"One of the great untold stories of the Holocaust was that of the thousands of children who, like me, survived by hiding or being hidden from the Nazis. Many were still emotionally “in hiding” until fifty years later when we at last revealed our stories at the First International Gathering of Children Hidden During World War II in May 1991 in New York City. Some 1,600 of us from around the world together broke the silence about how we survived Hitler’s killing machine.
"We exchanged stories about our hiding places: how we lived for months in sewers, closets, barns, and fields; how we joined the partisans and fought the enemy; how we stayed alive. We examined the guilt that continues to haunt us; the pain we felt at losing our loved ones; our anger; our inability to speak of these experiences with our family; our identity crises; and our confused, frightening, lost childhoods."
"When I was an infant growing up in German-occupied Poland, I was called Henryk Stanislas Kurpi. To all the world, Bronislawa Kurpi was my mother. Actually, she was my Polish Catholic nanny who promised my parents she would take care of me. I was baptized and raised as a Catholic. My parents survived the camps and returned to claim me. A custody battle with my nanny ensued but my parents won. Eventually, my family and I moved to the United States."
"Many thousands of us are still in virtual hiding. Some, particularly in Eastern Europe, are still afraid to admit they are Jews because of rampant anti-Semitism. Others may not even be aware of their true identities because their Jewish families perished during the war and their adoptive parents chose not to reveal their backgrounds.
"We should remember that many rescuers were ostracized by their countrymen for saving Jews during the Holocaust. Today, it is still an uncomfortable subject in some countries."
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The book began from an article assigned by an editor to Jane Marks to do, from which came a gathering of the hidden children, which she attended.
"What surprised me initially was who the former hidden children were: highly successful, super well educated, upscale—and very charming! Perhaps I’d expected cold people, who would say in effect, “You don’t understand. Leave me alone with my suffering.” Instead I found them extraordinarily open. If some were hesitant as they began to tell their stories, it was not because they wanted to shut out the listener but because it was painful to relive what they had been through."
"I remember one particularly moving workshop, “The Hidden-Child Experience.” At one point a woman who had been speaking stopped suddenly and stared at another woman who had just come in. “Oh, my God!” the one who had been talking cried out as they ran to embrace each other. “I came here for you,” the other woman said. They were friends who hadn’t seen each other in more than forty years.
"For others that workshop was stirring and important in other ways. One man, recounting his own hiding experience, said, “My mother wasn’t very maternal—she gave me up.”
"“Don’t you believe it!” another member of that workshop told him earnestly. “Your mother was maternal! She saved your life.” The man looked startled. “I hadn’t thought of it that way,” he admitted. Another woman movingly reminisced about her closest childhood friend—whose name was Anne Frank!"
An African American couple attended. She had read the article and wanted to be there.
"I used to hear my dad talk about “the six million Jews.” When he told me what that meant, something in my soul trembled. From that day on, my world became different. The horror of the pictures he showed me was forever burned into my being. How could people do such things to one another? They were all white!! Somehow this validated my belief that the institution of slavery went far beyond color."
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Discussing the Hidden Children, one point made by Eva Fogelman in The Psychology Behind Being A Hidden Child is the following:-
"Other traumatized groups, such as victims of incest, torture victims, and victims of racial bigotry, do not have this kind of identity conflict."
She's discussing holocaust survivor hidden children with other groups such as survivors of Cambodia or Vietnam or Lebanon, or physically abused children.
So far as she's seen, it's true; however, the immediate analogous similar people are obvious to those for whom they are not invisible - India, and particularly Hindus of India, who have been at the butt of every possible ridicule when not worse by not only the invading and colonising conquistadores but all who were in sympathy with the latter more than with the subjugated, that is, India and more particularly Hindus of India.
When not ridiculed, they were seen as epitomising ills and castigated as everything bad or stupid or evil, although, with the slightest honesty one can see that those qualities are far more evident in those pointing the fingers.
