Limbajul trupului. 7 lecții simple pentru a stapâni limbajul non-verbal

by James Borg

Aceasta carte va schimba pentru totdeauna felul in care comunicati. Forta si influenta limbajului corporal sunt uriase. Fie ca trebuie sa vinzi o idee, fie ca trebuie sa fii convingator ori sa intelegi ceea ce gandesc cu adevarat alti oameni, limbajul trupului este baza oricarei comunicari.

Studiile stiintifice arata ca peste jumatate din comunicare se face non-verbal si ca cei mai de succes oameni - in toate domeniile - stapanesc intuitiv arta descifrarii acestor semnale. Cu totii ne inchipuim ca stim sa folosim acest limbaj „tacut“, dar cati dintre noi reusesc cu adevarat?
Limbajul trupului te va ajuta:

sa-i cunosti mai bine pe ceilalti pentru a le putea „citi“ gandurile;
sa stii ce fel de semnale non-verbale le trimiti celorlalti si cum sa te folosesti de ele pentru a obtine reactia pe care o doresti;
sa observi daca ceea ce spune o persoana este in contradictie cu ceea ce gandeste sau simte;
sa inveti cum gesturile tale te pot da de gol;
sa faci o impresie mai buna in societate si la locul de munca, devenind constient de limbajul tau corporal… si multe altele.

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Help

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

About the author

Business consultant and psychological coach, James Borg, specialises in the areas of interpersonal skills, management and business development. His career spans the spectrum of advertising, sales, marketing and journalism, He conducts regular workshops on persuasion; how to develop a super memory; and ‘positive psychology’.

James Borg became interested in magic and 'mind-reading' at the age of 9 and subsequently was - a few years later - admitted as one of the youngest-ever members of the Magic Circle. In his book Persuasion he reveals that there is a lot we can learn from magician's tricks to help us gain persuasive powers to use in work and life.

After graduating in London, with degrees in both economics and psychology, James Borg had a successful career in advertising, sales, marketing and journalism. This equipped him well for his current role as a work psychologist, business consultant and trainer in persuasion techniques, interpersonal skills and memory improvement. With his fascination for the human mind from a young age (he was admitted as one of the youngest ever members of The Magic Circle after his demonstration of 'mind-reading' and memory feats) he performed occasionally with a routine known as 'The mind and magic of James Borg'. Tuning in to other people's thoughts - and being aware of our own - is his prescription for success in all aspects of life. He's often invited on BBC radio and was selected as a Harvard Business Review author for May 2009.

Reviews

[Micah Rasmussen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book. However, if you really want to learn how to read body language it will take reading this book multiple times and practice... lots of practice! This book is a great start on learning self awareness and body language as well ad paralanguage. After reading this book I would say to pick up another that'd maybe more in depth. This is a skill set that took many scientists many years to develop. Great introductory book nonetheless.

[Arthur · Rating 4 out of 5]

Body Language Book Review

Body Language by James Borg gives you a clear understanding of what is really being said. The title stands for itself and the topic is simplified and broken down into 7 chapters (lessons). Borg being an expert, shows his understanding and educates readers with simple psychology based on experiments in human behaviour, and responses to certain situations.

Once reading this book you will find you have a much deeper level of understanding those around you, I personally am a third culture kid and it is very common for me to travel to places new where my family and I are restricted through language barriers and have a limited vocabulary to get across our words or understand opinions of others. Through this book you learn many common non verbal cues that you can look for when someone is trying to explain something to you, however very different cultures may have different ways of expressing themselves. Once aware of these cues you can pick up little messages to help you gain much more reliable information.

This book does not only apply to people who travel a lot, the tips and tricks from this book help you pick up just the tiniest of details to ensure you are receiving as much information from your surroundings on a day to day basis. Once reading this you will find out that 55% of a message is visual body language, 38% vocal (tone, pitch, pace), and only 7% of the meaning comes from the actual words. By the information of this book you truly are going to be the “genius” within your social group having all this insider information from just keeping an extra eye on those people surrounding you.

Learning about different signs and cues isn't only about tricking people and trying to catch them out, James Borg has written in such a way where you are learning to be more open minded and watch out for signals, which can be crucial to help you make a good impression if you can catch if you are making a good impression or not. However for you to master this Language, you must practice, and read it again to make sure you memorise most of the content.

