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Living the Life You Love: The No-Nonsense Guide to Total Transformation
There’s no doubt about it, life can be hard and we all have to face tough problems. But wishing your life were different won’t make it so. You have to DO SOMETHING. There's no quick fix for problems you've spent a lifetime creating. But there ARE some amazingly simple and fast ways to start taking control of your life today and making changes that create the future you really want. LIVING THE LIFE YOU LOVE shows you how * Break old patterns and make different empowering choices * Stop playing the Blame Game * Reclaim your Self-Respect * Stop letting others push your buttons * Set healthy boundaries for the kind of relationships you really want * Free yourself of Shame, Blame and Guilt * Learn how to "Forgive" and "Let It Go" (It's not what you think) * Start seeing new options you couldn't before Multi-Award-Winning author Paula Renaye gives you the reality check you’ve been waiting for, then shows you step by step exactly how to get out of your rut in a no-nonsense, tough-love way that actually works. In this guided journey of self-discovery, you’ll finally be able to tackle what’s holding you back and make the life-transforming choices you need. You'll get a blueprint to define your “dream life” and how to map out the action steps to achieve it. Simple, direct, and engaging, Living the Life You The No-Nonsense Guide to Total Transformation also • Guided coaching sessions and personalized workbook sections • Practical and effective self-insight exercises • Facing fears, taking off masks and disconnecting from family dysfunction • 13 Sanity-saving strategies for dealing with negative and “happily miserable” people • Techniques for neutralizing button pushers and releasing guilt • Tips and examples for creating your own vision script and vision board • A simple process for turning indecision and confusion into passionate action • New ways to look at food, exercise, and money that make healthy choices easy • 15 Tough Love Reminders • 33 Tips for the Dips This hands-on, cut-to-the-chase guide will help you stop procrastinating and start creating a life you will love--NOW. AWARDS * Named to Kirkus Reviews' Best of 2012 * WINNER of the 2013 Living Now Book Awards GOLD MEDAL for Personal Growth/Motivation * WINNER of the 2013 Independent Publishers Book Awards IPPY GOLD MEDAL for Self Help * 2013 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist Winner for Self-Help
287 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 1, 2012
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About the author
Paula Renaye
8 books20 followersA self-confessed former eggshell walker, emotional wreck and utter failure at keeping her life from falling apart, Paula Renaye is now a full-time writer, certified professional coach, empowerment speaker and author of Living the Life You Love: The No-Nonsense Guide to Total Transformation.
Paula is a frequent tough-love expert on talk radio shows and in print media and her television appearances include BookTV. She has won four national book awards for nonfiction and a literary award for fiction.
While working as a self-employed corporate consultant for 17 years, Paula developed her writing career, defined her passion and transformed herself. Writing as Paula Boyd, she and her award-winning Jolene Jackson Mystery Series have been featured in Redbook, Mountain Living, San Antonio Woman, Romantic Times, Colorado Homes and Living and many others. Paula Renaye’s recent print media features include Brain World Magazine; Brisbane Times; Sydney Morning Herald; Chicago Tribune; For You Magazine and Glo. Her blog features cut-to-the-chase articles and tips and can be found at http://paularenaye.com.
To read sample chapters from her mystery novels, visit http://paulaboyd.com.
FUN BIO
I grew up in a small town in Texas that is a little bit like my fictional town of Kickapoo in my novels. Okay, it's a lot like it. I'm a "write what you know" woman, which was easier than what I did on the first three unpublished novels I wrote.
And, let's just be honest here, it was therapy for me. That's right. The mystery novels were my therapy books, not the actual self-therapy books I've written. It will make perfect sense after you read the novels.
Because really, think of how therapeutic it is to have the power to go back to your childhood and teenage years and avenge your traumas. Seriously, you can go back and kill anyone who ever did you wrong. It's a nice theory, but that's the therapy part. Once I started writing and seeing things a bit differently, I really didn't need to do what I thought I did. Oh, don't get me wrong, people die, but not always the ones I set out to "get."
My fictional alter ego did parallel my own life in that she moved from Texas to Colorado and did not like the idea of ever going back to her hometown--or her mother. I lived most of my adult life in Colorado, about 20 years, lived for a year in Missouri during my divorce and have been in Arkansas for about eight now.
