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160 pages, Paperback
First published February 16, 2016
Her gaze had gone soft looking at the painting. She didn't seem to want to look away, in the way that shy people can have while examining things at parties. Is that why shy people are so curious? A life spent looking at things until the things themselves become interesting, until you have to see the bookshelves at parties, the small paintings outside bathrooms, all these places feel forbidden, but in fact everyone is right around the corner, and when someone passes you smile and try to leave, or they try to leave. But what other choice do we have? Sometimes that is the only consolation, that there's never been another choice.This quote from the story "The Museum Assistant," which I have been unable to forget since finishing this collection three months ago, gets at the heart of what Cities I've Never Lived In is all about. Every story is about people who just aren't that good at connecting with other people, at getting outside themselves—but in their own ways, they keep trying anyway. Relationships end or never get off the ground to begin with, trips are a disappointment, people disappear and never come back. It's sad stuff, but somehow, every time I read a story from this collection, I put the book down feeling glad to be alive. Some feeling that our humanity is in the trying, in the attempt to connect, regardless of the eventual outcome.
"How strange we are. How different we are from how we think we are. We fall out of love only to fall in love with a duplicate of what we've left, never understanding that we love what we love and that it doesn't change."