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Red Flags: How to know he’s playing games with you
Learn Secrets about Men And The Dishonest Games they Play That Most Women Will Never Know Most women are very surprised when a man becomes distant, when they find out he wasn’t as interested as he seemed, or worse, when everything he said turns out to be a blatant lie. It’s time to use the secrets of the men who “play” games with women and find out - What the Red Flags are that will give him away sooner - How to find out if he sees a future with you - Why men play games with you (what are their motives?) - Two reasons why men won’t commit - The types of men who play games with you - Strategies to get him - How to force him to show his cards, how to find out the truth sooner than later - When and how to let him go, if needed. - How to test him and see if he’s willing to go the extra mile - My quick strategy to make a man commit. There are different types of men who play games with women. Not all of them are the obvious ‘player’, that’s the only type of player you can see from a mile away. No no, there are other types of men who use under the radar manipulation techniques to keep women interested, even though they see no future with her. It’s hard to date a man or be in a relationship (let alone a marriage) with a man who’s not really honest about his real feelings for you. In this book, you’ll learn what types of men play games, why they play those games, red flags to watch out for, and how to filter the true bad boys out of your life. You’ll learn how you can protect your heart from men who don’t even deserve your attention, let alone your love and devotion. I want you to understand what types of men play these games because this will help you identify them a lot sooner. Then I’ll teach you some strategies to quickly test him and turn things around. If he doesn’t respond well to those tests, at least you can be sure that he’s playing with you and it’s time to move on. I’ve been coaching women for many years now, and it frustrates me when I see how many men simply don’t respect women. They play with their hearts, their feelings, and their future. Since I’m a man myself, I know why men do what they do. I’m here to help great women like you who keep walking into the traps of the same disrespectful men. Men who play games do it with every woman they meet. If you’ve ever encountered one, it wasn’t personal; it’s just the way they are built. They don’t know any better. In my series of books, I try to uncover the truth about the man behind the game, so you’ll know what’s really going on in his mind. In this book, we’ll focus on the type of men who play games with women. These men know how to touch a woman’s hot buttons, how to make her happy, how to attract her into his trap. The problem is, because they’re not genuine, your gut feeling will start to notice the discrepancies, the little white lies, when his words don’t align with his actions. That’s when the emotional rollercoaster ride starts. Men who play games, and as you’ll see it’s not only the player type who does this, know how to hang a carrot on a stick in front of a woman. You might think this only happens to not-so-intelligent women. It doesn’t. Some of my clients have very high positions in international companies, household names, lawyers, surgeons, and so on. Yet they too fall for his games and step into his traps.
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First published April 1, 2015
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March 23, 2024
I have no idea why I read this, but I couldn’t stop!
February 6, 2024
Good. Similar to his other books
July 1, 2018
Helpful book
Full of useful advice I know as my husband of 27 years, a fireman, certainly found me a challenge! We had both been divorced. We were friends for a year and then what is now called friends with benefits. Then we didn't fall out but just didn't see each other for a year. By the time we got back together I had a job teaching in Spain and left within 3 weeks. I stayed 2 years. I stayed with him sometimes when I came to England and he visited me in Spain. When I came home, we were together from them on. This was extreme, but don't rush him!
Full of useful advice I know as my husband of 27 years, a fireman, certainly found me a challenge! We had both been divorced. We were friends for a year and then what is now called friends with benefits. Then we didn't fall out but just didn't see each other for a year. By the time we got back together I had a job teaching in Spain and left within 3 weeks. I stayed 2 years. I stayed with him sometimes when I came to England and he visited me in Spain. When I came home, we were together from them on. This was extreme, but don't rush him!
January 16, 2024
Valuable advice
EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING this author talks about is true and works. This is literally a dating bible for women. I love it!
EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING this author talks about is true and works. This is literally a dating bible for women. I love it!
July 2, 2022
Felt like this book stated the obvious. yes, certain men cannot commit. and always having your own life works - this was not news to me.
