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15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy: An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy
Based on a phenomenally popular blog post, a simple and counterintuitive approach to finding true joy
When PurposeFairy.com founder Luminita Saviuc posted a list of things to let go in order to be happy, she had no idea that it would go viral, shared more than 1.2 million times and counting. Based on that inspiring post, this heartfelt book gives readers permission to give up--that is, to let go of the bad habits that are holding them back from achieving authentic happiness and living their best lives. Lessons include:
· Give Up the Past
· Give Up Your Limiting Beliefs
· Give Up Blaming Others
· Give Up the Need to Always Be Right
· Give Up Labels
· Give Up Attachment
Simple yet wise, and informed by the author's own inspiring personal journey, this liberating little book presents a fresh twist on happiness advice: take a step back to reflect, and give yourself permission to let things go.
When PurposeFairy.com founder Luminita Saviuc posted a list of things to let go in order to be happy, she had no idea that it would go viral, shared more than 1.2 million times and counting. Based on that inspiring post, this heartfelt book gives readers permission to give up--that is, to let go of the bad habits that are holding them back from achieving authentic happiness and living their best lives. Lessons include:
· Give Up the Past
· Give Up Your Limiting Beliefs
· Give Up Blaming Others
· Give Up the Need to Always Be Right
· Give Up Labels
· Give Up Attachment
Simple yet wise, and informed by the author's own inspiring personal journey, this liberating little book presents a fresh twist on happiness advice: take a step back to reflect, and give yourself permission to let things go.
208 pages, Paperback
First published March 8, 2016
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March 14, 2017
This was really good. I picked up the audiobook at the library largely because it was short (only 4 discs) and I was waiting for another audiobook to come in. I had no idea about this author and her blog. It isn't earth shattering or new material, but it is clear, concise, and heartfelt. The audiobook was actually quite well done, not sure who the narrator was, but I could listen to her remind me to be a better person on continual loop for a long time. It was very well done.
This is the positive and life-affirming version of pretty much the same advice I'd heard when I listened to F*uck Feelings earlier this year. When I line up my life's challenges that I am facing right now, the authors of both of these books were steering me in the exact same directions in pretty much every instance. And, I know they are the "right" directions too, in letting things go, in not trying to change other people or their minds, finding peace for yourself in the here and now.
Usually I am a person who prefers a snarky, jokey attitude in most things. But I was surprised how much more I preferred the non-jokey, serious and supportive and life affirm tone of this book, and the fact no one was swearing at me multiple times every chapter. I actually want to follow her blog now, seek out her thoughts when I once again fall into the habits of trying to be right rather than trying to be happy, etc. I've been trying to live my online life this way anyway, not responding to people's negative or controversial posts and just not following people who have made social media their personal political platform. No time for that. When I see you in person we'll talk about something else, or I will free myself to let you go about your way for more peace and happiness for me.
I do recommend this book, but my one main "what is she saying" moment were some comments about people "believing in cancer" and therefore somehow allowing it into their lives. As the mom to a child with cystic fibrosis, I can guarantee that at birth, my son did not bring upon CF to himself, nor did we as his parents who were shocked by this diagnosis, as neither of us had any family history of it. I think what she was trying to say (or hope anyway), is that he (and we, as his parents) need to make sure that does not define his life. He is a wonderful little six year old boy who happens to have a serious health condition, but he isn't CF. That I can get behind, but the words she used in that section caused me a little confusion and distress.
Other than that, it was really flawless. She started with a heart-wrenching story from her own childhood, and I wasn't sure where that was going, but it did establish her as a person who has faced challenging situations. That was important, as sometimes you wonder what these self-improvement gurus can actually say for folks who have faced real challenges. Very life affirming, and the power is within all of us to choose to be happy in our own lives. Yeay!
This is the positive and life-affirming version of pretty much the same advice I'd heard when I listened to F*uck Feelings earlier this year. When I line up my life's challenges that I am facing right now, the authors of both of these books were steering me in the exact same directions in pretty much every instance. And, I know they are the "right" directions too, in letting things go, in not trying to change other people or their minds, finding peace for yourself in the here and now.
Usually I am a person who prefers a snarky, jokey attitude in most things. But I was surprised how much more I preferred the non-jokey, serious and supportive and life affirm tone of this book, and the fact no one was swearing at me multiple times every chapter. I actually want to follow her blog now, seek out her thoughts when I once again fall into the habits of trying to be right rather than trying to be happy, etc. I've been trying to live my online life this way anyway, not responding to people's negative or controversial posts and just not following people who have made social media their personal political platform. No time for that. When I see you in person we'll talk about something else, or I will free myself to let you go about your way for more peace and happiness for me.
