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First published April 7, 2015

The story of my life & this book is a story of how unhappiness can bloom like a black flower & also how people find ways to prune it back and to gain a sense of balance. one of stability & peace and at length, wisdom. My family represented those I loved the most & the people I was most like but they were also terrifying examples of how balance could be thrown off & an otherwise regulated existence could be overwhelmed by emotional blockage or mental derangement.She spoke of feeling unprotected by her parents whose evening presence in her life often disintegrated as the intake of alcohol increased, of blaming them while attempting to understand & not condemn them. And in speaking to a small group at the bookstore, Mariel Hemingway confessed to marrying the first person who said that he would protect her against outside forces, a relationship that became unhappy & abusive.


means that she has a ticket to understanding a world of darkness, of courage, of sadness, of excitement and at times, of complete lunacy. Ernest Hemingway abandoned those who needed him, my father among them, when he killed himself but he abandoned them nay times before that as well due to ever-increasing depression.That last quote from Ernest Hemingway is of course a familiar one; it is seems a most appropriate one in the case of Mariel Hemingway & her book, Our Came The Sun. There is also another quote, one from Kierkegaard: "Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forward." Some may dismiss this book categorically but I suspect that it will be of benefit to more than a few readers.
When he left my grandmother, Hadley, shortly after my father's birth, he weighed a life of normalcy & love against a life of creative devotion. It is said that he loved Hadley more than any woman he was ever with, and in leaving her he chose to be Ernest Hemingway, Great Writer, rather than Ernest Hemingway, man, husband, father. No one can say for sure, but I imagine that he felt concerned that he couldn't have both lives.
I have made the opposite sacrifices, choosing family over career or others over myself. Have those sacrifices made me happier than they made him? We accommodate others & we assert ourselves. We forgive ourselves for our fears & we forge ahead bravely. Over the course of our lives, trapped in our lives, liberated by our lives, we become strong at the broken places.