Life took zigs and zags, and sometimes it seemed not so great, but looking back, it was absolutely perfect. And now, I am truly living the life I love!
Paula is a frequent tough-love expert on talk radio shows and in print media and her television appearances include BookTV. She has won four national book awards for nonfiction and a literary award for fiction.
While working as a self-employed corporate consultant for 17 years, Paula developed her writing career, defined her passion and transformed herself. Writing as Paula Boyd, she and her award-winning Jolene Jackson Mystery Series have been featured in Redbook, Mountain Living, San Antonio Woman, Romantic Times, Colorado Homes and Living and many others. Paula Renaye’s recent print media features include Brain World Magazine; Brisbane Times; Sydney Morning Herald; Chicago Tribune; For You Magazine and Glo. Her blog features cut-to-the-chase articles and tips and can be found at http://paularenaye.com.
To read sample chapters from her mystery novels, visit http://paulaboyd.com.
FUN BIO
I grew up in a small town in Texas that is a little bit like my fictional town of Kickapoo in my novels. Okay, it's a lot like it. I'm a "write what you know" woman, which was easier than what I did on the first three unpublished novels I wrote.
And, let's just be honest here, it was therapy for me. That's right. The mystery novels were my therapy books, not the actual self-therapy books I've written. It will make perfect sense after you read the novels.
Because really, think of how therapeutic it is to have the power to go back to your childhood and teenage years and avenge your traumas. Seriously, you can go back and kill anyone who ever did you wrong. It's a nice theory, but that's the therapy part. Once I started writing and seeing things a bit differently, I really didn't need to do what I thought I did. Oh, don't get me wrong, people die, but not always the ones I set out to "get."
My fictional alter ego did parallel my own life in that she moved from Texas to Colorado and did not like the idea of ever going back to her hometown--or her mother. I lived most of my adult life in Colorado, about 20 years, lived for a year in Missouri during my divorce and have been in Arkansas for about eight now.
Life took zigs and zags, and sometimes it seemed not so great, but looking back, it was absolutely perfect. And now, I am truly living the life I love!
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November 3, 2012
"Living the Life You Love" by Paula Renaye is a detailed book for those you want to figure out to get the life you want to love. Paula gives readers a no-nonsense guide to getting this life, through detailed chapters, real life examples and templates and guides to help readers work through the information Renaye gives readers in each chapter. Renaye guides readers from the beginning through to the end to complete the total transformation for each reader. Renaye gives readers many different types of tools, techniques and examples to help readers bring to life the realism of what Renaye is trying to get readers to do in their lives. Great details.
I was at first a little unsure of what to take away from this book, but upon reading this book I figured out that some of the major life changes I have made in my life were warranted and correct in the way I went about doing it. It was nice to have the confirmation that what I was doing what right. I liked that Renaye not only explained why she was writing each chapter, but she also gave real life examples for readers to relate to and then the transformation insights were amazing. She said now do what I told you to do in the chapter and gave you the tools to do not just let you flit around on your own wondering what to do. That is very powerful for people. Renaye gave many great ideas and tools for readers to get to where they want to be in their lives, she also does remind people that life is not always perfect and it may not work out the way you want, even with all the information and advise she is giving readers, but this is a start to help readers get there. I have to admit I learned a lot, especially why I do certain things now with negative people in my life. I have to admit, personally, over the last few years I have really grown as a person and this book showed me how and why I have done what I have done and has also given me courage and advise to keep moving forward in my life to get the life that I want, or should I say, continue living the life I love!
I would like to thank Goodreads and Paula Renaye for my advance, autographed, copy of the book. It was a great read and useful as well. Well done Paula!
I was at first a little unsure of what to take away from this book, but upon reading this book I figured out that some of the major life changes I have made in my life were warranted and correct in the way I went about doing it. It was nice to have the confirmation that what I was doing what right. I liked that Renaye not only explained why she was writing each chapter, but she also gave real life examples for readers to relate to and then the transformation insights were amazing. She said now do what I told you to do in the chapter and gave you the tools to do not just let you flit around on your own wondering what to do. That is very powerful for people. Renaye gave many great ideas and tools for readers to get to where they want to be in their lives, she also does remind people that life is not always perfect and it may not work out the way you want, even with all the information and advise she is giving readers, but this is a start to help readers get there. I have to admit I learned a lot, especially why I do certain things now with negative people in my life. I have to admit, personally, over the last few years I have really grown as a person and this book showed me how and why I have done what I have done and has also given me courage and advise to keep moving forward in my life to get the life that I want, or should I say, continue living the life I love!
