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Mastering Your Mean Girl: The No-BS Guide to Silencing Your Inner Critic and Becoming Wildly Wealthy, Fabulously Healthy, and Bursting with Love
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You know that sneaky voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, whatever enough? That’s your Mean Girl. And she’s doing her best to keep you stuck in Fear Town, too scared to go after the life you always imagined.
But enough’s enough! Melissa Ambrosini has made a life beyond her wildest dreams, all by mastering her Mean Girl, busting through limiting beliefs and karate-chopping through the fears that held her hostage for years. And now she wants to help you remember not only what you are capable of, but how amazing you truly are!
In this inspiring, upbeat guide, Melissa provides a practical plan for creating your own version of a kick-ass life — one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love. Designed to propel you out of stuck-ness and into action, this is a must read if you’re ready to let go of your Mean Girl and start living the life of your dreams.
You know that sneaky voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, whatever enough? That’s your Mean Girl. And she’s doing her best to keep you stuck in Fear Town, too scared to go after the life you always imagined.
But enough’s enough! Melissa Ambrosini has made a life beyond her wildest dreams, all by mastering her Mean Girl, busting through limiting beliefs and karate-chopping through the fears that held her hostage for years. And now she wants to help you remember not only what you are capable of, but how amazing you truly are!
In this inspiring, upbeat guide, Melissa provides a practical plan for creating your own version of a kick-ass life — one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love. Designed to propel you out of stuck-ness and into action, this is a must read if you’re ready to let go of your Mean Girl and start living the life of your dreams.
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First published March 22, 2016
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February 6, 2017
Ok, wow. So let me start by saying I am *not* the intended audience for this book. Every time a Melissa Ambrosini ad used to come up on my Facebook feed, my eyes would roll so far back in my head that I was worried they would get stuck there and I would die. The kind of hot, underqualified, online spirituality guide I'd assumed her to be did not appeal to my cynical eyes one bit.
And don't get me wrong, this book is filled with eye rolls - for example, the fact that there is a professional photo of Melissa looking mad hot and artsy on every second page. Like good for you girl that bod is tiggggghhht. But also, like, ugh, come on.
But in spite of all of the things that should make her unlikeable, Melissa comes across as sincerely relatable and likeable in this book. She's funny, she's incredibly kind, and she doesn't take herself too seriously. Yes, sometimes she's very woo-woo - manifesting gets a lot of air time, as does the phrase 'soul sisters' which makes me gag without fail. But she also takes some of the more complex teachings of say, the ACT method and translates them incredibly well into millenial - and she's quite open about it. She admits in the opening chapters of the book that your "mean girl" is just another name for your inner critic, the ego, or the negative "stories" we all tell about ourselves.
And you know what? For me, at least, her approach really resonated. I mean, I did a lot of eye-rolling, but do I feel more motivated and cemented now in things I potentially knew, but perhaps struggled to apply? Yes, I do.
Some of the nitty gritty of her approaches didn't sit well with me, for example, there are a LOT of foods she doesn't eat, and she does have a little bit of an anti-western medicine bent at times. But overrall, this is a likeable and easy to read guide to concepts that can sometimes be difficult to grasp when explained by an old white guy - and for that Melissa should be very much commended.
And don't get me wrong, this book is filled with eye rolls - for example, the fact that there is a professional photo of Melissa looking mad hot and artsy on every second page. Like good for you girl that bod is tiggggghhht. But also, like, ugh, come on.
But in spite of all of the things that should make her unlikeable, Melissa comes across as sincerely relatable and likeable in this book. She's funny, she's incredibly kind, and she doesn't take herself too seriously. Yes, sometimes she's very woo-woo - manifesting gets a lot of air time, as does the phrase 'soul sisters' which makes me gag without fail. But she also takes some of the more complex teachings of say, the ACT method and translates them incredibly well into millenial - and she's quite open about it. She admits in the opening chapters of the book that your "mean girl" is just another name for your inner critic, the ego, or the negative "stories" we all tell about ourselves.
And you know what? For me, at least, her approach really resonated. I mean, I did a lot of eye-rolling, but do I feel more motivated and cemented now in things I potentially knew, but perhaps struggled to apply? Yes, I do.
