我不是教你诈 2

我不是教你詐 #2

by Liu Yong, 刘墉

这篇《我不是教你诈2》，写的就是“人”。既然是人，就有着许多纠缠不清的“善恶情怀”。既然是人，就自私自利，总有把好东西往家里拿，把好吃的往孩子嘴里塞的本性。 所以，与其说我写本篇来教大家看清人性的狡诈，不如说教大家认清“什么是人”。于是，当有一天吃亏的时候，就能心平气和地想，除了“他”不对，是不是也怪自己认人不清。甚至反省：“我”过去有没有做过同样的坏事?
更重要的，是我们应该想想，既然人性有它的缺失，是不是能找出一种方法，使这些乱跑的“人性的车子”，走上正轨。
本篇真正谈的就是这种方法。无论侍者与顾客、老板与职员、法官与涉案人，乃至业主与承包商，表面看是当你不小心就会吃亏的个案，背面谈的，却是这些人与人应有的相处之道。

Genres: Nonfiction, China

225 pages, Paperback

First published August 21, 2008

About the author

Associated Names:
* Liu Yong (English)
* 劉墉 (Chinese)
* หลิวยง (Thai)

Reviews

[Barack Liu · Rating 4 out of 5]

191-I'm not teaching you fraud-Liu Yong-Society-1995
Barack
2018/10/22
2020/06/14


- I do not want to impose my person also, Wu Yi no desire to impose people.

"I'm Not Teaching You Deception" was first published in China in 1995. It mainly teaches people how to behave better by telling some stories.

Liu Yong was born in Taipei in 1949. Lost his father at the age of 9. Studied in the Fine Arts Department of Normal University. Now living in the United States. Masterpieces: "I'm Not Teaching You Deception", "The Human Nature You Must Know", "Success on Yourself", etc.

Part of the catalog
1. Dealing with affairs in modern society
2. Business and Social Affairs
3. Modern handling articles
4. Political and Commercial Affairs
5. Medicine

