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The Happy Satanist: Finding Self-Empowerment

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From Harvard to heroin and back to these essays chronicle Lilith Starr's inspiring story of recovery and healing in the face of insurmountable odds. In the philosophy of Satanism, she finally found the inner strength needed to beat a lifetime of addiction and depression. Now she shares the secrets she learned on her Satanic journey back to well-being.Discover the positive, life-changing power of atheistic Satanism for yourself! Learn the truth behind the common misconceptions about Satanism, and how to tap into the deep reservoir of personal power we all have inside."I believe that there is much people can learn from these essays; courage, hope, wisdom, and love shine through them. I believe they will offer readers an insightful glimpse into a belief system that is often misunderstood at best and vilified at worst." - from the Foreword, by Melanie Strong

151 pages, Kindle Edition

First published July 2, 2015

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Profile Image for Venus Satanas.
Author 1 book9 followers
August 24, 2017
The Happy Satanist is one of the best books I have read this year. The story of Lilith Star is heartfelt, and it takes you on her personal journey to battle addiction and overcome to become a better person. Her story shows that with the power of will, and the direction of Satanism, a better life can be found.

I think this book should be highly recommended for women in Satanism to read. Lilith's story is uplifting and shows you the potential of the human spirit. You can read my full review of The Happy Satanist at my Left Hand Path Books Blog.
Profile Image for Carolina Casas.
Author 5 books28 followers
March 22, 2016
This was a really good book. I love how honest and straight forward she was.
One of my favorite parts of this book is where she says that caring for yourself is not selfish at all and that it is actually a good thing because you must look after yourself first before you look after others. And lastly: DECIDE. There is no other person in the world who is going to be make a different for you than you, and this means thinking for yourself.
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32 reviews
February 20, 2017
Inspirational

A lovely and lively — and brutally authentic — guide to realistically living life unfettered by superstition and outdated societal norms. Also presents a concise and enlightening look into contemporary Satanic thought.
Profile Image for Karelle.
212 reviews12 followers
July 24, 2021
Au final, le livre m'a beaucoup plus servi pour ma maîtrise que ce à quoi je m'attendais. Il m'a permis de confirmer mes conclusions, de mieux délimiter la structure de conversion que j'essaie de décrire et de les approfondir. Donc wow, oui, ça, je suis contente d'avoir accepté la suggestion random qu'un gars m'a faite en apprenant mon sujet de maîtrise. Sauf que bon, à part ça, c'était un peu lourd de lire une femme sataniste qui parle de compassion envers soi et les autres, et qui passe le livre à trasher sur les "sheeple", les religions et les personnes qui y croient. Pour cet aspect, j'aurais plus mis 2 étoiles (l'intolérance, c'est jamais OK même quand ça vient de la gauche), mais t'sais, le mind blown de maîtrise pis toutte m'incite à plus de générosité.
222 reviews26 followers
January 12, 2026
Lilith Starr was raised by hippies in California - and it shows. Her writing is confused, picking from disparate sources, no thought given to contradiction. (For example, she claims Satanism works with Buddhism, which is ridiculous.) Worse, she cites the Church of Satan AND the Satanic Temple, even though they hate each other. I could have forgiven incoherence, were the book not harmful.

Ignorant of theology, Ms. Starr attacks Christianity, but mixes Protestant and Catholic. Cynically, religion might have done her good: she became sexually active at 14 - with her mother's consent - and heard her (nudist) parents having sex on a regular basis. This explains depression, addiction, and homelessness - but self-reflection requires self-doubt. Ms. Starr has none.

She also makes no distinction between restriction and oppression. Ms. Starr claims to believe in reason and science, but thinks nothing of her husband watching porn three times a day. Medical science would call this addiction. Worse, she thinks that self-indulgence would save the world - but how? Exclusively thinking of oneself leaves no time to think of anyone else.