Some of the nitty gritty of her approaches didn't sit well with me, for example, there are a LOT of foods she doesn't eat, and she does have a little bit of an anti-western medicine bent at times. But overrall, this is a likeable and easy to read guide to concepts that can sometimes be difficult to grasp when explained by an old white guy - and for that Melissa should be very much commended.
December 2, 2015
I have to say that this is the first guide that I've started to read... and finished! Let alone in the time frame of two days. I cannot express myself enough when I say that I loved this so much because it is exactly the type of book I needed to read at this point of my life. Just by reading the title and subtitle, you wouldn't think at all that this book has basically everything you need to know about creating the best life for yourself. Of course the blurb on the back describes everything you need to know - all I am saying is that this guide was more spiritual in almost every way (not in the religious sense) and I couldn't have received a better book from HarperCollins New Zealand.
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September 3, 2018
There were some good tips in this book, but I personally did not find enough to be helpful. It felt too "I" focused - too much of her own story, not enough specific advice, and preachy at times. A bit holier-than-thou and braggy. Too cheerleader-ish and repetitive like, "you go girl" every other paragraph. At times it is unrelatable, and unrealistic timelines for her suggestions that had me thinking, wait, I'm supposed to do all these things every day in order to be successful? That's my whole day! Also an annoying overuse of superlatives. I know it must have been helpful for some people, since it came highly recommended to me, but for me personally, I did not care for it and found much of it off-putting.
May 12, 2018
Melissa Ambrosini's Mastering Your Mean Girl was like a nice long conversation about learning to pay attention to our negative inner voices. I mean, my inner mean girl is such a Debbie Downer and I have to tell her to go away sometimes. And we all deal with this voice that says, "you can't do this" or "you suck." All of these crap conversations that I often have with myself are of course from a place of fear. It is easier to avoid doing things or being mean to yourself than to bravely go for it! Ambrosini encourages readers to use love. Love yourself, the place you are in, treat your body with that same love.
I think one of my biggest takeaways from this book was that "there is no such thing as forgiveness." Right and wrong doesn't exist until we assign one or the other to a person, situation, etc. There are only things we need to let go. Often we get upset over something minor and it literally only bothers/annoys/angers you. The other person goes about their merry day while you fume. For me this was an important reminder that nothing matters if I don't want it to matter. I would rather focus on the things that will serve the world or serve others that come from my love and passion.
This is a wonderful book for women to remind us that we should love ourselves and to talk to ourselves (internally) like we are our own best friends.
I think one of my biggest takeaways from this book was that "there is no such thing as forgiveness." Right and wrong doesn't exist until we assign one or the other to a person, situation, etc. There are only things we need to let go. Often we get upset over something minor and it literally only bothers/annoys/angers you. The other person goes about their merry day while you fume. For me this was an important reminder that nothing matters if I don't want it to matter. I would rather focus on the things that will serve the world or serve others that come from my love and passion.
This is a wonderful book for women to remind us that we should love ourselves and to talk to ourselves (internally) like we are our own best friends.
December 6, 2016
The BEST personal development book I have EVER read/listened to. Melissa is incredible and I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to work on every aspect of their life, especially in the audiobook version because Melissa's voice is a miracle on its own. Love, love, LOVE.
September 12, 2017
1st Read: Wow! I was not expecting this kind of life-changing thing to happen. I encourage any women and girl who has the time, to pick up this book! I promise you, you will not regret it. Simply beautiful <3
2nd Read: Still found something new the second time around. Many breakthroughs and a great refresher! Definitely needed this!
2nd Read: Still found something new the second time around. Many breakthroughs and a great refresher! Definitely needed this!
August 10, 2018
I have no idea how this book came to be in my Audible library and I have never heard of Melissa Ambrosini. I had a long car ride ahead of me and settled in for the drive. Melissa seems to be a warm and caring and very authentic person. That is the good part.
I could not finish the book but had to stop after the 3rd or 4th chapter. The yada yada yada about soul share, how you “show up,” and “the best version of yourself” got old, then got to be just a downright waste of my time.
Imparting advice such as loving yourself, making time for yourself every day, not falling into the “busy” trap of our culture, and readjusting unmet expectations are all way overdone themes that don’t tell me anything new.
It cracks me up how someone as young as herself is imparting wisdom to the world. I appreciate her own journey, but please. We all have one. We just don’t write about it. This book was a lot of rambling on about nothing. She states the obvious more times than I can count. She seems like a wonderful person, however, and a good friend to those around her. All I can say is Bless Her Great Big Australian Heart.
