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The Programmes You Live By: A practical guide to understanding trauma, updating old patterns, and rebuilding a safer relationship with yourself
The Programmes You Live Update 1 is a practical follow-up for readers who want to go deeper into understanding trauma, old survival patterns, and lasting self-change. It expands the original ideas with new stories, clearer explanations, and additional exercises to help you recognise the programmes shaping your reactions, relationships, and self-worth, then begin updating them with repetition, honesty, and care.
Written in plain language, this update continues the books central what was learned in pain can be relearned in safety. You will explore the Inner Child, the Older Child, and the Adult more deeply, while learning tools for boundaries, self-relationship, emotional regulation, and building a calmer, stronger life from the inside out.
Written in plain language, this update continues the books central what was learned in pain can be relearned in safety. You will explore the Inner Child, the Older Child, and the Adult more deeply, while learning tools for boundaries, self-relationship, emotional regulation, and building a calmer, stronger life from the inside out.
112 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 21, 2026
About the author
Rafal Burchard
47 booksRafal Burchard is a multidisciplinary professional with a career spanning martial arts, fire investigation, counselling, and leadership. His diverse interests have led him on a lifelong journey to explore the complexities of the mind and the factors that drive human behaviour.
Rafal holds a Master’s Degree in Sociology of Culture from Maria Curie-Skłodowska University. He has further enhanced his academic and professional credentials with a Level 5 Service for Justice qualification, a Level 5 Diploma in Leadership and Management from the Chartered Management Institute (CMI), a Diploma in Hypnotherapy, and an Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling. His commitment to professional development includes specialised training in fire investigation and various instructor qualifications from the fire service.
Rafal began his martial arts journey in 1990, studying Karate Kyokushin, where he achieved a 3rd Dan ranking. He has led numerous Karate and self-defence classes and has been giving private lessons since 2006. Throughout his martial arts career, he has participated in multiple tournaments in both Kata and Kumite, notably securing 2nd place in the Kyokushin-Kan Karate-Do "Baltic Cup" in 2005. In 2003, he established the Bushido School in Lublin, becoming the first in the region to teach Ken-Do and Free Running. Over the years, Rafal has also explored other martial arts systems, including Judo, Aikido, Shoulin Chi-Na, and Jeet Kune Do. He helped organise Violence De-escalation and Self-Defence training seminars with Rory Miller in Edinburgh, Scotland, from 2008 to 2014. Since 2008, Rafal has been developing The Elements System, with a focus on self-defence in contemporary contexts.
Throughout his career, Rafal has held various responsibilities, including emergency response, training and employee development, and conducting fire investigations. He is recognised for his ability to integrate an understanding of human behaviour into fire scene analysis, enhancing both the technical and psychological aspects of investigations.
In addition to his work in fire service, Rafal operates a private counselling and hypnotherapy practice, Free Your Mind Therapy, serving clients in Edinburgh and Galashiels since 2015. He specialises in trauma recovery, supporting survivors of abuse and domestic violence, and helping clients build their self-confidence and self-esteem.
Analytical thinking, a fact-based approach, and a deep commitment to personal and professional growth mark Rafal’s work. He is known for his ability to connect psychological insights with practical problem-solving, whether in fire investigation or therapeutic settings. Client testimonials highlight his empathy, effectiveness, and skill in fostering positive, lasting change.
Rafal holds a Master’s Degree in Sociology of Culture from Maria Curie-Skłodowska University. He has further enhanced his academic and professional credentials with a Level 5 Service for Justice qualification, a Level 5 Diploma in Leadership and Management from the Chartered Management Institute (CMI), a Diploma in Hypnotherapy, and an Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling. His commitment to professional development includes specialised training in fire investigation and various instructor qualifications from the fire service.
Rafal began his martial arts journey in 1990, studying Karate Kyokushin, where he achieved a 3rd Dan ranking. He has led numerous Karate and self-defence classes and has been giving private lessons since 2006. Throughout his martial arts career, he has participated in multiple tournaments in both Kata and Kumite, notably securing 2nd place in the Kyokushin-Kan Karate-Do "Baltic Cup" in 2005. In 2003, he established the Bushido School in Lublin, becoming the first in the region to teach Ken-Do and Free Running. Over the years, Rafal has also explored other martial arts systems, including Judo, Aikido, Shoulin Chi-Na, and Jeet Kune Do. He helped organise Violence De-escalation and Self-Defence training seminars with Rory Miller in Edinburgh, Scotland, from 2008 to 2014. Since 2008, Rafal has been developing The Elements System, with a focus on self-defence in contemporary contexts.
Throughout his career, Rafal has held various responsibilities, including emergency response, training and employee development, and conducting fire investigations. He is recognised for his ability to integrate an understanding of human behaviour into fire scene analysis, enhancing both the technical and psychological aspects of investigations.
In addition to his work in fire service, Rafal operates a private counselling and hypnotherapy practice, Free Your Mind Therapy, serving clients in Edinburgh and Galashiels since 2015. He specialises in trauma recovery, supporting survivors of abuse and domestic violence, and helping clients build their self-confidence and self-esteem.
Analytical thinking, a fact-based approach, and a deep commitment to personal and professional growth mark Rafal’s work. He is known for his ability to connect psychological insights with practical problem-solving, whether in fire investigation or therapeutic settings. Client testimonials highlight his empathy, effectiveness, and skill in fostering positive, lasting change.
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