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Connect Instantly: 60 Seconds to Likability, Meaningful Connections, and Hitting It Off With Anyone
Do you want the ability to walk into a room of strangers and instantly befriend everyone? Create an amazing first impression? How do some people end up with friends anywhere they go and make amazing impressions on everyone?
What really makes people connect, open up, and just... click with others?
It's something we never learn in school... a shame because Connecting Instantly with others just might be the most important skill you'll ever learn. The first 60 seconds of an interaction is the gatekeeper of friendship and relationships. It determines whether people will invest time and energy in you... and simply care about you. Nail it, and you'll be given the benefit of the doubt in any situation... fail to click instantly and you'll fall into the dreaded zone of apathy and "who cares about them?" We don't get second chances in a reality that deals largely in snap judgments.
Connect Instantly was written specifically to deal with those crucial first moments of interaction, and make sure that you control 100% that you click and make a great impression, and reap the rewards of it. What about clicking instantly will you learn? How outbound positivity always comes full circle and inbound - back to you. What ignoring small details in favor of the main message can do for your conversational flow. The small acts of service that require zero effort... but make people love you. As well as...* Telltale signs of genuineness and authenticity in your smile.
Why asking people's opinions makes them value your opinions more. The bonding power of imperfections, flaws, and vulnerability. When you can master the first 60 seconds of an interaction, your world is simply opened up. If you can pass everyone's gatekeeper and leave them wanting to invest time and emotion into you, there's no more powerful emotion. You'll be first in line for every business opportunity because people will assume the best of you. You'll always be attractive to the opposite sex because of that impression. Old friends will want to see you more, and new friends will want to strengthen that bond quickly - are you ready for all the new friends you'll have?
P.S. Use snap judgments to your advantage!
What really makes people connect, open up, and just... click with others?
It's something we never learn in school... a shame because Connecting Instantly with others just might be the most important skill you'll ever learn. The first 60 seconds of an interaction is the gatekeeper of friendship and relationships. It determines whether people will invest time and energy in you... and simply care about you. Nail it, and you'll be given the benefit of the doubt in any situation... fail to click instantly and you'll fall into the dreaded zone of apathy and "who cares about them?" We don't get second chances in a reality that deals largely in snap judgments.
Connect Instantly was written specifically to deal with those crucial first moments of interaction, and make sure that you control 100% that you click and make a great impression, and reap the rewards of it. What about clicking instantly will you learn? How outbound positivity always comes full circle and inbound - back to you. What ignoring small details in favor of the main message can do for your conversational flow. The small acts of service that require zero effort... but make people love you. As well as...* Telltale signs of genuineness and authenticity in your smile.
Why asking people's opinions makes them value your opinions more. The bonding power of imperfections, flaws, and vulnerability. When you can master the first 60 seconds of an interaction, your world is simply opened up. If you can pass everyone's gatekeeper and leave them wanting to invest time and emotion into you, there's no more powerful emotion. You'll be first in line for every business opportunity because people will assume the best of you. You'll always be attractive to the opposite sex because of that impression. Old friends will want to see you more, and new friends will want to strengthen that bond quickly - are you ready for all the new friends you'll have?
P.S. Use snap judgments to your advantage!
93 pages, Kindle Edition
First published April 27, 2015
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About the author
Patrick King
207 books339 followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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January 7, 2026
I think I would like this book more if the advice didn’t feel as “manipulative “
I was listening to the audiobook in case some of my students who are on the autism spectrum needed tips…it would be good to have a few recommendations for audiobooks or podcasts for them.
There were some decent tips, but some unclear advice ( “don’t cross the line” — well, how will they know?)
I was listening to the audiobook in case some of my students who are on the autism spectrum needed tips…it would be good to have a few recommendations for audiobooks or podcasts for them.
There were some decent tips, but some unclear advice ( “don’t cross the line” — well, how will they know?)
May 30, 2017
It's funny sometimes when you pick up a book on impulse and then find it resonating so well. I found my head nodding away as multiple points echoed what was covered in 3 training courses I'd attended and / or delivered in the recent past - motivation, delegation, communication each of which had covered elements of rapport which is what this book is mostly about.
In short, this was a good read
In short, this was a good read
January 31, 2018
According to Amazon, Patrick has published 18 books in the last 12 months. I think when you're churning out books at that pace, especially when you're as young as Patrick is, your books naturally are going to be extremely shallow - "Connect Instantly" was no exception. Overall, the advice of the book seems geared towards in-the-moment interactions, but offers little in terms of the self-awareness, humility and character necessary to create and sustain meaningful relationships.
In short, if you have absolutely zero social skills, this book may give you a slight boost in making a decent impression on others, with 99% of that value coming solely from chapter 9. However, if you have a genuine desire to improve in your ability to relate to and connect with others - specifically in the age of "connection economy", this just isn't your book. Honestly, you'd be better off just watching an episode of "The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon" and emulating Jimmy's techniques for creating authentic relational equity.
In short, if you have absolutely zero social skills, this book may give you a slight boost in making a decent impression on others, with 99% of that value coming solely from chapter 9. However, if you have a genuine desire to improve in your ability to relate to and connect with others - specifically in the age of "connection economy", this just isn't your book. Honestly, you'd be better off just watching an episode of "The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon" and emulating Jimmy's techniques for creating authentic relational equity.
September 29, 2017
Good tips, could be reduced even more
I am thinking that this material was created for a quick video, post, or worksheet turned into a book. It has terrific tips, but mostly spread out between long explanations. Condense most of the material into a few graphics, and you get the gist.
I am thinking that this material was created for a quick video, post, or worksheet turned into a book. It has terrific tips, but mostly spread out between long explanations. Condense most of the material into a few graphics, and you get the gist.
December 28, 2018
Great read for self-improvement.
Anyone wanting to engage better, communicate more effectively and be more genuine should read this - more than once. Love the attitude and language used here. Thanks Patrick! I look forward to the next one.
Anyone wanting to engage better, communicate more effectively and be more genuine should read this - more than once. Love the attitude and language used here. Thanks Patrick! I look forward to the next one.
August 8, 2017
It was one of the shorter books but still educative.
January 2, 2018
Quick, enjoyable read. Great insights on connecting with others.
December 21, 2019
Patrick is a social scientist. His insight expands your knowledge, which in turn reduces your self limiting belief and makes you look at things differently. Thanks Patrick!
December 6, 2023
Quick read with some interesting ideas for starting conversations with patients, and more generally good to reflect on how I come across and what questions I ask
January 5, 2020
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May 1, 2015
This is a great book for someone looking to make friends. It contains lots of helpful tips on how to be more likeable, meaningful and connected with the people around you. I usually don't have problems myself with making friends. But I am guilty of doing some of the things that this book talks about. Like the book says if we were all honest with ourselves we do judge a person in the first 60 seconds of them entering into a room whether we mean to or not it just happens. And the goal of this book is to help you make the best of that 60 seconds, because unfortunately we don't always get a second chance. So I suggest taking a look and reading this book by Patrick King and maybe it will give you a better idea of what you can do to help yourself be better judged.
December 24, 2016
Sorry, author did not connect instantly with me.
I started out reading and liking the author's style. I even highlighted some points. However, I feel he went over and over and over the same points like a gabby nuisance. I observed that it wasn't until exactly 20% of the book passed before the first technique was presented to improve likability (that's location 290). I didn't continue reading.
I started out reading and liking the author's style. I even highlighted some points. However, I feel he went over and over and over the same points like a gabby nuisance. I observed that it wasn't until exactly 20% of the book passed before the first technique was presented to improve likability (that's location 290). I didn't continue reading.
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