Her father was an American serviceman, her mother a young Korean woman confused by the ravages of war. Abandoned at age four, nameless, homeless, and utterly alone, this child roamed the bleak, war-ravaged countryside of South Korea for three years and was finally left for dead. But The Creator had other plans and revealed them through the words, "She Is Mine."
I can't imagine him being abandoned, left to fend for himself, desperately following train tracks to try to find his mommy, chewing on roots and grasshoppers to survive, being rejected and persecuted for his ethnic make-up anytime he encounters other people.
I have a seven-year-old daughter. I can't imagine her learning at this tender age "that there was a price for the clothes, food, protection, and the privilege of sitting at the fire" (141).
I really don't like thinking about the horrible crimes humans commit against one another, especially when the victims are innocent children. But the truth is, they happen. Stephanie Fast shared her story as a mixed race American-Korean in the aftermath of the Korean war until she was adopted and came to know acceptance and belonging in a family and ultimately as a child of God.
This was a quick read, I read it in one afternoon, but be warned: it will make your heart hurt and you'll likely be left asking yourself what you can do to help children caught in a similar situation.
I’m glad I read this. It’s a fascinating, horrifying, moving, and ultimately hopeful look into the life of an abandoned Korean orphan.
My main complaint with this book is that it climaxes with Stephanie receiving American citizenship and feeling a sense of belonging like never before. Citizenship in an earthly nation is such an impersonal thing and relatively meaningless, especially compared with adoption by actual people who love you, or citizenship in God’s kingdom, and I wish that had been the focus of ending instead.
I would like to learn more about her experience with her adopted family and her process of bonding and emotional healing, especially since that’s where most of the real work of adopting a child like this would start. It would be helpful for people considering adoption or trying to support friends who are adopting to have a better understanding of that challenging process. Maybe in a future book?
Wow, what an excellent book. Thank you, Stephanie, for so openly sharing your story. You tell of such great pain but with equally great hope. Thank you for raising awareness of the needs of orphans.
Stephanie Fast's She is Mine is a compelling, unforgettable memoir of a Korean war-orphan.
Her father, whom she never met, was an American soldier. He returned to the U.S. unaware that he was going to be a father. Her mother, ashamed and embarrassed, returned to her family. Initially beloved of her mother, the author was shunned by the rest of the family and shunned by the community in which she spent her early years. Eventually, her mother gave into the family pressure and abandoned her. The author was--at the age of four--put on a train and sent away. Told that "an uncle" would welcome her at the end of the line, the truth was she would never see her family again, never find her way back "home."
She had the clothes on her back, and, a day's worth of food. But how can a four-year-old survive on her own? But survive she did. The book chronicles the years--three or four years, I believe--she spent surviving, leading an uncertain, always desperate existence. Sometimes wandering in the country, in the fields; sometimes wandering into villages and cities. Usually her encounters with other people were negative. It went beyond her early-years experience of name-calling and "shunning." She was beaten. She was tortured. She was left to die. And yet. There were a few people who treated her kindly, with grace, who emphatically declared you must survive.
The memoir goes to really dark, really ugly places. I won't lie. Some of what she endured is horrifying and the fact that she was able to survive is a miracle.
She is Mine is ABOUT adoption, about the need for adoption, about how life-changing and amazing adoption can be. It's about adoption-as-redemption and redemption-as-adoption.
For anyone who enjoys nonfiction, this one is a must read.
Stephanie Fast was an orphan in Korea before she was adopted by American missionaries. This is her grueling story of survival on her own in a completely hostile world. Obviously, it has a good ending!
Continuing on the theme of refugees, we add the latest book. This was, without a doubt, the most horrifying book I’ve ever read; horrifying as in moving you to righteous pity and outrage, not schmut. The story is about an illegitimate Korean child of an American soldier and Korean worker after the Vietnam War who is abandoned by her mother at 5 years old and shunned by her country for her bi-racial identity. The horror she goes through is enough, but if you factor in the fact that she was 5 years old, the narrative is haunting. Written by the main character (who now lives in Spokane).
Imagine. Imagine that everyone around you treats you differently from others. Imagine that they call you "tougee" and even though you don't understand what the word means, you know how it makes you feel. Imagine that you are abandoned by your family, left on a train...alone. Imagine that you have to make your way in the world and that nobody will help you. Imagine that you have to survive harsh winters, dig up, catch or steal food and make clothes out of straw for warmth. Now imagine that at the start of your journey you are only four years old.
