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Conversationally Speaking: WHAT to Say, WHEN to Say It, and HOW to Never Run Out of Things to say
Wish you knew how to walk up to anyone and break the ice effortlessly? Avoid awkward silences and make an instant impression?
You'll get more than that in this book: not only WHAT, WHEN, and HOW to say it, but the exact roots of WHY from human psychology and interaction.
Flowing conversation is the basis of all of our friendships and relationships, there's no getting around it. Yet sometimes it feels like we just can't connect in the depth we want without some luck on our part.
Why? Because Conversationally Speaking, most people haven't broken down the patterns of a great conversation. Specific principles get specific responses, and that's exactly what we want, isn't it?
Each phase of conversation analyzed, from beginning to end, complete with examples, so you can handle any conversation and see it to greater purpose. Every chapter is dense and packed with actionable steps that are far beyond the generic "make eye contact and ask questions" that typically passes for social and conversation development.
Here's what you'll learn:
* The best topics for icebreaking with friends, strangers, and anyone.
* The biggest aspect of effective storytelling.
* Three steps to take your conversations to depth and intimacy.
* An introduction to the most common patterns and structures of humor.
As well as:
* What a verbal mirror is and why people love it.
* Effective listening, and listening as a gateway to closeness.
* A 21 day conversation bootcamp plan for optimal development.
That promotion you want? That cutie you want to talk to? Better treatment and better friendships all around? Conversation skills are the common thread, and the most powerful tool to getting you everything you want. Most of all, conversation skills are necessary in our lives - making the choice to improve them will allow the best parts of you to shine.
Don’t hesitate to pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page!
P.S. Never run out of things to say again!
You'll get more than that in this book: not only WHAT, WHEN, and HOW to say it, but the exact roots of WHY from human psychology and interaction.
Flowing conversation is the basis of all of our friendships and relationships, there's no getting around it. Yet sometimes it feels like we just can't connect in the depth we want without some luck on our part.
Why? Because Conversationally Speaking, most people haven't broken down the patterns of a great conversation. Specific principles get specific responses, and that's exactly what we want, isn't it?
Each phase of conversation analyzed, from beginning to end, complete with examples, so you can handle any conversation and see it to greater purpose. Every chapter is dense and packed with actionable steps that are far beyond the generic "make eye contact and ask questions" that typically passes for social and conversation development.
Here's what you'll learn:
* The best topics for icebreaking with friends, strangers, and anyone.
* The biggest aspect of effective storytelling.
* Three steps to take your conversations to depth and intimacy.
* An introduction to the most common patterns and structures of humor.
As well as:
* What a verbal mirror is and why people love it.
* Effective listening, and listening as a gateway to closeness.
* A 21 day conversation bootcamp plan for optimal development.
That promotion you want? That cutie you want to talk to? Better treatment and better friendships all around? Conversation skills are the common thread, and the most powerful tool to getting you everything you want. Most of all, conversation skills are necessary in our lives - making the choice to improve them will allow the best parts of you to shine.
Don’t hesitate to pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page!
P.S. Never run out of things to say again!
116 pages, Paperback
First published February 28, 2015
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About the author
Patrick King
203 books332 followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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March 4, 2015
This was my first book from Patrick King and i must say i did enjoy reading it alot.
I have a lot of difficulty in conveying my thoughts. I am unable to form words for what i think and specially when the conversation is going. I usually am tongue tied as I am more of a person who can communicate written rather than vocal.
But the world does not function that way. In today's fast paced world communication is the key to success. Starting from what you say, when you say it and what your body language is, each aspect plays a very important role.
Patrick King does a great job in teaching us the major points that are necessary in having a good conversation.
This book tries to teach people of every nature how to tackle a situation with words.
I liked reading this book and did learn a lot of good points from it.
I have a lot of difficulty in conveying my thoughts. I am unable to form words for what i think and specially when the conversation is going. I usually am tongue tied as I am more of a person who can communicate written rather than vocal.
But the world does not function that way. In today's fast paced world communication is the key to success. Starting from what you say, when you say it and what your body language is, each aspect plays a very important role.
Patrick King does a great job in teaching us the major points that are necessary in having a good conversation.
This book tries to teach people of every nature how to tackle a situation with words.
I liked reading this book and did learn a lot of good points from it.