In summary, Ms. Starr is an intellectual pygmy, an emotional infant, and a plastic iconoclast. What passes for 'liberation' in her book is a kind of egomania. Her 'Satanism' is only a tantrum against the American Bible Belt. Even those intrigued by Satanic ideas would do better to look elsewhere.
Profile Image for Anne Lydolf.
607 reviews7 followers
February 20, 2021
While this book made many good points about modern satanism, it is also riddled with self-contradiction and hypocrisy. I do not see how a message of empathy towards others and respect of other people's free will can go hand in hand with calling any woman, who follows any of the three major religions, insane or idiotic. This is just one of many opinions Starr expresses in this book that goes directly against the tenets she is trying to promote.
Profile Image for Rick.
54 reviews3 followers
February 22, 2020
I wanted to like this book based on others reviews... I did not. I found the authors lack of involvement in her dire circumstances to show a lack of real responsibility in her own life, choosing to instead place blame on everyone but her self. I thought this book would have more tools in how Satanism can be used to overcome hardships.
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131 reviews2 followers
June 8, 2025
I appreciate how personal this book gets. The author is baring her soul in the process of explaining her perspectives on things. That said, the book is very much a time capsule of the hopefulness for the future that rested in the time between 2012-2015. Many of the subject matters that are discussed hopefully in here have had some pretty horrific outcomes, ranging from social media to censorship to climate change. I appreciate a lot of the values discussed in here, but I also grew frustrated with the anti-theism and pseudoscience that would crop up from time to time. This is a neat window into the Satanist worldview, but I feel that I come away confirming many of my agreements and disagreements with it. I appreciate Satanism's edginess and desire to rock the boat, I just wish it didn't come with the bigotry of anti-theism.
Profile Image for Lil Bookish Dragon.
224 reviews
January 26, 2020
This is a book that I feel that many should read as it would be an impressive easy to challenge your conformity and acceptance of falsehood. It is very honest and candid with brilliant writing style. It also very clearly and simply explains the misconceptions surrounding this wonderful and empowering religion! The things Lilith and her husband went through were horrific and hear wrenching to read about one how they were treated sickened me. This book also really empowered and inspired me to take charge of my own life and help myself give up self harming! I couldn’t recommend not enough and the art and illustrations are a lovely little bonus that really works for this books format
3 reviews
September 13, 2021
Item Was Not as Described

Note: It appears the author of this text just blocked me on Twitter, as such folks do when questioned.

I came to this book, which was free on Kindle Unlimited, after reading the monstrosity that is Might is Right, a foundational text for both Church of Satan and The Satanic Temple. I read the latter for free as well, and even then it made me want a refund. I have my reasons for reading books about Satanism, though I truly wish I didn’t.

This item is not as described. Lilith is, if her book and socials are any indication, not an especially happy person. The State keeps fighting her disability claims, her credit is bad, her landlords are greedy, she’s in a state of constant pain, she’s mentally ill, Christians are out to get her, she gets constant threats, no one will hire her, her apartment building recently burned down under mysterious circumstances, she lost her cat in the move, she struggles to bleach her hair, all of their computers are currently broken, and the most she has to praise Satan for these days is her Satanic “degree” and the handful of tomatoes she grew in her garden this year. (We had a hard growing season up here due to global warming.)

The book is a haphazard, poorly edited composite of what seem to be blog posts from Starr’s personal website. She frequently repeats herself, especially when discussing how she has personally suffered. Although she claims to be a proponent of Western science, most of the text is comprised of strange, esoteric magic with no empirical basis at all. It’s supposed to be for personal improvement, but as a disabled person myself, I’ve found physical therapy to be a better self-improvement path than cutting oneself for art’s sake. As a non-believer, I don’t think my blood has any inherent “power,” unless it was used in a transfusion or something, in which case it wouldn’t be smeared on a piece of paper. Lilith failed to convince me there is such magic.

Lilith is at her worst when discussing sex and gender. She denies having a non-binary or trans identity, yet brags she lives “like a man.” She uses the term “hermaphrodite.” She seems to confuse Intersex persons with trans and non-binary persons before dismissing this with, “We’re all male and female, it doesn’t matter.” She insists that minors ought to be subjected to naked adults, and that it is fine for minors to witness adults having sex. This flies in the face of everything educated, boring experts understand about child development and socialization. That, Starr feels, is mere prudery brought on by religious training. It has never occurred to her that a child might not want to see her naked, or that they may find her naked body traumatizing rather than erotic. I did not want to see Ms. Starr naked, and I am a grown adult. Yet, there she was at the end of a chapter about her boobs, mostly naked. You’ve been warned.

