Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself

by Amy Ahlers, Christine Arylo

Now you can stop your self-defeating thoughts and start loving yourself and feeling more confident using bestselling authors Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers’s seven-step method to shutting down your inner mean girl.Most of us quickly recognize when others bully or disrespect us, but it’s harder to discern when we do it to ourselves. We all have the voice that whispers in our ears that we are not good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, or deserving of all we desire. Well, that voice now has a name—ladies, meet your Inner Mean Girl, the judgmental, critical, and belittling inner bully that almost every woman hears running through her mind on a daily basis, creating a constant mindset of anxiety, insecurity, and stress. But there is way to hush this toxic voice. Reform Your Inner Mean Girl introduces a universal seven-step program that helps women transform their relationships with themselves from self-sabotage to self-love and self-confidence. With a mix of play, humor, creativity, and self-inquiry, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl transforms a woman’s self-bullying thoughts, emotions, actions, and feelings, and helps her get in touch with her most powerful voice—her Inner Wisdom. By quieting our inner critics, we become aware of the hold that societal pressures have on us and recognize all the wonderful traits we do possess, leaving us feeling strong, empowered, and ready to take on the world!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Personal Development

305 pages, Kindle Edition

First published April 7, 2015

About the author

Amy Ahlers, the Wake-Up Call Coach and best-selling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves, is on a mission to wake you up to the sacred in your everyday life. After years of being a top-producing sales executive, she discovered the world of coaching in 2000 and never looked back. She is an International Certified Success Coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching, co-founder of Visionary Ignition Switch with Lissa Rankin and co-founder of Find Your Calling with Lissa Rankin and Martha Beck. Amy has been a featured expert on TV and radio shows such as ABC, FOX, CBS, The Washington Post and The Huffington Post. She lives in Oakland, CA, with her husband, daughter and rescue mutt Rocky Blue.

Reviews

[Charlotte · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 sterren
Er staan hele nuttige tips in dit boek. Ik heb veel over mezelf geleerd en ook hoe ik anders naar bepaalde dingen kan kijken. Ik heb braaf alle oefeningen uitgevoerd (want, 'Braaf meisje'), maar soms was het gewoon wat ongemakkelijk. Het is gek om je innerlijke kreng een naam te geven en ertegen te praten, dat is niet zo mijn ding, denk ik. Verder heb ik een hekel aan het woord 'compassie', en dat zat hier ook in. Is meer een dingetje waar ik last van heb dan dat het negatief is voor dit boek. Als laatste vind ik sommige dingen moeilijk te geloven, zoals dat m'n leven ineens een stuk beter zal worden als ik naar m'n intuïtie ga luisteren, ik ben meer rationeel ingesteld.
Al met al leuk om te weten hoe ik mijn innerlijke kreng moet aanpakken als ze weer eens vervelend doet. Ik heb de tips die ik kan gebruiken opgeschreven en hopelijk heb ik daar nog eens wat aan!

[Caitlin · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a bit corny, sounds like it was made for a girly magazine, but actually deals with important psychological issues in a fun way.

[Kyna · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you're tired of being mean to yourself and want to start loving yourself instead, this book is a must-read.

What's cool about this book is that the authors totally get it. They share their own stories and struggles, so you know they've been there. It's super relatable, and it made me feel like I'm not alone in dealing with my own inner mean girl.

The book is divided into seven steps, and each step is all about teaching you how to be kinder to yourself. They give you practical exercises and questions to think about, which helped me dig deep and figure out why I was being so hard on myself. It's all about understanding where that negative self-talk comes from and replacing it with self-love.

What I loved most is that this book isn't just about changing your mindset, it's about changing your whole life. It talks about relationships, work, and just living your best life. The authors talk about setting boundaries, taking care of yourself, and surrounding yourself with positive people. It's all about creating a life that's rooted in self-love and happiness.

Now, I know the book is mainly targeted at women, but honestly, anyone can benefit from it. The lessons and advice are universal, and it's all about learning to love yourself, no matter who you are.

[Kelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 for the book, 4.5 for the concepts! I saw Amy speak last month in San Francisco; it was an incredibly moving, enlightening workshop for us all. The book has a few too many trite catch phrases and code names for things, but I can see how a certain demographic would buy into that. The ideas at the core are what really interested me, and I got more out of the highlights at the session than I did from the full book. That said, if you're a woman who finds she's stressed, anxious, or fearful, is consistently holding herself back, or isn't realizing (or even acknowledging) her full potential, give this book a shot, even if you skip around to the parts that speak to you.