Some quotations
1. Dealing with affairs in modern society
1.1. Those who leak the secrets are easy to be condemned by God; those who inquire about man and machine are easy to be blamed
1.2. To leave one-third of the room for others is to leave one-third of the room for yourself
1.3. Even if the person you are helping, you have to take care of the other person's face
1.4. A general who has lost his troops is not as good as a soldier who can fight
1.5. The stupid dragonfly hugged its tail and gnawed, thinking it caught a big fat insect
1.6. Wear a pair of trousers with the master to beat the courtiers in the world, often being the first to be killed
1.7. Become a "buddy" one day when you become a policeman, the original buddies will no longer be good buddies
1.8. Use extraordinary means to deal with extraordinary opponents, this is a timeless truth
1.9. Affection returns to emotion, reasoning to reason, good and ugly things are best to be said first
1.10. If absolute power will cause the corruption of agglomerations, then continuous competition can cause continuous progress
1.11. Knowing how to call, the end of the world becomes close; if you can't call, the end of the world becomes close
1.12. When someone tells you to stand forward, see if there is a bullet coming
2. Business and Social Affairs
2.1. No matter how beautiful the groomsmen and bridesmaids look, they can't replace the newcomers in the bridal chamber
2.2. Suspension bridges crossing deep valleys often start with a small line tied to a small stone
2.3. Since insects invented wings, spiders invented webs
2.4. The reason why the hotel prepares shoe polishing cloths for you in the room is that you are afraid that you will use their white bath towels to polish your shoes
2.5. You can’t eat, don’t let others eat, hold in your mouth, don’t swallow
2.6. To deal with thieves, cough is often better than a kitchen knife
2.7. Don't scream when you put the mouse in the trap, applaud after the mouse is caught
2.8. The more rebates the tour guide gets from the store, the less chance the tour members have to see the scenery
2.9. When a kitten pounces on a big dog, no matter how reasonable the big dog is, people will always call the kitten wrong
3. Modern handling articles
3.1. Zhu Bajie looks in the mirror, not human inside and outside
3.2. People who are behind other people's backs when fighting, and people who think they are safe are likely to be shot by the enemy.
3.3. When Satan has a halo on his head, can you still not go to hell?
3.4. People who say "I'm damned" are promoted first, and those who say "I'm right" always get out first
3.5. It is often the parachutist who killed the parachuting expert; it was probably just a telephonist who caused the collapse of the entire company
3.6. It is not uncommon for people to pretend to be pigs and eat tigers, but talents to pretend to be tigers and eat tigers
3.7. Patients who died on the operating table by the doctor may only send the doctor a bottle of XO the day before
3.8. Old pickpockets picking up new humans were caught because they could not touch the new human pockets
3.9. If you are good, you will be a "good son"; if you are big, you will be a "big head"
3.10. Punish a dog who bites a person. It is best for the owner to do it, so as not to hurt his own face and his dog
4. Political and Commercial Affairs
4.1. Life is like a game of chess. You must not only look at one step, but a few steps, dozens of moves. Not only do you have to count yourself, but you also have to count the opponent's calculations to win
4.2. You must know that throughout the ages, how many people have climbed on top of others' heads. Maybe you are being stepped on, maybe you are being stepped on, what’s even more frightening is that you may be stepped on, but you don’t feel it
4.3. You may be stepped on and used by others, but you don’t feel it yourself
4.4. If someone tells you that everyone is attending and you are missing, you'd better not be lazy, reach out and dial a few calls and ask if it is true or not.
4.5. "The strong one is ruined, the sharp one is frustrated." Why did the ancient sages come up with so many low posture principles? This is the wisdom of life and the philosophy of life that has been indispensable under the dictatorship for thousands of years
4.6. Since it is not easy for you to say "no" and you are unwilling to say "yes", try to avoid the muddy water
4.7. Did they really withdraw? They retreat for advance
4.8. Can you let your luggage leave your sight without locking the box? Can you help people bring "unknown content" stuff?
4.9. In this world, every region, country, and nation has its own unique situation, and you cannot treat it with one rule. Those whose occupations are rationalism, perfectionism, and not flexible at all, not only cannot change those environments, but they will disappear in that environment early
4.10. Getting rid of entanglement and breaking the wrist of a strong man is often a painful thing. You have to be seeded, ruthless, and wise enough to do it.
4.11. Each of us has an Achilles’ heel, and we can all be shot, so we can’t be careful
4.12. Every person, every family, every company, every country has an "Achilles heel". No matter how clever, no matter how humble, and no matter how capable you are, you don’t have to say, you can’t say, and you have to do it-you won’t spit a word to death
4.13. Regardless of whether you are in politics or business, you must be careful of this digital effect. Six to four, the difference is not two, because if you remove one, it becomes five to five.
5. Medicine
5.1. If you want to understand the situation in the operating room, or "indirectly" prompt the doctor to be especially careful, you might as well follow up with the little doctors and nurses in the operating room if you want to take care of them instead of the dean.
5.2. Before undergoing major surgery and making major decisions, you should see more doctors and listen to different opinions
5.3. A specialist is a specialist, and a general doctor may not be able to determine a condition for a long time, and the specialist is likely to see it at a glance. As for general doctors, although they are not like specialists, they are particularly proficient in "a certain sub-item", but they are able to organize comprehensively, make key judgments, and discover problems that experts have not discovered.
5.4. If you are a patient's family member, be vigilant, active, and strive for care for the patient. If you are a patient yourself, no one will fight for you. If you are conscious, you must fight for yourself.
5.5. Maybe you have been running around for those two teeth for half a year, even deliberately leaving a few cavities not to repair, concealing the problems next to you and not telling you, waiting for you to have problems another day, so that his business will continue to energy
5.6. Don’t be superstitious about folk remedies, use Chinese medicine to consolidate the foundation when you are not sick, and use western medicine to save your life when you are sick.
5.7. The "things" are indeed true, but please go out of the "purchasing center" and ask the general United States Pharmacopoeia outside, do they have any? I’m afraid I’ve never heard of the name of the pharmaceutical factory
5.8. I went home to do so, and died of suffering, but I thought that the pharmacy would not talk nonsense, and I would swallow it. I knew I was dizzy and almost fell down
5.9. In any case, when you ask the doctor if he has a better option, he may have to tell you some good medicines that he does not have, or are not covered by "insurance"
5.10. A set of words from Chen Xiaolan: "In the past, it was'recovering the doctor with medicine', but now it is'recovering the doctor with convalescence'"
5.11. There may be many pitfalls in charging for medical equipment. First of all, there are many names, you should pay special attention to consumables
5.12. Only the person "pretending to be a god" knows if he is a god
5.13. Please ask clearly, what company made it? address? phone? Agent? Then turn to the yellow pages, go online, and even ask relevant units if there is such a company, or make a phone call to ask
5.14. The "good medicines" strongly recommended by many direct sellers, pharmacies, and even physicians and pharmacists are not medicines, but "food"

