I stand by my original assessment of: If Margaret Atwood and Jennifer Weiner had a love child, this book might be it! However - this book is ambitious - is perhaps even undone by its own ambition - so it deserves a more thorough review. It's also an impressive debut by a clearly skilled, vivid, creative writer with ideas, so I encourage a read even though I ended up feeling unsure about the book overall. And I'll definitely be keeping an eye out for this author in the future.
So why am I so ambivalent in my rating despite all that praise? Well - do you remember how, if you went to high school or college, you perhaps had your first paradigm-shifting encounters with a new (to you) philosophy or discourse? For me it was Marx, Foucault, and, of course, as a student of gender studies, the many thinkers and authors who have contributed to feminist thought and theory. It's very exciting to encounter these kinds of ideas for the first time, and one rite of passage is that the youthful collision with such ideas can (and should) generate some degree of identity crisis (the good kind) as one grapples with and metabolizes these ideas and then synthesizes them with one's existing ideas and sense of self in order to advance into a more mature iteration of self.
Obviously this process works more smoothly for some people than others, but with anyone, it's not uncommon or unexpected to experience some growing pains whilst trying on the various new versions of self, Goldilocks-like, in search of just the right fit. After all, these new ideas can be a shock to the system - for example, if you're a young woman, discovering the whole concept of patriarchy and how patriarchal ideas have unknowingly shaped your identity, thinking, behavior, emotions, decisions, priorities, goals, self-image. That's heavy stuff, and it can be difficult to deal with. And although I'm certainly very grateful to have gone through that difficult growth process to emerge my present-day self - I don't know that I'd want to revisit those days when my peers and I were all struggling to spread our wings and fledge our respective nests. There is a hard-won beauty in the wisdom that comes with age and experience, and I'm not anxious to turn back the clock!
And that's probably why I was dissatisfied with this book, which is essentially a coming of age story about a young woman named Alicia/Plum discovering patriarchy (particularly with regard to ideas about women's beauty, physical bodies, and "femininity") and essentially offers up some very basic feminist ideas and education in this area. ("You want to be thin and not take up space physically or elsewise because the patriarchal culture has influenced you and other women, and really everybody, to think you need to be this way to be a real, desirable, worthy, feminine woman, and pretty much everything in society, especially the media and the forces of consumerism and capitalism, is policing you for compliance.") Don't get me wrong: these are very, very important and, to my mind, correct ideas! But - In the end, I felt it took me back to a place I had already been (like, Women's Studies 101 and 102) and didn't necessarily need to return.
But- I still would have been glad to return! BUT! - except for the fact that the author makes a few other choices that I found offputting. The story of Alicia/Plum's evolution and consciousness-raising is entwined with "footage" from a kind of terrorist uprising movement with which Plum becomes unwittingly entwined. While the idea of feminist uprising is cool - unfortunately, the perpetrators of this activism use extreme violence to protest and communicate their message. And I'm not talking about militant techniques a la PETA or Greenpeace; I'm talking about ISIS-type tactics. While I get the underlying point that the interpersonal and political violence perpetrated by patriarchy is "just as violent" as actual physical violence - I don't know, when it comes to fighting oppression and injustice, it's just not my approach to fight violence with violence.
So there are some trigger warning here in that some of the descriptions of retaliatory violence are quite hardcore, even though the victims are supposedly deserving. There are also some detailed descriptions of pretty degrading hardcore porn, which could be triggering too, as well as descriptions of binge eating that I found perhaps the most upsetting because I thought for a while that the author was going in a very unhealthy direction with her messaging, although she ultimately rights this course toward the conclusion of the book.
Aside from these warnings - know that I would not have taken the time to review the book, and provide all these caveats, if I didn't also want to pique your curiosity! It's a really passionate, unique, engaging book with a worthwhile message delivered in a very interesting manner! For me, the delivery system was just a little bit of an overkill - the author doesn't need to "kill a fly with a hammer" when she's addressing her messaging to the already informed and converted. But for readers to whom these messages are less familiar, perhaps the "big guns" are called for. After all, lord knows the message is important enough to legitimate her efforts, and some of those growing pains back in WS 101 were pretty sharp, as I recall.