Playing hard to get was pushed a lot, which I dont agree with - but perhaps it might work if done right
Playing hard to get was pushed a lot, which I dont agree with - but perhaps it might work if done right
June 27, 2023
eye opening really
So coming into this book I was (and still am ) in a relationship where I was t sure if he was playing games with me or not . I’ll put my ego and pride aside and will admit that I was believing my best friend more than my boyfriend. She made very convincing points but that didn’t leave me with a clear answer at all , after reading this book and applying what Brian said in this book I came to see that my current boyfriend has his flaws and places he needs work on his own but the amount of security and self respect I have now is beyond what I would ever think I would get from a book . Amazing book if you feel that you need to learn something without having to have a huge book to sit down and super focus and never walk away from do this book . I am a 21 year old female and I wish I read this book when I first began to date cause I would have made a lot less mistakes and held my self at a higher level . I can go on and on about this book I absolutely loved it !
So coming into this book I was (and still am ) in a relationship where I was t sure if he was playing games with me or not . I’ll put my ego and pride aside and will admit that I was believing my best friend more than my boyfriend. She made very convincing points but that didn’t leave me with a clear answer at all , after reading this book and applying what Brian said in this book I came to see that my current boyfriend has his flaws and places he needs work on his own but the amount of security and self respect I have now is beyond what I would ever think I would get from a book . Amazing book if you feel that you need to learn something without having to have a huge book to sit down and super focus and never walk away from do this book . I am a 21 year old female and I wish I read this book when I first began to date cause I would have made a lot less mistakes and held my self at a higher level . I can go on and on about this book I absolutely loved it !
January 8, 2023
I have been binging on the Captain Heimrich books for a few weeks and found this one of the least interesting in the series from a character development perspective.
The other books present a far more complex and interesting man than this novel did. I don’t think I would have sought out additional books in the series if this was the first one that I encountered.
It was a perfectly satisfactory light read, but nothing out of the ordinary as detective stories go. Its salvation for me was the “ backstory” on the principal character’s relationship with an attractive local woman.
Captain Heimrich is a very interesting character in other Lockridge novels. This book is a fine stand-alone period mystery, but nothing out of the ordinary. The other novels seem to present a more sophisticated mind behind the cop, and also some humor that seemed missing in this book.
The other books present a far more complex and interesting man than this novel did. I don’t think I would have sought out additional books in the series if this was the first one that I encountered.
It was a perfectly satisfactory light read, but nothing out of the ordinary as detective stories go. Its salvation for me was the “ backstory” on the principal character’s relationship with an attractive local woman.
Captain Heimrich is a very interesting character in other Lockridge novels. This book is a fine stand-alone period mystery, but nothing out of the ordinary. The other novels seem to present a more sophisticated mind behind the cop, and also some humor that seemed missing in this book.
October 24, 2019
Excellent Advice and Information!
I wish I'd had this knowledge many moons ago when I first began dating. It would have saved me a significant amount of heartache. Now I find myself possibly reconnecting with an ex-fiance whom -- after 45 years I still haven't gotten over, and thinking that maybe I might succumb to some of the red flags I should have seen the first time around. The challenge is that my ex- doesn't seem to fall into any of the categories mentioned in this book. Maybe I'm missing something? No matter: if all I can get is closure, that will do. Thanks for your insights, Brian. Great stuff!
I wish I'd had this knowledge many moons ago when I first began dating. It would have saved me a significant amount of heartache. Now I find myself possibly reconnecting with an ex-fiance whom -- after 45 years I still haven't gotten over, and thinking that maybe I might succumb to some of the red flags I should have seen the first time around. The challenge is that my ex- doesn't seem to fall into any of the categories mentioned in this book. Maybe I'm missing something? No matter: if all I can get is closure, that will do. Thanks for your insights, Brian. Great stuff!
April 16, 2022
A difficult read
Although he is my new favorite author, this was the most emotionally difficult books to read but now I get what I've been doing wrong to continually attract abusive men and players. It was hard to read and felt like I was sucker-punched a few times but this book was invaluable. As an author, I'm glad I read it as well and will rethink some of my character's reactions etc. The romances you see out there where women fall in love with these types isn't romance at all. If the author is reading this review, THANK YOU for writing for us exactly what we need to hear - even when it's a hard pill to swallow at that moment.