My main take-away is that Ms. Starr is better than me. She is special, unique, and can only be appreciated by a select group of superior people. This is, after all, a woman who had to take brain-damaging drugs just to make herself fit in with society. Anyhow, I need to do what she says and give her lots of money so she can buy $90 a pop ritual robes. It doesn’t matter that she is spreading disinformation through the text and is celebrating the circumstances which led to the spreading of mass disinformation. (TST recently released a bizarre meme that Hot Toddies are a “cure” for COVID-19, and a man using one of the pseudonyms of one of the leaders was publishing a series of flat-Earth books.) It doesn’t matter that I must simultaneously accept that magic does and does not exist. Lilith is a god, after all, and anyone who says differently is probably a member of Antifa or Black Lives Matter. (TST recently claimed in court that Antifa and BLM are “extremist” groups during a failed SLAPP lawsuit against rebel members. No idea how many left in the revolt. A third?)

But ignore all that. Hail Satan and give all your money to Lilith. (The US media certainly does!) Satan will give you something in return to thank you. Unfortunately, it seems he’s mostly giving back in the form of tomatoes. I hope you’re not allergic to The Devil’s Fruit.

This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
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288 reviews4 followers
May 1, 2021
Uzależnienie od nitro, utrata dobrze płatnej pracy, pięknego domu i kryzys bezdomności. Później epizod z heroiną. Autorka odnalazła siłę do wyjścia z nałogu w filozofii satanistycznej, która stawia człowieka w centrum, w odróżnieniu od różnych chrześcijańskich stowarzyszeń, które bardziej szkodziły niż pomagały w wyjściu na prostą. Dużo wpływów buddyzmu zen (medytacja, współczucie). Ciekawa historia osoby, która w życiu zaliczyła prawdziwy rollercoaster.
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48 reviews11 followers
April 14, 2020
I wish I'd had this book on hand during my own start of sobriety and interest toward satanism.

Starr states things that have been rattling around my head with such perfection and clarity, I found myself highlighting constantly.

Lovely to hear a women's voice in a spiritual path that can be dominated by male opinions.
Profile Image for Natalie Johnson.
229 reviews11 followers
September 5, 2021
I read this as many people in the TST recommended it. It’s a collection of essays so a lot of it is just repeated information. I also wasn’t aware prior to reading that when the author wrote this book she was more into LaVeyan satanism vs TST. The book is okay for someone completely new to Satanism to dip their toes but if you have already read up on Satanism I would skip this one.
Profile Image for NA.
92 reviews
October 28, 2020
I wanted to love this, I really did, but Starr's writing didn't feel quite sharp enough and I didn't quite manage to catch on, even if I connect with the ideas presented strongly.
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188 reviews11 followers
January 24, 2021
The name of this book is what first grabbed my attention - "The Happy Satanist" is an amusing title for me. It made me think of Care Bears and Satanism together in one little book. I thought that this must be a self-help book, but it really isn't. It's mostly a collection of Facebook postings by Lilith Starr. However, she does offer some practical advice for meditation and becoming more self-aware.

I enjoyed learning more about what a Satanist in the Satanic Temple believes. It's very similar to what a LaVeyan Satanist believes, but with more of a political and activist approach.

Starr, herself, is also a Buddhist. I thought that was particularly interesting because on the one hand, I could make an argument for how LaVeyan Satanism and Zen Buddhism do not go hand-in-hand, but other the other hand, I firmly believe in each person's right to find their own path. If she wants to blend Buddhist and Satanic philosophy together, who am I to say she can't?

This little book was worth my time. I only wish it were longer. I wish she would go into more depth. I also wish the formatting was easier on the eyes. The words seemed to be all squished together on the top part of each page.
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33 reviews3 followers
February 3, 2022
So I really wanted to like this book more - it's been sat on my to-read pile for ages now. While I would 100% recommend it as a very brief introduction to people who aren't aware of what Satanism is... I wouldn't expect much else.

