seorang pria memecahkan vas bunga. Jika wanita bersikap menyalahkan dan menuduh pria tersebut ceroboh, maka otomatis pria tersebut akan defensif dan akhirnya hubungan mereka jadi terganggu. Tapi jika si wanita menghadapinya dengan kalem dan menganggap itu bukan masalah besar, si pria akan otomatis meminta maaf dan hubungan mereka akan tetap baik.
Tapi coba bayangin kalo anak kecil belajar nyuci piring, trus pecah, apa kira-kira yang reflek keluar dari mulut ibunya? "Aduuuhhh udah piring keberapa itu yang pecah? Kamu makan pake daon pisang aja besok!"
Trus diajarkan juga tehnik memuji diri sendiri kalo berhasil mengerjakan satu tugas dengan baik, dan kita dianjurkan untuk memberikan reward (misal beli buku, CD, bunga, makan enak, nonton bioskop) untuk diri sendiri. Bener juga ya? Siapa coba yang kepikiran seperti itu? Ada sih, tapi pasti jarang. Apalagi ibu-ibu, kalo mo nraktir beli baju buat diri sendiri pasti larinya ke baju anak-anak.
Lalu dianjurkan juga buat ibu-ibu yang super sibuk untuk menyediakan waktu buat diri sendiri. Buat nonton film kesukaan, baca buku, atau maskeran. Memang awalnya bakal feeling guilty karena merasa telah mengabaikan keluarga, tapi gak pa-pa nanti juga lewat. Dan ibu yang menghargai waktu buat dirinya sendiri akan lebih menghargai dirinya sendiri, percaya deh!
Trus apalagi ya? Buku ini dilengkapi gambar-gambar yang menarik, ada kuis tentang berapa positif sih kamu? Dan bukunya tipis jadi seperti pocket book gitu deh. Bisa dibawa-bawa buat baca di bis, or di angkot, di ojek juga boleh sih kalo mau.
Selama ini kalo ada yang bermasalah trus curhat atau emosi, kita selalu memberi nasehat: "positif thinking aja deh." Tapi apa sih yang dimaksud positif thinking? Apa bener kita udah mempraktekkan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari kita? Nggak gampang lho berpositif thinking, secara kadang kita juga punya pembelaan: "gue juga kan manusia!"
Buku ini mencoba memberikan solusi dengan memberikan tehnik-tehnik bagaimana menjadi positif, bagaimana membangun optimisme, cara berkomunikasi yang efektif, bagaimana menjalani hidup dengan penuh percaya diri dan sesuai target kita, dan banyak hal lainnya.
Di dalam buku praktis ini diberikan contoh-contoh kasus dan bagaimana sebaiknya kita mengatasi satu masalah. Misalnya, seorang pria memecahkan vas bunga. Jika wanita bersikap menyalahkan dan menuduh pria tersebut ceroboh, maka otomatis pria tersebut akan defensif dan akhirnya hubungan mereka jadi terganggu. Tapi jika si wanita menghadapinya dengan kalem dan menganggap itu bukan masalah besar, si pria akan otomatis meminta maaf dan hubungan mereka akan tetap baik.
Tapi coba bayangin kalo anak kecil belajar nyuci piring, trus pecah, apa kira-kira yang reflek keluar dari mulut ibunya? "Aduuuhhh udah piring keberapa itu yang pecah? Kamu makan pake daon pisang aja besok!"
Trus diajarkan juga tehnik memuji diri sendiri kalo berhasil mengerjakan satu tugas dengan baik, dan kita dianjurkan untuk memberikan reward (misal beli buku, CD, bunga, makan enak, nonton bioskop) untuk diri sendiri. Bener juga ya? Siapa coba yang kepikiran seperti itu? Ada sih, tapi pasti jarang. Apalagi ibu-ibu, kalo mo nraktir beli baju buat diri sendiri pasti larinya ke baju anak-anak.
Lalu dianjurkan juga buat ibu-ibu yang super sibuk untuk menyediakan waktu buat diri sendiri. Buat nonton film kesukaan, baca buku, atau maskeran. Memang awalnya bakal feeling guilty karena merasa telah mengabaikan keluarga, tapi gak pa-pa nanti juga lewat. Dan ibu yang menghargai waktu buat dirinya sendiri akan lebih menghargai dirinya sendiri, percaya deh!
Trus apalagi ya? Buku ini dilengkapi gambar-gambar yang menarik, ada kuis tentang berapa positif sih kamu? Dan bukunya tipis jadi seperti pocket book gitu deh. Bisa dibawa-bawa buat baca di bis, or di angkot, di ojek juga boleh sih kalo mau.
May 28, 2020
It's a quick read, something you can easily do after breakfast. What I loved about this book is that you start with a quiz and you end with a quiz. Through the book, you'll learn about common negative-thinking beliefs and how to overcome them.
March 17, 2021
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February 24, 2017
by Andrea Renee Cox
This is a good resource for learning to think optimistically. Lots of helpful hints and tips.
This is a good resource for learning to think optimistically. Lots of helpful hints and tips.
December 20, 2011
Simple, concise, yet full of great suggestions and ideas to help inspire and promote positive thinking. Highly recommend if don't have time to read/use a self-help workbook.
March 28, 2012
A must read!. =)
August 7, 2014
it was good
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November 18, 2017Small but mighty... great for people who are prone to bouts of depression and pessimism. in other words, melancholic people who see a glass as half empty.
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