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Finally Out: Letting Go of Straight Living
Dr. Olson was once asked, “Why would a forty year old man want to come out anyway? You’re too old for sex.” In “Finally Out” Dr. Olson answers that question and many others as he rigorously examines why some gay men live straight lives while struggling to come to terms with their true sexual orientation. He blends his own life experience with his psychiatric training, adding gay history for context. He then wraps it all into a complete and easily accessible understanding of men who resist thinking they are gay even while engaging – sometimes exclusively -- in secret sexual activity with other men. With professional understanding Dr. Olson examines his personal transformation from a “straight” man living in a heterosexual world to a gay man beginning his education anew. Dr. Olson addresses the challenges faced by those who choose to come out after living much of their lives closeted. He punctuates his narrative with revealing stories from his own life and from his interviews with other gay men from around the world, and he includes surprising facts that provide perspective on global cultural norms.“Finally Out” examines how secrecy, silence and fear of judgment result in shame that contributes significantly to leading a hidden life. “Finally Out” is much more than a guide to coming out for mature men. Dr. Olson has written a book designed to be helpful for these men, but also for their families and anyone who loves them. It also will serve as a resource for therapists and clergy who counsel them and anyone who wishes to understand same-sex attraction.
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First published January 31, 2011
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Loren A. Olson
2 books70 followersDr. Loren A. Olson was born in Nebraska in 1943, and as former Nebraska senator Bob Kerry said, “Do you think anyone in his right mind would choose to be gay in Nebraska?” He struggled to be straight but eventually lost that fight when he was forty years old, when he left his wife and kids to declare somewhat quietly at first that he is gay.
Dr. Olson counseled his friends for years before realizing that it was possible to make a living practicing psychiatry. Although he sought to maintain a low profile as a psychiatrist, his colleagues made him a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, the National Alliance for Mental Illness named him an Exemplary Psychiatrist, and he inexplicably received awards for his writing.
After developing bags under his eyes and skin that resembled bread mold, as well as blowing out his knee having sex, he began to explore the idea that aging might have some advantages denied him in his youth. He then chose to write more about being gay and gray to avoid having to clean house and take out the garbage.
Dr. Olson and his partner of thirty years raised Belted Galloway cattle on their farm in Iowa. To the consternation of neighboring farmers who thought their cattle should be in a zoo rather than on a farm in Iowa, they also bought a Russian tractor. They raised the cattle on grass rather than feeding them the corn that is overproduced on neighboring farms with John Deere tractors and chemical fertilizers. To their neighbors’ surprise, these two gay men from the city sold their cattle throughout the United States, but as Dr. Olson’s stepfather said, “The secret to being a successful farmer is to have a medical practice on the side.”
Dr. Olson’s former wife, Lynn, and his husband, Doug, have been known to cook Thanksgiving dinner together. Their grandkids just shrug their shoulders and smile when asked why they have two grandmothers and three grandfathers. Dr. Olson also speaks about his life experiences to any group that promises to laugh at his jokes.
Until recently moving to Des Moines, Iowa, Dr. Olson and Doug lived in a 1900-era farmhouse that they moved fifteen miles to their farm. After living in the barn for two years, they moved into the house that they’d completely renovated—which is why, at age seventy-three, Dr. Olson still works as a psychiatrist.
Julie Silver, MD, Harvard: "Loren's compassion shines through when he speaks, and audiences readily connect with him." Dr. Olson says about himself, "I'm just your average, gay, close-to-retirement psychiatrist, living with my husband on a farm in rural Iowa-of-all-places."
Dr. Olson counseled his friends for years before realizing that it was possible to make a living practicing psychiatry. Although he sought to maintain a low profile as a psychiatrist, his colleagues made him a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, the National Alliance for Mental Illness named him an Exemplary Psychiatrist, and he inexplicably received awards for his writing.
After developing bags under his eyes and skin that resembled bread mold, as well as blowing out his knee having sex, he began to explore the idea that aging might have some advantages denied him in his youth. He then chose to write more about being gay and gray to avoid having to clean house and take out the garbage.