I could not finish the book but had to stop after the 3rd or 4th chapter. The yada yada yada about soul share, how you “show up,” and “the best version of yourself” got old, then got to be just a downright waste of my time.
Imparting advice such as loving yourself, making time for yourself every day, not falling into the “busy” trap of our culture, and readjusting unmet expectations are all way overdone themes that don’t tell me anything new.
It cracks me up how someone as young as herself is imparting wisdom to the world. I appreciate her own journey, but please. We all have one. We just don’t write about it. This book was a lot of rambling on about nothing. She states the obvious more times than I can count. She seems like a wonderful person, however, and a good friend to those around her. All I can say is Bless Her Great Big Australian Heart.
December 16, 2017
I think this book had a few good ideas, but the writing was so cringeworthy I could not get past it. It reads like it was written by Elle Woods’ old sorority sisters who come to Washington to help her sign that dog bill. I mean, I think she sounds insane when she talks about having kombucha on tap at her wedding instead of alcohol, but you might like that!
October 8, 2018
This book is full of helpful suggestions, good ideas and enlightening observations. The problem is that you sort of have to dig for them. It's got some really great stuff within its pages but this book is probably 100-150 pages too long meaning there is a large amount of repetition and perhaps a little too much of the author's own opinions and choices thrown in.
This book is supposed to be about mastering your mean girl, your inner critic and yet, I couldn't help but feel like the author was really pushing her no-alcohol choice onto the reader at various points in the book and judging those who do drink. As a result of this and other lifestyle choices she mentions the author ends up coming across kind of preachy through out the book, which doesn't really work for me personally.
But, like I said, there's some good stuff in here, just be prepared to really filter it. Perhaps the author needs to work a little more on her outer mean girl now that she's mastered her inner one.
This book is supposed to be about mastering your mean girl, your inner critic and yet, I couldn't help but feel like the author was really pushing her no-alcohol choice onto the reader at various points in the book and judging those who do drink. As a result of this and other lifestyle choices she mentions the author ends up coming across kind of preachy through out the book, which doesn't really work for me personally.
But, like I said, there's some good stuff in here, just be prepared to really filter it. Perhaps the author needs to work a little more on her outer mean girl now that she's mastered her inner one.
August 14, 2019
I absolutely loved Ambrosini's voice and viewpoint throughout the book. I have found myself in similar, albeit not identical, situations in my life and seeing her thrive is inspirational.
September 3, 2019
I think this book can be helpful for some, but it wasn't my cuppa. It was recommended to me after a discussion about Imposter Syndrome, but that wasn't really what the book addressed. No fault of the author, just not for me.
January 31, 2016
Amazing and inspiring. Love and recommend!
February 27, 2023
This book is good-ish. Its a very spiritual perspective, but definitely not Christian based. It's very grounded in meditation and yoga and clean eating, etc. and its a former actress/model talking about body image stuff (as well as other things but she kind of lost relatability there). I liked the idea of living in either fear or love. If you're into new age crunchiness and you live life with a lot of privilege, this may be the book for you!
December 23, 2016
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“But I don’t have an inner mean girl!” That’s what I was inwardly yelling upon picking up Mastering Your Mean Girl. Of course, the voice in my head that responded (i.e., the Mean Girl) was telling me that I had been the victim of mean girls, that I was mousy, too quiet, too loud (at the same time), too fat, and too quirky to really benefit from from author and coach Melissa Ambrosini was writing about. Self, meet “Mean Girl.”
As defined by Ambrosini, a former dancer, entertainer and luxury-liver extraordinaire, the Mean Girl on the inside is simply the ego. The Mean Girl is the never-ending source of negativity, self-deprecating talk and fear-based ponderings. Ambrosini rooted out her Mean Girl at proverbial rock bottom while I found mine as I endeavored to start my own business while attending school full time and trying to get out of debt. Regardless of the point of contact, the author purports that everyone has their own Mean Girl telling them they can’t, they won’t, and they’re not good enough to do whatever they are dreaming of.
Mastering Your Mean Girl doesn’t attempt to eradicate every life experience or negative thought you’ve ever had, as many self-help books attempt. Instead, it focuses on how one key component — love — changes your perspective from one who lives with a negative-Nancy mentality to one with love for yourself, others and for life. At first glance, the concept seems campy and overdone, but Ambrosini focuses on the value of loving yourself first from the honest perspective of someone who knows the dangers of not doing so.