Although he is my new favorite author, this was the most emotionally difficult books to read but now I get what I've been doing wrong to continually attract abusive men and players. It was hard to read and felt like I was sucker-punched a few times but this book was invaluable. As an author, I'm glad I read it as well and will rethink some of my character's reactions etc. The romances you see out there where women fall in love with these types isn't romance at all. If the author is reading this review, THANK YOU for writing for us exactly what we need to hear - even when it's a hard pill to swallow at that moment.
June 3, 2022
Wow trust me every girl needs to read this book once in a life time! Seriously wished I could have done it sooner edger being in a “toxic” relationship for almost two years this book really helped me to think it’s okay. And I could tell a lot of familiar things of what he did and what I did wrong. So I would say this book is so good and you need to read it once in a life time.
I have a hard time reading books that doesn’t include smut or a book written by a man but this was so easy and good, I couldn’t put it down and I will definitely give this book to my future daughter and every female in my family.
I have a hard time reading books that doesn’t include smut or a book written by a man but this was so easy and good, I couldn’t put it down and I will definitely give this book to my future daughter and every female in my family.
May 12, 2017
The guy in your life should Never be your Top Priority!
I really enjoyed this book. I seen how much I was sacrificing and trying to make things work in my own relationship, and how selfish my Ex boyfriend is, now Was.
I took the author of this books advice, and picked up new hobbies and hardly answer any texts from the Ex. Once in a blue moon and I keep it short and sweet......after all I'm super busy and he's no longer my top priority!
I really enjoyed this book. I seen how much I was sacrificing and trying to make things work in my own relationship, and how selfish my Ex boyfriend is, now Was.
I took the author of this books advice, and picked up new hobbies and hardly answer any texts from the Ex. Once in a blue moon and I keep it short and sweet......after all I'm super busy and he's no longer my top priority!
November 21, 2024
I read this because I was really bored at the airport but it was 7am so I needed something mind numbing and vaguely provocative. It’s nothing women don’t already know for the most part. Knowledge and action are two different things. Like you can intuitively know that a relationship isn’t meant to be but still work at it. I think a deep root cause within people is a lack of self esteem… we accept the love we think we deserve…
July 28, 2020
Loved this book!
You really delve into the male mind and see how they see things and as women we like to see where we make errors and Brian really makes it clear the mistakes women are repeatedly making and how to correct them & if you can’t then simply leave it be because you can’t change people
You really delve into the male mind and see how they see things and as women we like to see where we make errors and Brian really makes it clear the mistakes women are repeatedly making and how to correct them & if you can’t then simply leave it be because you can’t change people
January 3, 2025
Red flag
Would like to say thank you to the author. My daughter got me to read this book, and it opened my eyes and mind to what my now ex was doing to me. He manipulated me and kept saying he would change and never did. I blamed myself and now know that it wasn't my fault. I have moved on and am now in a better place.
Would like to say thank you to the author. My daughter got me to read this book, and it opened my eyes and mind to what my now ex was doing to me. He manipulated me and kept saying he would change and never did. I blamed myself and now know that it wasn't my fault. I have moved on and am now in a better place.
June 26, 2017
Not exactly new information if you've become well-versed in this subject, but, as an audiobook, it's pretty good. Great for women just getting "out there" to date who need to know self-respect & act on it.
November 2, 2018
Thumbs Up
Great reading and quite informative . Perfect for the woman dating in today’s society and needs a little guidance with her relationships or For the one that is In search of one.
B. Cox
Great reading and quite informative . Perfect for the woman dating in today’s society and needs a little guidance with her relationships or For the one that is In search of one.
B. Cox
March 12, 2020
Very Deep
This book will help you understand the complex games me play. I also found that the man I am seeing may possibly be genuine. Some of the suggestions in the book are a hard pill to swallow, but so truthful. Why do men have to be so complex and complicated!!