For example, India is castigated for her caste system, with an unspoken assumption to the effect equating the very word caste with India and Hindus. This is fraud, in that the word caste existed in Europe before Europe and arrived in India, and it related to castes of Europe until the Macaulay policy of breaking down India was implemented. It's only that castes elsewhere are based on power, wealth, landed property, royal blood and titles bestowed by royalty, race, and of course, gender. In India, it's about categorised classification of vocation of males, with women not held beneath or less. It seems arbitrary to those used to the primitive castes elsewhere, but so does civilisation to anyone uncivilised every time there is a confrontation, and the bully can always rape the artist or scientist. That's no proof of superiority.
Nor is it obvious why monotheism, another point held against India, should be considered superior, since most religious wars and massacres are due to intolerance by monotheistic perpetrated against everyone else, other monotheists or others. What is obvious in face of such intolerance is the stupidity of monotheistic system when it results in intolerance and wars rather than an automatic assumption that everyone is equal precisely if God is one and unique. Alternative is the existing situation where every monotheist preacher states the certainty of all others going to hell, which, summed up, amounts merely to everyone going to hell because all these Gods of various monotheistic are sending followers of every other God to hell.
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Nicole David and her parents fled Belgium as Germans invaded, and were in France for a while.
"“In France the Germans occupied part of the country, but they were not yet deporting Jews. Outside a shop one day some German soldiers gave another little girl and me some chocolate. As we ate it, the soldiers stood there, bragging to my father about how strong and well organized their army was: ‘With us an order is an order,’ one said, ‘For example, if we were ordered to shoot these children’—he patted my head—‘why, we would do it!’"
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Rosa Sirota and her mother, from Lvov, were helped by Marysia, Rosa's aunt's maid, who got her priest's consent for saving their lives.
"“Even talking to the priest had been a risk for Marysia, because so many priests were against the Jews. To most Polish people being anti-Semitic was perfectly okay and did not detract from a person’s good moral character. Anti-Semitism was very popular. People who were sympathetic to Jews or were helping them had not only the Germans to fear, they also had to keep those sympathies secret from relatives and friends."
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Kristine Keren was in Lvov and her father used to hide her and her bother.
"“We lived in Poland, in the ghetto of Lvov. My father was always looking for places to hide my little brother, Pavel, and me because the Germans were intent on getting rid of all the Jewish children. One hiding place was a small, empty space, three feet long and one foot deep, below the window, which my father had camouflaged to look like the wall. I remember having to sit in there with Pavel for hours, struggling for air and being so scared! Tears were running down my cheeks, but I didn’t dare make a sound for fear the Germans would find us. But silently I’d pray for my father to come and let us out. Each time he came back, I begged him, ‘Daddy, please let this be the last time.’ I didn’t think I could take it anymore.
"“My parents had to work in the labor camp, so I was often left alone with my brother. Several times when the Germans came, I had to hide Pavel in a suitcase under the bed while I hid in the closet, behind my mother’s long, rust-colored satin robe. I was only seven or eight years old at the time, but I could recognize the German footsteps. I had to hide myself and then wait a few more minutes for fear they’d come back again. Then I ran back to let my brother out of the suitcase so he could breathe again.
"“He was good! He was only three and a half years old, but he never made a fuss. He understood, as I did, that we just had to be quiet and do what we were told. Life was getting scarier by the day.
"“One day I heard a noise—like somebody gasping for air—and I looked out the back window. There I saw some Polish teenagers swinging bats and hitting a Jewish man, who was begging them to stop. But they kept it up until he lay there, dead. I’ll never forget that choking sound he made. I was just stunned."
The father dug down through the basement, and the family escaped as German soldiers closed in.
"“We all stayed there for a few days. Some people couldn’t take the stench and the darkness, so they left, but ten of us remained in that sewer—for fourteen months!"
The descriptions are as horrible as can be expected, even when one is only reading it close to eight decades later.
"“All this time nobody had to tell us to be quiet. I felt like an animal, ruled by instinct. I never spoke above a whisper. But after a few months of this life I was very, very depressed, and I didn’t want to eat or talk to anybody.