In the first part of the book, she tackles the force that so often keeps us limited by our Mean Girl: fear. She challenges the reader to look at the genuine motivation behind each decision and whether it is fear or love.
One that hit me particularly hard was taking every job or gig I was offered (even if I hated it) out of fear that there wouldn’t be another and I would run out of money. Love says that you deserve to hold out for the right opportunity, so stop taking the wrong ones, while fear says grab all that you can because there is only so much. She throws down another gauntlet by challenging readers to unconditionally love themselves, instead of only showing self-love when they accomplish a goal or handle something just so. The primer on love rounds out with a comment on self-worth. Someone who loves herself and understands the value of doing so believes that she is worth things; she is worthy of success, joy, and most of all, reciprocated love.
From this foundation, Ambrosini challenges her readers to live from the position of being loved, asserting that only once they love themselves and believe themselves to be worthy of love can they live from love and send it onward. What does that look like? Taking care of your body and having a healthy relationship with food, pursuing only what makes your heart come alive (because you’re worth something that you’re passionate about!), having a positive relationship with money, and nurturing healthy connections with others. Ambrosini says it’s living from these “love yourself” points that starves your Mean Girl and shuts her up for good, and it’s from that happy place that the self-confident and “love-centered” girl that can give back to the world.
Do these tenets work, or are they another self-help ploy meant to inspire and pump up the reader without producing tangible results? The real kicker is the fact that Ambrosini writes with conviction based in a wealth of negative and positive personal experiences. As I read her book, I found myself nodding along because it’s not only believable, I can hear her heart and soul in the pages. She has lived these moments and has seen the impact loving herself had. As a reader, I appreciated her message and the candid way it was delivered, and I will likely return to these pages for inspiration as I battle my own Mean Girl with loads of self-love.
One thing that I feel is important to note is that Mastering Your Mean Girl doesn’t read like a traditional self-help book, but as a companion journal to a life that once was marred by self-destruction and is now a testament of victory over fear, self-hatred and self-abuse. Some testaments should be taken seriously and honored as they are; love yourself, take time to cultivate positive, healthy relationships with your world and those in it, and watch that Mean Girl take a hike.
“But I don’t have an inner mean girl!” That’s what I was inwardly yelling upon picking up Mastering Your Mean Girl. Of course, the voice in my head that responded (i.e., the Mean Girl) was telling me that I had been the victim of mean girls, that I was mousy, too quiet, too loud (at the same time), too fat, and too quirky to really benefit from from author and coach Melissa Ambrosini was writing about. Self, meet “Mean Girl.”
As defined by Ambrosini, a former dancer, entertainer and luxury-liver extraordinaire, the Mean Girl on the inside is simply the ego. The Mean Girl is the never-ending source of negativity, self-deprecating talk and fear-based ponderings. Ambrosini rooted out her Mean Girl at proverbial rock bottom while I found mine as I endeavored to start my own business while attending school full time and trying to get out of debt. Regardless of the point of contact, the author purports that everyone has their own Mean Girl telling them they can’t, they won’t, and they’re not good enough to do whatever they are dreaming of.
Mastering Your Mean Girl doesn’t attempt to eradicate every life experience or negative thought you’ve ever had, as many self-help books attempt. Instead, it focuses on how one key component — love — changes your perspective from one who lives with a negative-Nancy mentality to one with love for yourself, others and for life. At first glance, the concept seems campy and overdone, but Ambrosini focuses on the value of loving yourself first from the honest perspective of someone who knows the dangers of not doing so.
In the first part of the book, she tackles the force that so often keeps us limited by our Mean Girl: fear. She challenges the reader to look at the genuine motivation behind each decision and whether it is fear or love.
One that hit me particularly hard was taking every job or gig I was offered (even if I hated it) out of fear that there wouldn’t be another and I would run out of money. Love says that you deserve to hold out for the right opportunity, so stop taking the wrong ones, while fear says grab all that you can because there is only so much. She throws down another gauntlet by challenging readers to unconditionally love themselves, instead of only showing self-love when they accomplish a goal or handle something just so. The primer on love rounds out with a comment on self-worth. Someone who loves herself and understands the value of doing so believes that she is worth things; she is worthy of success, joy, and most of all, reciprocated love.