This book will help you understand the complex games me play. I also found that the man I am seeing may possibly be genuine. Some of the suggestions in the book are a hard pill to swallow, but so truthful. Why do men have to be so complex and complicated!!
May 5, 2020
Very interesting and informative
Great read with a lot of helpful information and things to look for if you are feeling that something has changed in your relationship, but you can't quite figure out why there had been a change....
Great read with a lot of helpful information and things to look for if you are feeling that something has changed in your relationship, but you can't quite figure out why there had been a change....
March 27, 2021
An enjoyable easy read
Entertaining and rather informative. I admit, I definitely had a few "Oh damn, I've dated a few of those types" moments. Short and to the point. I finished it in one sitting.
Entertaining and rather informative. I admit, I definitely had a few "Oh damn, I've dated a few of those types" moments. Short and to the point. I finished it in one sitting.
December 23, 2022
Loved it
Tons of great information that got me reassessing my standards and actions. I'm really glad I found this book and will remember quite a few words of advice in my future relationships with men.
Tons of great information that got me reassessing my standards and actions. I'm really glad I found this book and will remember quite a few words of advice in my future relationships with men.
May 16, 2023
Not much most women don’t already know
Not much an intelligent and woman with great instincts doesn’t know, but when you are in a relationship you often can’t see it.
This book is a great eye opener for those of us who think we can change a man.
Not much an intelligent and woman with great instincts doesn’t know, but when you are in a relationship you often can’t see it.
This book is a great eye opener for those of us who think we can change a man.
October 2, 2023
Very nice 👏, written by a man, exposing all the possible dirty secrets, essential knowledge.
what's better than an experienced man exposing toxic masculinity to empower women?😅🫶💖 (or whatever gender)
: a blessing 😅👏🏽
what's better than an experienced man exposing toxic masculinity to empower women?😅🫶💖 (or whatever gender)
: a blessing 😅👏🏽
October 15, 2023
Why do men play games with you?
1. Because he can
2. Because he's unsure and waiting for someone better
3. Because he's a nice guy
4. Because he doesn't respect himself or women; doesn't know what he wants
5. Because he's a wimp
6. Because he's married
1. Because he can
2. Because he's unsure and waiting for someone better
3. Because he's a nice guy
4. Because he doesn't respect himself or women; doesn't know what he wants
5. Because he's a wimp
6. Because he's married
April 5, 2024
I will never understand why men refuse to just date women they ACTUALLY like instead of wasting the time of women they could not care less about. What on earth do you gain from being such a menace to society? Jesus Christ. GET HELP.
October 18, 2025
Very Informative
I enjoyed reading this book. It doesn’t sugarcoat the stupid way men try and manipulate women. It does however give women a way to approach the men that act this way. I found it helpful.
I enjoyed reading this book. It doesn’t sugarcoat the stupid way men try and manipulate women. It does however give women a way to approach the men that act this way. I found it helpful.
March 8, 2017
Learning Tips
Great book. I have more understanding of man behavior. I have to be more mindful my worth and not settle for less. I would recommend to my daughter and girlfriends.
Great book. I have more understanding of man behavior. I have to be more mindful my worth and not settle for less. I would recommend to my daughter and girlfriends.
September 25, 2017
Good
A good book with some interesting points but not long enough!! Could have explored things in more details which would have been better value for money
A good book with some interesting points but not long enough!! Could have explored things in more details which would have been better value for money
January 28, 2018
Good reminder. Quick easy read
This isn't a bad book. Maybe just a healthy reminder that romantic relationships lie somewhere between a game and a business
This isn't a bad book. Maybe just a healthy reminder that romantic relationships lie somewhere between a game and a business
March 3, 2018
Good one
I enjoyed reading this book. 🙂enlightened to this world of men. Was awesome. Encourage the author to write more. Thank you
I enjoyed reading this book. 🙂enlightened to this world of men. Was awesome. Encourage the author to write more. Thank you
August 26, 2018
Great
This was a great read for any woman I had fun and I learned a lot from the book and I will be applying it to my real life
This was a great read for any woman I had fun and I learned a lot from the book and I will be applying it to my real life
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