I do recommend this book, but my one main "what is she saying" moment were some comments about people "believing in cancer" and therefore somehow allowing it into their lives. As the mom to a child with cystic fibrosis, I can guarantee that at birth, my son did not bring upon CF to himself, nor did we as his parents who were shocked by this diagnosis, as neither of us had any family history of it. I think what she was trying to say (or hope anyway), is that he (and we, as his parents) need to make sure that does not define his life. He is a wonderful little six year old boy who happens to have a serious health condition, but he isn't CF. That I can get behind, but the words she used in that section caused me a little confusion and distress.
Other than that, it was really flawless. She started with a heart-wrenching story from her own childhood, and I wasn't sure where that was going, but it did establish her as a person who has faced challenging situations. That was important, as sometimes you wonder what these self-improvement gurus can actually say for folks who have faced real challenges. Very life affirming, and the power is within all of us to choose to be happy in our own lives. Yeay!
November 21, 2017
Really good; so many insights
Short but compelling read. I loved hearing the author’s own story as well as the lessons she learned throughout her life. I picked up so many helpful insights about how I should be living my life in order to be truly happy. Recommended read.
Short but compelling read. I loved hearing the author’s own story as well as the lessons she learned throughout her life. I picked up so many helpful insights about how I should be living my life in order to be truly happy. Recommended read.
August 23, 2017
I had taken this book out because I had heard that it offered accessible information about making positive, mindful changes in one's life.
First, it was difficult for me to listen to the author. She delivered her information in a singsong voice that was discrepant with her message. For example, at one point, she is recounting how her father doused her with gasoline and lit her on fire. This was obviously a traumatic event in her life, and warranted a narrative that had some gravitas. Her vocal tone and her cadence minimized the event to such a degree that I laughed out loud. It was almost like she was telling the listener a fairy tale.
Next, the author's message is really a collection of quotes from other people and slogans that she has picked up along the way. It was liking walking into a guidance counselor's office and reading the inspirational posters on the wall. There was no practical advice about how to apply the information, and it seemed to minimize her words. In all, quite a disappointment.
First, it was difficult for me to listen to the author. She delivered her information in a singsong voice that was discrepant with her message. For example, at one point, she is recounting how her father doused her with gasoline and lit her on fire. This was obviously a traumatic event in her life, and warranted a narrative that had some gravitas. Her vocal tone and her cadence minimized the event to such a degree that I laughed out loud. It was almost like she was telling the listener a fairy tale.
Next, the author's message is really a collection of quotes from other people and slogans that she has picked up along the way. It was liking walking into a guidance counselor's office and reading the inspirational posters on the wall. There was no practical advice about how to apply the information, and it seemed to minimize her words. In all, quite a disappointment.
July 12, 2019
Love reading this 💕 thanks.
March 26, 2016
What does Luminita D. Savine teach us in 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy/? This book is a power house of suggestions for finding joy.
Foregiveness is an act of strength. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself to be at peace, to be happy and to be able to sleep at night." (p. 12)
"Build fewer walls and more bridges." (p. 30)
"Speak only of that which brings you joy, peace and happiness." (p. 31)
Thoughts have power. "Watch your thoughts because they become words. Watch you words for they become habits. Watch your habits for they become your character. And watch your character for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become." Margaret Thatcher (p. 38)
"Years ago, an incredible study was made at Harvard University, called Project Zero, . . . which found that every child is born a genius across multiple intelligences, but that by the age of twenty, the percentage of geniuses within a population has been whittled down to 10 percent. . .and over the age of twenty, only 2 percent retain their genius ability." (p. 42)
"Blaming is a waste of time and energy. The less time you spend blaming, criticizing and complaining, the more time you will have left to heal yourself, your wounds and your life." (p. 78)
Complaining is not a strategy for solving problems. It wastes time and energy and interferes with achieving our goals. It doesn't make us happier. Randy Pauch (p. 90)
"Look around you, at all those people, events and places that you find distasteful, different, ugly and unworthy, and see if you can recognize yourself in them. Every fault you find in others touches a denied weakness in yourself. If the things you see on the outside bother you, it's only because they reflect back at you the things that are already within you." (p. 103)
"The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over. Steve Maraboli (p. 132)
"As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery. . .we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibily are the sources of peace and happiness. Dalai Lama (pages 175-176)
Savine offers sound advice and quote for others who are seeking a happier and healthier life. If we could all learn to live from the examples she suggests, our world would be a much happier place. I highly recommend the book and plan to read it again soon.