March 8, 2015
This book definitely helps you gain the confidence you need to keep conversation s with complete strangers. I have already used some of the steps to feel a little more comfortable making conversation in public. It also includes an informative checklist. It's definitely a great read if you are looking to keep conversation and make friends a little easier.
March 7, 2015
When it comes to meeting new people I'm pretty quiet and shy. I normally won't go up to someone and start a conversation. I think that's why when I go to things like say the PTA or scout meetings with my kids I normally sit quietly alone. It takes me awhile to get into groups of friends that have already formed a bond. I get so nervous sometimes I feel panicky. Then that just makes matters worse. I'm also single so this can make dating hard. Once I am more comfortable with someone I can have a great conversation and have no issues communicating. I was excited to read this book so it could help me some with starting conversations with strangers and keep the conversations going.
He suggest putting the conversation back on the person you are talking to. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. He suggest prompts for doing this. You should also be looking them in the eye and he mentions topics to stay away from.
This book made me think about how I start conversations or why I haven't started one with someone I wanted to. It made me prepare myself for the next time I'm in a situation like this instead of being too shy to start one or thinking I may sound stupid now I know what to do. Now I have ideas in my head how to keep the conversation going and to keep the interest of the other person.
I think one of the great things about this book is anyone can gain something from it. Wether you are have great communication and social skills, have none or are somewhere in between. All of us can learn to communicate better. It's easy to read and easy to understand!
March 4, 2015
Talk about an informative book! I have always had trouble talking to people, I've never been a really social or friendly person, mainly because I had no idea what to say to people. I can say I am really impressed by this book. It gives so many pointers and tips and I learned so much! I love how well written and easy to read this is. I definitely would suggest it to anyone who has had issues making friends, or being social in the past. This book just might change your life!
April 29, 2020
I think the only people who could benefit from this book are nine-year-olds who predictably haven't spent anytime reflecting on conversations and noticing the patterns that keep reoccurring in conversations. Every point that's laid in this book is obvious and made painful to read by this author's poor writing skills, misspellings and grammatical errors like using they're instead of their which just tells you how truly educated this author is. In fact, I take it back; no one could benefit from this book, not even nine-year-olds. Having good conversations is about knowing how to connect and how to express yourself not someone else's, if you follow someone else's rules you won't appear as genuine and you will have it in your head that you're performing which would naturally make you worse at connecting with the other person, which is the point of a conversation to begin with.
January 31, 2021
A useful guide on how to make/salvage a conversation, how to break ice and avoid uncomfortable silences, and how to maintain active in a conversation with the minimum amount of energy when you're tired. Phrases in the end of each chapter and a cheat sheet in the end of the book are helpful too. It even comes with a 21-day bootcamp that can help you bring your conversation skills to the next level. After all, practice is needed after grasping the theory.
May 9, 2020
If someone is leaning forward to you, the person you are in conversation with is comfortable and engaged with you. Most conversation have silence in it, most people will have negative views about you, even if it's not your fault. To combat this problem, take charge and always talk to the person about them.
The book offers a very good insight to the social cues of people in daily life.
The book offers a very good insight to the social cues of people in daily life.
July 27, 2023
had some good ideas overall a lot of it felt more of common knowledge than a secret id say it’s a useful book for anyone who is interested in communicating better. Language was at the perfect level high level but not confusing.
May 6, 2019
A decent book but the tools didn't stick with me
January 19, 2020
Good tips are in his book. Conversionary speaking in digital world seems interesting as it's a new topic introduced comparing with other similar books.
October 19, 2022
2.5
DECENT. That's it. It's decent. Some cool stuff, some just cliches but nothing groundbreaking
DECENT. That's it. It's decent. Some cool stuff, some just cliches but nothing groundbreaking
March 14, 2025
Horrible advice.
February 9, 2017
Very short and manageable book that many could read in a day to become potentially better conversationalist and speakers. Patrick King presents his ideas in a clear, concise manner. Aside from a few errors here and there he pinpoints aspects of our conversations that can take us to the move and back especially when talking to strangers, friends, and family members. The main take aways I got from this book is focus on the others, limit confrontation unless you begin by praising the individual, and to listen. Listening is a very important part of conversation, but we often forget this and because of it we may leave the conversation providing lackluster opportunities for both parties.
And better yet, Patrick King provides a 21 day boot camp like plan at the end of the book to help put these theories in practice since practice makes perfect.