In her new book She is Mine, author Stephanie Fast takes her readers on an emotional roller coaster as she describes in horrifying detail the trying ordeal she endured as a young girl struggling to survive in South Korea following the Korean War. The daughter of an American soldier and an unwed Korean mother, this nameless child is unwanted and unwelcomed not just by her family, but by everyone she meets.
As you read this account, you will not help but become emotionally involved in the story, turning page after page, praying for a good outcome, for someone to take notice. As a parent your heart will ache for this child, for the physical and emotional trauma she suffers and the innocence that is lost. You will shed tears of sorrow as you are reminded of the tender young age of the one suffering. You will want to hold onto your own children tightly and vow again to shield them from all the darkness of this world. As a human being you will be enraged at the countless abuses she endures by total strangers simply because she was born of the wrong parents. Through it all, your soul will give thanks as you see the hand of Providence in the rare kindnesses shown and rejoice as she comes to know the One Who loved her when nobody else did.
In many ways, this book would be at home on a shelf in the “Horror” section of a book store because it is truly a horror story. It is also a story of survival, of living, when it seems impossible. Perhaps, the most compelling (and the most horrifying thing) about it is that it is a true story. It really happened. It still happens today. Ms. Fast writes “At this moment, there are an estimated 143 million orphans throughout the world who have been abandoned or abused. All are crying out or a caring person to deliver them from the hands of their oppressors.”
If you are not prepared to be moved… if you are not prepared to be shaken to the core with abundant emotion, do not read this book. However, if you are willing to open your mind to the plight of millions of children, then pick up this book. Sit down, open it, read it, weep, mourn and prepare to be changed as your mind is made aware not just of tragedy but also of hope that exists all around you.
This is the story of a young girl rejected because of her parentage. Her mother is Korean and her father an American G.I. In a country torn apart by war and with a strong cultural emphasis on family and history, little Yoon Myoung is seen as a mistake -- an outcast. Fortunately, God does not judge us by man's standards.
Left to fend for herself at the tender age of four, Yoon Myoung survives by sheer grit, optimism and the unbreakable spirit of a child. But, even the strongest warrior heart can eventually be broken by a cruel and unrelentingly painful life.
Yoon Myoung's life is spared multiple times by what Christians would say were miracles; interventions by a loving God to help this child endure and eventually, thrive.
I'm not gonna lie -- this book is painful to read. As a mother, I found the story tearing at my heart multiple times. I wanted to rail against a bigoted and unfair world that at times, seemed determined to destroy this child. She is starved, abused, rejected, ignored, tortured, and left for dead. She witnesses things no child should have to see.
This book will make you want to *do something* to help the millions of orphans still surviving in our world today. And I think that's a good thing.
Fast's story, told in the third person to give a sense of the commonality of many an orphan's story, will touch your heart and make you think.
Part of me wishes I had never read the book because I am haunted by its images. But a bigger part of me is so glad I read it and had my eyes opened to a real and all-too-common truth in our broken world. Millions of children in this world are surviving in a cruel and unforgiving world. What will we do to help, REALLY HELP, them?
This is such an important book! The story was gripping and fast-paced. Some parts were hard to read, but this was her reality. The author is brave to tell this story, and I'm so glad she did.
She Is Mine: A War Orphan's Incredible Journey of Survival by Stephanie Fast isn't a must read it's a HAVE to read. This book will grab you, have you one the edge of your seat and have your turn page after page, after page and turning more pages. You won't stop until the end. It is about a young Korean girl who falls in love with an American soldier. He returns to America and she is left pregnant. She has her baby and her family are in shock because the baby is "tougee" - biracial. No one wants anything to do with the child. When the child is four her mother is forced to take her and leave her somewhere, the family no longer wants to have her with them or want to continue to take care of her. So her mother takes her to the train station and abandons her there. Yoon Myoung leaves the station and decides to look for her mother. She travels for several years looking. She suffers horribly. People were very cruel to her. She is "tougee". Will Yoon Myoung find her mother? Will she ever be able to live a better life? Will she know love and trust? The end is very surprising. I loved this book. I gave this book 5 stars but it deserves many, many more. This is one book that would be perfect for your bookshelf and I highly recommend it to everyone. I look forward to more from Stephanie Fast.