Foregiveness is an act of strength. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself to be at peace, to be happy and to be able to sleep at night." (p. 12)
"Build fewer walls and more bridges." (p. 30)
"Speak only of that which brings you joy, peace and happiness." (p. 31)
Thoughts have power. "Watch your thoughts because they become words. Watch you words for they become habits. Watch your habits for they become your character. And watch your character for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become." Margaret Thatcher (p. 38)
"Years ago, an incredible study was made at Harvard University, called Project Zero, . . . which found that every child is born a genius across multiple intelligences, but that by the age of twenty, the percentage of geniuses within a population has been whittled down to 10 percent. . .and over the age of twenty, only 2 percent retain their genius ability." (p. 42)
"Blaming is a waste of time and energy. The less time you spend blaming, criticizing and complaining, the more time you will have left to heal yourself, your wounds and your life." (p. 78)
Complaining is not a strategy for solving problems. It wastes time and energy and interferes with achieving our goals. It doesn't make us happier. Randy Pauch (p. 90)
"Look around you, at all those people, events and places that you find distasteful, different, ugly and unworthy, and see if you can recognize yourself in them. Every fault you find in others touches a denied weakness in yourself. If the things you see on the outside bother you, it's only because they reflect back at you the things that are already within you." (p. 103)
"The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over. Steve Maraboli (p. 132)
"As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery. . .we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibily are the sources of peace and happiness. Dalai Lama (pages 175-176)
Savine offers sound advice and quote for others who are seeking a happier and healthier life. If we could all learn to live from the examples she suggests, our world would be a much happier place. I highly recommend the book and plan to read it again soon.
April 8, 2016
Recommendation: The writing is incredibly simple and easy to follow. Even though I didn’t, I would recommend checking out the viral blog post [Purpose Fairy link] the author mentions multiple times before reading/buying and if you think it sounds useful then read it. Even if you don’t there is some great advice in here.
My Response:At some point over the past two years as I’ve read more and more mental/self health, professional/personal development books something must have struck a chord as I feel a lot calmer and more put-together than I have in a long time. I’ve noticed that a lot of these books suggest things I am already doing or have utilized in the past and it’s nice to receive the affirmation. It’s also nice to occasionally be reminded of the things that I need to continue working on in order to maintain the calmness.
When the publicist reached out to me with a copy* of this book I wasn’t sure I would have the time, or the desire to read it. However, I set the book on my to-be-read/determined shelf and it stayed there on top for a little over a month. And then when I was having a really rough week and didn’t want to start another book I picked it up to see what it had to offer.
Click here to continue reading on my blog The Oddness of Moving Things.
*I received a copy of this book in return for an honest response. No goods or money were exchanged.
My Response:At some point over the past two years as I’ve read more and more mental/self health, professional/personal development books something must have struck a chord as I feel a lot calmer and more put-together than I have in a long time. I’ve noticed that a lot of these books suggest things I am already doing or have utilized in the past and it’s nice to receive the affirmation. It’s also nice to occasionally be reminded of the things that I need to continue working on in order to maintain the calmness.
When the publicist reached out to me with a copy* of this book I wasn’t sure I would have the time, or the desire to read it. However, I set the book on my to-be-read/determined shelf and it stayed there on top for a little over a month. And then when I was having a really rough week and didn’t want to start another book I picked it up to see what it had to offer.
Click here to continue reading on my blog The Oddness of Moving Things.
*I received a copy of this book in return for an honest response. No goods or money were exchanged.
July 16, 2025
O carte foarte profundă dar nu foarte intelectuală, care ne spune ce trebuie să NU facem pentru a fi fericiți.
Ce mi-a plăcut: autoarea ne spune în fiecare capitol ce viață grea a avut prezentându-ne fragmente din aceasta care sunt relevante pentru capitolul respectiv și ne arată cum în ciuda unei astfel de jiznii, a cunoscut fericirea; ideile autoarei sunt bazate pe experiența ei de viață și învățăturile altor mentori spirituali și religii dinaintea acestei cărți.
Ce nu mi-a plăcut: pozitivismul ei exagerat - orice om are nevoie de un echilibru pozitivism-negativism ca ambele caracteristici să fie utile, ori ea nu promovează negativismul deloc iar unele dintre ideile ei din capitolul despre renunțarea la dorința de a avea dreptate nu au nicio legătură cu realitatea.
Ce mi-a plăcut: autoarea ne spune în fiecare capitol ce viață grea a avut prezentându-ne fragmente din aceasta care sunt relevante pentru capitolul respectiv și ne arată cum în ciuda unei astfel de jiznii, a cunoscut fericirea; ideile autoarei sunt bazate pe experiența ei de viață și învățăturile altor mentori spirituali și religii dinaintea acestei cărți.
