Dan-el Padilla Peralta’s Undocumented: A Dominican Boy’s Odyssey from a Homeless Shelter to the Ivy League was a first for me. I hadn’t recalled ever reading a memoir seriously. I didn’t think I would enjoy it. I didn’t think I could be invested in Dan-el’s story or be personally impacted by it. I was wrong.
The book started out fairly slowly, as it took time to introduce the situation, characters, and other expositional items. However, around the middle of Part 1, the story really started to pick up. It was when Dan-el started to be noticed for his excellence and was being recommended to apply to more advanced schools. After that came the section about his high-school life, which I thoroughly enjoyed. I have different opinions about the last section of the memoir, which focuses on his college years. I found the section where he was at Princeton to be somewhat enjoyable, yet after it, they focus a large portion of the section on his life at Oxford and him gaining his student visa to come back to the U.S. Granted that from a story standpoint this part is very important, from a structuring standpoint, I found it to be unbearable. It barely added anything to the story until the last few pages. It was dragged out and unnecessary, and caused me to not enjoy that part of the reading at all.
This memoir largely deals with the divide between Dan-el’s two worlds of his prestigious private school, and that of his life in the “hood”. Much to my surprise, he actually wanted the divide, and did as much as he could to not let anyone from one side interfere with the other. Dan-el writes on page 136 that during his high school years he “didn’t want [his] Collegiate friends to come to [his] hood, and [he] didn’t want to bring the guys down to the Upper West or the Upper East.” At first I found this a bit strange, until I realized his true motivations. I saw that all Dan-el wanted to do was to fit in, to not make any of his two friend groups think him to be “weird” or strange. This is one of the driving themes of this book, and as he struggles with his desire to fit in, he starts acting differently around his different friend groups. An example of this is when he and his “hood” friends tried to shoplift. He would have never done something like that around his Collegiate friends, as his Collegiate friends would most likely not do something like that. As I started to notice this, I realized that so many people in our day and age do this. Granted that wanting to fit in is practically human nature, it really struck me to realize how many of us act differently around different people and try to fit in, including myself.
Another connection I found between Dan-el’s behavior and many people’s is his desire to live up to expectations and to prove himself. Ever since his family moved to the United States, ever since his father left them, ever since he, his mother, and his brother were forced to live in a homeless shelter and in cheap apartment after cheap apartment, all Dan-el wanted to do was to make his mother proud. He worked hard in school to be successful, so that one day she could be proud of, so that he could live up to her expectations, so that she feels that the struggle was worth it. I instantly connected with this. I, and many others, are always trying to live up to expectations and make people proud. Especially now, as a high school student, I feel like I, like every other high school student, is pressured to do exceptionally well in school. As a result, I always feel the need to prove myself and live up to others’ expectations, whether it be from my parents or my peers, as if a thousand eyes are constantly focused on me. This led me to ruminate upon a thing I believe to be a flaw with society, that although competition and motivation are great things, I felt that people now are so focused on others, trying to compare themselves to others, and only focusing on how they aren’t doing well enough. This discourages people and deprives them of self-worth and sometimes happiness altogether.
I found the most prevalent message being conveyed by Dan-el to be that of stereotyping and not knowing the whole story. Throughout the memoir, Dan-el struggles with people assuming things about him, either because of where he lives, his background, etc. This idea is well-illustrated by Dan-el on page 211, when he speaks on a girl that he wanted to date rejects him because of his race, he says that she had labeled him as “an exotic Harlem boy who fit very tidily into a small descriptive box: poor, black, Dominican- but he’s smart, you know, and funny, someone to entertain myself with. F*** that.” She didn’t have other information about him, and she just went off of what she knew from his ethnicity and poor background and made an assumption about him, yet that wasn’t the complete story. I connected this to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s and her TED Talk on the idea of a “single story”. She talks about how people have single stories about things, or a single perspective on it. They then have pre-made assumptions about the topic. She says that people need multiple perspectives or “stories”, to know the truth of something, that you can’t just take one perspective and base your knowledge off of that. The girl Dan-el spoke about took the single perspective of him being a poor person from Harlem and based her assumptions off of that. She didn’t take into account the other side of him being a funny and smart person who was basically just like her in that regard. I felt that this was the issue that plagued our society the most. People today look at things such as the news, social media, and see something that offers one perspective on a subject, which leads them to have assumptions about it, stereotypes, if you would. They then never try to see the other side of the story, allowing themselves to apply their single perspective on the subject. At the epilogue, Dan-el speaks on the current American view on immigrants. He mention show people think that immigrants are just stealing jobs from them and ruining the economy, when they don’t know the other side of the story, the story of families being separated, having to live in terrible conditions, and work as hard as they can to provide a decent life for their children. If only they knew this other perspective, they would have a completely different opinion. This impacted me in a major way. It caused me to reflect on times when I had been guilty of the same, when I had a single story that I used instead of trying to gain the whole story. I felt shame, I felt guilt, yet most of all, I felt the need to change. Reading this memoir gave me a new perspective on empathy, and gave me the goal of not having a single story. I decided to be more empathetic, to try to connect with people and figure out their story before making any assumptions or judgements. At the beginning of this memoir I thought that this would just be another reading assignment for English class, but now having read the book, I found it to be an insightful exploration of the world of Dan-el that taught me to take a new perspective on life, and for that, I couldn’t be more glad.