It's depressing to think that memoirs of North Korea were a trend ten years ago. Who are we to let the world's worst dictatorship pass us by in the same way that we're less interested in vampire fiction nowadays? That said, the terror of an average North Korean childhood is constant from life to life and memoir to memoir.
Lucia Jang is born into a difficult family. Her mother had uncles flee to Japan right after the war so her mother is politically suspect and cannot join the Party, and her father was out of choices when he married her. Ms. Jang and her parents are living in her paternal grandparents' house so her mother-in-law is constantly berating Ms. Jang's mother for not being good enough to marry her son. And there's not enough food. Ms. Jang was born in '78, so the famine begins when she is in her twenties; there’s just a general lack of food in her life. Finally, her parents move away to a new house, and toddler Lucia is all alone except for her one toy that is a piece of string. She nearly melts when her father buys her a box of crayons. And then she gets a baby sister. When her baby sister is old enough to toddle, her mother has to go back to work and the children are locked inside the house with no food all day, because that is the only option. Eventually, they learn to break out and steal the neighbor's food, which gets them in incredible amounts of trouble. Finally, Lucia's parents figure out that the little sister can go to work with her mom, who is a kindergarten teacher, and Lucia can go to work with her dad, who is an engineer, as long as she sits still all day. It takes Lucia ages to be old enough to go to school, and she loves it, but by the time she's a teenager, she's putting more work into friends and sneaking into the movie theater than grades and books, and her grades are too low, on graduation, to become a kindergarten teacher, the only kind of teacher a woman can be when their great uncles fled to Japan after the war. So she becomes a factory worker at a remote dam site. Her parents warn her to avoid the construction workmen, but she falls in love with a boy who eventually rapes her and then agrees to marry her for her dowry when she becomes pregnant. This marriage is bad, is an incredible understatement, and Lucia runs to her family as society begins to break down after the collapse of the Soviet Union. There's no food. Her mother understands how hard it will be to raise a baby as a divorced woman and makes an arrangement to sell the baby to a Party couple. Lucia is supposed to be diverted on an outing while the couple are taking the baby away, but she realizes that something's up and runs home in time to see them leaving with her baby and beg for mercy, which doesn't work. And there's a famine. Lucia's mom finds her a job now that she doesn't have a baby to take care of, but when the factories stop supplying rice to their workers, people stop going to work, and Lucia is working many schemes to help her family find food, including selling to the Chinese on the other side of the border. She begs for help from the ethnic-Korean Chinese man who lives in a house she's been shown, and he offers to help by driving her to a city, where she is shown to prospective husbands. In the end, she is sold for $300 Canadian to a developmentally disabled man who can't consummate the marriage, thank God, she can't speak to anyone in her husband's Chinese-speaking family, she's locked in, is the only one who cleans, and her life is intolerable. She eventually runs, and meets an ethnically Korean woman on a train, whose widowed brother needs a wife. This is a good opportunity, and her life on the farm is tolerable, until she's arrested by the Chinese, who are doing a sting on illegal North Korean wives close to the border, and now she's in a North Korean prison, during the famine, which is more harrowing than anything else so far.
A great book by a woman who suffered far too much and is now in Canada, telling her story.