Ce nu mi-a plăcut: pozitivismul ei exagerat - orice om are nevoie de un echilibru pozitivism-negativism ca ambele caracteristici să fie utile, ori ea nu promovează negativismul deloc iar unele dintre ideile ei din capitolul despre renunțarea la dorința de a avea dreptate nu au nicio legătură cu realitatea.
May 24, 2017
i. What often screws us up in life is the picture in our head of how it's supposed to be.
ii. Nothing in life is yours to keep—not your children, not your friends and family, not your lover, not your material possessions, not your youth and vitality, not your struggles (which is great news) or successes, not your body and not even your life. Everything in life is given to you for a short period of time, to enjoy, to learn from, to appreciate and to love, but never to keep.
June 14, 2020
It’s written well enough, but nothing makes it stand out. If you aren’t familiar with the content, this is a fine introduction. But, if you have read anything else on the subject, this doesn’t add anything new at all. It’s complete rehash.
March 8, 2016
Won through goodreads giveaway.
Wow what a book! The first few pages alone will have you wanting more.
Wow what a book! The first few pages alone will have you wanting more.
March 11, 2019
Very inspiring book. Easy to read and follow – what many would call a page-turner. I was sad when I finished the book because it was something that really resonated with me. This book is not just about what to give up but it goes over why you act the way you do, how to change it and the consequences that can occur if you don’t. It truly peels back the layers of being a human- it’s a must read and truly puts things in perspective. Finished the book in 4 days.
March 15, 2017
This book was very nice to read it was well written, conversational, and have you something to think on. I was a bit turned off to the constant use of quotes. The use of quotes so frequently distracted from the authors voice and while some were very nice others didn't really apply. But overall the entire book enjoyable to read and sounded very sincere.
July 12, 2019
You make it through
November 14, 2018
This author has been through some negative experiences in her life, and I admire the way she has turned her life around in such a positive way. The book explains some of the negative things she went through, but mostly contains a lot of positive platitudes and quotes. One other reviewer likened reading the book to walking into a counselor's office with positive slogans posted on the wall. Perhaps if you were meditating and just wanted to listen to a a bunch of positive mantras playing in the background, this would be the right book. The information is very repetitive, and the same thread is repeated in a multitude of ways. It is also overly simplistic. For instance, I don't think it is the best advice to never listen to others if they are saying something you don't want to hear. Classifying this as "negative," and ignoring what could be valuable feedback if it is coming from someone whose opinion you trust and value. There are not complex anecdotes that help you understand how to apply her advice. For instance, the author urges people to forgive, which is fine, but what if you have to continue to live with a toxic person in your life because of circumstances? How do you forgive, and manage that relationship in a healthy way? Perhaps if I was in my late teens or early twenties this book would've been a bit more meaningful. Most of this stuff is either common sense or stuff I figured out 30+ years ago. I feel bad giving this book a critical review, as the author obviously has overcome some major obstacles in her life.
May 26, 2016
I won this book in a giveaway. It is a beautiful and inspirting book. I have read many like it and I have read many of the authors she quotes. Here is the thing about books like this. You may think that once you have read one you "get it". My experience tells me that the more I read these types of self-help books the stronger my own sense of joy and place in the world becomes. I believe that is because different authors may present the same subject matter, but it is presented in a different way. One author's presentation sytle may "hit home" for you more so than another's. I was not bored with the book. I took it slow and let it "sink in". Towards the end there were a couple of gems that even though I knew of them and had read them before, they were presented in a way that truly resonated. For those who like to read personal growth/spiritual/forgiveness and redemption type books, I am happy to recomend this book.
January 5, 2019
"Love everything. Be attached to nothing"- Time to step back n reflect, let things go to achieve happiness..
December 15, 2018
This book was amazing! I have 3 thoughts about it:
1- WHAT I LIKE:
I like how this book draws you “mostly” through the steps needed to reach the result. Most people advice you saying: “Be happy!”. Well, “be happy” is the result honey, not the way.
I like how this book gives scientific studies and valid proof and gives you “40% of the time” actual physical steps to take in order to reach your final goal. “Take a note and write down .. Imagine the life they went through before fighting with them .. etc.”
I think people get more depressed and frustrated when they deeply want something but have no clear way of reaching it. Practical plans and steps to escort them all the way. Such might actually cause more depression and people might think they are useless and cannot apply such stupid step as “be happy” and you know where that would lead!
2- WHAT I THINK CAN MAKE THIS A BETTER BOOK:
This book is great I might feel guilty saying this, but I will because maybe there will be new issues where you will consider this:
I think there are more repetitive ideas and wordings “same wording” that were not needed, like 70% of the content was repeated. Not details, but merely repeated ideas. I believe the success behind the article you made at first was because it was a short article and not stretched to 180 or so pages.