From this foundation, Ambrosini challenges her readers to live from the position of being loved, asserting that only once they love themselves and believe themselves to be worthy of love can they live from love and send it onward. What does that look like? Taking care of your body and having a healthy relationship with food, pursuing only what makes your heart come alive (because you’re worth something that you’re passionate about!), having a positive relationship with money, and nurturing healthy connections with others. Ambrosini says it’s living from these “love yourself” points that starves your Mean Girl and shuts her up for good, and it’s from that happy place that the self-confident and “love-centered” girl that can give back to the world.
Do these tenets work, or are they another self-help ploy meant to inspire and pump up the reader without producing tangible results? The real kicker is the fact that Ambrosini writes with conviction based in a wealth of negative and positive personal experiences. As I read her book, I found myself nodding along because it’s not only believable, I can hear her heart and soul in the pages. She has lived these moments and has seen the impact loving herself had. As a reader, I appreciated her message and the candid way it was delivered, and I will likely return to these pages for inspiration as I battle my own Mean Girl with loads of self-love.
One thing that I feel is important to note is that Mastering Your Mean Girl doesn’t read like a traditional self-help book, but as a companion journal to a life that once was marred by self-destruction and is now a testament of victory over fear, self-hatred and self-abuse. Some testaments should be taken seriously and honored as they are; love yourself, take time to cultivate positive, healthy relationships with your world and those in it, and watch that Mean Girl take a hike.
November 28, 2018
Some nuggets of wisdom I got from this book:
-You are not your circumstances, experiences, or your past
[The experiences I hold onto which are no longer serving me and feed my inner critic:
1-I've gotten laid off from previous tech jobs
2-I've experienced heart-wrenching break-ups
3-I grew up not knowing a mother's love]
-I engage with my inner critic when I am stressing on the past, anxious about the future, angry, indecisive, and not present
-Express gratitude for what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. This improves energy
-Meditation: We have 72-20 minute blocks in a day. Getting quiet with myself for just one will improve the other 71
-Be consistent with gratitude and meditation: the little things we do flex our self-love muscle
-When you're down, you deserve more love. Learn to love the darkness--these are the stages that can't be cured or defeated. They can only be transformed through self-love
-You're learning to restore the love you lost
-Every time we people-please we are saying yes to someone else and no to ourselves--it diminishes our light
-When you willingly hang out with people you don't like you are choosing discomfort over resentment
-If something isn't a "hell yeah" then it's a no (clothes, furniture, outing)
-Focus on sending light and love to people who like you instead of trying to convert those who don't
-Suffering alone in silence is a sign of weakness (thus, don't isolate)
-"My side of the street" for Resentments involving abuse: holding on, not letting go, allowing the suffering to continue, allowing it to define you
-meditation= little things adding up to big results
A successful day includes:
choosing love over fear
silencing my mean girl
doing work that inspires me
moving my body lovingly
being present
spending time in nature
taking time for myself
sitting in stillness
connecting with someone I love
getting out of my own way
trusting the flow of life and remembering that nothing is permanent
practicing self-love by observing self-hygiene
AFFIRMATIONS
1-I love and accept myself wholeheartedly and unconditionally exactly as I am right now
2-I love you and accept exactly what is
3-I am worthy of all the love that life has to offer
4-I release my need to be perfect
Expectations I put on myself:
-Be thin, be happy/serene/satisfied with your life at all times, always have the right thing to say in every situation, sleep and eat well, work perfectly, drive perfectly, think intellectually
-You are not your circumstances, experiences, or your past
[The experiences I hold onto which are no longer serving me and feed my inner critic:
1-I've gotten laid off from previous tech jobs
2-I've experienced heart-wrenching break-ups
3-I grew up not knowing a mother's love]
-I engage with my inner critic when I am stressing on the past, anxious about the future, angry, indecisive, and not present
-Express gratitude for what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. This improves energy
-Meditation: We have 72-20 minute blocks in a day. Getting quiet with myself for just one will improve the other 71
-Be consistent with gratitude and meditation: the little things we do flex our self-love muscle
-When you're down, you deserve more love. Learn to love the darkness--these are the stages that can't be cured or defeated. They can only be transformed through self-love
-You're learning to restore the love you lost