[Korcia · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nie neguję tej książki, zdaję sobie sprawę, że jest mnóstwo osób, którym pomogła i co najmniej równie wielu kobietom pomoże w przyszłości. Niestety mi książka nie przypadła do gustu, nudziłam się w trakcie jej czytania, nie potrafiłam się należycie skupić na treści, przez to trudno oczekiwać, żeby przyniosła ona jakikolwiek pozytywny efekty...

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[Mayya Wolterstorff · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a great book to boost self confidence and receive validation that the inner bitch isn't something that only I struggle with. It helped me realize so many different toxic thinking patterns that I had and found ways to get rid of this. I recommend this book to every woman that I come across that doesn't feel loved by herself and needs a little help. Love it!

[Renata · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lot of psycho bubble, but it's nice to remind yourself from time to time to be nicer and more forgiving toward yourself.

[shawna carter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book I didn't realize how mean I was to myself. A great for women of all ages.

[Isa Castillo · Rating 3 out of 5]

Muy de superacion personal. Y en alguans cosas acertivo.

[Laura · Rating 2 out of 5]

It was okay. Some good points, but a little to heavy on the cutesy for me.

[Alicja Górska · Rating 3 out of 5]

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Nie wiem, czego oczekiwałam po „Rozpraw się ze swoją wewnętrzną jędzą” Amy Ahlers i Christine Arylo. Że po przeczytaniu tej książki patrząc na siebie w lustrze stanę się mniej krytyczna? Że uspokoję złośliwe podszepty, które często stają się przyczyną dla niekontrolowanych wybuchów irytacji? Że otrzymam przepis na bycie idealną, spokojną i piękną? Nie wiem. Wiem, jednak, co dostałam – poradnik, który początkowo wydawał mi się kluczem do sukcesu, a ostatecznie zapisał w mojej pamięci jako bilet wstępu do czegoś na kształt sekty.

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[Yvonne V (Naughty Professora) · Rating 3 out of 5]

In "Inner Mean Girl" the authors discuss several factors that inhibit one from truly loving themselves and finding self-acceptance. The book details 7 steps / 13 personas that invade our thoughts. Nothing really surprising here, as you'll recognize self-defeating behaviors quickly. The authors goal is to help women find a way out of their "inner critic" and enhance "inner wisdom". Through a series of detailed examples and quizzes, the authors guide individuals to recognizing the self-defeating behaviors and thoughts that invade your psyche and depress emotions, behaviors, and self-perception.

While the examples and realistic and advice are sound, it didn't have the deep connection that I've had with other books of this type (The Four Agreements). I did find that I was a bit distracted with so many types. Could have been condensed for my tastes, but others not in a professional role that helps others work through many of these negative thoughts daily may need the details in each. I'm always on the look out for books that I can use within a college classroom, particularly with those that deal with factors outside of intellect/potential that impact a student's performance. While this one had some good tips, I'm not sure that it'll keep the attention of many younger adults.

*Advanced copy provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review*

[Sara · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really liked this book's message, and I thought the authors developed clever ways to address these issues. I found the middle section to be a bit overly spiritual, but there are great messages about self-compassion and self-acceptance that would be ideal for my high school readers.

[Agata · Rating 4 out of 5]

Overall it was a great read. Which girl doesn't experience the little inner bully that brings her down? It for sure helped me see things I didn't realise before. Also, it's written in a very light way making it not only a good self-help book, but also a relaxing read.

[Lacey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book! Very informative and helpful when it comes to your inner mean girl. Good quizzes to take to better learn about yourself and your inner mean girl. A must read!

[Kristen · Rating 2 out of 5]

Basically just cognitive behavioral therapy for low self-esteem, padded out with anecdotes and a sales pitch for their workshops.

[Kayla Spitsen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book! It helped me identify my "inner mean girl", and equipped me with the tools needed to stop and handle her "attacks". A great way to learn self-love.

[Liesleest · Rating 3 out of 5]

Erg Amerikaans in taalgebruik en voorbeelden, te hyper voor mijn smaak.

[Melissa]

I keep wanting to read this, but there's just too many others right now!

[Butterfly S]

Great tips