This 2 hour lecture, by Dr. Jane Nelsen, was given on May 12th 2005 during the Butte County Dept. of Behavioral Health, Parent Conference, in Chico, CA. Learn: Why punishment is never appropriate for children of any age. Why any kind of time-out is not appropriate for children under the age of four, and how to create a positive time-out area with your four- or five-year-old that is encouraging, empowering, and teaches valuable life skills. How the brain develops, and why parents often expect things of their children that are not developmentally or age appropriate -- such as sharing, apologizing, and understanding "no" the way you think they do. The three most important discipline tools to use with children under the age of three. Many other parenting tools that can be used with children under the age of three -- and even more that can be used with four- and five-year-olds. How to get children to cooperate because they "want" to. How to help your children develop the believe that, "I am capable, I can contribute in meaningful ways, and I can use my power in useful ways. To remember why you had children in the first place.
I appreciate how Nelson prioritizes treating children with respect and kindness. Starting with the belief that every child yearns for a sense of belonging is the center of Positive Discipline. While some of the writing and images (did they come from clipart or what?!) come across as pretty cheesy, the important message of treating mistakes as opportunities and working WITH children bump this book to 5 stars. Positive Discipline is the most successful and meaningful social/emotional program I've used as an educator-- As a new mom, I plan to use it in my home as well.