I would like to thank Goodreads and Paula Renaye for my advance, autographed, copy of the book. It was a great read and useful as well. Well done Paula!
October 4, 2012
I received this book free from first reads. Living the life you love by Paula Renaye.
What can I say! I have read self help books before and found them patronising and silly. This one was completely different, it was well written, entertaining and spoke to you like a grown up. The content was informative and easy to follow.
The information was practical and the things the author told you to do were achievable, I also found I was able to identify myself in the things that were said. Obviously I have not had time to put all the information to the test, but I have read the whole book through and feel that it is possible to achieve every thing the author said. I will also be dipping into it as time goes on.
I would recommend this book to anyone who is unhappy with their situation in life, it really does help you to understand yourself and what you want.
What can I say! I have read self help books before and found them patronising and silly. This one was completely different, it was well written, entertaining and spoke to you like a grown up. The content was informative and easy to follow.
The information was practical and the things the author told you to do were achievable, I also found I was able to identify myself in the things that were said. Obviously I have not had time to put all the information to the test, but I have read the whole book through and feel that it is possible to achieve every thing the author said. I will also be dipping into it as time goes on.
I would recommend this book to anyone who is unhappy with their situation in life, it really does help you to understand yourself and what you want.
October 27, 2020
Covers a Lot of Ground
While there’s nothing in here that will shock you into action, there is a lot of useful approaches, action worksheets and steps, as well as good advice from the author that will help you keep moving. Her holistic approach to wellness and transformation is necessary in a world where there are too many spot solutions. A good resource.
While there’s nothing in here that will shock you into action, there is a lot of useful approaches, action worksheets and steps, as well as good advice from the author that will help you keep moving. Her holistic approach to wellness and transformation is necessary in a world where there are too many spot solutions. A good resource.
July 20, 2012
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I'd better love my own book! However, you don't have to take my word for it! Here are some endorsements from mental health and other self-help authors that have a few things to say.
“All the benefits of serious therapy in one book! Reading this book is like getting therapy from a top-notch therapist who has the guts to tell it like it is and the compassion to help you face your issues squarely and do something about them.”
—Amy Wood, PsyD, author, Life Your Way
“Whether you’re working with a good therapist, on your own or in a study group, Living the Life You Love is a wonderful guide to self-transformation. Paula Renaye’s style is easy and comfortable, like a friend who’s cheering you on, supportive but firm, as she guides you on the path of self-discovery. I highly recommend this book to those who are serious about transforming their lives.”
—Mimi Lupin, MA, LPC, LSSP, founder,
Making the World a Better Place Foundation
“Paula has written the quintessential manual for anyone who no longer wants to be a member of ‘the ain’t it awful club.’ This is the ticket to transformation for anyone who wants to transcend the fear and negativity that swirls around us and defy the fate of the ‘Debbie Downers’ of the world. This book will help you dare to confront your angst, claim your heartfelt personal success in your bones and go after it with passion. It will dynamite out those villainous beliefs and paradigms that have been holding you back and let you finally take flight!”
—Gail McMeekin, LICSW, bestselling author,
The 12 Secrets of Highly Successful Women and The Power of Positive Choices
“The difference in living a life you love, one you just like or one you really regret is all just a matter of choice. Paula has offered up the perfect menu for living the life that you LOVE, and this book will be one of the best investments in your happiness you will ever make. You owe it to yourself to be your best. Do it!”
—Karen Mayfield, international bestselling author, Wake up Women
“Paula Renaye challenges readers to face what’s been holding them back, then provides practical self-discovery tools to move forward. If you’re willing to do the work, this book lays out a path for rapid personal transformation.”
—Ron Chapman, MSW, speaker and author, Seeing True
“From the front cover to the back cover, I knew that this book was going to be different than every other self-help book I’ve read … and I was right! You can’t help but be affected and moved by the mirror Paula puts in front of your face. And one of the most wonderful aspects is how she shares from her own life and draws the reader into believing that change, permanent, positive change, is possible. Change takes courage, determination and direction and this book is a blueprint for making those changes in your life!”