Pros: There is a great autobiographical element to this book and I cannot stress how much I respect and admire Lilith Starr for what she has managed to do with her circumstances. Brilliant breakdown of the misconceptions that outsiders have to Satanism. As a book for non-theistic self-help - 100% recommended.

Cons: I find it very difficult to reconcile the core beliefs of compassion and empathy with the disdain towards people of Abrahamic faith in this book. Also, beyond the first few chapters on the background of satanic thought, the book becomes repetitive to the point where I took a few months to finish out of annoyance. Equally - some reviews have mentioned this too - constantly citing Wikipedia didn't sit right with me.

Overall, if you're thinking about reading this book then definitely give it a go - but don't expect too much from it. It's about 127 pages including full page images so you can get it done if you have a spare afternoon.
Profile Image for Matthew Martin.
7 reviews1 follower
March 9, 2020
This is a fantastic collection of short essays by Lilith Starr talking about the true meaning of Satanism, what it means to her and how it helped her throughout her life. It also talks about how we can help ourselves with self-empowered and questioning authority when we need to.

Starr's view of Satanism appears to be a mix of LaVeyan Satanism and more modern organizations such as The Satanic Temple. As I know LaVey was a hugely problematic person, it's nice to see someone who is able to draw empowerment from Satanism in general and not just blindly follow one 'path' - which would be the opposite of what Satanism is about.

The book itself is not too big, at only 130 pages with many blanks, so it's a light read. But I feel like this helps keep interest and introduces one to the tenets and such, while inspiring them to undergo further research and reading if they are interested.

It is composed of blog posts that were posted separately, and so the book does suffer from a bit of repetition.
Profile Image for Raphi.
1 review
July 18, 2021
This started out so well, but I can't help but be bothered by a few things: Starr preaches about compassion, love and acceptance for all, which is all well and good, but when she frequently refers to Christians or followers of other religions as idiots (or unironically, "sheeple"), it undermines her message. Believe me, I am no fan of Christianity, but surely there's a better way to get your supposedly progressive and empathetic message across instead of throwing subjectivity out of the window and constantly contradicting yourself.

It becomes quite apparent that this book is actually a compilation of individual essays written on Satanism and self-improvement in the second half, when the pacing sags and we suddenly jump to questionable topics such as the power of social media(?) and why children seeing titties is good, actually. This all brought down what is still, for the most part, an accessible and somewhat inspiring introduction to one of the world's most misunderstood topics in the world of religion and philosophy.
Profile Image for Samantha.
317 reviews4 followers
January 14, 2020
I have mixed feelings on this one. First and foremost I want to say I love one of the recurring themes of compassion. In several of her essays she talks about how other people’s compassion toward her changed her life and how she’s working to put that same compassion out there for others.

When this book talks about self care, self love and standing up for yourself and using your voice, that’s when it’s at its best. When it starts to get political and preachy it starts to fall flat.

There’s even a section on climate change, which is something I care about, but in a book about empowering yourself it seemed out of place.

Because this is a collection of essays she wrote and not one book that was written as a whole piece, it can get repetitive.

Overall, I like and appreciate the essays about empowering yourself and could have done without the political rants. Granted it’s politics I agree with, but I wasn’t reading this for politics.

3/5 ⭐️
Profile Image for Barbara.
25 reviews
November 15, 2023
Wasn't a fan to be honest, the writing isn't great and it honestly doesn't have much to do with Satanism as a whole. Sure she talks about how the Satanist concept of "you are your own god and therefore you hold the power" helped with her addition battle, but that seems to be about as deep as it goes. The book then starts going into climate change, free the nipple, the "disillusion of the mass media" and other really surface level stuff that really felt like she isn't saying anything new or frankly interesting. And she does so without expounding on any real deep Satanist rooted approach or philosophy. I also wasn't into the talking down about other religions, you can disagree and all that but do it in a more dignified way, this is a book not an online forum.

