Let's F*cking Date: The Ultimate Dating Bible for Never Settling Again

by Serena Kerrigan

A BOLD EMPOWERING DATING GUIDE FROM THE LEADING VOICE ON MODERN DATING, SERANA KERRIGAN.

Let’s F*cking Date is a confidence-first manifesto and dating bible. With hilarious and empowering dating stories and hot takes, Serena Kerrigan delivers bold, no-nonsense advice in the voice of your funniest, most empowering best friend.

From how the scarcity mindset is ruining your love life, to how to actually manifest your dream relationship, to how to move in with your partner for the first time – Serena tackles all of these questions that riddle the modern dating minefield of today, while also providing a rallying call for younger women to get out there and date better.

This book is your guide to dating better, with practical advice and empowering strategies on how to fin dthe love you deserve. With the straightforward appeal of enduring bestsellers like Why Men Love Bitches, but tailored for the modern woman, Let's F*cking Date is the ultimate dating book for every single woman today.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

344 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 24, 2026

About the author

Serena Kerrigan—known to most as SFK—is the founder of Let’s F*cking Date, which started as a digital series and turned into a bestselling card game franchise, sold-out live shows, and a global community of over a million people. She is a Duke University graduate, a Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree, and the creator and star of the Peacock series Older, Hotter, Wiser. This is her first book. She lives in New York with her mini dachshund, Pancho.

Reviews

[Erin Karczewski]

Fabulous, insightful, funny, and most importantly — relatable! As a single female in New York this really hit home and inspired me to get excited about dating. Will be sharing with all my friends!

[Ella Grace]

Not only did this book completely change the way I look at dating, it changed the way I value myself.

I’m single for the first time in years, and this book has truly become my bible. I picked it up during some of the hardest stages of my breakup, turned to it when I needed a reminder of who I was, and now I’m using it as a guide as I start dating again.

More than anything, it taught me to stop looking at dating from the perspective of whether someone else chooses me and start remembering that I am the prize. It reminded me that I am deserving of the kind of love I want, that self-worth has to come first, and that I should never have to convince someone of my value.

I have underlined, highlighted, reread, and gone back to certain pages more times than I can count. It’s so much more than a dating book, it’s a book about knowing your worth, trusting yourself, and refusing to settle for less than the love you deserve. I genuinely think every single person needs to read it.

[Talia Koren]

This is one of my favorite dating books I’ve read in years! It’s funny, packed to the brim with actionable advice and answers pretty much every dilemma you could have while dating. I love that each chapter is short and sweet - no fluff - while also digging into deeper topics that cut to the core of becoming the prize that you are. Whether you’re new to dating or just starting out, this book is an amazing guide.

[Amanda Duke]

This has been one of the best books I have ready to help with dating, your mental health in dating, and how to manage every single thing about the beginning of dating!! This is my f-ing bible and I’m going to go back and back to it for guidance. I really loved the balance of supporting and a total gut check.

[Casey M]

I DEVOURED this book and, quite frankly, I’d like to know why someone didn’t hand me this dating bible sooner. Consider me spiritually, emotionally, and mildly sexually awakened.
Serena, you put your WHOLE damn heart into this book and it shows. It’s like having the funniest, most unfiltered girlfriend sitting across from you at brunch, ordering another round and saying, “Babe… absolutely fucking not. You deserve better.”

Every page had me highlighting, laughing, nodding aggressively, and occasionally feeling personally attacked. In the best way.

This isn’t just a book about dating. It’s about standards, confidence, knowing your worth, and refusing to audition for a role in someone else’s life when you should be the fucking lead. And honestly? Carrie Bradshaw would have this book dog-eared on her nightstand while Samantha would be handing copies out at brunch.

It’s officially a BIBLE. 📖💋

Making all my girlfriends buy this immediately because if I have to watch one more woman text a man “hey stranger” after he disappeared for three weeks, I’m staging an intervention.

SFK, you deserve ALL the roses. 🌹❤️
Now excuse me while I go raise my standards and mind my own damn business.

[Sabrina]

I got an advance copy of this book before having Serena on my podcast, and I absolutely loved it. This really is the dating Bible for the modern girl. Serena leaves no stone unturned: situationships, ghosting, breadcrumbing, being the prize, building confidence and resilience, and navigating all the craziness that comes with dating today.

What I loved most is that this book shows you how to make dating fun again instead of letting it become this torturous experience that leaves you anxious, discouraged, and miserable. It’s empowering, practical, funny, and incredibly easy to read. The chapters are short and packed with insights you can actually use.

I’ve been married for 11 years and I still got so much out of this book! It’s not just about finding a relationship, it’s about how you show up, how you see yourself, and how you handle all the ups and downs along the way.

So well done, so inspiring, and such a refreshing approach to modern dating. Highly recommend!

[CeliaMarie]

As a girl who wears ambition and hustle as a shield, Let's Fucking Date held up a mirror I really needed to look into. Serena's writing is witty, relatable, and really fucking honest. Modern dating isn't for the faint of heart, but Let's Fucking Date reminds us it's also not hopeless and to find it you need to "uncross your arms and fix your face" or you're not going to find it. This book will empower you to look at the relationships in your life (including the one with yourself) differently, from a place of confidence and honesty. If you're a woman in your 20s, get a copy and share it with a friend when you're done.

[Mia Sherin]

This is a really great book if you are someone who wants super tangible dating advice that you can actually take action on. I swear I was taking active notes while reading this book because there are sooo many peals of wisdom on every page and things I want to take forward with me on my dating journey (as a 26-year-old living in NYC!!). It's super accessible and you won't feel like you're reading fluff—this book was written with the reader in mind!!

[Michelle Kim]

I first thought this was just gonna be a “put yourself out there” book, but Serena becomes your older sister in this book and reminds you who you are and how much you are worth. Such an amazing self-confidence and loving book that everyone should grab!!

[Books for The Wise]

Got this book originally for my sister and before I gave it to her I read through it a little 😂

Even as a man, I got a lot of value from it. Definitely recommend for every woman even if your already in a relationship

[Stephanie]

This book was a great perspective on dating and the raw truth of what women face. It gives a fun motivational direction on how to date with intention. I highly recommend this book.