—Deidre Hughey, speaker and author,
I Am Bound and Determined
“The author uses terrific real-world examples to make her points. For those of us wanting something better and don’t know how to get there, [this] would be an excellent first step.”
—Robin Cain, Scottsdale Examiner
“Anyone thinking about changing to achieve the life that they want will benefit from this book. Empowerment practitioners, coaches and mentors, as well as men and women—the young and mature—thinking about self-development would benefit from the knowledge and wisdom shared. It is a great resource.”
—Dr. Cheryl V. Cottle, founder,
CPC Women in Business
“The highest calling we can have as human beings is to honor our hearts. This book is much-needed tough love for courageous transformation.”
–Karen Barnett Bozeman, LCSW
I set the date I read is as the day final print files were approved!
I'd better love my own book! However, you don't have to take my word for it! Here are some endorsements from mental health and other self-help authors that have a few things to say.
“All the benefits of serious therapy in one book! Reading this book is like getting therapy from a top-notch therapist who has the guts to tell it like it is and the compassion to help you face your issues squarely and do something about them.”
—Amy Wood, PsyD, author, Life Your Way
“Whether you’re working with a good therapist, on your own or in a study group, Living the Life You Love is a wonderful guide to self-transformation. Paula Renaye’s style is easy and comfortable, like a friend who’s cheering you on, supportive but firm, as she guides you on the path of self-discovery. I highly recommend this book to those who are serious about transforming their lives.”
—Mimi Lupin, MA, LPC, LSSP, founder,
Making the World a Better Place Foundation
“Paula has written the quintessential manual for anyone who no longer wants to be a member of ‘the ain’t it awful club.’ This is the ticket to transformation for anyone who wants to transcend the fear and negativity that swirls around us and defy the fate of the ‘Debbie Downers’ of the world. This book will help you dare to confront your angst, claim your heartfelt personal success in your bones and go after it with passion. It will dynamite out those villainous beliefs and paradigms that have been holding you back and let you finally take flight!”
—Gail McMeekin, LICSW, bestselling author,
The 12 Secrets of Highly Successful Women and The Power of Positive Choices
“The difference in living a life you love, one you just like or one you really regret is all just a matter of choice. Paula has offered up the perfect menu for living the life that you LOVE, and this book will be one of the best investments in your happiness you will ever make. You owe it to yourself to be your best. Do it!”
—Karen Mayfield, international bestselling author, Wake up Women
“Paula Renaye challenges readers to face what’s been holding them back, then provides practical self-discovery tools to move forward. If you’re willing to do the work, this book lays out a path for rapid personal transformation.”
—Ron Chapman, MSW, speaker and author, Seeing True
“From the front cover to the back cover, I knew that this book was going to be different than every other self-help book I’ve read … and I was right! You can’t help but be affected and moved by the mirror Paula puts in front of your face. And one of the most wonderful aspects is how she shares from her own life and draws the reader into believing that change, permanent, positive change, is possible. Change takes courage, determination and direction and this book is a blueprint for making those changes in your life!”
—Deidre Hughey, speaker and author,
I Am Bound and Determined
“The author uses terrific real-world examples to make her points. For those of us wanting something better and don’t know how to get there, [this] would be an excellent first step.”
—Robin Cain, Scottsdale Examiner
“Anyone thinking about changing to achieve the life that they want will benefit from this book. Empowerment practitioners, coaches and mentors, as well as men and women—the young and mature—thinking about self-development would benefit from the knowledge and wisdom shared. It is a great resource.”
—Dr. Cheryl V. Cottle, founder,
CPC Women in Business
“The highest calling we can have as human beings is to honor our hearts. This book is much-needed tough love for courageous transformation.”
–Karen Barnett Bozeman, LCSW
I set the date I read is as the day final print files were approved!
February 11, 2013
If I were female -- there's a strange precursor -- I would have given this book five stars! It is beautifully written by a talented author. The book is structured around the author's personal journey of healing, forgiveness and solid personal growth principles. I highly recommend it to anyone on a growth path -- and especially women. It's both a "good read" and potentially llfe-changing.
January 6, 2014
Well written, no-nonsense advice. Thanks Paula!
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