This is such a heartwrenching story, and yet it is so full of hope. No one knows the path many in this world walk or have walked. Very few could walk and survive the path Stefanie Fast walked. I am not real familiar with the Korean War since it was many, many years before my time. However, I remember hearing similar stories after the Vietnam War. An American soldier fathers a child with a Korean mother. It is bad enough the mother is left pregnant and unwed, but the baby is mixed which is an absolute taboo. When she is four years old the family has had enough. Her mother takes her to the train station and abandons her. She spends years looking for her mother. The abuse and atrocities she goes through make it a miracle she survived. God looked down on her and had great plans for her. She did survive. This is one of those books you will start and continue to read until you have finished it. You will need your tissues as this will break your heart and the warm it. It made me hurt for every child today who goes through hardships. It makes me appreciate my years growing up and the love I had. I highly recommend this book. I received a copy to facilitate my review.
Such a heartbreaking story. It is difficult to accept that people would be so cruel especailly to a young child. At times I had to set it aside because it was just too difficult to read. I do have a problem with the author “filling in the gaps” about details she couldn’t remember. She states that the reader will be able to discern where the author “filled in the gaps”. Well, I couldn’t discern where/when the author was “filling” in the gaps (except concerning her mother and father) and that caused my to me question everything else. I am not questioning that the author experienced horrible things that no one, especially a child, should experience just questioning all the details.
Content: Sex/Nudity: Stephanie is repeatedly raped as well as other young girls, but thankfully the book does not go into details Profanity/Language: Moderate Violence/Gore: Severe - horrible acts of violence perpetrated against young Korean orphans Drugs/Alcohol: mild
Although an interesting read, sometimes the details were so harsh, I had to set it down. It's somehow different when you realize all these horrible things happened to the smiling person on the back cover of the book. Man's level of inhumanity to their fellow man can be breathtaking. And difficult to hear about.
This was a book that left me with a word I don't use often. Unbelievable. I have no reason to doubt her story is true. It's simply beyond my scope of experience to imagine how a 4 year-old child survived alone in the world. Survived such personal brutality. Witnessed horrific events. The writing was easy to comprehend and not flowery. Unbelievable. I can't think of another word.
For a book that I believe captures the reality of child abuse more effectively I suggest reading: Girl Unbroken by Regina Calcaterra. Though the circumstances are different the emotion is more available than in the story I am reviewing below.
"She Is Mine" is written as a composite of many children's experiences. It is written as though the author herself experienced all of the horrors which she did not. That is not to diminish her experience but to explain why I had trouble accepting much of her story. If you read the introduction you will discover that the author wrote a fictionalized memoir so that it would encompass the horrors that many Korean war orphans suffered. If the reader takes the story details literally in that each and everything she describes happened to HER you will not find the story believable. At the very end of the book, Miss Fast as a child has aged and the story becomes more literal and makes more sense.
I had great difficulty accepting much of the story the way it was told and sections of the story irritated me. If one reads it believing that ALL incidents happened to the author as written, the story is impossible to accept.
Scientifically speaking most humans can survive without any food for about 6 weeks.. Severe symptoms of starvation begin around 35-40 days and death usually occurs at approximately 50 days. As the story is told, it seems unbelievable that she, a mere child of 5 years of age lived alone, without any food what so ever, outside through a bitter cold and snowy Korean winter. Not only that but she had internal and external parasites, rat bites and physical injuries. Therefore, though I have utter compassion for her, it is impossible for me under the described conditions to see how this "kindergarten age child" (Ms Fast) survived as described. Certainly there was poetic license here.
I have utter compassion for child abuse. I detest all forms of child abuse and mean no disrespect to these orphans but had issues with the way the story was told. It's an important story to tell for posterity and it isn't unique to Korea. Tragically, it is replicated all over the world in 3rd world countries.
I first heard some of Stephanie Fast's story on Focus on the Family several years ago. I met her at an event at which she shared more of her story. Every person has a story and I want to know them. Some stories are more challenging and inspiring. Stephanie's is one of those.
She Is Mine is a war orphan's incredible journey of rejection, abandonment, pain, loss, betrayal, abuse, yet survival and redemption. It's hard to imagine that anyone could survive what Stephanie endured; she would agree with that, yet she also says, "I want to make it clear that in every instance of my life, whether, I knew it or not, there was a greater, higher, wiser power propelling willing hearts to rescue me."
