Halter writes an excellent book! I certainly don't agree with everything said. However, the overall message of the book is good and well needed for current Christian culture in America. The author could have defined 'judgment' better (perhaps conflating judgment & condemnation) and I was disappointed to see no discussion of Jesus' words in John 7:24 "Stop judging by outward appearances, and judge righteous judgment."
Great quotes and helpful words below:
Our problem is not judgment itself, but lack of right discernment, absence of perfect knowledge.
Sin affects our ability to judge between good and evil. Sin makes most of our judgements wrong.
How are we to relate to people who are screwing up their lives or the lives of others? We may have enough knowledge to make a correct judgment over them, but if we take our cues from Jesus, we will realize we don’t need to impose our judgment. Eventually every sin will be uncovered, and in time people will confront their sin all on their own. If we judge them, our condemnation might make them flee back into the darkness rather than God’s light. If we are the light, we don’t have to confront to do our work, but simply be present.
Judgment is good if it leads to justice and redemption. Judgment without these intents it actually counterproductive to God’s kingdom design.
People are already under judgment even without you judging them. They are either hiding in the dark or walking toward the light.
Jesus is the only final authority and judge.
Judgement happens when we decide based on preconceived notions or stereotypes (e.g. As a pastor, thinking all parishioners are slack, halfhearted consumers)
He talks about the stoning of the woman caught in adultery and talks about stones the size of a loaf of bread (not historically accurate). Yes, I judged.
Simplest form of self-righteousness, thinking that your sins are not as bad as someone else’s.
Halter makes a great point about the Christian false classification of sins, pointing out that “sexual sins with opposite sex in our minds while we watch porn, are just as bad as sexual sins with the same sex.”
If you sin at all, you have no reason to judge those you don’t know or do know. Jesus is the advocate for people who sin. Jesus is full of grace and therefore He got a chance to share the truth.
“Neighbors make real Christians out of us. It’s a relationship you don’t have to pursue, and most will think you’re weird if you do, but if we take Jesus at His word, this one command can change any neighborhood almost overnight.”
Neighbors aren’t thinking about how to love you. This isn’t a two way street. You’ve got to be the one to initiate contact and then continue, get their stories and make friends. Jesus was called friend of sinners, getting to know people at the heart level.
“People with Jesus’ whimsical holiness don’t gasp when someone curses. They don't avoid a group of people, places or parties because someone might get out of hand. They inhabit dark places with the intention of protecting, redeeming, befriending, and befuddling people with acceptance and love. They win the lost because they’re the only ones who hang out with the lost.”
We don’t influence our culture by yelling at it.
Confronting sin without first influencing the heart creates more space between us and them.
We never have to fear what the culture calls acceptable because we are always free to love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength!
The main point is not judgment, but living out our true missionary calling.
Jesus is King. Being sent is part and parcel of being in the family of God - He wants us to be on mission with him. It’s an aspect of our new identity. We are redeemed and then sent back as missionary saints.
Missing-ology is when we try to scare people from hell or sin, making blanket statements, generalizing, stereotyping, and simplifying a complex problem down to a Bible verse. In short, judging them.
Missionaries in Congo preaching from the riverbank and calling for commitments to be baptized in the river - with no success. They berated the people for their lack of devotion. Later they found out that the Congolese knew the river was crawling with man-eating crocodiles. Uhhh, duh!
One way we judge, people misuse/abuse when trying to argue a point is the word “biblical”. Someone might say, We plan on having a biblical marriage. homosexuality is not biblical. That was really a biblical sermon. Anything in the bible is biblical. Using this term is arrogant and unhelpful.
Missionaries recognize that their neighbors don’t care if “the Bible says ______” Don’t make an idol out of the Bible. We must humble ourselves under Jesus and His scriptures.
Small groups/Bible studies: Consider doing away with invitations to your church or to Bible studies, instead invite people to come “talk about life and God and pray for each other.”
Since church is made of people who are learning to realign their lives under the reign of God, it makes sense that good judgments are there - calling out sin, calling each other forwards, spuring one another on to love and good deeds, etc.
Another problem of judging: people change! They may be somewhere different in a month, year, or decade (All people are in process)
If you disagree with a follower of Jesus, you cannot write them off, or cut them out of the family. It’s Jesus’ call to make. Fight for unity and stay friends. Err on the side of love.
We should hold our interpretations lightly and be more humble with people who see truth from another angle. We should not make it hard for people to come by faith by imposing our essentials on them.
John Wesley! In essentials, unity. In non essentials, liberty. In all things, charity.
“Am I helping this person see the goodness of God in how I am interacting with him/her?”
How can you influence people without being with them?
Jon Foreman: Is your music Christian?
“To be honest, this question grieves me because i feel that it represents a much bigger issue than simple a couple SF tunes. In true socratic form, let me ask you a few questions: Does Lewis or Tolkien mention Christ in any of their fictional series? Are Bach’s sonatas Christian? What is more Christlike, feeding the poor, making furniture, cleaning bathrooms, or painting a sunset? There is a schism between the sacred and the secular in all our modern minds. The view that a pastor is more Christian than a girls volleyball coach is flawed and heretical. The stance that a worship leader is more spiritual than a janitor is condescending and flawed…None of these songs have been born again, and to that end there is no such thing as Christian music. No. Christ didn’t come and die for my songs. He came for me. Yes. My songs are a part of my life. But judging from scripture i can only conclude that our God is much more interested in how I treat the poor, broken, hungry than the personal pronouns i use when I sing. I am a believer. Many of these songs talk about this belief. An obligation to say this or do that does not sound like the glorious freedom that Christ died to afford me. I do have an obligation however, a debt that cannot be settled by my lyrical decisions. My life will be judged by my obedience, not my ability to confine my lyrics to this box or that.
Always see a person as someone God is right now trying to woo to Himself. Am I helping God or making His job harder? Am I helping move this person toward Jesus or repelling them?
Don’t judge people based on their worst moments. Others have mental health issues.
Also, Sometimes seeing parents outsider their roles (e.g. John, Susan vs. Dad, Mom) will help you remove your judgment that they dropped the ball along the way, because maybe they never had anyone to help them mature, heal, or repent.
What about weaker brother? Don’t avoid things because they may cause a problem (many struggle with men, women, credit cards, internet, alcohol). God doesn’t outlaw them all, but teaches us how to handle them. But don’t offer anything to someone you know is struggling with that substance.
More than anything else, we will meet our true judge someday, seeing Jesus face to face. The incarnation shows us that He came to love us as a friend, and after that, we began to accept His truth. At the end, I can only say, I tried to do everything in Your name Jesus.