3- Everything is well managed:
At the end of your book, you said something about others having better life qualities due to different life circumstances. Well, life is fair but in a way we do not perceive properly. How?
We are all blessed, but the tolerances differ. We all have (100% blessings). I might have (10% inner peace, 5% Sisters, 20% Health, 30% Money, 10% Children ..) while you have different tolerances and percentages. You only see what I have the most, but not what you have and I don’t. At the end we all have the full 100%.
That’s what I have. Thank you Luminita. Keep doing what you love.
and thank you readers for reading.
1- WHAT I LIKE:
I like how this book draws you “mostly” through the steps needed to reach the result. Most people advice you saying: “Be happy!”. Well, “be happy” is the result honey, not the way.
I like how this book gives scientific studies and valid proof and gives you “40% of the time” actual physical steps to take in order to reach your final goal. “Take a note and write down .. Imagine the life they went through before fighting with them .. etc.”
I think people get more depressed and frustrated when they deeply want something but have no clear way of reaching it. Practical plans and steps to escort them all the way. Such might actually cause more depression and people might think they are useless and cannot apply such stupid step as “be happy” and you know where that would lead!
2- WHAT I THINK CAN MAKE THIS A BETTER BOOK:
This book is great I might feel guilty saying this, but I will because maybe there will be new issues where you will consider this:
I think there are more repetitive ideas and wordings “same wording” that were not needed, like 70% of the content was repeated. Not details, but merely repeated ideas. I believe the success behind the article you made at first was because it was a short article and not stretched to 180 or so pages.
3- Everything is well managed:
At the end of your book, you said something about others having better life qualities due to different life circumstances. Well, life is fair but in a way we do not perceive properly. How?
We are all blessed, but the tolerances differ. We all have (100% blessings). I might have (10% inner peace, 5% Sisters, 20% Health, 30% Money, 10% Children ..) while you have different tolerances and percentages. You only see what I have the most, but not what you have and I don’t. At the end we all have the full 100%.
That’s what I have. Thank you Luminita. Keep doing what you love.
and thank you readers for reading.
September 16, 2019
Having a blog of my own I was truly excited to read at the cover of this book "Creator of PurposeFairy.com. I thought to myself this could be me soon(with a book and all). Let me first list the good things about this book.
The Author Luminita shares 15 things she thought we needed to give up to be happy. I do agree with all the 15 things to give up and they will change your life once you truly let them go. Some of the things she spoke about were "giving up fear/giving up attachment/giving up the past/giving up control.....and many more)
I truly felt for her when she shared her childhood story in the beginning of the book. I bet it was hard to share those details, being abused by her own father... that was brave. The book has such beautiful quotes by many inspiring people......
This book was a blog post that went viral; it should have stayed a blog post. When I started reading the book I felt things were repetitive many thoughts were being written and rephrased in different chapters.
The writing was truly weak throughout the whole book and not supported by anything other than the quotes by other people and different parts from other books to support her thoughts... The stories and examples she shared were not supported by reasons "How or Why"
The entire book felt like a drag. I personally couldn't distinguish between all the chapters because they all felt the same.
I might have thought that this could be an example for my next book. But to be honest this type of book is exactly what I don't want to have. -
July 27, 2020
Last week I was browsing at the Orange Beach library and came across Luminita Saviuc’s book 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy. The book was short, interesting, and had good online reviews. I decided to give it a chance and I’m glad that I did.
Saviuc gained prominence by publishing a blog called PurposeFairy. She gave advice on how to improve your life. Her advice is based on a combination of principles from self help, new age, and historic sources. Also, she makes great use of quotes and draws upon her experiences as an abused child growing up in Romania.
The idea of giving up things to be better off is very much in sync with mindfulness and many of the most-popular self help ideas of the day. Here are the 15 things that Saviuc states that we should all give up -
1) the past,
2) fears,
3) limiting beliefs,
4) excuses,
5) resistance to change,
6) blaming,
7) complaining,
8) criticism,
9) others’ expectations,
10) defeating self talk,
11) control,
12) the need to be right,
13) the need to impress others,
14) labels, and
15) attachment.
While I enjoyed the book, I’m not 100% sold on it. Saviuc believes that you’ll get back from the world what you went out. While I think that there is much truth to this, I can think of instances where that didn’t happen for people I’ve known. She also states that she knew someone who had cancer who started healing by changing his mindset. Forgive me if I don’t 100% accept this.
On the whole, I liked 15 Things. It’s a short, easy read with the potential to help anyone improve his or her life.