Dr. Olson and his partner of thirty years raised Belted Galloway cattle on their farm in Iowa. To the consternation of neighboring farmers who thought their cattle should be in a zoo rather than on a farm in Iowa, they also bought a Russian tractor. They raised the cattle on grass rather than feeding them the corn that is overproduced on neighboring farms with John Deere tractors and chemical fertilizers. To their neighbors’ surprise, these two gay men from the city sold their cattle throughout the United States, but as Dr. Olson’s stepfather said, “The secret to being a successful farmer is to have a medical practice on the side.”
Dr. Olson’s former wife, Lynn, and his husband, Doug, have been known to cook Thanksgiving dinner together. Their grandkids just shrug their shoulders and smile when asked why they have two grandmothers and three grandfathers. Dr. Olson also speaks about his life experiences to any group that promises to laugh at his jokes.
Until recently moving to Des Moines, Iowa, Dr. Olson and Doug lived in a 1900-era farmhouse that they moved fifteen miles to their farm. After living in the barn for two years, they moved into the house that they’d completely renovated—which is why, at age seventy-three, Dr. Olson still works as a psychiatrist.
Julie Silver, MD, Harvard: "Loren's compassion shines through when he speaks, and audiences readily connect with him." Dr. Olson says about himself, "I'm just your average, gay, close-to-retirement psychiatrist, living with my husband on a farm in rural Iowa-of-all-places."
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May 22, 2017
Part memoir, “Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight” is a valuable authoritative guide written by Loren A. Olsen MD, a practicing psychiatrist who has counseled and worked with individuals and families for decades. The highly controversial and complex ways many gay-straight men relate to family, friends, and the community around them is fully explored: it is necessary to understand “the culture of secrecy” that keeps so many men closeted in guilt, fear, and shame.
When Dr. Olson came out as a gay man, many questioned if he was using his wife and family as cover or “shield” to hide his true orientation, how could he not know this until he was 40? The last thing he wanted to do was hurt his family. Dr. Olson and men he knew of or worked with, took their commitment to family life and fatherhood seriously, and refused to abandon their families for freedom in a so-called gay hedonistic lifestyle.
It requires tremendous effort for a gay man to appear straight: constant vigilance, the endless loop of self-monitoring to conceal and hide thoughts, behaviors, and deeds. The dilemma of a gay orientation causing pain to others, opposed to the health risks to a man caused by stress and pain.
Dr. Olson surveyed 132 men online, from a wide variety of cultures, ages 24-91. 53% were married to women, 71.8% identified as homosexual. The majority reported they would not change their orientation even if they could. The coming out process is individualized and vastly different for older mature men who may have families, established careers, social, community standing etc. Despite the attraction, desire and illicit sexual relations with men, there are men who refuse to identify as gay. These men may have an increased risk of exposing their partners to disease and public humiliation. Gay politicians, professional athletes, actors, and notable clergy and businessmen are prime examples. In a culture of tolerance and acceptance the rates of HIV are reduced.
The unfavorable irrational public views of gay men reached the highest levels during the 1950’s in the U.S. and Great Britain. The propaganda linking communism and homosexuality was strongly promoted by Senator Joseph McCarthy (1908-1957). Gay men were widely believed to be deceitful, untrustworthy, emotionally unstable, weak/effeminate, perverted and immoral. Many men were unjustly harassed and arrested, thousands of men lost jobs in civic and government service. A CBS report “The Homosexuals” (1967) narrated by Mike Wallace, continued the negative stereotypes and bias against gay men. Wallace would later regret his involvement in the presentation.
The historic “Gay Liberation” began at the NYC Stonewall Inn on June 28.1969. Today, gay pride parades and festivals are widely celebrated throughout the U.S. each year in June. Despite the efforts of LGBT activists, greater improved cultural acceptance and tolerance of the LGBT community, much of the old bias, misinformation, and poor attitudes remain unchanged in some areas across the U.S.
Dr. Olson uses his considerable skill as an author and medical professional to open the closet doors and build bridges that unite us in understanding, truth, and compassion. Special thanks and appreciation to Oak Lane Press via NetGalley for the direct e-copy for the purpose of review.
When Dr. Olson came out as a gay man, many questioned if he was using his wife and family as cover or “shield” to hide his true orientation, how could he not know this until he was 40? The last thing he wanted to do was hurt his family. Dr. Olson and men he knew of or worked with, took their commitment to family life and fatherhood seriously, and refused to abandon their families for freedom in a so-called gay hedonistic lifestyle.