And better yet, Patrick King provides a 21 day boot camp like plan at the end of the book to help put these theories in practice since practice makes perfect.
November 26, 2023
This book is written as a step by by step conversation self help book - when to start, escalate and exit conversation along with foolproof topic guide. That said there are also good amount of mindsets and reasoning for particular choices in the conversation. However some of the surrounding aspects are just touched upon shallowly.
Some readers might find this book frustrating as a lot of common sense basics are revisited like: talk about mutually interesting topics, don't push conversation on someone who clearly does not want to or is busy, start conversation on surface level then deepen. Some surrounding aspects as story telling, body language and communicating via text are very brief and surface level.
There however are also some in depth concepts with nuances. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on listening and introvert's strategies for socializing.
Overall I liked the book. while i felt that some aspects where drawn out too long and others skipped over with a few paragraphs. The book does have value with the step by step guide on the mechanics of conversation as well a some really well written chapters. And a 21 day guide on conversing with people. Recommend this book to people who has trouble communicating more and cannot small talk.(which is actually very important, the book will explain why). While this might not be for someone with good conversation skills who wants to learn the nuances.
Some readers might find this book frustrating as a lot of common sense basics are revisited like: talk about mutually interesting topics, don't push conversation on someone who clearly does not want to or is busy, start conversation on surface level then deepen. Some surrounding aspects as story telling, body language and communicating via text are very brief and surface level.
There however are also some in depth concepts with nuances. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on listening and introvert's strategies for socializing.
Overall I liked the book. while i felt that some aspects where drawn out too long and others skipped over with a few paragraphs. The book does have value with the step by step guide on the mechanics of conversation as well a some really well written chapters. And a 21 day guide on conversing with people. Recommend this book to people who has trouble communicating more and cannot small talk.(which is actually very important, the book will explain why). While this might not be for someone with good conversation skills who wants to learn the nuances.
April 27, 2015
Genuinely helpful--
I've read a number if books on the topic of conversation. Most of them have failed to impress me, offering suggestions that sometimes sounded as absurd as, "Imagine your conversational partner is an animal. What animal would they be?"
This book, on the other hand, offers perspectives that make sense as can be truly acted upon. Some of favorite sections were the chapter in which he explained how introverts can make a game of leading a conversation or when he outlined a 21 day plan to improve conversational skill.
I've read a number if books on the topic of conversation. Most of them have failed to impress me, offering suggestions that sometimes sounded as absurd as, "Imagine your conversational partner is an animal. What animal would they be?"
This book, on the other hand, offers perspectives that make sense as can be truly acted upon. Some of favorite sections were the chapter in which he explained how introverts can make a game of leading a conversation or when he outlined a 21 day plan to improve conversational skill.
March 6, 2015
This book taught me so much good information. I found many things in the book that were interesting. I started to take some notes so I can remind myself when I am certain situations and do not have words to say because this always happens to me. I rated this book 5 stars because it kept me reading.
January 17, 2016
Great book,lots of useful and practical tips to help you communicate better with everyone in your everyday life
As an introvert ,I'm not that good at small talk or talking to strangers but this book inspired me with lots of ideas about how to start a conversation and keep it going .Highly recommend for anyone who want to improve their conversational skills :)
As an introvert ,I'm not that good at small talk or talking to strangers but this book inspired me with lots of ideas about how to start a conversation and keep it going .Highly recommend for anyone who want to improve their conversational skills :)
March 4, 2015
Started out boring but the more I got into it the better it became, I really learned a lot about holding and keeping a conversation going. I am shy and usually let others talk and I just listen. Now I can join in.
September 7, 2015
Summary of Skills You Already Know
This is a fine summary of skills needed for creating small talk and the art of conversation. Those who would benefit best are those who are really starting from square one on social skills.
This is a fine summary of skills needed for creating small talk and the art of conversation. Those who would benefit best are those who are really starting from square one on social skills.
May 7, 2015
I'm lousy at Smalltalk.
That is why I picked this book. it delivered. Thank you. Minus the occasional spelling errors it was a great read. Practical.
That is why I picked this book. it delivered. Thank you. Minus the occasional spelling errors it was a great read. Practical.
December 14, 2015
good book, I did find it practical. It has some good advices, it is really easy to understand the concepts explained in it.
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