For example you have just met someone for the first time but you are unsure whether they are interested in the conversation or not have a quick peek at their feet, look where they are facing, maybe you? maybe the door? You’ll see pick up the book “Body Language” by James Borg to make sure you are always one step ahead. I guarantee a great read.

[Emma Boulton · Rating 5 out of 5]

I find this subject really interesting, the author has a fantastic way of laying out a lot of in depth information in almost bite size chunks which are easy to absorb and understand. The recaps at the end of each lesson were particularly useful, even though the same information is being repeated, it’s done so in a fun and insightful way. I’ll definitely refer back to this book in the future.

[Ali AlGarawi · Rating 1 out of 5]

Oh my god i can't believe i've finished this book!

Because of this book i started to hate the subject. Although, it's not the first book in this subject i read, but it going to be the last one for sure!

Apparently i didn't like it, but i felt i have to finish it before writing any review. Also, i hate to just stop reading a book in the middle of it. What I didn't like about this book is:
- it kept repeating it self ( waste of time!)
- the book language or the tone of it makes me feel stupid! It just didn't feel good.
- it kept making references to things either discussed before or going to discuss it in later chapters ( frustrating + waste of time )
- sometimes it tries to be witty, while no body could accuse it with that!

What i liked about it is:
- the way the subject was presented (as lessons)
- the key point summery after each lesson ( very useful )

At the end, i don't recommend reading this book an i won't read it in the future and if I could travel back into history I would recommend my-self not to read it!


يا الله.. لا ما أصدق إني أنهيت هذا الكتاب!

من أثقل ما قرأت رغم، أنه لا يقع إلا في ٢٥٠ صفحة!
ورغم أنه ليس الكتاب الأول الذي أقرأه في هذا المجال إلا أن كرهته بسببه، وكرهت فيه ما يلي:

- يعيد ويكرر نفسه كثيراً وهذا أمر محبط، ومضيعة للوقت.
- نبرة الكتاب تشعرك بالغباء، ولهذا لم أحب ولم أستمتع بقراءته.
- لم يبرح عن الإشارة في مواضع كثيرة إلى الأشياء التي تحدث عنها والتي سيتحدث عنها، وهذا أيضاً مضيعة للوقت.
- في بعض الأحيان يحاول أن يكون ساخراً ومضحكاً رغم أنّ أحداً لم ولن يتهمه بذلك!

أعجبني في الكتاب:

- تقسيمه للفصول على شكل دروس.
- تلخيص لأهم النّقاط التي يجب أن تراعى في كل باب أو درس.

في نهاية المطاف، لا أنصح بقراءته بتاتاً ولن أعيد قراءته يوماً ما، واو عاد بي الزّمن لنصحتني بعدم قراءته!

[Latifa_ah_145509]

I actually found this book more interesting than I thought it would be also it was too complicated and needed practice to "know what's REALLY being said" which is part of the title. This book is a non-fiction book linked to psychology and studying the body language. The author James Borg creates and illustrates diagrams to attract the reader and make things more clear about the body language. What makes this book interesting is the fact that it has been divided into 7 different lessons, which I loved as it was helpful for me to understand. Borg makes this book interesting by adding facts throughout the 7 chapters that were quit entertaining. I'd only recommend this book for people who are interested in studying the body language and who are patient to understand and practice the little activities throughout this book.

[Joey Vissers · Rating 4 out of 5]

Overall this book is interesting but I have to tell you I would give this book a 3,5 out of 5. My personal perspective is that allot of information has very much detail in it as I am more a practicable person.

There are good 'owl tips' in the book that give some good advice or information. Overall a good self-help book.

[Gus · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was good book.. But I felt like I knew some of the information that was in the book. Overall an interesting read.

[Khaled · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book as a first book that has laid in my hand of its kind. It is a very easy, simple, direct, and straight to the point. The illustrations embedded in the script and the examples given make the book a nice experience. You will start noticing on your own body language and on others' body language how it tells more than you could have thought before..

[Randolph Breschini · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good general book about the importance of body language...a main point, for communications 55% is body language, 38% is the tone of one's voice, AND THEN ONLY 7% is the actual words being used! Interesting research presented...

[Birdie Brietling · Rating 3 out of 5]

Mostly common sense information. The author also doesn’t explain things fully; for example, he would say “when you tilt your head sideways and cross your arms at the same time, it is not a good sign”. He should have elaborated on that sentence because it didn’t make any sentence at all.