A woman allowed her to sleep in her kitchen, an old grandmother pulled her out of a well, a man saved her from the sure death on a waterwheel, a Swedish nurse found her in a garbage dump, or her parents who adopted her--providential ordinary acts of love and kindness. Along the way she was told, "You must live. Go live."
And she did. This memoir ends with Stephanie becoming a naturalized citizen of the US. She says more of her story is forthcoming. I want to know how healing and restoration came.
The passion of her life is to share her story as a platform for adoption.
Very readable—though painful. Stephanie survives—not somehow, but triumphantly.
Stephanie Fast was born to a Korean mother and an American soldier father. Her father, however, had rotated home and never learned of his fatherhood. Biracial kids were not accepted in South Korea at the time and her mother was forced to put her on a train to a far village where Stephanie, at age 4, had to learn how to survive on her own. The early chapters seem somewhat fictional since it would be hard for a 4 year old to remember everything. Some of her later experiences were so horrific that I believe they would have imprinted on her memory no matter the age. She was on her own to age 7 when she was taken to an orphanage and then, a year or so later, at age 8, an American couple unaccountably adopted her over newborn babies. She now works to help international orphans. She has a great testimony.
This was an incredibly sad yet inspiring memoir of a woman who, as a child, lived through some of the worst abuse I have read about in a long time, all based upon her being mixed blood. Inspiring because she survived and has used her story to draw attention to the sufferings of other war orphans. From the publisher: Her father was an American serviceman, her mother a young Korean woman confused by the ravages of war. Abandoned at age four, nameless, homeless, and utterly alone, this child of destiny roamed the bleak, war-ravaged countryside of South Korea for three years and was finally left for dead. But God had other plans.
I wanted this book to be over when I was about halfway through. I heard Stephanie speak at a concert about a year ago and was broken by the realities that her story spoke of then. When her book was offered for free for kindle I knew I needed to read the rest.
Her life, in the early years, was tragic and heart breaking and real. What is even more heartbreaking is that this story is just one of millions that could be told.
Preparing her as an advocate for foreign and rejected children the world over.
This book serves as a good reminder, in general, but even more for me of what God is calling me in to.
She Is Mine was an incredible story of the hardship and pain of an impossibly young child. It was difficult to wrap my head around how cruel people could be and it was eye-opening to see the consequences of a culture that does not value life, especially children's lives. The title really does speak truth and not just about little Yoon Myoung, but about every girl (and boy) on the planet. Be ready to be challenged, heartbroken, hopeful, and convicted about a real problem that is going on in the world. This book only helped to strengthen the passion I have for children at risk, and I think it will do the same to you.
I had the pleasure of hearing Stephanie speak at a prayer breakfast event and her love for God today after the hardships she endured as a young homeless orphan is what inspired me to read her book. She tells a story abandonment that reflects so many other orphan children past and present that it was difficult to grasp being a mother myself. Her story of survival is beyond description from someone like myself who grew up in awhile different world. The recollection she has found to tell her tale is amazing given her possible age at abandonment. I highly recommend this book regardless of faith.
Wow! I don't think I can say enough about this book or the woman who wrote it!
Stephanie Fast is a woman who lives in America but was born in war-torn South Korea. Born to a Korean mother and an American soldier (who later went home and never knew about her), she was never wanted by her extended family and they pressured her mother to give her up at the age of 4. The story of her survival is almost unreal and so harrowing, at times my stomach flipped and my cheeks were tear streaked. A beautiful story of survival against all odds.
Do not read if your stomach is weak. This little girl, due to being of mixed race, was abandoned to open fields in Korea at age five. The story of her survival is almost unbelievable and is very sad. She did find a family, but to me one of the main messages of the book is that for every child that is found and adopted - or for that matter for every one that even finds his/her way to an orphanage - there are hundreds more existing on the streets and fields. Very sad but moving book. Difficult to put down once started.
This is a powerful memoir that is heartrending in its horrific details of a four-year-old girl who was abandoned soon after the Korean War due to rabid prejudice from her own family and culture. I found her survival despite being violently ostracized and tortured just short of death a very difficult read emotionally. Her story adds an important voice to those other orphans and the most vulnerable worldwide who struggle daily to survive against such evil. The miracle that a family finds her and how she came to understand the love of Christ is a testimony readers will be blessed to learn.