This is such a short book and yet I love it!
As someone who struggle with anxiety almost daily, I found the tips in this book very helpful:
1) De-stressing by simply deep breathing.
Long exhales enable relaxation and calmness, because when your exhale is even a few counts longer than your inhale, the vagus nerve sends a signal to your brain to turn up the parasympathetic nervous system. So basically just breathe!
2) Simplicity.
Avoid using multiple mobile apps, multiple calendars and multiple emails, and mute nonessential notifications, all these things can overwhelm you.
Also when writing to-do lists, write clearly what you need to do and be "very specific" (tip: use a "verb" to describe the task), because that would allow you to know exactly what you need to do and would make your task simpler.
3) Face your fears.
"Do one thing every day that scares you"
Courage is a skill that you can obtain by changing a "fixed mindset" to a "growth mindset".
And how do you that? focus on the process not the outcome, because once you focus on the results you might attach that to failure and eventually decide not do the task out of fear.
For example, just focus on the act of writing a paper for one or two hours, but don't focus on finishing and submitting it.
4) Live in the moment.
"Forever is composed of nows".
Let go of past regrets and stop worrying about the future.
How do we do that? With mindfulness, by praying daily for example. It can be done with simple daily acts like walking home from work but with being mindful of everything around you.
5) The importance of physical health.
It's the source of your energy! You cannot establish anything without energy.
We should relax to recharge our bodies, not to get away and hide from our responsibilities. Supernaps, brainfood, sleeping well are other important sources to increase our energy. We should avoid sugary food and coffee for energy boosts but try brainfoods instead.
The book also mentioned an important point which is that relaxing by doing pleasurable things like watching Netflix or drinking wine are important BUT they shouldn't override meditation and mindfulness because these are the actual sources of energy that will actually recharge us.
6) Mental focus.
Use the pomodoro technique to actually sustain your focus. Yoga and meditation helps too.
7) The flow state.
"Seeking struggle then release" this is how you get a "flow state" or the ultimate creative state.
How do you get to that? When you do a task that stretches your ability but not to the point where it's too challenging.
Seek struggles! be persistent and don't give up easily (this is the release part).
8) Breaking bad habits.
Find the cues that cause you to do that habit, or the reward feeling that it give you, and then find alternatives, breaking a bad habit is easier than we actually think.
Jan, 21, 2020.