How to Stop Spiralling: Break the cycle of triggers, trauma responses and self-sabotage

by Rebecca Ray

'The consequences of big trauma often show up in the smallest cracks of daily life. In how tightly we grip. In how quickly we snap. In how deeply we fear letting go.'

As children, we make choices that keep us safe in unsafe circumstances. As we grow, these learned responses start to limit us, inhibiting our ability to live the lives we crave. We may find

· Self-numbing with the use of addictive substances
· Procrastinating to avoid the anxiety of a decision
· Losing our temper with those we love
· Chasing perfectionism at the cost of completion
· People pleasing to the point of exhaustion.

Drawing on clinical insight, extensive research and her own lived experience, Dr Rebecca Ray has developed a simple four-step mental exercise to help us recognise, reframe and reset these limiting behavioural spirals, whether at work, at home, or with loved ones, colleagues or strangers.

Honest, insightful, raw and compassionate, How to Stop Spiralling is your guide to saying goodbye to the habitual chaos of trauma and welcoming a bigger, more loving, more creative way to live your life.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help

289 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 30, 2026

Reviews

[EmG ReadsDaily · Rating 5 out of 5]

Compassionate. Raw. Informative.

[Alison Tyler · Rating 5 out of 5]

Smacked in the face by reality.