It requires tremendous effort for a gay man to appear straight: constant vigilance, the endless loop of self-monitoring to conceal and hide thoughts, behaviors, and deeds. The dilemma of a gay orientation causing pain to others, opposed to the health risks to a man caused by stress and pain.
Dr. Olson surveyed 132 men online, from a wide variety of cultures, ages 24-91. 53% were married to women, 71.8% identified as homosexual. The majority reported they would not change their orientation even if they could. The coming out process is individualized and vastly different for older mature men who may have families, established careers, social, community standing etc. Despite the attraction, desire and illicit sexual relations with men, there are men who refuse to identify as gay. These men may have an increased risk of exposing their partners to disease and public humiliation. Gay politicians, professional athletes, actors, and notable clergy and businessmen are prime examples. In a culture of tolerance and acceptance the rates of HIV are reduced.
The unfavorable irrational public views of gay men reached the highest levels during the 1950’s in the U.S. and Great Britain. The propaganda linking communism and homosexuality was strongly promoted by Senator Joseph McCarthy (1908-1957). Gay men were widely believed to be deceitful, untrustworthy, emotionally unstable, weak/effeminate, perverted and immoral. Many men were unjustly harassed and arrested, thousands of men lost jobs in civic and government service. A CBS report “The Homosexuals” (1967) narrated by Mike Wallace, continued the negative stereotypes and bias against gay men. Wallace would later regret his involvement in the presentation.
The historic “Gay Liberation” began at the NYC Stonewall Inn on June 28.1969. Today, gay pride parades and festivals are widely celebrated throughout the U.S. each year in June. Despite the efforts of LGBT activists, greater improved cultural acceptance and tolerance of the LGBT community, much of the old bias, misinformation, and poor attitudes remain unchanged in some areas across the U.S.
Dr. Olson uses his considerable skill as an author and medical professional to open the closet doors and build bridges that unite us in understanding, truth, and compassion. Special thanks and appreciation to Oak Lane Press via NetGalley for the direct e-copy for the purpose of review.
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April 1, 2015This is an uneven book, and would have been better served with a tighter editorial hand. There is no discernable logical progression of the topics discussed, and even within individual chapters, there are often no cohesive themes. As other reviewers have indicated, the title and jacket copy lead one to believe that it will be largely autobigraphical, with other bits woven in. In fact, the poor editiing makes the biographical information very non-linear, and almost intrusive upon the ohter portions which discuss gay men and their psycho, socio, and medical history. The portion regarding testosterone replacement therapy comes off as informercial-ish, especially given the prominence of quotes from the blurber Dr. Morgentaler (author of _Testosterone for Life_) on the book's jacket.[return][return]That said, I know of few other books about not just older gay men, but men who lived straight lives until their mid-lives. I might recommend Mel White's _Stranger at the Gate_ for another tale of coming out later in life, though the author of that work realizes his sexual orientation much earlier than Dr. Olson and that obviously affects the work (as well as Mel White's story being tied more directly to his religious upbringing and career).
November 11, 2025
I think there is some valuable information in this book, but it is all over the place. The author meanders and digresses, which is something I appreciate a lot of times, just not in a book like this. The title promises one thing. The delivery is humorous, but distracted and uneven (example, sometimes he presents citations for points, other times they are missing, but needed). As for the subject matter, the book is part the psychology of coming out later in life, part the author's confessions and self-coaching. While the focus is on the later life coming out process, he also spends a considerable amount of time (as a 73-year-old late blooming gay therapist) reflecting on social gerontology in the LGBT community and on intergenerational relationship dynamics (as a 73-year-old gay man married to someone 15 years his junior). While I think there is something to be gained here from middle aged gay men of a younger age, I think his focus is on a very small audience.