"“That was when Leopold Socha picked me up and took me through the tunnels and said, ‘Look up.’ I saw the daylight, and he said to me, ‘You have to be very strong, and one day you will go up there and live a life like other children.’ At my father’s suggestion Mr. Socha brought books so my father could teach me to read and count. This way, they said, I’d be ready for school when the war was finally over.
"“From then on I’d always watch for Mr. Socha when he would come every other day with our food. Always the first thing I’d see was his smile: a radiant smile with perfect teeth. He was such a cheerful man—and thoughtful too! He managed to get my mother candles for the Sabbath, and he’d always share his own lunch with Pavel and me.""
Socha told them they could come out when Russian troops had arrived, but now they were without means in cold winter. Kristen went to school without footwear until the parents bought her boots. Socha was hit by a drunken driver and died. The family moved to Krakow.
"But even though the war was over, anti-Semitism in Poland was not. My mother and even the school principal, a thoughtful woman named Mrs. Zajac, agreed that I must pose as a Christian. Can you imagine? Even after the war I had to hide my identity! In many ways the anti-Semitism I experienced after the war was more painful than anything that happened in the sewer. I remember how mortified I was when some neighborhood children taunted me and wrote Kristine, the Jew in huge letters on a wall. Even when my mother took us for a little vacation in the country, the lady we rented from said, ‘Hitler made one mistake: He didn’t kill all the Jews.’"
They moved to Israel in 1957, and Kristine enrolled in medical/dental school, but she knew neither Hebrew nor English, and despaired despite having been a good student. Her father assured her she'd do well. She worked hard, translating word by word, till she began to get it. Her first exam was chemistry and she did well, and was congratulated by her professor.
"“Actually I had a little trick I used then—and used until recently. Whenever anything was difficult, I would imagine myself in a concentration camp with a German soldier standing next to me pointing a gun. If I didn’t do whatever I was supposed to do, he would kill me. It was a painful way of motivating myself, but it was effective. It certainly got me through a lot."
She got over much, but hasn't forgotten the cousin and other family members who were taken to the concentration camps.
"“The experience stays with me in small ways or daily things. All I have to do is smell old fat, and it makes me nauseous—not because it’s spoiled but because I remember this as a taste from during the war. When we bought our house fifteen years ago, I noticed that the entrance to the attic was camouflaged in a bookshelf. I thought, What a good place to hide! I also can’t stand to see fear in someone’s eyes, especially when it’s a child. That’s why I am an extraordinarily gentle dentist. Believe me, none of my patients are afraid. If anyone shows fear, I have to stop."
Kristine had never hidden her past, but her son's were shocked to realise how small she had been when she had undergone those times.
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"RENEE ROTH-HANO
"“I was born in Mulhouse in 1931. Germany, moving fast after France lost the war, annexed Alsace, where we lived. A few days later, we were expelled. We took refuge in Paris, but it wasn’t any real sanctuary. Fourteen major anti-Semitic decrees were passed between 1940, when we arrived in Paris, and 1942, when we had to go into hiding. The one that bothered me most was the one that said I had to wear the Star of David. I was ten years old. I had always been a very inquisitive, outgoing kid, but wearing the star was like the final straw, the most damaging of all; it made me feel ashamed. I became very withdrawn.
"“Six weeks later fourteen thousand Jews were arrested in a roundup. A secret maid’s room was found for my parents to hide in. Meanwhile my two sisters and I were sent off to a convent called ‘La Chaumière,’ or ‘The Cottage,’ in Flers, a small town in Normandy. I resented the fact that my parents hadn’t found another way to hide us. I knew that friends of ours and even relatives had managed to stay together as a family. I really felt abandoned, but I couldn’t say so. As the eldest in the family, I understood that it was my job to maintain the family honor and take care of my two little sisters, Denise and Lily. It was a stiff-upper-lip kind of thing: I felt cornered and very burdened, but I had to make the best of it."
Renee felt abandoned, but knew she shouldn't question the adults' decision, and had to look after her younger sisters. They didn't mention being Jewish and had to blend in, attend church and so on.
"What I loved most was the singing. It made me feel like I belonged, which I....