For those looking for books related to Satanism you won't be missing anything if you gave this a skip.
1 review
July 4, 2017
Excellent. I am struggling with substance abuse and self-image issues, myself, and reading the story of Lilith Starr and her perspectives on ways to begin mastering the self is exactly what I need. She combines her story, Satanic, and Zen Buddhist philosophy to show a potential path to recovery and mastery of self for those who do not work well with the 12 steps programs (due to its focus on accepting one's weakness and worshiping a greater power). There is an excellent resource at the end, too, for those who do not take kindly to Satan, even as the symbolic, metaphorical embodiment of rebellion against injustice and arbitrary authority: http://www.smartrecovery.org/
Profile Image for W. Koistinen.
55 reviews
November 10, 2021
At first I felt like reading some teenagers philosophical thoughts. In the end, though, it ended up being a pretty good general introduction into the principles of atheistic satanism. I just ordered Daniel Ba'ad's "New Satanic Bible" and it ended up being even slimmer volume than this. I wonder if there's any more thorough new book on satanism. Or maybe satanist's just prefer minimalist textualism. Or something. Anyway, an interesting life story, coupled with basic principles of Satanic Temple's kind of satanism, some interesting personal thoughts, and not too much trouble to read through. So, would recommend.
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175 reviews6 followers
July 31, 2023
This book promotes a bunch of cool ideas, but also relies on the church of satan book, which from my understanding is not that great book as a moral compass. I have yet to read that one tho. This is a very simple read made out of very short essays. There are parts of the author's life in it, it sounds very fascinating, and it's very cool how much progress they have made since addiction, homelessness, clinical insanity. It's cool how satanism can provide tools for outcasted people to have a voice.
Profile Image for Christina Bebee.
62 reviews
May 30, 2025
a collection of essays written by Lilith Starr between 2012-2013. It was a very easy read due to the layout. The title "Happy Satanist" is no misnomer, it was a very positive in its messaging. Reading this 10 years after it was first published though... for myself, I reflected on my worldview a decade ago versus now, where it seemed the world was going and now where it's at. It was upsetting.

Though there is something inspiring in these essays that's always been and always will be true: using your voice.

I look forward to reading Lilith's second book from 2021, the Compassionate Satanist.
Profile Image for Angie Steele.
3 reviews
November 28, 2025
The Happy Satanist

Fascinating read ! It really opened my eyes and made me see that Satanists are just normal everyday people who aren't afraid to express their opinions and stand up for what they believe in. Liliths book helped me see what Satanism wasnt. It wasn't this scary philosophy I was always warned about as a child and not all Satanists worship Satan .It's an atheistic religion . I would highly recommend this book to anyone interested in or wanting to learn more about this fascinating religion that allows freedom to express individualism and free thinking
Profile Image for Jill.
8 reviews
November 17, 2021
This book found me first in my dreams, then in New Orleans. It was fine. Got through it in a day and it gave me the sense of empowerment and motivation that I was looking for. Some of the takes are hot and disagreeable, but it reminds you to respect perspectives and let everyone Be Their Own God™️. It was a nice memoir with cool pictures and some guided practices. An interactive story of addiction, love, recovery, friendship, and Satanism. Hail the Dark Lord!
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501 reviews2 followers
February 8, 2020
I loved the author's honesty about her struggles. The more research I do into Satanism as a philosophy, the more I find myself nodding in agreement and thinking, well, yeah, that makes perfect sense. Not sure I'll ever practice magic, but this is a great start for anyone to learn about the basics of an ever-growing belief system.
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1,445 reviews37 followers
June 19, 2020
Amazing little guide to life. Starr clearly defines what “Satanism” means to her, and no it’s not devil worshipping. It’s very existential, taking responsibility for one’s own action. Starr also practices Buddhism and is very much a social justice warrior. She is comfortable in her own skin. She’s a rebel, and what is Lucifer but the ultimate rebel.
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16 reviews
August 8, 2018
Not terribly useful

I would recommend this book to someone new to atheism, or who is just realizing the falseness of their God-based religion. It dips into a lot of topics you might want to read more about elsewhere; I found it kind of shallow.
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