MAN: HUSBAND · LOVER · FATHER. SEDUCER

by Axel Petermann

You were taught to be strong. Nobody taught you to be yourself. Between contradictory expectations, the silences that settle into a relationship, and the feeling of becoming invisible in your own home, being a man today often feels like a role you're playing without a manual. MAN follows a single thread across nine parts and forty-three staying yourself, at every stage, without dissolving into what's expected of you. It covers meeting someone without performing, keeping desire alive over years, becoming a father without disappearing behind the role, getting out of father isolation when it sets in, leaving a relationship without destroying what has to survive it, and eventually learning to pass on what you've understood. It isn't a book of theory. It's written in the first person, by a man who sat crying alone on a doorstep at forty, a stranger in his own home — and who rebuilt his place, brick by brick, over the years that followed. Every chapter ends with a concrete exercise, to do rather than to read. Husband. Lover. Father. Seducer. Four roles we're asked to hold. One man to inhabit them all, without ever losing himself along the way — at any age.

87 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 9, 2026

About the author

Axel Petermann is a German criminal profiler and author.