July 24, 2025
I was highly disappointed by this book. First of all, it is in desperate need of a harsh editor. If this book did have an editor, that person was clearly too nice to the author. Exclamation marks, odd phrasing, and awkward wording pervades the work. Secondly, the author has far too much sympathy for the closeted anti-gay types. Although it is tough to be out as gay, there is a difference between a closet case and a closet case who actively works towards the detriment of other LGBT individuals. The author was a closet case himself but did not work to harm other LGBT individuals, whereas those for him he has so much compassion, like Larry Craig, actually worked on legislation to hurt LGBT community members. Craig and his ilk are not sad closet cases to be pitied, they are men who cynically play straight for political power while indulging in same-sex desires in secret. The author ought to consider that before tripping over himself to feel sorry for them. Thirdly, in his wish to provide a book benefiting older closet cases who have finally come out, the author unnecessarily pillories the younger, more active, more vocal LGBT community. If it weren't for that community, he would not have a platform for his viewpoints and a market for his book, so he could have at least acknowledged and given due respect to the more urban, out, vocal LGBT individuals instead of being angry at them for not being rural and straight-acting enough. Fourthly, there are some very odd anecdotes in the book that seem to be there for no reason. The one that comes to my mind is the one in which he tries doing drag. It seems unnecessarily and uncomfortably transphobic for him to talk about how stupid dressing up as the opposite gender is for him; plenty of people, gay or straight, try things that don't work out for them, but all of us don't feel the need to awkwardly recount those experiences as some kind of proof that we are a superior gay. Last, but not least, the author seems to be disdainful of so much, from men who do drag to people who rightly oppose closeted anti-gay politicians, that I felt he was writing to assuage straight people's fears instead of for the LGBT crowd who would be more likely to buy and read his book.returnreturnThere is definitely a need for books aimed towards ex-straight people. This book might fit into that need somehow, but it is woefully inadequate.
January 29, 2015
As a writer and researcher, I bought the book as a resource on men who come out later in life. I absolutely LOVED all of the data wrapped around the story. I got way more out of the book than I anticipated, both personally and professionally. I am recommending this book to the many men I know who tried reparative therapy and who got married on a religious promise of change. The devastation to them and their families caused them to face up to reality later than sooner. The questions this book answered are many of the questions these men face, navigating in a much younger community of gay men, often with the beliefs and ideals of conservatives. The juxtaposition is daunting and confusing. Most of us had to do it with no support. Dr. Olson addressed the challenges one by one both psychologically and sociologically. Excellent book! Well done, Dr. Olson!
June 4, 2012
I was very excited to read this book. As someone who went "back into the closet" in her early 20s after identifying as a lesbian in high school and then finally coming out again in her early 30s, I wondered if Dr. Olsen would touch on some of the same feelings and issues I struggled with.
It was a very well-written book. I had expected a memoir-type book, but large quantities of the book is written from a psychosocial perspective. As a social work nerd, I enjoyed this style of writing, but for people not interested in a "textbook" type reading, they may find sections boring; however, compared to some psychology books that I've read, it is an easy-to-understand and not very clinical book.
It was a very well-written book. I had expected a memoir-type book, but large quantities of the book is written from a psychosocial perspective. As a social work nerd, I enjoyed this style of writing, but for people not interested in a "textbook" type reading, they may find sections boring; however, compared to some psychology books that I've read, it is an easy-to-understand and not very clinical book.
July 23, 2017
FINALLY OUT
This is an interesting and thought-provoking book.
The author (a psychiatrist) was married to a woman for a long time and only came out in middle age. It's a familiar enough story and similar enough to my own life that I hoped it would be personally relevant. But Doctor Olson claims he didn't know he was gay until he met the man with whom he began his first same-sex relationship.
I was sceptical, especially as he talks later in the book about being attracted to men from when he was an adolescent. However, he goes on to explain in a long exploration of sexuality, masculinity, identity, stereotyping and social pressures. The essence is that he knew he couldn't be gay because he was nothing like the flamboyant gay men we see in the media, so he must be something else. It makes more sense in the book.
It's good for us all to read other people's experiences and understand that there's more than one way to be queer, so it was all interesting and pushed a little at my own prejudices. But the book goes on to explore other topics: the complications of religion, casual hookup sex, intergenerational relationships, the difficulties and benefits of aging. A lot of it I've seen in other books but its always good to get another point of view and I got something out of reading his take on the subjects.
Loren's prose is competent. He has neither a writer's elegance or an academic's rigour and precision, and with a ruthless edit the book could be several thousand words shorter. But the rambling conversational style suits the subject matter and we get a feel for Loren's personality.
Definitely worth a read, especially for older gay men or those who seek to understand them.
This is an interesting and thought-provoking book.
The author (a psychiatrist) was married to a woman for a long time and only came out in middle age. It's a familiar enough story and similar enough to my own life that I hoped it would be personally relevant. But Doctor Olson claims he didn't know he was gay until he met the man with whom he began his first same-sex relationship.
