Love Isn't Love: 88 Ways To Love Yourself & Others

by C.J. Pizzurro

In a world overflowing with noise, where love is sung about, spoken of, and chased after, it is easy to feel lost, confused, and even disillusioned. We are told that love is the answer, yet we often find ourselves questioning what it truly means to love and be loved. How do we navigate a landscape where the very concept of love has been distorted, diluted, and sometimes even commodified?
This book is a journey back to the heart of love, beyond the clichés, the fairy tales, and the misunderstandings that cloud our vision. It is an invitation to rediscover the profound simplicity and power of love, in its many forms. Through the stories, reflections, and insights shared within these pages, you will be guided to explore what it means to love deeply and authentically, and how to allow yourself to be loved in return.
Whether you are seeking to heal past wounds, strengthen your relationships, or simply understand love more fully, this book offers a path forward. It is not a manual with rigid rules, but a companion that encourages you to embrace love as a living, breathing force—one that is as much about giving as it is about receiving, as much about understanding as it is about being understood.
As you turn these pages, you will find that love is not just an emotion or a fleeting moment of joy, but a choice, a practice, and a way of being that can transform not only your relationships with others but also with yourself. This is your invitation to delve into the depths of love’s true meaning, to clear away the confusion, and to emerge with a renewed sense of purpose and clarity.
Prepare to challenge your assumptions, open your heart, and redefine what it means to love and be loved in a world that often muddles meaning. This journey is yours to take—one step, one page, one loving breath at a time.

477 pages, Paperback

Published June 27, 2026

Reviews

[Alisha E · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book. Rather than reading it straight through as one continuous message, I found myself reflecting on each section individually and taking away the ideas that resonated most with where I am in life.

For me, the chapters on loving family, setting boundaries, and recognizing healthy relationships were especially meaningful. Someone else may connect more with the sections on gratitude, forgiveness, friendship, or spirituality. That’s what I appreciated most about this book. It doesn’t expect every chapter to speak to every reader in the same way.

This isn’t a book where every page will perfectly match your experiences or beliefs, and I don’t think it’s meant to. Instead, it offers thoughtful perspectives on many different aspects of love, encouraging you to pause, reflect, and decide what feels true and meaningful for your own life.

Whether you’re working on your relationship with yourself, your family, your partner, or simply trying to become more intentional in how you love others, I think there’s something here worth taking with you. It’s a thoughtful read that invites reflection rather than telling you what your journey should look like.

[Sky Owen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love isn't Love was not the book I was expecting, but the book I needed.
This book is going to ruffle some feathers because some of the truths in here are hard to swallow, but I emplore you to stick it out and read the book to the end with an open mind.

It uses a beautiful combination of religious texts (not just one religion but many), scientific research, personal experience and spiritual guidance.
Half of the book touches on the aspect of self-love, the other half on what love is.

Personally, this book showed me a lot of areas that I need to clean up in my own life, even as hard as it was to read them. But with growth we should always remain open minded and ready to learn.