Paul Gorry is an interdisciplinary artist, who has created successful and award winning art in many different forms. From art commissions hung in the the newly refurbished Abbey Road Studios in London, to screenplays & number 1 hit single productions.
Paul is now focussed heavily on writing, with his his debut fictional novel ‘How to bury cars’ becoming a best-seller and receiving 5 star reviews worldwide in 2023.
Paul has been writing constantly ever since and lives on a farm in England with his wife and children.
explains trauma as it changed thinking and behavior
As a survivor of childhood abuse, I liked reading this book. The writing is a bit choppy, with lots of thoughts and phrases listed, very few paragraphs. There are lots of good reflection questions. He opens with a description of how child abuse creates adaptation and makes the child (and later adult) feel different. He explains the hidden abilities that the child develops - reading people, adaptability, pattern recognition, emotional scanning, and early independence. There is discussion about how those survival traits create problems - for example, enhanced awareness creates alarm and good pattern recognition creates suspicion. I love the chapter about the feeling “is there something wrong with me?”. THe books suggests ways to rewire our strengths, regulate ourselves, and develop a more stable identity. The book ends with ways to carry forward the new/better skills and use them to advantage in your adult life. THe concepts in this book are great, but the writing is too discontinuous to make it an easy read.