I was sceptical, especially as he talks later in the book about being attracted to men from when he was an adolescent. However, he goes on to explain in a long exploration of sexuality, masculinity, identity, stereotyping and social pressures. The essence is that he knew he couldn't be gay because he was nothing like the flamboyant gay men we see in the media, so he must be something else. It makes more sense in the book.
It's good for us all to read other people's experiences and understand that there's more than one way to be queer, so it was all interesting and pushed a little at my own prejudices. But the book goes on to explore other topics: the complications of religion, casual hookup sex, intergenerational relationships, the difficulties and benefits of aging. A lot of it I've seen in other books but its always good to get another point of view and I got something out of reading his take on the subjects.
Loren's prose is competent. He has neither a writer's elegance or an academic's rigour and precision, and with a ruthless edit the book could be several thousand words shorter. But the rambling conversational style suits the subject matter and we get a feel for Loren's personality.
Definitely worth a read, especially for older gay men or those who seek to understand them.
July 18, 2017
My Recommendation: If you are interested in gerontology and/or LGBT individuals this is the book for you. Olson and those he interviews have interesting stories to tell and add an important perspective to the rapidly evolving and expanding LGBT+ collective narrative. It could've been stronger when it came to Queer Theory and even sharing his experiences, but overall this is a solid and interesting read.
My Response: I'm nearing the end of my galley/ARC backlog. With this one finished I only have four more. I've had this since March and finally got around to it this past week.
The publicist for this book reached out to me and with my Masters degree (Gender, Sexuality and Queer Theory) and a friend who at one point studied gerontology, I of course said yes!
Finally Out is Olson's look at gay men/MSM who come out/acknowledge their practices later in life. What seriously strengthens the book is Olson's own story and experience of coming out at the age of 40. What Olson really needs though, is a good Queer Theory 101 course. In general he did a really good job of writing about these men, but there were some problems when it came to sexual orientation/identity/practice. He basically gets it, but in choosing not to use the pre-existing language, I feel that the book suffers.
Click here to continue reading on my blog The Oddness of Moving Things.
*I received a copy of this book from a publicist in return for my honest opinion, no additional goods or money were exchanged.
My Response: I'm nearing the end of my galley/ARC backlog. With this one finished I only have four more. I've had this since March and finally got around to it this past week.
The publicist for this book reached out to me and with my Masters degree (Gender, Sexuality and Queer Theory) and a friend who at one point studied gerontology, I of course said yes!
Finally Out is Olson's look at gay men/MSM who come out/acknowledge their practices later in life. What seriously strengthens the book is Olson's own story and experience of coming out at the age of 40. What Olson really needs though, is a good Queer Theory 101 course. In general he did a really good job of writing about these men, but there were some problems when it came to sexual orientation/identity/practice. He basically gets it, but in choosing not to use the pre-existing language, I feel that the book suffers.
Click here to continue reading on my blog The Oddness of Moving Things.
*I received a copy of this book from a publicist in return for my honest opinion, no additional goods or money were exchanged.
August 3, 2023
I gave up on this book after listening to the first three chapters and finding it of little or no interest or applicability to my life, even though, like the author, I came out in my 40s when married to a woman. As many reviewers have noted, this book doesn't seem to know what it wants to be. Subtitled as a "psychiatrist's own story," the memoir is deeply buried and very non-linear. Rather, his story is used to illustrate whatever topic he happens to be discussing in each section of each chapter. I know it is difficult for psychiatrists to open up and reveal themselves, but Olson doesn't even seem to to try. He wants to address a certain subset of queer men, one that is rapidly aging out as young people don't seem to be as unclear of their sexuality as his (and my) generation were. Sadly, this book feels like an old text of the 1970s and 80s and not really in tune with the currently coming out generation.
April 10, 2022
I was fortunate enough to win a copy of this book through a goodreads giveaway. As a queer woman I was interested in learning more about a man's experience coming out later in life. I'm fascinated and emotionally tied to the experiences of LGBT individuals such as myself. This book was a lovely memoir that helped me feel connected to his story. Woven throughout are fascinating insights, and I learned so much I wasn't expecting from it. The book isn't laid out in such a way that the points made on specific topics can be easily found. So in that sense I found highlighting passages as I went to be helpful.