-Every time we people-please we are saying yes to someone else and no to ourselves--it diminishes our light
-When you willingly hang out with people you don't like you are choosing discomfort over resentment
-If something isn't a "hell yeah" then it's a no (clothes, furniture, outing)
-Focus on sending light and love to people who like you instead of trying to convert those who don't
-Suffering alone in silence is a sign of weakness (thus, don't isolate)
-"My side of the street" for Resentments involving abuse: holding on, not letting go, allowing the suffering to continue, allowing it to define you
-meditation= little things adding up to big results
A successful day includes:
choosing love over fear
silencing my mean girl
doing work that inspires me
moving my body lovingly
being present
spending time in nature
taking time for myself
sitting in stillness
connecting with someone I love
getting out of my own way
trusting the flow of life and remembering that nothing is permanent
practicing self-love by observing self-hygiene
AFFIRMATIONS
1-I love and accept myself wholeheartedly and unconditionally exactly as I am right now
2-I love you and accept exactly what is
3-I am worthy of all the love that life has to offer
4-I release my need to be perfect
Expectations I put on myself:
-Be thin, be happy/serene/satisfied with your life at all times, always have the right thing to say in every situation, sleep and eat well, work perfectly, drive perfectly, think intellectually
March 19, 2018
My sister is very much a part of Melissa Ambrosini's universe (holistic health, nutrition and exercise focus, entrepreneur, life coach), and I am not. When she gave me this book, I laughed at the seemingly cheesy title and put it in my bag. That night, I felt this strong nudge to open. As I embark through life and maneuver it as a woman in her early 20s trying to figure it all out, I found this book very helpful. Melissa offers some great concrete advice and steps to improve your mental, physical, and spiritual health. It felt like all the things I wanted to be hearing right now. I found myself underlining many different sections. The language she used in the book can be a bit corny at times, but it didn't take away from the powerful overall message. I'm excited to share this book with some friends that may be looking to improve their own lives!
February 24, 2020
Like all books of this sort you have to take what you need and leave the rest. There are some good things to internalize and use in your life, like "Act from love not fear." But I also wholeheartedly disagree with her views in money and true value. I didn't like the overall tone, though it is supposed to impart a feeling that she's your girlfriend cheerleader I just didn't like the constant endearments and slang. If you do everything she suggests and hang every affirmation she wants you to write down and place where you will see them everyday you may find yourself drowning in to-dos and wallpapering your life. Use what's helpful and let go of what's not.
June 26, 2016
Most amazing book I've ever read! I've made so many changes since reading this book and already feel so amazing for it. I 100% recommend this book, do yourself a favour and buy a hard copy! There is tons of inspo action to take part in so you really feel connected to what you are reading.
March 1, 2016
Fabulous read, such rawness and honesty.
March 12, 2022
Absolutely loved this book. I’ve taken a lot from it to help improve my life
March 9, 2016
I started this book with really high expectations (which we learn is a bit of a no no), my 'mean girl' is actually a huge part of me & sometimes controls me to the point of complete shut down.
The beginning chapter: love vs. fear made me think of a scene in the film Donnie Darko, sometimes things aren't that simple. In the quiz for this part of the books my answers would have fell in a no-mans-land middle ground between the love and fear options. I understand the foundation she's trying to lay by I think there is a lot more depth that needs to be explored.
The second chapter: Flexing your self love muscle rang much more true to me. She speak about not having expectations & not getting bogged down in 'busy' - A situation I'm familiar with. You can also tell she's read pretty widely in the field she's talking about, there is a lot of references to other books that you could check out if you were interested in reading more deeply on a particular subject.
I think Melissa is so brave and strong to share so much of her life with us. I endeavor to be more like her everyday, because, lets face it, a world with more people like Melissa Ambrosini would be a great place to live. I also would like to finally read Make Peace with Your Plate by Jess Ainscough, I've had it for a while but it sits a little lonely on my shelf. Melissa talks a lot about hoe she was inspired by Jess so I want to know more about her ideas.
The downloadable content on Masteringyoumeangirl.com is pretty great. There is all the soul shares and activities that are shown in the book as well as guided meditations that I'm really looking forward to trying.
This book was full of 'ah-hah!' moments for me and I would definitely recommend to anyone who is wanting to be their best self everyday.