" Last fall, when my son leave home, I put this particular document handed to him and said to him:" When you first entered high school, I wrote a "super more yourself" to you . Now you are graduating from university. I hope this article will help you enter the society a little bit." I also give this article to every friend who will enter the society, and say: "I am not teaching you fraud. I want you to recognize the world!" "

You can have a wise parent is one of life's greatest blessing. But even itself did not have such parents. We can also read other outstanding addressed to parents of their own children warned of encouragement from me , so that in the future he can become the ideal mind of parents.

" We also need to know," In terms of friendship, it is deep, not only for gentlemen, but also for villains. "Everyone may be uneasy after telling you his secret. Because he is not sure, Will you tell his secrets? So, the easiest way, he also asks you to tell your secrets. This is like the underworld, in order to let him prove his loyalty to new members, he is required to execute For a task, or when killing someone with a weapon, hand the gun to the novice and ask him to "make up" the most deadly shot. If he does it, he will be an accomplice, and he will not be able to get out from now on. Similarly, if someone tells you Secrets, you have to be careful after you exchange your secrets. If you tell him, he will tell you. "

My own personal habit is to never inquire about other people's private affairs. Even if someone occasionally talks about his or a third party's private affairs, I try not to comment, nor discuss it with the third party afterwards . At the same time, I don't like to discuss my personal affairs with others . Once someone asks the bottom of my personal affairs , I can easily give that person a low evaluation.

" We need to know that there is no such thing as "part of the secret" in this world. People seem to have an instinct, as long as they know some of the secrets, they want to dig out all of them ."

And the most terrible thing is that people often make guesses based on their own imaginations. The guesses they make when they have no idea about the truth are likely to be untargeted . But if they happen to know a small part of the truth , that the walk rumors likely half-truths. This will damage your reputation even more.

" Remember, many people in this world will ask you what you think of a third party. His purpose may be to investigate, or it may be to "matter your words". When you find someone else is talking about you, you can't say a word As for ordinary chat, if you find that the other party wants to criticize someone related to you, the best way is to promptly take the topic away, or suggest that the other party’s "relationship" is yours. Otherwise, the other party’s criticism comes out, such as In the story, there will be many side effects. In short, if you can not talk, it is best not to talk; if you can not talk, it is best not to talk; if you can not involve "behind criticism", it is best not to involve Enter. Let yourself be like a beach. Whenever a wave comes, you will also caress the beach and recede in waves. Don't be like a rock, causing small waves to also arouse high spray. "

" Young people fail, often failing in not knowing to express themselves in time, and often failing in over-expressing themselves. The more they perform, the more proud they are, and they forget the existence of others. "

It is something that most leaders taboo . Those who have no talents can be employed as long as they are loyal . Talented people are somewhat spoiled, not the leadership in the eyes of the people . No one is willing to use it .

" Salesman knows a kind of speaking skill, knowing that the other party does not understand, but saying: "I believe you must be very expert, know..." Then, tell the idea that you want to sell. Doing this is better than saying "You need to know …"The effect is much better. Because the former expresses agreement, the same position, and respect; the latter expresses the assumption that the other party does not understand and needs guidance. Everyone loves to wear high hats, and of course the former is the most pleasing. "

"" "A general is successful." The soldier can say: "We are fighting the battles with white knives and red knives. Why are the famous generals?" When he said this, he should think about it: No. First, which general did not rise from the lower ranks? Second, when the battle was defeated, for example, in World War II, those who went to the gallows were the generals and war criminals. Why were they not the murderers? I once read a doctoral thesis defense Afterwards, the instructor said politely to the students who passed the defense: "To be honest, in this regard, you have studied for so many years, and you are the expert. We are not only testing you, instructing you, but also asking you for advice. "

[Slow Man · Rating 3 out of 5]

A book with short accounts of the way we are.
It helps you to understand better about human nature and how to live among ourselves harmoniously.

[Tey Shi · Rating 4 out of 5]

The author attempts to explain human psychology through simple ancedotes. Easy to read but it may require some understanding of human psychology in order to accept what the author suggests.