I'd recommend this book to anyone looking to better understand themselves and/or those around them. To help put into perspective what it means to be "out" in this world, and how that in itself has changed so much from a few decades ago.
I'd recommend this book to anyone looking to better understand themselves and/or those around them. To help put into perspective what it means to be "out" in this world, and how that in itself has changed so much from a few decades ago.
May 8, 2017
4.5 stars
With an effective interweaving of psychology, gay history, and Dr. Olson's own story, this could be a reassuring and helpful book for those men who might be awakening to their innate same-sex attraction at midlife or after. It's also an informative read for those who don't understand why a man might be intimate with other men but not choose to label himself as gay.
With an effective interweaving of psychology, gay history, and Dr. Olson's own story, this could be a reassuring and helpful book for those men who might be awakening to their innate same-sex attraction at midlife or after. It's also an informative read for those who don't understand why a man might be intimate with other men but not choose to label himself as gay.
December 20, 2017
There are certainly valuable insights and reflections here, but the book seems about 30 years out of date. Much time is spent reassuring gay men that that are not sick and rehashing debates with Christian conservatives. I suppose that there are parts of the country where such arguments are important. but they leave me cold.
November 29, 2020
An earnest, discursive examination of homosexuality
I am someone who tends to conciseness, so Dr. Loren ,s organization of a conversational style with quotations from professional literature and the popular press meant many pages skipped over.
I came out at 62 and remember well many of the mazes documented by Dr. Loren I am now 82 and wish him well on his next revision.
I am someone who tends to conciseness, so Dr. Loren ,s organization of a conversational style with quotations from professional literature and the popular press meant many pages skipped over.
I came out at 62 and remember well many of the mazes documented by Dr. Loren I am now 82 and wish him well on his next revision.
January 30, 2020
Although I am a fairly slow reader, there are many aspects I could totally relate with. I loved the book. I belong to an online group called Quora, when people question me why I had to bury being gay for so many years, this is the book I recommend.
July 1, 2017
A wonderful book that is well researched and warmly balanced with personal experiences. A good primer as well about the history of the LGBTQ experience. Highly recommend!
November 3, 2016
borrowed from library, 1 Feb. 2014
good references
this book deserves to be in the library in honor of IASHS
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http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/fina...
"...Olson focuses his narrative on members of his own demographic: mature men who have sex with men (MSM). ....MSM is an important distinction, because many of these men don’t think of themselves as gay. Olson cites a 2006 study in The Annals of Internal Medicine in which ten percent of working-class and immigrant men in New York City who labeled themselves as heterosexual had sex only with other men. Furthermore, MSM come from all communities, ethnicities, and socioeconomic levels. ...Underpinning Finally Out is his survey of 132 MSM (median age: 60). For older men, the coming-out trajectory differs considerably from that for younger populations. Developmental processes that heterosexual men (who don’t have to come out) experience in late adolescence and early adulthood are delayed in men who discover their true sexual and emotional selves later in life...."
***** article 245 in database: photocopies of title page, table of contents, and references at end of book
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
June 18, 2011
I think this is an excellent and thought-provoking book which is easy to read. As a 61 y.o. heterosexual female, I was appreciative of the insite into the emotional processes of aging. Also, as a primary care dr, I found the perspective of a middle-age gay male very helpful and enlightening. Thanks, Dr Olson.
September 1, 2014
A well thought out and researched book. As a gay women it was interesting to see the similarities and difference of our male counterparts. But on the whole we all seem to go through the same struggles. I would definately recommend this book to someone who is struggling to come out.
January 3, 2022
I read the second edition, published in 2017. This was a good book for me, as a mid 60 yr old, who came out later in life to read. It wasn't earthshattering, but it gave me perspective on what I've experienced. I really liked it, and am glad I read it.
April 22, 2011
Wonderful book of a man's voyage though life as a gay man and his struggles. This a a must read book!
May 28, 2011
throughly enjoyed this book!! worth reading again.
September 1, 2011
Well there was a lot in this, the book provided insights that I had never considered. It also provides some history of GLBT experience in the US and is an easy read.
January 8, 2023
This is an excellent book. I like the clear way that Loren Olson goes through the important stages of his experience. This book should be a model for MSM who are strugling.
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