The beginning chapter: love vs. fear made me think of a scene in the film Donnie Darko, sometimes things aren't that simple. In the quiz for this part of the books my answers would have fell in a no-mans-land middle ground between the love and fear options. I understand the foundation she's trying to lay by I think there is a lot more depth that needs to be explored.
The second chapter: Flexing your self love muscle rang much more true to me. She speak about not having expectations & not getting bogged down in 'busy' - A situation I'm familiar with. You can also tell she's read pretty widely in the field she's talking about, there is a lot of references to other books that you could check out if you were interested in reading more deeply on a particular subject.
I think Melissa is so brave and strong to share so much of her life with us. I endeavor to be more like her everyday, because, lets face it, a world with more people like Melissa Ambrosini would be a great place to live. I also would like to finally read Make Peace with Your Plate by Jess Ainscough, I've had it for a while but it sits a little lonely on my shelf. Melissa talks a lot about hoe she was inspired by Jess so I want to know more about her ideas.
The downloadable content on Masteringyoumeangirl.com is pretty great. There is all the soul shares and activities that are shown in the book as well as guided meditations that I'm really looking forward to trying.
This book was full of 'ah-hah!' moments for me and I would definitely recommend to anyone who is wanting to be their best self everyday.
December 14, 2017
A patient made me promise I'd read this. Ten pages in I was wondering what I'd gotten myself into...
If you can look past some of the superficial stuff (and some poorly interpreted science...) it's actually a great 'how to' guide that most women in their 20s/30s could probably find some message in. I wish I'd read a book like this 15 years ago - my inner mean girl rages strong.
The message is clear: to enjoy life more and bring the right people into your life, you have to love yourself first. And it's a nice alternative to the other dry, more clinical books in the genre. I liked the message and the relaxed tone, but there were some parts that made me cringe (healthy food is never going to completely eradicate a need for medicine and not all disease can be explained by or attributed to your inner feelings of self-worth...).
If you can look past that, it's a good little read to get your mind in a more positive place.
If you can look past some of the superficial stuff (and some poorly interpreted science...) it's actually a great 'how to' guide that most women in their 20s/30s could probably find some message in. I wish I'd read a book like this 15 years ago - my inner mean girl rages strong.
The message is clear: to enjoy life more and bring the right people into your life, you have to love yourself first. And it's a nice alternative to the other dry, more clinical books in the genre. I liked the message and the relaxed tone, but there were some parts that made me cringe (healthy food is never going to completely eradicate a need for medicine and not all disease can be explained by or attributed to your inner feelings of self-worth...).
If you can look past that, it's a good little read to get your mind in a more positive place.
August 2, 2017
If you haven't jumped on the PD bandwagon, this is a great starter book! I'll be personally recommending it to all of my new coaches and challengers! Each chapter holds a little of so many of the other books I"ve read in the last year. Productivity, positive thinking, re-framing your thoughts to be happier, healthy eating, and even grief. So many of the other books like this I have read, I have thought, "But does she really REALLY get it? Has she lived through terrible grief or a personal health scare?" And the answer for this one is YES! I connected with Melissa on quite a few things, and some things I didn't identify with still helped me look through a window of lives I see in person so frequently. Her accent is delightful to listen to and she has a podcast to enjoy as well (The Melissa Ambrosini Show)
September 10, 2017
"How many times have you been in a room full of people and felt paralysed with worry, convinced everyone else is judging you? How many times have you sabotaged yourself, just when you thought things were finally looking up? And how many times have you looked in the mirror and told yourself you were fat, stupid, ugly, unlovable and worthless?"
Every. Single. Day.
This was such an insightful book narrated in a friendly way which was easy to understand. It wasn't preachy and it wasn't judgemental. It made me confront some of the inner turmoil within me that I have chosen to ignore most of my life. I'm looking forward to starting this journey towards self-love and kicking the mean girl within me out of my life. Shit got real while reading this. It's going to be a long road ahead but I'm feeling very inspired.
Every. Single. Day.
This was such an insightful book narrated in a friendly way which was easy to understand. It wasn't preachy and it wasn't judgemental. It made me confront some of the inner turmoil within me that I have chosen to ignore most of my life. I'm looking forward to starting this journey towards self-love and kicking the mean girl within me out of my life. Shit got real while reading this. It's going to be a long road ahead but I'm feeling very inspired.