Saviuc gained prominence by publishing a blog called PurposeFairy. She gave advice on how to improve your life. Her advice is based on a combination of principles from self help, new age, and historic sources. Also, she makes great use of quotes and draws upon her experiences as an abused child growing up in Romania.
The idea of giving up things to be better off is very much in sync with mindfulness and many of the most-popular self help ideas of the day. Here are the 15 things that Saviuc states that we should all give up -
1) the past,
2) fears,
3) limiting beliefs,
4) excuses,
5) resistance to change,
6) blaming,
7) complaining,
8) criticism,
9) others’ expectations,
10) defeating self talk,
11) control,
12) the need to be right,
13) the need to impress others,
14) labels, and
15) attachment.
While I enjoyed the book, I’m not 100% sold on it. Saviuc believes that you’ll get back from the world what you went out. While I think that there is much truth to this, I can think of instances where that didn’t happen for people I’ve known. She also states that she knew someone who had cancer who started healing by changing his mindset. Forgive me if I don’t 100% accept this.
On the whole, I liked 15 Things. It’s a short, easy read with the potential to help anyone improve his or her life.
March 3, 2018
I had to read this book when the introduction has “… liberated, financially, independent, self-expressed and free to travel the world to enjoy beautiful locations…”. My exact thoughts were printed in this book. I picked up the small size book which I love with the thought “Who is the author who has exacted my thoughts into words?”. I learnt that the author is Luminita D Saviuc, founder of PurposeFairy.com
Here are three points I want to share with you today:
“Don’t look for faults, look for the lessons in everything that happened to you. Look for the good in the bad, look for the beautiful in the ugly. Being positive and having a grateful attitude will help you cope with life’s challenges in a healthier and more empowering way.” Though this was not the first time I am introduced with this concept, I guess I was ready to receive this information, so I took some time to pick some scenarios in my life where I saw faults and tried to look for the good. It was hard. How could there be any good when it caused such pain? I looked harder to see the beautiful. It took time, days but slowly I could find the lessons learnt and the beauty in it. This could be a powerful exercise. Try it!
Full review at https://wp.me/s2FmbR-luminita
Here are three points I want to share with you today:
“Don’t look for faults, look for the lessons in everything that happened to you. Look for the good in the bad, look for the beautiful in the ugly. Being positive and having a grateful attitude will help you cope with life’s challenges in a healthier and more empowering way.” Though this was not the first time I am introduced with this concept, I guess I was ready to receive this information, so I took some time to pick some scenarios in my life where I saw faults and tried to look for the good. It was hard. How could there be any good when it caused such pain? I looked harder to see the beautiful. It took time, days but slowly I could find the lessons learnt and the beauty in it. This could be a powerful exercise. Try it!
Full review at https://wp.me/s2FmbR-luminita
January 2, 2022
I tried, I repeat I tried to listen to this audiobook. However I only managed to get half way through before I got annoyed with the way this book was written. I couldn't even manage to listen to the rest at 2x the speed. This whole book was a mixture of poster motivational quotes and a pity party for the author. It was full of redundancy, everything circled back around to her bastard of a father. She went from blaming everything that was wrong I her life on him, then during breakdowns she would blame everyone around her at that time. When she was done playing a constant victim the author would go, "I saw this and this problem by telling myself that there are no such thing as being a victim because everyone has the ability to pull themselves out." Poof glitter and magic happens all around. But then another motivation quote, then pity party, then blaming other people, then accepting responsibility, last everything is solved. Also, what is it with the narrator doing a dramatic reading. This isn't a play.
