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How to Do No Contact Like a Boss!
Highly recommended for anyone who is presently in a relationship that brings them pain and misery. This book will give you the emotional strength and practical support it takes to detach from love that hurts. If you currently hesitate about leaving your partner even though you know they are no good for you - you MUST read this book. Includes a special section for the Highly Sensitive Person!
Excerpt ~
The Day of No Contact
The day of No Contact can be both exhilarating and intimidating. And no wonder: you’re facing the tremendously exciting prospect of freedom and a better life, but you are also racked with uncertainty and you are dealing with the huge amount of toxic shame and blame that victims have typically been left with by this point.
Your emotions on the day of No Contact may include fear, guilt, and a sense of “letting your partner down”. In the next minute you may feel euphoric, imagining your life free of oppression and darkness. Which feeling wins? In the spirit of an old Cherokee saying (Two Wolves), “The one you feed”.
The best rule of thumb on the day of No Contact is to keep your focus centered on the positives. If your subconscious mind brings up feelings of pain or fear, say to yourself, “Thank you for caring about me. We can deal with that later. For now, I’m working on our freedom”.
How to Do No Contact like a Boss explains the reasons for going No Contact and takes the reader from the initial planning stages, exit strategies, the moment of No Contact, what to expect in the days that follow, and how to deal with a persistent and/or abusive ex who refuses to respect one's request for No Contact. Also included are alternative healing methods that address what traditional therapy often overlooks.
Excerpt ~
The Day of No Contact
The day of No Contact can be both exhilarating and intimidating. And no wonder: you’re facing the tremendously exciting prospect of freedom and a better life, but you are also racked with uncertainty and you are dealing with the huge amount of toxic shame and blame that victims have typically been left with by this point.
Your emotions on the day of No Contact may include fear, guilt, and a sense of “letting your partner down”. In the next minute you may feel euphoric, imagining your life free of oppression and darkness. Which feeling wins? In the spirit of an old Cherokee saying (Two Wolves), “The one you feed”.
The best rule of thumb on the day of No Contact is to keep your focus centered on the positives. If your subconscious mind brings up feelings of pain or fear, say to yourself, “Thank you for caring about me. We can deal with that later. For now, I’m working on our freedom”.
How to Do No Contact like a Boss explains the reasons for going No Contact and takes the reader from the initial planning stages, exit strategies, the moment of No Contact, what to expect in the days that follow, and how to deal with a persistent and/or abusive ex who refuses to respect one's request for No Contact. Also included are alternative healing methods that address what traditional therapy often overlooks.
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February 27, 2017
This is an excellent book. I have been NO CONTACT for 5 months. I tried low contact first and that didn't work. While reading the book I cried, got upset, and even laughed a few times but it was because she was telling the truth about the Narcissist AND Myself.Even though this book focuses on a toxic relationship being with a spouse or love interest the dynamics are pretty much the same when it comes to a being in a relationship with a Narcissist or other types of abusers. The abuser in my life is my parent.
July 24, 2018
Her voice became my best friend.
Author is very knowledgeable in narcissism. While this was a bit extreme for my situation it gave me clarity on others i know that fit this bill completely. No nonsense approach, with highly effective results. Had the Audible version and played it to and from work for a week. Very great book for the topic. Highly recommended.
Author is very knowledgeable in narcissism. While this was a bit extreme for my situation it gave me clarity on others i know that fit this bill completely. No nonsense approach, with highly effective results. Had the Audible version and played it to and from work for a week. Very great book for the topic. Highly recommended.
February 10, 2019
Excellent Resource for Anyone Dealing With a Narcissist
I felt as though the author was addressing my life with my ex narcissistsociopath. Great advice given for adopting no contact and learning to love myself and free myself of all negativity. I am so happy I got this book that lifted me up with so much support.
I felt as though the author was addressing my life with my ex narcissistsociopath. Great advice given for adopting no contact and learning to love myself and free myself of all negativity. I am so happy I got this book that lifted me up with so much support.
May 21, 2023
Brilliant
I am experiencing a very difficult break out with my partner which is going on for nearly 2 years ...I couldn't keep up with the no contact rule and the break up was comfortable but extremely painful and exhausting. I knew that I want and have to go out of the break out but couldn't understand exactly how to follow and understand No Contact Rule , now I know. To everyone who is getting out of relationship with narcissist, please follow the rule otherwise they will abuse you even more and you are in constant pain.
I am experiencing a very difficult break out with my partner which is going on for nearly 2 years ...I couldn't keep up with the no contact rule and the break up was comfortable but extremely painful and exhausting. I knew that I want and have to go out of the break out but couldn't understand exactly how to follow and understand No Contact Rule , now I know. To everyone who is getting out of relationship with narcissist, please follow the rule otherwise they will abuse you even more and you are in constant pain.
May 6, 2018
Worth the read
A great resource if you're ready or almost ready to go No Contact and a nice reminder that you're not alone.
A great resource if you're ready or almost ready to go No Contact and a nice reminder that you're not alone.
February 16, 2019
This book was great and easy to read!
June 15, 2019
كتاب رائع للتخلص من العلاقات السمية وبالاخص النرجسية 👍🏼
October 3, 2019
Amazing read
This book has it ALL. I love how in depth she was with everything. This is a MUST READ for those who may be dealing with emotional abuse by a narcissist.
This book has it ALL. I love how in depth she was with everything. This is a MUST READ for those who may be dealing with emotional abuse by a narcissist.
January 21, 2020
This book was extremely helpful to me, the advice helped me to get out of a very toxic relationship.
July 16, 2022
Eye-opening read outlining the essentials of no contact and its importance to heal.
April 14, 2023
So Far the best I have Read
This is a legit source if you need guidance. I feel like I need to read it again and again. Thank you
This is a legit source if you need guidance. I feel like I need to read it again and again. Thank you
January 7, 2024
Wow, I didn’t think I’ll find a book that describes the worst part of my life so accurately.
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June 4, 2020Highly recommend for anyone thinking of leaving a narcissist relationship.
January 17, 2020
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is or has been in a toxic relationship.
April 29, 2016
Easy to read, practical and a relatively short book (I did skip over the parts regarding co-parenting as I don't have any children). Breaking all contact with another human is not a natural behavior for most of us but is necessary when separating from a relationship with a narcissist. Well meaning friends and family may also not understand the dynamics of this type of relationship and offer advice other than no contact to resolve, this book helps confirm the importance of no contact. The author explains how to implement no contact, why this method is important and the difference between no contact vs. no response. She also addresses why one shouldn't feel guilty about going no contact, the importance of self-care and also understanding why we fell into a toxic relationship (an important step to self-healing).
April 18, 2016
Coming out of an abusive marriage to a sociopathic narcissist- this book helped me in innumerable ways. Highly recommend to anyone trying to let go of the toxic relationships in their lives
April 26, 2017
This book is so wonderful. It was my eye opener. Kim has nailed down the nagging inquiries we should be asking ourselves, like why we never want to really admit why do we have some people in our lives running havoc. I have cried and finally took responsibility for my part in allowing the same kind of people just different faces into my life then they uproot my world. I found answers to years of questions I never knew I had.
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December 5, 2018Awesome book
I really enjoyed reading this book, it opened my eyes about all the things I wasn't thinking about. Totally recommend it!
I really enjoyed reading this book, it opened my eyes about all the things I wasn't thinking about. Totally recommend it!
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