March 24, 2018
AMAZING! AMAZING! AMAZING! Not the typical self-help book. Ambrosini give a fresh and creative perspective as well as many ways to apply what she's teaching. I think this should be required reading for every woman and girl.
April 13, 2018
excellent read!
October 22, 2024
I’m going to shock myself and give this book 4 stars even though she uses the phrase “resilience raincoat.” She’s just so dang likable. I expected this to be in the vein of that “Girl, Wash Your Face” book, but I wasn’t even irritated reading it. The writing is solid and doesn’t distract. It’s a good summary of all the ways to be more fulfilled and chase your dreams, which can feel overwhelming in practice but more simple and doable when she explains them. I didn’t learn anything new (I am a life coach, after all), but after reading this book I feel more jazzed about life. Pleasant surprise.
One downside - the intended audience is pretty small. She attempts to include people from different backgrounds and circumstances, but on a pretty superficial level. It doesn’t work for everyone.
One downside - the intended audience is pretty small. She attempts to include people from different backgrounds and circumstances, but on a pretty superficial level. It doesn’t work for everyone.
January 30, 2025
I honestly wondered if this would be a super cliche self help book, but it found me exactly when I needed it!! My self sabotage has been at an ALL TIME high in recent months.. this book provided a fresh perspective to my terrible internal script that will now be known as my inner Mean Girl. While I do need to create space for her, I have to learn how to shut her down instead of allowing her to let my mind run rampant and down to the abyss. This book had great solutions, examples and outstanding journaling opportunities to really dive deep.
November 7, 2018
The title of the book was encouraging. I wasn't familiar with Melissa Ambrosini before, and maybe if I were already a fan or follower of her life coaching style I would have appreciated the book more. As it was, I had a hard time enjoying the book and taking it very seriously. The cutesy ways she refers to things ("Fear Town", "Worthy-o-Meter" "flexing your self-love muscle", "resilience raincoat") really distracted me from the overall content, and a few of the things she taught (like giving thanks to your food, infusing all your food with love, talking to your food and telling it how grateful you are to have access to it, etc) she even said "might sound a little cray-cray", which they kind of did :) She also said that she likes to energetically send love and light in the direction of people who occasionally say nasty things about her book. I hope my review doesn't come across as nasty, but I'll take the love and light if she wants to send it my way. Her way of expressing things just wasn't part of "my truth" and was more of a distraction than an effective lesson, in a lot of cases.
That said, there were lots of nuggets of wisdom and pieces of advice throughout the book that I really did value. The concept of mastering your Mean Girl (that voice inside your head that sounds an awful lot like your voice, but is constantly trying to sabotage or hold you back) is important. And I liked her take on that. Her chapter on being your authentic self as your gift to the world was full of lots of great affirmations and reminders to be true to ourselves and not be weighed down by what we perceive as the judgment of others. She had great wisdom to share about having healthy relationships, letting go of negativity, and stopping the glorification of busy.
But she started the book addressing the reader as "beautiful" (not like "you're beautiful" but "hey there, beautiful") and addressed the reader like that (or as "darling") all the way to literally the last sentence. Again, not a previous fan or follower, so I wasn't already comfortable with her tone and style, but that cutesy familiarity with the reader kinda drove me nuts. Different strokes for different folks, right?
That said, there were lots of nuggets of wisdom and pieces of advice throughout the book that I really did value. The concept of mastering your Mean Girl (that voice inside your head that sounds an awful lot like your voice, but is constantly trying to sabotage or hold you back) is important. And I liked her take on that. Her chapter on being your authentic self as your gift to the world was full of lots of great affirmations and reminders to be true to ourselves and not be weighed down by what we perceive as the judgment of others. She had great wisdom to share about having healthy relationships, letting go of negativity, and stopping the glorification of busy.
But she started the book addressing the reader as "beautiful" (not like "you're beautiful" but "hey there, beautiful") and addressed the reader like that (or as "darling") all the way to literally the last sentence. Again, not a previous fan or follower, so I wasn't already comfortable with her tone and style, but that cutesy familiarity with the reader kinda drove me nuts. Different strokes for different folks, right?
April 8, 2020
I needed this book. A new decade, turning thirty in two days & at a point in my life where the information written on each page hit home.
Highly recommend this book!!! 👏🏻👍🏻🙌🏻😍
Highly recommend this book!!! 👏🏻👍🏻🙌🏻😍
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