March 17, 2019
第一章 放下过去/001
第二章 放下恐惧/021
第三章 放下限制性信念/039
第四章 放下借口/059
第五章 不要抗拒改变/075
第六章 放下责备/091
第七章 放下抱怨/107
第八章 放下批评/121
第九章 放下按照别人的期望生活/135
第十章 放下自我挫败的自我对话/149
第十一章 放下控制/167
第十二章 放下永远正确的需要/181
第十三章 放下给别人留下深刻印象的需要/193
第十四章 放下贴标签/207
第十五章 放下依恋/221
我们所有的痛苦都来源于依恋。我们的无知和黑暗是千千万万依恋的奇怪结合。死亡时，我们所依恋的一切都将烟消云散，甚至可能在死亡之前就会消失不见。你也许非常依恋金钱，但你可能明天就会破产。你也许非常依恋你的权力和地位、你的总统身份、你的总理身份，但它们就像肥皂泡一样，��天还在这里，明天甚至连一丝痕迹也不会留下。
——奥修（Osho）
放下你对过去的依恋；放下对你所爱的人的依恋；放下对你的物质财富、你的思想、想法和感受的依恋，让自己自由。
放下执着，结束痛苦。从你一直生活的无知中醒来，接受生活的本来面目。正如菩提达摩所言：“一旦你停止执着，让一切顺其自然，你就会得以自由，即使生死。你将改变一切。”
反思生命短暂的本质。提醒自己生命中没有什么是永远属于你的，生命中的每一件事都有始有终，没有什么是永恒的，最终所有的东西都会消失。经常提醒自己：幸福是不可能在执着中找到的，只有在放手时才能找到幸福。
放眼大自然，寻找腐烂、毁灭、死亡、重生、复兴和更新的迹象。提醒自己，你也是大自然的一部分，你也会经历这些自然阶段。
让自然成为你睿智的朋友、老师和值得信赖的伙伴。让大自然治愈你、抚慰你，让你更多地了解生命的无限循环，教给你生活的道理，教你去爱、去放手。遵循大自然的步调，按自然规律做事，过自然的生活。
许多人把他们的依恋、恐惧和占有的行为与爱混淆，没有意识到爱与依恋之间其实没有任何关系。依恋来自恐惧——害怕失去你拥有的一切；害怕无法重新创造你现有的生活；害怕失去身边人的爱；害怕失去你的社会地位、你的物质财富，害怕死亡等等，而真爱是纯洁和善良的，它唯一的兴趣就是爱。
爱对执着、占有或束缚毫无兴趣。爱只是想要爱。
第二章 放下恐惧/021
第三章 放下限制性信念/039
第四章 放下借口/059
第五章 不要抗拒改变/075
第六章 放下责备/091
第七章 放下抱怨/107
第八章 放下批评/121
第九章 放下按照别人的期望生活/135
第十章 放下自我挫败的自我对话/149
第十一章 放下控制/167
第十二章 放下永远正确的需要/181
第十三章 放下给别人留下深刻印象的需要/193
第十四章 放下贴标签/207
第十五章 放下依恋/221
我们所有的痛苦都来源于依恋。我们的无知和黑暗是千千万万依恋的奇怪结合。死亡时，我们所依恋的一切都将烟消云散，甚至可能在死亡之前就会消失不见。你也许非常依恋金钱，但你可能明天就会破产。你也许非常依恋你的权力和地位、你的总统身份、你的总理身份，但它们就像肥皂泡一样，��天还在这里，明天甚至连一丝痕迹也不会留下。
——奥修（Osho）
放下你对过去的依恋；放下对你所爱的人的依恋；放下对你的物质财富、你的思想、想法和感受的依恋，让自己自由。
放下执着，结束痛苦。从你一直生活的无知中醒来，接受生活的本来面目。正如菩提达摩所言：“一旦你停止执着，让一切顺其自然，你就会得以自由，即使生死。你将改变一切。”
反思生命短暂的本质。提醒自己生命中没有什么是永远属于你的，生命中的每一件事都有始有终，没有什么是永恒的，最终所有的东西都会消失。经常提醒自己：幸福是不可能在执着中找到的，只有在放手时才能找到幸福。
放眼大自然，寻找腐烂、毁灭、死亡、重生、复兴和更新的迹象。提醒自己，你也是大自然的一部分，你也会经历这些自然阶段。
让自然成为你睿智的朋友、老师和值得信赖的伙伴。让大自然治愈你、抚慰你，让你更多地了解生命的无限循环，教给你生活的道理，教你去爱、去放手。遵循大自然的步调，按自然规律做事，过自然的生活。
许多人把他们的依恋、恐惧和占有的行为与爱混淆，没有意识到爱与依恋之间其实没有任何关系。依恋来自恐惧——害怕失去你拥有的一切；害怕无法重新创造你现有的生活；害怕失去身边人的爱；害怕失去你的社会地位、你的物质财富，害怕死亡等等，而真爱是纯洁和善良的，它唯一的兴趣就是爱。
爱对执着、占有或束缚毫无兴趣。爱只是想要爱。
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May 17, 2024Ooof. I don't often take the time to write a review and even more rarely do I write a negative review, but feel it necessary to do so. This book was inspired by a viral post and it shows throughout. There isn't enough meat to stretch this into a full length book. In the attempt to do so, it's created a disjointed collection of quotes and individual statements that don't combine to provide any deeper meaning. I'm sure as a post, this was powerful and provided some quick insights that really resonated with readers. To me, this feels like an attempt to cash in on a moment in time when the author had captured an audience. Had I not been listening to the audio book while at work, I would have absolutely set it aside and not finished it. The audiobook narration also comes off like the "how to quit smoking" cassettes Chandler listened to on Friends.
September 7, 2025
I don’t know for how long have I owned this book??? But it doesn’t matter since I’m done with it (thank God).