[Rebecca Saneka · Rating 3 out of 5]

There were some interesting facts and insights I hadn't come across. It did provide a good opportunity for some self reflection, and that was the greatest take away for me. Not an altogether bad book, but also not specifically mind blowing either.

[Shada · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some act might be better than words to explain how they feel

[Omar Mihoubi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yes

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[Zaeem · Rating 1 out of 5]

نن

[Ayoub · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hi

[Rob Lewan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Easy read and actually very informative.

[TAHA MOHAMED · Rating 5 out of 5]

اقراه ازاي من هنا ؟

[Negru Vlad · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.4

[George Kelly · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Every day we constantly have to interpret what another person's body language is telling us . . ."

A lot of misinformed people think they know everything about body language. They’ve watched a brief TV segment on mirroring, or they’ve read an article in a magazine about negative posture or defensive gesturing, and suddenly they’re experts and can decipher every action a person makes. But the truth is, most people, especially the faux experts, don’t know nearly as much as they think they do.

This book tries to bridge that gap — to discredit the fallacies, fill in the holes of knowledge and to explain that not everything can be deduced from a simple arm-cross or shoulder shrug, although they may be significant; if the action doesn’t mean anything specifically by itself, clustered with another piece of body language, it can reveal a lot.

The book does well at explaining the complexity of pattern observation and clusters. And as well as its breakdown of negative and positive body language, and how we can manipulate our own body language, or that of other people, to suit our needs, it also delves into the area of lying and how we can tell if somebody isn’t being truthful with us. Again, like body language as a whole, it’s not as simple as “he touched his nose, he’s lying” — it’s more complicated than that, and the book conveys this message in a straightforward and simplistic manner without losing credibility.

By no means a comprehensive guide, it still contains enough hints, tips and insight to warrant a purchase. If you want to master your own body language, or that of a friend or lover, then I’d suggest taking a look at this book, and then maybe do some follow-up research.

That’s it.

Now stop crossing your arms — it’s defensive.

[Lucy Goodchild · Rating 3 out of 5]

While I'm rather reluctant to admit it, I'm a huge fan of the tv series Lie to Me. Body language and the art of deception fascinate me, and this book seemed like an interesting introduction to the subject. Unfortunately, I wasn't blown away.

The book covers body language in seven chapters that all begin with the letter L, making the underlying structure feel rather forced. The information is interesting, but its presentation left me wanting more. Lots of glossed over references to 'research', which I would have loved to read more about.

The style was simple and straightforward, which I always enjoy. But the humour tries too hard, and there's an odd approach to gender - quite patronizing to women.

It's obvious that the author knows what he's talking about, and it's a fascinating topic. Just be prepared to skim read past all the filling.

[Sheeemz]

It was very usefull to me, especially in the analysis of the direction of person's eye movements, and how each movement presents a specific meaning !
The funny thing is that I just discovered I am doing the same thing when I am in conversation with somebody. So Ofcource I will not recommend this book to any of my relative or my friends since it will make my mind extremely open to them through the understanding of my body language ;P

The most important sentences which literally make me re-think again and again:

- Men are usually reluctant to make contact with a woman who hasn't shown that she is approachable.

- If we don't like the messanger we won't like the message.

[Louana Kaloustian · Rating 4 out of 5]

A very interesting book. In just seven easy chapters you learn things you need to know about the body and its language. Using this to your own advantage making it simple to see what the person is really feeling or trying to say. You not only learn about others body language but understand what message you are sending yourself from your body actions.

[Ali Mahdi · Rating 4 out of 5]

للمرة الثالثة أعيد قراءة هذا الكتاب الذي من غير المنصف ان يطلق عليه اسم كتاب بل انه موسوعة معلومات تحاكي الواقع اليومي لنا بتعاملاتنا بعلاقتنا مع اقرباء أو غرباء لأول مرة نلتقي بهم أو سبق وان التقينا بهم
يعلمنا كيف نفهم تصرفات وحركات ومقصد الشخص المقابل من خلال لغة جسده من اعلى رأسه إلى أسفل قدمه

[Sourabh Yogi · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is an amazing book. James Borg is an expert and he shows it. Must read if you're an amateur 'mind reader', you know what I mean!!

[Ciara Garrett · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

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[Alaa · Rating 5 out of 5]

جيد

[Michel Magdy · Rating 3 out of 5]

good

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