At first I thought it would be one amazing book especially with what the author has gone through as a child, so I was ready for more knowledge and tips to rise again.
The book is basically a blog the author started and then decided to turn it into a book. It consisted of many quotes, repetitive sentences and sometimes some sentences would find their way on a chapter they don’t belong to. I got bored most of the time reading… cause what’s in that book is just common sense. Despite how boring it was, I had tabs on places that I thought would be great for someone who hasn’t read a “self-development/ help” book before, so they wouldn’t have to go through the turmoil of reading the whole thing.
At first I thought it would be one amazing book especially with what the author has gone through as a child, so I was ready for more knowledge and tips to rise again.
The book is basically a blog the author started and then decided to turn it into a book. It consisted of many quotes, repetitive sentences and sometimes some sentences would find their way on a chapter they don’t belong to. I got bored most of the time reading… cause what’s in that book is just common sense. Despite how boring it was, I had tabs on places that I thought would be great for someone who hasn’t read a “self-development/ help” book before, so they wouldn’t have to go through the turmoil of reading the whole thing.
November 2, 2017
Very basic stuffs told by a loving author
Did you read Bible? Buddhist books? Two te ching? By Wayne Dwyer? By Gandhi? By Agree Prabupadha or by any other writers of love?
I did and thats why the content of this book is very familiar to me.
The author was apparently a very loving woman, a young woman maybe because there is nothing new here except her personal trouble suffering.
So she advised us to give up 15 things. But these are exactly the same as bad habits like blaming, complaining, bearing grudge, labelling etc.
And these are the advises we all hear from our moms, dads, Google and even ourselves say them. This is a book that will be remembered as a repeat of other motivational and moral books.
Did you read Bible? Buddhist books? Two te ching? By Wayne Dwyer? By Gandhi? By Agree Prabupadha or by any other writers of love?
I did and thats why the content of this book is very familiar to me.
The author was apparently a very loving woman, a young woman maybe because there is nothing new here except her personal trouble suffering.
So she advised us to give up 15 things. But these are exactly the same as bad habits like blaming, complaining, bearing grudge, labelling etc.
And these are the advises we all hear from our moms, dads, Google and even ourselves say them. This is a book that will be remembered as a repeat of other motivational and moral books.
October 9, 2018
Imagine what would happen if someone took a blogpost that went viral and tried to turn it into an actual book with substance. Yeah, it's just as bad as it sounds. The author seemed well intentioned, but seriously unqualified. (She even mentions in the book how so many people told her this...but who cares...right?!) Yes, the blog was shared over 1.2 million times (in case you didn't know beforehand, the author informs you of this repeatedly), but that does not make you an expert, a talented writer, or original. Ironically, the few times I truly felt inspired were almost always when she was quoting other sources (which was a big chunk of the book).
March 16, 2022
This book should have stayed where it oy started: a blog post. In order to turn it into a book, the author filed it with about a thousand quotes, repetitions, cliches like "make room in your heart for love" (Really!!!?) and cheap tricks like breaking sentences and doubling words. For example: the sentence "fear is just an illusion created by your mind", became: "fear is just an illusion. An illusion created by yot mind".
About half an hour in I wanted to shoot myself. Another half an hour and I wanted to shoot the author. At this point I stopped. My life is too precious to waste on this crap.
About half an hour in I wanted to shoot myself. Another half an hour and I wanted to shoot the author. At this point I stopped. My life is too precious to waste on this crap.
June 29, 2024
This is my favorite book of all time. I have reread it several times and feel it truly changes my perspective and improves my outlook on life each time. Lots of good reminders to live your best life and be more conscious of your mindset and your perspective.🫶🏼
I use it as a journal and underline pieces that speak to me which I find to be most helpful, but the author also has an eye opening story weaved into the lessons as to why he used to be so unhappy which aids in helping the reader visualize others’ circumstances.
I use it as a journal and underline pieces that speak to me which I find to be most helpful, but the author also has an eye opening story weaved into the lessons as to why he used to be so unhappy which aids in helping the reader visualize others’ circumstances.
February 20, 2018
Exactly what i needed at this time, a tremendous source of help in dealing with old wounds & rebuilding my life from the start. It felt like a “pat on the shoulder” telling me that everything is ok. It answered most of my questions & wonderings, helped me to figure out my lost-self. Helped me to fully understand myself & my confused feelings & emotions. Added to my favorites.
August 1, 2018
This book literally CHANGED my life and my thoughts. I read it when I was senior at collage, I was so frustrated with my graduation project and trying to publish my first academic paper, but with this mind-set book I felt like I can do anything if I could change the way I think and the way I see things. Really helpful book and I recommend it to everyone.
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